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OK, I can beat you all! One day recently my husband must have had an accident, so he wiped his butt with a clean washcloth and then folded it nice and neat and put it back in the closet in the pile of washcloths. Imagine my surprise when I woke up and reached for a washcloth to wash my face! I was so grossed out. Now I have noticed that he is using all the towels and washcloths, folding them and putting them back in the linen closet. I just have to be on the lookout all the time for these unsanitary events! Same with clothes, cups, knives and forks. He licks them off and puts them back in the drawer. Talk about grossed out. And one more........I gave him deodorant and asked him to use it, and I showed him where. Guess where it put it? On his face!!!!! YUCK!
This isn't gross, but I'm still sharing. Mom was just out on my back patio doing the Watusi. She was actually doing pretty good. I'm not sure what song that was playing in her head, but she kept a pretty good beat.
Good news. We got my MIL back to her assisted living. The hospital called around 3:00pm and said she was ready for discharge and they couldn't get a hold of either of my sister in laws that only live 2 miles from where the wife's mom lives so we drove the 20 miles south to pick her up and then drove another 15 miles south to get to the assisted living place. Thats ok though because if MIL does need any thing quick they take care of it so we are cool with the driving part. At least she is home and doing quite well for being 95 1/2. They said the infection was from pulling out the stint she had in her main blye duct coming from the liver. Her age was the main part of this happening. The doc told her not to get sick again and she won't feel so bad. We kinda laughed and said " right." As for my left side of my face you can't even see where they made the 3 1/2" cut and even the 20 stitches they used to close it up. I have a few spots where the stitches came out that are a little tinder yet but I think we will make it. Thanks for all the concern both for the MIL and for me. Hugs to all. LuvCuz ps Got an e-mail from Anne there in Ireland and she said that her brother was diagnosted with colon cancer and needs prayers. When I find out more will let you know OK?
Oh Rocketbaby-that is adorable! Keep that memory in your head forever! Hello assandache and wamnan-yea-that is definitely disgusting and may just take the cake! Ewwww... Welcome to the thread! Mom did well yesterday-started nebulizing again since she sounds like she is getting a cold. My bro came yesterday afternoon so I could go to see a show my nephew was in and my son was playing trumpet in the orchestra. It was "The Drowsey Chaperone" I had never heard of it-it was really funny and entertaining. Went to dinner with sis & our hubbies after. Must admit, I did not want to come back home and luckily sis indulged me and we just hung out and drank wine and chatted. Mom did great with bro and it was almost her bedtime when we got back. It was nice to get away. In the very beginning of the show there is a scene where this lady can't remember why she is all dressed up and they keep telling her over and over that there is going to be a wedding...and she keeps forgetting...and I was like-oh no-even at a show I can't get away from demented people!!!! It was very funny tho and she wasn't a main character so it wasn't too much for me! Anyway, I will see how mom is this morning. She was good last night and in the night, didn't hear any coughing so that is good. We will see. She always sleeps a ton after bro has been here-he tires her out but I think in a good way. He keeps her laughing. She always looks forward to him coming...which is baffling-it must be a "feeling" cause it surely can't be her memory! The other day the lady came that comes so I can go grocery shopping and mom asked her who she was and when she told her mom says, "Oh, I like her..." haha. Cuz-you are pulling triple duty! Your mil, your bro and yourself! Take care of yourself and don't overdo! As for the congestive heart-that is so scary to hear but like Meanwhile said, ppl can live with it for a long time. For mom, it comes and goes. I was terrified the first time I heard it. The diuretics seem to take care of it after a while for her. Will keep you all in my prayers! Meanwhile-better hide that ladder! When my dad was diagnosed with cancer, he had just had what we thought was a stroke, he passed out, couldn't speak etc (but it was the brain tumor pressing on something) Anyway, it was a February and everyone in our neighborhood had heard (cancer riddled his body and had the brain tumor) and were sending food etc and Dad gets out of the hospital and what does he do? Goes out and shovels the sidewalk! People were calling and were like-we thought he was dying-give us our food back! I am kidding about the food but everyone was baffled. What is it with men doing what they shouldn't!? (Dad died two months later) Jen-enjoy your books! I know you will let them take you away! Just what you need. Hey Bobbie, Austin, Sharyn, Juju, Ladee, & everyone else out there! Hope everyone can have a decent week! Mame
I had to cart the husband back and forth to PT three times a week and what does he do when we get home -go out and mow the lawn and when I was investigated from APS for abusing him and he acted like he was half dead-he went out and lifted flag stones to put cement under them-I should of taken a picture-but it turned out ok I was talking to a man running for office and told him my experience with the APS lady and she was reported and never bothered me again-fast forward 4 yrs and I am dating a good man who also went through bad times with his wife.
My God, now I want to go disinfect the wash cloths...or burn them...
G took a fall this morning, the usual no strength (or feeling in feet) in legs...they went up the the ER, just to get him checked out...the million dollar question from the paramedic was; "Do you think he may be at a point where you can no longer care for him at home...?" I shook my head "Yes" behind mom and she hemmed and hawed and thought maybe.... Didn't sleep last night, knew something was coming and just waited for it... Mom said "Don't put the wheelchair in the car..." Are we "there" yet?..... it was already in the car. will let you all know what happens one way or another.... Jen oh and yes Monty is howling like a loony in back...
He said he is gonna ask his doctor for some diet pills to help him get the weight off...I just look at mom and signal: "Don't say anything, he is just talking, he is NOT gonna accept it is his age, he is weak and that's that!"
The nurse at my brothers Dr's office just said sorry. My brother told her "thanks for f-------- up my whole weekend" He just tells it like it is. Everyone else is doing super. MIL is back to normal and trying to milk the hospital stay. I have to go in for bloodwork in the morning and won't be able to find food fast enough afterwords. Might take a samich right into the lab with me and take a bite when she sticks the needle in. luvCuz
Jen! It can't go on forever, I swear!! Any minute now....
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Mame! glad you had a little time to have a glass of wine and visit with your sister. And to see that play. Ya, we can't escape demented behavior and poop it seems. *sigh*
Menawhile! Kuli! Austin! SharynMarie! New people!
Linda! Thanks so much for the hug. I think about you all the time and am glad for the little dog. The boat is in a new place and the dingy is in the water!
Glad blood tests are coming back healthy and I hope everyone can deal with their respective issues as best as they can.
OMG my mother's cat was meowing at me so I thought he must want his kitty litter cleaned. To my surprise he was sitting in front of the box looking in. My 90 yr old mother had evidently decided to clean it. However she filled it with cat food. Both the cat and I just couldn't believe our eyes LOL.
A hillbilly went hunting one day in West Virginia and bagged three ducks. He put them in the bed of his pickup truck and was about to drive home where he was confronted by an ornery game warden who didn’t like hillbillies.The game warden ordered to the hillbilly to show his hunting license, and the hillbilly pulled out a valid West Virginia hunting license. The game warden looked at the license, then reached over and picked up one of the ducks, sniffed its butt, and said, “This duck ain’t from West Virginia . This is a Kentucky duck. You got a Kentucky huntin’ license, boy?” The hillbilly reached into his wallet and produced a Kentucky hunting license.
The game warden looked at it, then reached over and grabbed the second duck, sniffed its butt, and said, “This ain’t no Kentucky duck. This duck’s from Tennessee. You got an Tennessee license?” The hillbilly reached into his wallet and produced an Tennessee license. The warden then reached over and picked up the third duck, sniffed its butt, and said This ain’t no Tennessee duck. This here duck’s from Virginia. . You got a Virginia. huntin’ license?”
Again the hillbilly reached into his wallet and brought out a Virginia hunting license. The game warden was extremely frustrated at this point, and he yelled at the hillbilly “Just where the hell are you from?
“The hillbilly turned around, bent over, dropped his pants, and said “You tell me, you’re the expert!!”
Prayer for Leroy In a Detroit church one Sunday morning, a preacher said, "Anyone with 'special needs' who wants to be prayed over, please come forward to the front by the altar." With that, Leroy got in line, and when it was his turn, the Preacher asked, "Leroy, what do you want me to pray about for you?" Leroy replied, "Preacher, I need you to pray for help with my hearing." The preacher put one finger of one hand in Leroy's ear, placed his other hand on top of Leroy's head, and then prayed and prayed and prayed. He prayed a "blue streak" for Leroy, and the whole congregation joined in with great enthusiasm.
After a few minutes, the preacher removed his hands, stood back and asked, "Leroy, how is your hearing now?"
Leroy answered, "I don't know. It ain't 'til Thursday."
Morning everyone, Cuz, so glad you got the clean health report! Well we made it thru another week. Finally we should have my car back this next week. That will be nice as the beast does not accommodate us well. Thank goodness the rain did stop few weeks ago and has been real nice. Made progress with mortage co on releasing the money for the work on home but now I need the contractor to submit paperwork and he has been dragging his feet was supposed to be done a week ago....
Mustered up some ??? and dyed my hair Sunday finally!! had bout 6in of exposed greying roots, especially that patch/streak right at my temple.
oops what happened? it posted itself all on own....weird.... anyway, the hair does look so much better!
Mame, hope mom is doing ok...I feel for you. When I read your comment about NH and who would be up in the night rubbing her back and talking and calming her. it broke my heart...I just cried for you and all of us. Also it woke me up a bit....ever since we had the house torn up I have been struggling and find I am short and grumpy again with mom. Made me stop and regroup...I do this to ensure she has better care of her than a facility but am I????. I am grumpy and too burned out again!! I don't like this side of me!! this past few months, the house, moms dr problems, car, Wanda, Cat, etc... Have overwhelmed me...I was just barely coming out of from this caregiver coma, feeling some overdue hope n happiness and slammmmmm first and most disturbing the discovery of the incompetent (and corrupt) healthcare professionals. it was mind blowing for me....The pronlem it leaves me with is I need a freaking break....and after all this I don't want to leave her anywhere with anyone I don't completely trust and have faith in. What is one to do.....????????? rambling on......
Bobbie....I am thinking of those posts you directed to me back when I first came aboard,( hey a pun) something about how injust and evilly wrong this role is. It is!!!! So freaking unfair and wicked! I know I try to calm myself by saying I chose this...but I had no idea what I was getting into!!! the truth is I want out, I want a life!!! I didn't think I would never be able to leave home for more than 3 hrs alone and only when I have a helper available. But I want out knowing my mom will be well cared for!!!
Anyway.. time to call the contractor to see if has paperwork ready! Everyone, hang in there!!! Peace, Juju
Juju-yup-that is the argument my head has with itself all the time. And I mean ALL the time. I want mom to have the best care...but on a day when I am tired and miserable and resentful-I too wonder if that is me! I have learned to tell myself, "you are tired" and it kinda centers me. I take a deep breath and soldier on. I am sorry that my post made you cry-but I completely understand! You have been under incredible stress with all you have going on. Taking care of mom is quite enough without all the other stuff! I wish you had some regular, trusted help. It would give you a break even for a small amount of time where you can regroup. You need that to keep going without going nuts. You are in my prayers Juju! Snow in some parts of Central NY this morning-but not right here. Maybe tonight. My son texted me late last night to say he has snow at college! He said it was beautiful and fluffy! Hubby works about an hour north of home and he sent me a pic this morning of slushy, wet icky snow and said it was thundering! Very different from my son's experience! And so it begins. It has been a beautiful fall tho. Mom has been coming out to our living room and watching movies with us the last 2 nights. She gets really winded but she makes it. She told me she needs to walk out here every day to keep in shape...last night she told me she doesn't believe she ever said that! huff, puff... I feel like a tape recorder telling her that she has too keep moving for her health... and she gets mad at me... But, I have to turn off the daughter in me and be her nurse at times and not take it personally... Ahhhhh...the life of a caregiver! Cuz-glad you got the good word and good luck on the physical. Jokes are a hoot! Thank you! Snow in Michigan? Oregon-I am picturing you and the cat looking back and forth at each other like "what the ??" Funny stuff! Bobbie-someday I am going to go back and read all your posts and pull out my favorite one liners-some of the things you say just make me laugh out loud! I did that for Downton Abbey-the best one liners the grandmother comes out with. Probably only really funny if you know the context-but it is fun for me. Guess I have too much time on my hands... haha....(I received all 3 the seasons on DVD as gifts and watch over and over) Well, I hope everyone has a happy Thursday. Or at least a decent one! Mame
Juju! Yup those are the feeling and you do the best you can with them. Sux over the top and I know exactly about wanting your mom to have the best care and then you start to understand the awful cost to yourself and the tug of war inside your head begins....
Thank you ladies....Bobbie you say things so well, and Mame, so sweet for you to say you would give me a break if you could...cause I believe you, lol, you know how it is to here it and not see it happen so I believe you when you say it!! And I really just cried for you, cuz I know that exact feeling...but it did make me look at the situation again and think should I start thinking bout placing her after we get the house done...then I can sell it and place her and move on. but ya I cant figure out how I can leave her somewhere with strangers....I think I hold on too much maybe cause she Is all I have in the world and family...am I holding on for me yet holding on is killing me....but ya I truly think it is not me it is the level of care issue, ....if it was right here nearby where I could stop by in a matter of moments whenever I wanted. gosh I would give anything for family right now, a sibling or spouse to just talk to and help just a bit with some of this stuff around here I wouldn't be so damn stressed all the time!! I gotta start finding a way to meet some new "good" people. I initially thought I could get out more, maybe find a faith group (with Ma) now that I was feeling better. However the situation with her bones has really opened a new door of concern and I don't even want to do much with her now. We did get out and do stuff before all these injuries, now that is gone I am too exhausted and she is too frail....I do need to get away on my own but at least we were getting away and out even if together.
Well off to take on the day! Thanks for the support all, hang in there! Peace, Juju
Mame I think I read your comment wrong about help but no worries.....ya I was so looking forward to that new respite program but I was so disgusted with the condition I picked her up in the first visit I just have no desire to go back. I guess I should work on that an making a detailed care plan for them to follow attached around her darn neck or something and go back.
and the new VA funds that came thru but have been holding back with that as I believe this house is going to cost us quite a bit outta pocket even with the insurance coverage of the new damage...I am going to have to make the floors right meaning I will have to tear out the other side of the home. (it is warped from previous home damage not taken care of..i think I told you I picked the house that went thru a mudslide)...they are covering enough to put new flooring on top but I will have to repair the underneath stuff anyway that is where all the VA funds are going for now once done maybe I can pay for more help or start looking for a weekend program somewhere. I did interview a foster home not far away when she first got hurt in Feb. about a one weekend a month respite stay. So I guess I just need to hold on for a little bit longer I hope! k thanks n have a good day! Peace, Juju
Hello Everyone! I just thought I pop-in to let everyone know that I am still alive. I have been going on FB and seemed to be addicted to their games. Also, taking a online class about Dementia through the St. John Hopkin's Institute.
Seems like a lot has happen since I have been away. Cuz, so happy your r feeling better and I always enjoy your jokes. Juju, I glad u were able to get some time to do your hair n I bet it looks really nice. I haven't had time to do my natural gray hair streaks. lol I do hear ya about wanting out of the care-giving job n just wanting a life besides seeking the few hrs. As for the respite place, can u seek to find another one being u were not to please with it? I found a church that is pretty good for the mil but its only from 10-2pm. Plus, its hard to get her to go just one day wk. Now, I don't even tell her until we r their. (I'm a sneaky little devil. Hey, a caregiver got to do what a caregiver got to do to get a little break.) BTW, Y'all can keep all that white flurry stuff. It got down n the 40's last night n that's pretty cold right now for GA. I don't like cold weather causes ache joints. Bobbie, don't work to hard on the deck-dock. Well those I may have missed but not intentionally, I hope yall r all doing fine. Sunday, will be the mil's b-day. She will be 82. I am going bake her a chocolate cake with cream cheese icing. I have a singing tune b-day candle for her too. Even though she said's she don't celebrate her birthday, she enjoys the extra attention n the gifts. ; ) Well, my addition is kicking in so I have to go plays some Pet-Rescue and Candy-Crush on F.B. I hope everyone is able to have a nice weekend and try to stay warm n dry. lildeb.
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As for my left side of my face you can't even see where they made the 3 1/2" cut and even the 20 stitches they used to close it up. I have a few spots where the stitches came out that are a little tinder yet but I think we will make it. Thanks for all the concern both for the MIL and for me. Hugs to all.
LuvCuz
ps Got an e-mail from Anne there in Ireland and she said that her brother was diagnosted with colon cancer and needs prayers. When I find out more will let you know OK?
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Mom did well yesterday-started nebulizing again since she sounds like she is getting a cold. My bro came yesterday afternoon so I could go to see a show my nephew was in and my son was playing trumpet in the orchestra. It was "The Drowsey Chaperone" I had never heard of it-it was really funny and entertaining. Went to dinner with sis & our hubbies after. Must admit, I did not want to come back home and luckily sis indulged me and we just hung out and drank wine and chatted. Mom did great with bro and it was almost her bedtime when we got back. It was nice to get away. In the very beginning of the show there is a scene where this lady can't remember why she is all dressed up and they keep telling her over and over that there is going to be a wedding...and she keeps forgetting...and I was like-oh no-even at a show I can't get away from demented people!!!! It was very funny tho and she wasn't a main character so it wasn't too much for me! Anyway, I will see how mom is this morning. She was good last night and in the night, didn't hear any coughing so that is good. We will see. She always sleeps a ton after bro has been here-he tires her out but I think in a good way. He keeps her laughing. She always looks forward to him coming...which is baffling-it must be a "feeling" cause it surely can't be her memory! The other day the lady came that comes so I can go grocery shopping and mom asked her who she was and when she told her mom says, "Oh, I like her..." haha.
Cuz-you are pulling triple duty! Your mil, your bro and yourself! Take care of yourself and don't overdo! As for the congestive heart-that is so scary to hear but like Meanwhile said, ppl can live with it for a long time. For mom, it comes and goes. I was terrified the first time I heard it. The diuretics seem to take care of it after a while for her. Will keep you all in my prayers!
Meanwhile-better hide that ladder! When my dad was diagnosed with cancer, he had just had what we thought was a stroke, he passed out, couldn't speak etc (but it was the brain tumor pressing on something) Anyway, it was a February and everyone in our neighborhood had heard (cancer riddled his body and had the brain tumor) and were sending food etc and Dad gets out of the hospital and what does he do? Goes out and shovels the sidewalk! People were calling and were like-we thought he was dying-give us our food back! I am kidding about the food but everyone was baffled. What is it with men doing what they shouldn't!? (Dad died two months later)
Jen-enjoy your books! I know you will let them take you away! Just what you need.
Hey Bobbie, Austin, Sharyn, Juju, Ladee, & everyone else out there! Hope everyone can have a decent week! Mame
G took a fall this morning, the usual no strength (or feeling in feet) in legs...they went up the the ER, just to get him checked out...the million dollar question from the paramedic was; "Do you think he may be at a point where you can no longer care for him at home...?"
I shook my head "Yes" behind mom and she hemmed and hawed and thought maybe....
Didn't sleep last night, knew something was coming and just waited for it...
Mom said "Don't put the wheelchair in the car..."
Are we "there" yet?.....
it was already in the car. will let you all know what happens one way or another....
Jen
oh and yes Monty is howling like a loony in back...
Happy for you Austin-you deserve it!
Everyone else is doing super. MIL is back to normal and trying to milk the hospital stay. I have to go in for bloodwork in the morning and won't be able to find food fast enough afterwords. Might take a samich right into the lab with me and take a bite when she sticks the needle in.
luvCuz
He got home about one saw me taking dog out.."GOOMORNINJENNY" cheery ass mother......
Oh and tonight's comments for the evening...
"Daddy, YOU need to let me know from now on when you have a bowel movement, you are not wiping or washing your hands...."
great great
LivCuz
Hello everyone...
Jen! It can't go on forever, I swear!! Any minute now....
Internet has been out again. Now it looks like it goes out when it rains. Nice, eh? Going to have to go out with a tube of silicone and cover the connectors.
Going to be left with the dock again for 3 days. Not a bad thing.
Mame! glad you had a little time to have a glass of wine and visit with your sister. And to see that play. Ya, we can't escape demented behavior and poop it seems. *sigh*
Menawhile! Kuli! Austin! SharynMarie! New people!
Linda! Thanks so much for the hug. I think about you all the time and am glad for the little dog. The boat is in a new place and the dingy is in the water!
Glad blood tests are coming back healthy and I hope everyone can deal with their respective issues as best as they can.
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Virginia . This is a Kentucky duck. You got a Kentucky huntin’ license, boy?”
The hillbilly reached into his wallet and produced a Kentucky hunting
license.
The game warden looked at it, then reached over and grabbed the
second duck, sniffed its butt, and said, “This ain’t no Kentucky duck. This
duck’s from Tennessee. You got an Tennessee license?”
The hillbilly reached into his wallet and produced an Tennessee license.
The warden then reached over and picked up the third duck, sniffed its butt, and said This ain’t no Tennessee duck. This here duck’s from Virginia. . You got a Virginia. huntin’ license?”
Again the hillbilly reached into his wallet and brought out a Virginia hunting license. The game warden was extremely frustrated at this point, and he yelled at the hillbilly “Just where the hell are you from?
“The hillbilly turned around, bent over, dropped his pants, and said “You tell me, you’re the expert!!”
In a Detroit church one Sunday morning, a preacher said,
"Anyone with 'special needs' who wants to be prayed over, please come forward to the front by the altar."
With that, Leroy got in line, and when it was his turn, the Preacher asked, "Leroy, what do you want me to pray about for you?"
Leroy replied, "Preacher, I need you to pray for help with my hearing."
The preacher put one finger of one hand in Leroy's ear, placed his other hand on top of Leroy's head, and then prayed and prayed and prayed. He prayed a "blue streak"
for Leroy, and the whole congregation joined in with great enthusiasm.
After a few minutes, the preacher removed his hands, stood
back and asked, "Leroy, how is your hearing now?"
Leroy answered, "I don't know. It ain't 'til Thursday."
Cuz, so glad you got the clean health report!
Well we made it thru another week. Finally we should have my car back this next week. That will be nice as the beast does not accommodate us well. Thank goodness the rain did stop few weeks ago and has been real nice.
Made progress with mortage co on releasing the money for the work on home but now I need the contractor to submit paperwork and he has been dragging his feet was supposed to be done a week ago....
Mustered up some ??? and dyed my hair Sunday finally!! had bout 6in of exposed greying roots, especially that patch/streak right at my temple.
anyway, the hair does look so much better!
Mame, hope mom is doing ok...I feel for you. When I read your comment about NH and who would be up in the night rubbing her back and talking and calming her. it broke my heart...I just cried for you and all of us.
Also it woke me up a bit....ever since we had the house torn up I have been struggling and find I am short and grumpy again with mom. Made me stop and regroup...I do this to ensure she has better care of her than a facility but am I????. I am grumpy and too burned out again!! I don't like this side of me!!
this past few months, the house, moms dr problems, car, Wanda, Cat, etc... Have overwhelmed me...I was just barely coming out of from this caregiver coma, feeling some overdue hope n happiness and slammmmmm
first and most disturbing the discovery of the incompetent (and corrupt) healthcare professionals. it was mind blowing for me....The pronlem it leaves me with is I need a freaking break....and after all this I don't want to leave her anywhere with anyone I don't completely trust and have faith in.
What is one to do.....????????? rambling on......
Bobbie....I am thinking of those posts you directed to me back when I first came aboard,( hey a pun) something about how injust and evilly wrong this role is. It is!!!! So freaking unfair and wicked! I know I try to calm myself by saying I chose this...but I had no idea what I was getting into!!! the truth is I want out, I want a life!!! I didn't think I would never be able to leave home for more than 3 hrs alone and only when I have a helper available. But I want out knowing my mom will be well cared for!!!
Anyway.. time to call the contractor to see if has paperwork ready!
Everyone, hang in there!!!
Peace,
Juju
Snow in some parts of Central NY this morning-but not right here. Maybe tonight. My son texted me late last night to say he has snow at college! He said it was beautiful and fluffy! Hubby works about an hour north of home and he sent me a pic this morning of slushy, wet icky snow and said it was thundering! Very different from my son's experience! And so it begins. It has been a beautiful fall tho.
Mom has been coming out to our living room and watching movies with us the last 2 nights. She gets really winded but she makes it. She told me she needs to walk out here every day to keep in shape...last night she told me she doesn't believe she ever said that! huff, puff... I feel like a tape recorder telling her that she has too keep moving for her health... and she gets mad at me... But, I have to turn off the daughter in me and be her nurse at times and not take it personally... Ahhhhh...the life of a caregiver!
Cuz-glad you got the good word and good luck on the physical. Jokes are a hoot! Thank you! Snow in Michigan?
Oregon-I am picturing you and the cat looking back and forth at each other like "what the ??" Funny stuff!
Bobbie-someday I am going to go back and read all your posts and pull out my favorite one liners-some of the things you say just make me laugh out loud! I did that for Downton Abbey-the best one liners the grandmother comes out with. Probably only really funny if you know the context-but it is fun for me. Guess I have too much time on my hands... haha....(I received all 3 the seasons on DVD as gifts and watch over and over)
Well, I hope everyone has a happy Thursday. Or at least a decent one! Mame
I like to watch stuff like that too. It's like visiting with your friends and you can use it as background while you deal with the everyday crazy.
Off to do some dock stuff. Hard to take the folks from Downton with me!
Enjoy your DVDs Mame!
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And I really just cried for you, cuz I know that exact feeling...but it did make me look at the situation again and think should I start thinking bout placing her after we get the house done...then I can sell it and place her and move on. but ya I cant figure out how I can leave her somewhere with strangers....I think I hold on too much maybe cause she Is all I have in the world and family...am I holding on for me yet holding on is killing me....but ya I truly think it is not me it is the level of care issue, ....if it was right here nearby where I could stop by in a matter of moments whenever I wanted. gosh I would give anything for family right now, a sibling or spouse to just talk to and help just a bit with some of this stuff around here I wouldn't be so damn stressed all the time!! I gotta start finding a way to meet some new "good" people.
I initially thought I could get out more, maybe find a faith group (with Ma) now that I was feeling better. However the situation with her bones has really opened a new door of concern and I don't even want to do much with her now. We did get out and do stuff before all these injuries, now that is gone I am too exhausted and she is too frail....I do need to get away on my own but at least we were getting away and out even if together.
Well off to take on the day!
Thanks for the support all, hang in there!
Peace,
Juju
and the new VA funds that came thru but have been holding back with that as I believe this house is going to cost us quite a bit outta pocket even with the insurance coverage of the new damage...I am going to have to make the floors right meaning I will have to tear out the other side of the home. (it is warped from previous home damage not taken care of..i think I told you I picked the house that went thru a mudslide)...they are covering enough to put new flooring on top but I will have to repair the underneath stuff
anyway that is where all the VA funds are going for now once done maybe I can pay for more help or start looking for a weekend program somewhere. I did interview a foster home not far away when she first got hurt in Feb. about a one weekend a month respite stay.
So I guess I just need to hold on for a little bit longer I hope!
k thanks n have a good day!
Peace,
Juju
Seems like a lot has happen since I have been away.
Cuz, so happy your r feeling better and I always enjoy your jokes.
Juju, I glad u were able to get some time to do your hair n I bet it looks really nice. I haven't had time to do my natural gray hair streaks. lol I do hear ya about wanting out of the care-giving job n just wanting a life besides seeking the few hrs. As for the respite place, can u seek to find another one being u were not to please with it? I found a church that is pretty good for the mil but its only from 10-2pm. Plus, its hard to get her to go just one day wk. Now, I don't even tell her until we r their. (I'm a sneaky little devil. Hey, a caregiver got to do what a caregiver got to do to get a little break.)
BTW, Y'all can keep all that white flurry stuff. It got down n the 40's last night n that's pretty cold right now for GA. I don't like cold weather causes ache joints.
Bobbie, don't work to hard on the deck-dock.
Well those I may have missed but not intentionally, I hope yall r all doing fine.
Sunday, will be the mil's b-day. She will be 82. I am going bake her a chocolate cake with cream cheese icing. I have a singing tune b-day candle for her too. Even though she said's she don't celebrate her birthday, she enjoys the extra attention n the gifts. ; ) Well, my addition is kicking in so I have to go plays some Pet-Rescue and Candy-Crush on F.B. I hope everyone is able to have a nice weekend and try to stay warm n dry. lildeb.