Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
A POA will help you to do what will be best for your Mom! Hope she'll agree to it soon!
Glad that you have a good friend support system! Welcome to the club in not having supportive family members...I'm sorry that they're not there for you! Maybe they will have a heart change.
This has been a great support family for most of us who talk on here on a regular basis! Sometimes we even get silly. It helps to alieviate the stress that each of us are going through!
Well, it's finally time to retire for the night! Hopw you'll have a restful one, too!
Wow! Great! I love Dustin Hoffman and I love American movies in general (old and new ones). I translate scripts of movies and TV series, from English into Italian. So I always keep the TV on, and I work and watch it in the same time. Of course, when I have some spare time, I un-glue my bottom from the chair and I go out for a walk!
I am in Northern California. I act in movies and T.V. and commercials. Yes I am artistic. I write and draw and paint. I love to read (a book every day or two) love to do theater and perform in plays all the time! I am creative and expressive and love to perform, unfortunately I have not been able to help my mom so far!
Thank you. I feel more support tonight than I have for months. It is unfortunate that my family is not supportive. I can be very silly! I am the comic in the family! I look forward to more conversations. What is POA? I wish you sweet dreams.
I'm watching now another movie, Burt Lancaster in jail who tends little birds. Beautiful! They pass a lot of good movies in summer. Good night William, be proud of yourself for what you do for your mother. You can't help her more than you can do. That illness is an ugly beast! 'Night Georgia Peach! 'Night to all of U that are still awake! Rip, go to bed!
I love to walk! I walk 6-7 miles a day everyday. It helps to keep me in shape, also helps clear my head. Are you in Italy? I was there in the Navy in 1983 I went to the Catacombs, Pompeii, and to the Vatican. Had a private visit with Pope John Paul. In the Sis teen Chapel. I have a photo of his holiness reaching for me. Also went to the Colosseum and walked where the lions were let out. It was a fantastic time!!!
I live not far from Rome in the country. (I lived in Rome for 15 years). I come from Naples' area. So, I know very well the places you mentioned. I have a very dear friend who lives in your area (Carmel). So, the world is very small!
It is very small! I was on an Aircraft Carrier that docked outside of Naples. I went to many wonderful restaurants as my friends went to McDonalds. I told them they were nuts! My best friend is from Italy and his family would cook all day to present the best meal I ever had. Including homemade Biscotti. His dad was a chef and I always walked away FULL!!! I love Italy and have many great memories and photos of my time there! You are so lucky to live there!
I will try to schedule it in the fall or spring. I remember the cold, but have to work out a good time to come. I will have to juggle things around. Thanks for reminding me of the weather. When I was last there it was December and it was COLD!!!!!
And if you plan to come in february it's even worse... You would not enjoy things too much! March has become a tricky month, lately. The best thing is to come from April on. October and November are usually very pleasant months. Seasons have changed here, too!
Yep ... we are here with you! You're going to find fascinating comments browsing thru the 2,700 previous posts started by our hero, Bobbie321 in February. She did lose her mother but is living on her dream yacht moored in Florida for now. We are all sharing her dream!
You are near Lake Berryessa! I love that lake from years ago. Brother in Fairfield. We don't talk. Once flew in on a Dehaviland (sp?) Beaver aqua plane & spent the day on a house boat where we swam, ate local food & wine. Warm, clear water, amazing event. I wish the company would have flown ... flying day trips from Napa to Berryessa, drop on the lake & settle in with new friends for an afternoon on a flaoting oasis .... I loved water skiing there.
Oh well ... another life before Poop Soup & Urinary Tract Infections. Bear with us here, William. I think I speak for everyone saying we have had a tough go of it & are all struggling with little compensation. Glad your aboard!
I am an hour away from Lake Berryessa. I have a summer home up at Clearlake as well. I love the local food and wine in the area. Not as good as Italian wine, but getting close. I was on a house boat this summer at Lake ?Shasta. It was the best weekend! I hear you translate movies and TV that is great! I hope it brings you joy! I am comforted to know that I am not alone in this struggle. Thank you for the support and kind words.
Sorry my message was mixed up. Meant for Rossella, Sorry. I meant to send you about Berryessa and Rosella about Italy. Sorry. I am tired and need to sleep!
RossellaItaly is the one who translates. I'm the simple SignLady in Washington near Seattle.
You are no longer alone in your struggle! We will all survive this ordeal. Don't ever hold back.
A summer home ... oh I wish. Going to the grocery store is a challenge when I leave Dad alone at home. The fear of leaving him is overwhelming ... & your mother lives alone? Been there ... always on edge waiting for the dreaded phone call ... always at 3 AM after I've force sleep.
Now his calls come from my guest room, his room, & it's a short walk across the hall rather than a drive to his former apt. More later.
Go outside & look to the east for the shooting stars. Periseid's meteors are above us for a few days.
Sorry again for the mix-up. I am exhausted. I am going to bed. I was looking at the meteor shower earlier. It is nice. I have a summer home but have not been able to enjoy it because I am fearful for my mom. I do not like to be too far away. It is draining, but glad for the support! Sweet dreams!
Good Morning Everybody! I hope that you've all had a very restful night!
Rip, how is your Dad, this morning? Did you have to go to the ER last night?
You guys have traveled so much! How wonderful! I've been to Alaska twice. That's about as far as I've been away from home. Still pretty far, I guess, when you're in Georgia.
Closing for now. Lots to do! Hope y'all will have a great morning!
It's taken me awhile to catch up on yesterday's posts. Rip & Rosella, do you ladies ever sleep? Thankfully once mom is out for the night I can get some good zee's in. She wakes up early some mornings but she is tired now with the visits from my brother and sister.
Georgia, I hope to get up to Hiawasee in October since mom would like to go to the GA Mountain Festival. If her health is good and I don't have any major expenses in the next month I will take her. I'll put her in her wheelchair and she can see the shows and crafts and maybe some fall colors.
Well my brother just called and asked if I would bake a cake for my sil birthday today. I have been the official family baker for years. When my nephews were growing up they had every cake imaginable. The most memorable one for them was the Optimus Prime (transformer) with sparklers.
William, welcome to the forum! This group of ladies is a livesaver to me.
J, I feel your pain. I don't know your whole story but without a doubt you are depressed and in a controling & abusive family. Mental abuse is just as bad as physical. You feel helpless and unable to make decisions for yourself. You need to try build your own confidence, little by little each day. I'm not just preaching, I've been in an abusive relationship before that nearly destroyed me. Everyday, am or pm, make a list of good things about yourself. Give yourself positive affirmations. Try get out the house even for 5 minutes a day and feel the sunshine, the breeze. Listen to the birds. Feel good and positive things a little each day.
Okay, I'm finished playing psychologist.
Rip, Janet Evanovich is great! I love her detective series. Some of the characters are histerical and far-out, but you love them even more. I used to read Nora Roberts alot. Barbara Delinsky is pretty good too. Nowadays I start reading and I zonk out.
I was going to start my diet tomorrow thinking bro and sis were back home and I could start my routine. Well bro is staying in town a little longer to look for a house. He will definitely make it much more challenging for me to start.
I had better get off of here and get moving for the day.
ive been feeling down lately , bro be gone 3 yrs this 19th and been thinkin about him alot lately . when i watch a bonfire i see him burning up in that fire , trying to get out of a camper fire . tearing me up big time ! i cant have a bonfire anymore without seeing my bro trying to get out of it . its killin me . i been texting my other bro but he s not texting me back , i think he s feeling what im feeling . life sucks !! feeliing sucks here lately . dont have any enegery , cant go anywhere , pa s whiney as ever with uti . dont wanna do anything but only smile at my pa and help him out but on the inside of me im crying so hard . i hurt all over inside and outside . am sorry if im not bubbley good mood and gettin on this thread ,
as for harley davision funeral , i ve been to one many years ago . a good dear friend of mine ( my ex sweetheart when we were in elementary school ) died in a car wreck . it tore me up big time . we all wore harley clothes , black jeans . many motorcycles out and about . all i could do is cry , i miss his terribley , he was a good person with a very big heart ! just like my bro , he sure was a wonderful bro . sad day today heart a crackin and breakin . holdin in my tears and smile at my pa and my husband . ive been feelin so down for a long while now . am tired of takin care of pa . same shit everyday , waa waa bfast waa waa lunch waa waa supper . its a;; waaa waa . ecept when he s sleeping . i tried to carry on confersration with him but its all waaa waa cant understand him . :-( sounds like a damn firetruck going off in my ear drums non stop . piecering my brains . i go outside and chill off in the hot sun . sweat along with those cornflies buzzin around me . so wtfe .. same shit everyday . tmr its same as it was yesterday , it doesnt get any better . think ill try to go take me a nap . if i dont hear pa waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.... have a good day ..
lharde, I am so sorry about your brother!!! Maybe your other brother will contact you soon. I TOTALLY understand about the depression!!! I feel the same way!!! Are you on any anti-depressants? Do you ever get any time off just for you? Wish I could do or say something that would help you! Please know that you're not alone & that we're here for you!
Don't get grossed out. It's just your mom, and a good thing you found it before you put it in your mouth. Don't get mad at your mom, just throw it away and go buy yourself a new one and keep it in your room so you know now one can get to it. And show your mom where you keep the brushes for her hair.
Thanks for asking. Dads doing OK this morning. Piss still dark but I'm flushing water down his pipes. He keeps telling me I'm gonna make them rust;. "Probably GD RUST rather than blood in my GD piss!" I am more anxious about things like than he ... until the real pain kicks in. Then watch out ears!!!
Linda, Linda ... how can we help? I sometimes shake from frustration. I'll be lucky if i have teeth left from the grinding. I too keep everything inside. I continue telling myself it won't be forever ... he will be 91 Thursday .... then I panic & wonder how I'll start over once he's gone .... I know I'll be fine ...
Sorry this is a bad day for some of us. Here for each other. Praying later or tomorrow for a better day. We scream into a pillow when we have to. Rip, You can tell your dad you put "zebart rust preventative" in his water. His humor may kick in for a minute. Hope all improves. Use cranberry juice to keep things clean flowing urinary wise??? Works great for me & mine. They also have cranberry pills now. I've heard vinegar works also. Natures antiseptic, but sometimes hard to take. GOD bless & keep.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Most of us here are animal lovers & artistic ... acting is an art.
More about you?
A POA will help you to do what will be best for your Mom! Hope she'll agree to it soon!
Glad that you have a good friend support system! Welcome to the club in not having supportive family members...I'm sorry that they're not there for you! Maybe they will have a heart change.
This has been a great support family for most of us who talk on here on a regular basis! Sometimes we even get silly. It helps to alieviate the stress that each of us are going through!
Well, it's finally time to retire for the night! Hopw you'll have a restful one, too!
Of course, when I have some spare time, I un-glue my bottom from the chair and I go out for a walk!
William
William
Good night William, be proud of yourself for what you do for your mother. You can't help her more than you can do. That illness is an ugly beast! 'Night Georgia Peach! 'Night to all of U that are still awake! Rip, go to bed!
William
William
William
Yes, pasta. You can't beat pasta.
William
William
October and November are usually very pleasant months.
Seasons have changed here, too!
Yep ... we are here with you! You're going to find fascinating comments browsing thru the 2,700 previous posts started by our hero, Bobbie321 in February. She did lose her mother but is living on her dream yacht moored in Florida for now. We are all sharing her dream!
You are near Lake Berryessa! I love that lake from years ago. Brother in Fairfield. We don't talk.
Once flew in on a Dehaviland (sp?) Beaver aqua plane & spent the day on a house boat where we swam, ate local food & wine. Warm, clear water, amazing event. I wish the company would have flown ... flying day trips from Napa to Berryessa, drop on the lake & settle in with new friends for an afternoon on a flaoting oasis ....
I loved water skiing there.
Oh well ...
another life before Poop Soup & Urinary Tract Infections.
Bear with us here, William. I think I speak for everyone saying we have had a tough go of it & are all struggling with little compensation.
Glad your aboard!
Write on!
William
William
I shall go on working a little bit more. it's sunrise here!
I'm the simple SignLady in Washington near Seattle.
You are no longer alone in your struggle!
We will all survive this ordeal.
Don't ever hold back.
A summer home ... oh I wish. Going to the grocery store is a challenge when I leave Dad alone at home. The fear of leaving him is overwhelming ...
& your mother lives alone?
Been there ... always on edge waiting for the dreaded phone call ... always at 3 AM after I've force sleep.
Now his calls come from my guest room, his room, & it's a short walk across the hall rather than a drive to his former apt. More later.
Go outside & look to the east for the shooting stars. Periseid's meteors are above us for a few days.
Thanks for being here
William
Rip, how is your Dad, this morning? Did you have to go to the ER last night?
You guys have traveled so much! How wonderful! I've been to Alaska twice. That's about as far as I've been away from home. Still pretty far, I guess, when you're in Georgia.
Closing for now. Lots to do! Hope y'all will have a great morning!
Georgia, I hope to get up to Hiawasee in October since mom would like to go to the GA Mountain Festival. If her health is good and I don't have any major expenses in the next month I will take her. I'll put her in her wheelchair and she can see the shows and crafts and maybe some fall colors.
Well my brother just called and asked if I would bake a cake for my sil birthday today. I have been the official family baker for years. When my nephews were growing up they had every cake imaginable. The most memorable one for them was the Optimus Prime (transformer) with sparklers.
William, welcome to the forum! This group of ladies is a livesaver to me.
J, I feel your pain. I don't know your whole story but without a doubt you are depressed and in a controling & abusive family. Mental abuse is just as bad as physical. You feel helpless and unable to make decisions for yourself. You need to try build your own confidence, little by little each day. I'm not just preaching, I've been in an abusive relationship before that nearly destroyed me. Everyday, am or pm, make a list of good things about yourself. Give yourself positive affirmations. Try get out the house even for 5 minutes a day and feel the sunshine, the breeze. Listen to the birds. Feel good and positive things a little each day.
Okay, I'm finished playing psychologist.
Rip, Janet Evanovich is great! I love her detective series. Some of the characters are histerical and far-out, but you love them even more. I used to read Nora Roberts alot. Barbara Delinsky is pretty good too. Nowadays I start reading and I zonk out.
I was going to start my diet tomorrow thinking bro and sis were back home and I could start my routine. Well bro is staying in town a little longer to look for a house. He will definitely make it much more challenging for me to start.
I had better get off of here and get moving for the day.
Take care and have a good day!
Diane
I am having a very difficult day, today...many tears...many emotions...will it ever get better???
j, i totally understand about the deperssion! Keep your head up & try to get some time for yourself!
thinkoftheboatthinkoftheboatthinkoftheboat...
feeliing sucks here lately . dont have any enegery , cant go anywhere , pa s whiney as ever with uti . dont wanna do anything but only smile at my pa and help him out but on the inside of me im crying so hard . i hurt all over inside and outside .
am sorry if im not bubbley good mood and gettin on this thread ,
as for harley davision funeral , i ve been to one many years ago . a good dear friend of mine ( my ex sweetheart when we were in elementary school ) died in a car wreck . it tore me up big time . we all wore harley clothes , black jeans . many motorcycles out and about . all i could do is cry , i miss his terribley , he was a good person with a very big heart ! just like my bro , he sure was a wonderful bro .
sad day today heart a crackin and breakin . holdin in my tears and smile at my pa and my husband . ive been feelin so down for a long while now .
am tired of takin care of pa . same shit everyday , waa waa bfast waa waa lunch waa waa supper . its a;; waaa waa . ecept when he s sleeping . i tried to carry on confersration with him but its all waaa waa cant understand him . :-( sounds like a damn firetruck going off in my ear drums non stop . piecering my brains . i go outside and chill off in the hot sun . sweat along with those cornflies buzzin around me . so wtfe ..
same shit everyday . tmr its same as it was yesterday , it doesnt get any better .
think ill try to go take me a nap . if i dont hear pa waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.... have a good day ..
I TOTALLY understand about the depression!!! I feel the same way!!! Are you on any anti-depressants? Do you ever get any time off just for you? Wish I could do or say something that would help you!
Please know that you're not alone & that we're here for you!
Dads doing OK this morning. Piss still dark but I'm flushing water down his pipes. He keeps telling me I'm gonna make them rust;. "Probably GD RUST rather than blood in my GD piss!"
I am more anxious about things like than he ... until the real pain kicks in. Then watch out ears!!!
Linda, Linda ... how can we help? I sometimes shake from frustration. I'll be lucky if i have teeth left from the grinding. I too keep everything inside. I continue telling myself it won't be forever ... he will be 91 Thursday .... then I panic & wonder how I'll start over once he's gone .... I know I'll be fine ...
Take care my friends ...
Rip
Praying later or tomorrow for a better day.
We scream into a pillow when we have to.
Rip, You can tell your dad you put "zebart rust preventative" in his water. His humor may kick in for a minute. Hope all improves.
Use cranberry juice to keep things clean flowing urinary wise??? Works great for me & mine. They also have cranberry pills now.
I've heard vinegar works also. Natures antiseptic, but sometimes hard to take.
GOD bless & keep.