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We have to dive to sink to do the dishes after dinner. Sometime we just would like to sit and chat. But mom has forgotten you need to use soap to wash dishes. And constantly blows her noes at the dinner table. YUK
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I'm on my second client who also happens to be the mother of a friend. .. both have advanced alzheimers and dig in my bag when I'm in the loo. The funniest thing they grab are my tampons. I ask "why do you need those? You are over the age of 60?" They crack up and give them back. I hide my bag well!

I think finding a hiding place for your brush may be in order and let momma act like Ariel from "The Little Mermaid."
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Yup terrir and Tonks...they keep us on our toes! And keep us laughing! Welcome to the thread where we vent and live! A much needed release!
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Hi Everyone n hope all r doing well.
Cuz, I hope your friend is able to get mom into a facility since she is not eating n not taking her insulin for that is going to go downhill really fast. Especially, if her mom is type one insulin dependent. However, we all know it’s not that easy depending on the financial situation n family members that we don’t ever hear from until the last end.
Mame, u make a good point about the not eating n drinking n how much r we to force or just let nature take its course. Maybe that would be a good article post that this site could make for suggestions.
My mil n moderate stage n she is trying to sleep n later during the day. I waited until 12:00 lunch n finally had to make her get out of bed so she could eat something n take her AM meds! I told her that, she not going to die n their just because she has decided to lay n bed all freaking day! He will come n get ya when he is ready. She is n good health n gain some weight because I push her n the help of Ensure when she was on hospice. Yet, it does get tiresome n when do u know when to stop pushing. She is getting where she wants to fill up on liquids than the food item on her plate. This woman can walk around when we shop n can sometimes have good short conversations. I don’t understand why she is trying to just lay n bed n waste her life away? I have puzzles, games, even offer for her to go outdoors n enjoy nature n she just negative n even music to change stuff around a bit. At least Wed, I can get her to church for 4hrs for respite. Hubby, will make his mom sometimes go for a walk n we will go slow…slow.. n all she will do is pick out negative stuff. “I am too old for this,” or “I don’t see anyone else my age out walking,” etc. However, when we do point out some others, she replies, “They must be use to it.” U damn straight! They don’t’ sat on their ass all day or n the bed! We try to explain it good for her heart n leg muscles. She will even tell her own son that he is just making her walk because he is fat. I got onto her for that comment for that was just wrong n hateful. Now, she will tell everyone else that she gets out n does this n that but she don’t tell them that because we have to make her. Well, she has a b-day next month n as my mom use to say, “If the Good Lord is willing then, she will have make it another day.” ; ) Oh, she don’t celebrate b-days either for she don’t like to be reminded of age. However, she does like the gifts that I get for her. Gotta luv it. So when do we stop pushing n let nature take its course or because they have Alzheimer’s they don’t know whats good for them or do they really know? She still knows everyone, can add n probable got another 10yrs that’s if I keep making her eat her meals n drinking but when his enough. Putting her n a NH would seem like sentence her to her death before her time. I have mention the NH to her that when she gets too weak to walk that my little ass 87lbs will not be able to lift her 80lb butt up n that she will have to go to a NH. Well, she gets all pissy n eats then. But, how many times do u have to throw that it in n it seems cruel to say that but it’s the only thing that seem to get her to eat good. She has also picked up this moaning sound constantly n I have asked her if she is n pain n no she replies n she tells me it’s a habit. Where did that come from? Is that another part of Alz? Enough of complaining n trying to figure out what right n wrong for I will just have to continue to keep her going I guess until I give up.

Jen, I hope u r able to find some peace n quite to give yourself some rest for u need some too.
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OMG Lildeb! You just described my life! It is soooo tiring day after day trying to talk her into something fun, or to walk out to the deck and get some sun before the snow flies... She doesn't want to do anything but says she is happy watching her movies... When I tell her the things she should do to keep herself going she acts sheepishly but it doesn't make a difference. She won't change. It is so tiring trying to keep her going. My mind is fuzzy from it all... I feel like I am a failure...but I know it is her...it has always been her choice to sit and be passive and not do anything. Even when she could do more she wouldn't. But I still feel bad. I love her and want her to be happy. Is she happy? I hope so. Heroic efforts... that is what it feels like. Ugh.
Sunny day here... hoping to clean up some summer stuff from the back yard... Maybe she will come watch me from her deck chair on this gorgeous fall day... I can hope...
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My mother doesn't want to do anything either. She rarely even steps out on the porch. I don't dare try to push her, mom can get really nasty and mean. My mother has always enjoyed being miserable anyway.
Well, Jen, at least your mom has developed a sense of smell. Maybe I shouldn't say this, but what are they going to do if you don't pay your medical bills? I used to work at hospitals. Lots of bills never got paid. The hospital would gets money from the county to pay for indigent care. Not that they won't hound you for the money first. Or set up a payment plan, for a very small payment each month.
Indio got sick last night, couldn't keep any food down. He finally called me, and I could tell he was not in a good way. So drove into town to check on him. He has insulin dependent type 2 diabetes. When I got to his house, he was very disoriented. Checked his blood sugar, and it was 40. Got him to drink some juice, and then some soup. Which fortunately stayed down. Spent the night on his couch to make sure he was going to be alright. Tired this morning, not much sleep.
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Living it lil..meanwhile I was wondering the same thing.. Maybe come and get me and put me in jail...A HA A PAID VACATION AT LAST!! Granted the food sucks the company is scary and it smells ...wait a minute that is HERE!!!.

Got another two hundred in bills yesterday too...he should pay for it, he is why I was hospitalized...like that is gonna happen. let's see, can I sell blood and plasma?

A position for Page opened up at the library again. I have done my resume, a cover letter, filled out the form and mailed it OFF!!! I can work any time and day for anything! Call Me Please...!
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Keeping my fingers crossed that you get the job, Jen.
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Thanks meanwhile, so am I...anything would really help. And waiting for SSI which I won't get is stupid...It is getting more serious here care wise.

I have noticed, he uses the bathroom less and less, and the urinals are hardly ever full, he did a poop ON the bed today and mom was upset. It could be a one off thing, or his incontinence is worse, and more significantly, that he is so much weaker and scared to try and get up to use the bathroom is not good. We are getting to the cut off at least what I have always perceived as the cut off for family care giving and moving into nursing care...Mom's response to my thoughts and his pooping on the bed, and leaving it there...Was that we will buy a full bed sheet cover, as he is now soaking the mattress itself and to offer to help him change his Depends... Yeah Ma , he'll go for that, he gets upset if you tell him to stop shoveling food in his mouth when he is choking...
Something has got to give here...soon...

Jen....
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eww gramps needs to pay for a hospital mattress, and throw that one out. Or like you said put his butt in a nursing home.
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Mame, u r not a failure for u can only do so much. U can lead a horse to water but u cannot make the horse drink it. It does get very tiresome trying to be the optimistic, positive, entertainment person of the house to get them to do something. Hubby is the only reason why his mom went to the park n she complained half the time. I tried to tune her out n enjoy watching the turtles bobbing their heads as we threw bread out n fed the ducks too. Here hoping your mom will set by the deck n watch you a bit? Her loss if she chooses not to do so. As for movie watching, my mil said she watching something but she couldn’t tell u a thing about it. That is how I know her alz is progression n just wanting to lay around more. I can sometime still get her to fold towels so that can keep her busy. I am hoping I can get her interesting in taking some colorful fall leaves n a balloon with water n flour. Put the leaves in mix n lay on the balloon half way to shape like a bowl. When dried just pop the sucker n wholla! We will see if it works, but still trying to collect fall leaves for they haven’t really kicked n the red/orange colors yet.
Meanwhile, OMG that is low for a type 2. I am so glad that he was able to call u for help n u were able to act fast to get it back up. When he gets sick can he sip on some Gatorade light? I drink a little when I am sick n cannot keep anything down. Of course, I can take a correction factor if my b/s goes up from it but it normally doesn’t. I hope he gets to feeling better.
can someone still pay only 5bucks a month if they have it n not get into any trouble? How r folks supposed to pay if they don’t have any money? SA have u tried to see if u can get any assistants or will they count your mom’s assets?
Jen, how do u know how the food taste at the jailhouse? Lol. Good luck with the library job. Its weird how your dad likes to shovel food n his mouth till he gags n my mil don’t won’t to take but a bite or two n she is full. Plus, they say that a lot of alz people like sweet stuff but not this mil no way n hell. That would be a little more food to add to her whole 80lb butt! So, I continue to stay on her to eat enough n hand out Ensures until we cannot afford them for they are not cheap. I do have to admit that at least she can still go to the bathroom without help but what is the deal with tiny pieces of toilet paper all over the place. At least she is wringing the bathroom trash can when she wipes. Can’t say how the poo gets on the sink handle n toilet paper area. Gotta luv it. I found a piece of weenie in the washer machine last wk! I wander how that got there? I don’t even know how she snuck that n her pant pockets unless when I walked away.
I took supper day cooking off n had good ole Stouffers Mac n Chesses with a diced up weenie. She actually ate it even though she complained. They use to be her favorite food. She has been having trouble with her lower false teeth being loose n maybe due to losing weight back then that her gum might have shrunk. So, I put a strip of Poligrip on each side of the bottom n she complains it oozes out. So, I only put one this time n cut them in half for each side of the lower n now she complains their too loose. I cannot win for trying! I finally told her that she should be able to gum the mac n cheese with no problem n to just take the lower teeth if they r that loose. She didn’t like that so she started eating. I think she takes her tongue n plays with her bottom teeth n that breaks the seal of the Poligrip? I don’t know what else to do for her. I know if I take her to get new ones that she will complain just like I tried to get her a pair of new glasses. I think she just likes to complain. Anyway, I tried n I will just use half strips on each side for she spit on floor again when I used two whole ones on each side. Gross. I hope everyone can get some much needed rest tonight.
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Only from what I have heard prison chow is really not good...but at this rate we will be eating baby food so Daaaaddeee won't feel bad...
May not matter, I am becoming ill here, I am not sure it feels like food poisoning but it has lasted over a week now...
Just had an incident with neighbor kids, carrying a ripped stuff animal and shaking it out in front of our house (of course!) lt is too much I go out and HEAR THEM COMING UP THE ALLEY OMG I see this coming I know what they are gonna do!!!

I hear one boy 7 ish say "Here dump it here!" and the oldest girl 11? climb up on the dirt pile, behind the garage, the one we just hauled the tree roots out of and finished up fixing from the fence my cop brother put up for mom and I lose it!!!

I SLAM my hand on the gate, and yell " WHY DON'T YOU GO THROW IT IN YOUR OWN YARD FOR A CHANGE!!!!???"

They run off...I go talk to neighbor lady and find out house where the brats live, and the neighbor kids, all info us; who what where and when, in that terrified "caught being shits voice" all kids know... Atone point the older girls come and clean up some of the Styrofoam pellets now blowing all over the neighborhood...Mom gives them the look and points at them...we can see them from our back porch, and it is REAL quiet now...Yes, a REALLY quiet Sunday school night...No, I didn't go talk to parents, I don't think I needed to and I worry they may catch worse at home...But they screwed up and they know it!

I mean really, is this just enough. Sick, poor tired, worn out..Good grief...Maybe it will be a good week..I sent in job app. and am going to an interview for a volunteer position. It's all experience any way...

I hope everyone has a good week one way or another, hello to all...Jen
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Mom is off to the Dr for appt and flu shot today. It will be good to get her out. She did go out on the deck Saturday! She enjoyed it too! All that fresh air exhausted her. She slept most of yesterday. She had a couple visitors yesterday too! One of my bro's brought dinner and my sis popped in. Was very nice-and quite a surprise!
Jen-I hope you hear from the library! That would be a great job for you! Yea, we are already in prison... At least in prison you know when you will get out tho!

Sorry Indio is sick. It is amazing that he could call you. That is a low sugar level! Mom has never been that low. Her problem is high levels! Hope you can catch up on your sleep Meanwhile!

Lildeb-nice idea with the balloon and the leaves! The leaves are really starting to come down now here. Another beautiful week ahead here-thank God...I am not ready for cold to set in.
Well-I hope everyone is doing ok. Missing those that are not posting!!! How you doin Cap'n Bobbie??? Take care all! Mame
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Ensure is expensive - I am not sure if the store brands have the same nutrition-my Mother used Carnation Instant Breakfast-you only add milk and it is a lot cheaper -my hospital started using CIB when I told them it was less expensive then Ensure. Jen does Mom not realize that he needs a NH? or does she for whatever reason think she needs to take this on-for an example a promise to him or her Mom never to put him in a NH but it sounds like he makes matters worse than they need to be and her scolding him is not going to do any thing to get him to cooperate with how things should be -he either can't or won't help himself keep cleaner. Lil you will know when it is time to stop pushing her to eat.
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Yes, awaiting my release here...
About that Austin..None of us have been able to figure out why...We shall see...
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Had a good Dr appt. He took bloods to see if she is getting dehydrated again... I told him I push and push for her to drink... She is down 8 lbs from the spring. She is heavy so it may not be a bad thing! I will keep my eye on it tho. I took her to lunch after-she usually wants to come straight home but I just took her. She is adorable and reminds me of a child when she eats. All I could do was smile at her... She seemed to really enjoy it. We then went past a place selling Mums so we bought some-she picked yellow for the one in her living room. We then drove by my bros house and honked the horn and he came running out! We visited for a few minutes and then went past my sister's house and she was out with her dog-so we stopped in the driveway to say hello. The dog wanted to get in the car on mom's lap. She loved it. So, all in all, it was a very nice day out. Doesn't happen often, so I am going to savor it! And keep reminding her of how nice it was! She is napping now! Exhausted! I know that I am blessed with a sweet woman to care for. My problems don't compare to some of yours out there. But, it still gets to us all! Today was a day with her that I will remember with fondness. :)
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Baby Skunk

A Virginia man and his wife were driving home one very cold night when the wife asks her husband to stop the car. There was a baby skunk lying at the side of the road, and she got out to see if it was still alive. It was, and she said to her husband, "It's nearly frozen to death. Can we take it with us, get it warm, and let it go in the morning?" He says, "O.K., Get in the car with it." "Where shall I put it to get it warm?" He says, "Put it in between your legs. It's nice and warm there." "But what about the smell?" "Just hold its little nose."
The man is expected to recover, but the skunk she used to beat him with died at the scene.

-- "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world"
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The adobe house is finally finished, new doors, floors, walls, light fixtures, wood trim, you name it, it's been redone. Have a renter moving in tomorrow. So I've already started another project house. Indio is feeling better, and we spent all day putting a new metal roof on the old place. Lord help me, is there a support group for people that can't stop?
Jen, a week with stomach problems is serious. Sure hope you get to feeling better soon, or can get to the Dr. Something is wrong there.
Mame, Deb, glad you both got some time outside. Deb your MIL sounds like my mom, she isn't happy unless she has something to complain about. So just keep making her happy.
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Thanks for the laugh Cuz.
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Last night he got a CD come due...she had him sign it and today she deposits $29.000 in his savings account...To me she says, "Do we need dryers sheets, we really need to stick to the list", and " I will pay your ER co pays when I get My Social Security check comes... You do that Ma...


I went and got his foot rests on and went out to move the bags for yard pick up i put out a day too soon...and there was a little fluff chickadee in the street, leaning up against the curb, I touched him and he was alive, so I picked him up and took him over to the shrubs and hid him in the leaves. Poor little chickadee...Still had the fluff on him, late baby...Right after I did that and came in the bus to pick up fp arrived...woulda squished him...Maybe it was meant to be I put the garbage out on the wrong day?...Hope he will be OK...
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Jen you have a kind heart. Hope you are feeling better.
Words of wisdom from Maxine, The plural for margarita is " A damn good time".
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Thanks meanwhile...
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Remember Jen: I still have an extra BOAT TIME that you may use whenever you need it OK? Hugs
luvCuz
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I have the best boyfriend. For his birthday he wanted to spend the day trail riding. How did I get so lucky.
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meanwhile
Hope you enjoyed the day. Hugs
luvCuz
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Meanwhile-that is awesome! Enjoy!
Jen-love you woman! Hang in there!
Same shit, different day here...
Must say-the weather has been wonderful!!! Makes a huge difference in my mood... was sick for a couple days and glad to be better..
Mom is getting dehydrated again...pushing fluids....Is her not drinking her way of telling me something??? I do wonder... I feel like a bitch making her do things...like drink when she doesn't want to!
Hey Cuz-and everyone else out there!!!! Mame
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Mame, good to hear from you. That is such a tough call about your mom not wanting to drink enough. Not a good sign.
Indio and I took an 8 mile ride, it was great. I rode Omaha, and he didn't spook or jump once. Even on the stretch along the highway with a big semi truck going by.
Cuz, I'm almost afraid to ask, but how is your brother doing?
We rode past the eagle nest, and they have a fledged chick. So cool, is the 1st year I've seen a chick. It is already big, and flying around, but feathers are still kind of rough looking.
Jen, hope you hear some good news about the library job soon. If not this job, then another one will come along.
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I love the month of October. Great weather, and the cobwebs in my house become Halloween decorations.
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Love October too meanwhile...just got home. I stole $70.00 from the grocery money and went and took my self to town and went shopping and bought stuff to send pan pal and a journal and treated myself to dinner out, first time in two years...I would do it again too... got home late mom pissed, I don't care, I feel I am losing my mind here. I will take that boat time cuz!
clearing out....Jen
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You deserve to splurge Jen! Where did you eat???
Meanwhile-I love to ride! I only go in the fall tho-and only on trail rides...haven't gone in a few years... Would love to go! Exciting about the eagle!
Nice thunder and lightening storm this morning. Will cool things down a bit...but the weatherman says not too much! I will take this nice weather we have been having as long as it stays! Love it!
Mom is sleeping late. I gotta get her up and drinking tho. Hope everyone has a decent Friday! Mame
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