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get some of those latex gloves. They have them at the supermarket where they keep the other gloves. One day your mom won't be able to pop the teeth out by herself and you'll be ready!
I swear when I started caregiving my mom I threw up a few times. Always made it out of the room but man oh man.
Good luck and keep venting!
Jen! ok, June 6th and we all will be thinking positive thoughts for you. Told you that I had mine out and was not out of commission for long at all. We will all be holding our breath waiting for your first post op post. ha.
Oh Laurie-I remember those days! I used the latex gloves for a long time....and can now take mom's teeth in and out like a pro-no gloves-no gagging! They don't take them out in the NH so I still have to clean them even tho she is no longer here with me in my home! The other day, no one could find her teeth-and mom couldn't remember...all of a sudden she says, "Wait! I took a nap! And I put them under my pillow." We all had a good laugh as we picked up her pillow and there they were! Jen, I will def be saying a prayer for you and your procedure! How are your arms? Deef-thanks and yes, it is hard to get motivated to start a project when you have to leave in the middle...and then are tired when you get home. Ugh. My new normal. Meanwhile-Cork! That is a good one! Glad they are doing well. What an interesting life you lead! Bobbie-sounds like you are in a good place right now! Happy for you. Enjoy. Sharyn, those babies will be here before you know it! Such an exciting time. Hello Susan! Welcome! Cuz-you are a wonderful part of this thread and are a caregiver-of all of us! All your jokes and kind words keeping us afloat! Juju-So much work on the house! Hope you can have a sense of accomplishment soon! Meanwhile-the gardening does take up a lot of time. For my bday, some gave me gift cards for the local plant store here...knowing with hubby out of work I wouldn't use any money or don't have any for that-so I have been able to get some nice plants to put in and pretty up the yard. I wish I had the energy to just get it done...it has taken me many days...must be cause I'm 50 now...haha Did I tell you my son took me out for a surprise Horseback (Trail) Ride on my bday? It was great to be in the saddle again! Austin-how you holding up in our humidity? Glad it's cooler today! Well, Hello to everyone else out there! Hope everyone is doing ok. Talk to you soon. Mame
I think it must have been a nerve thing, if I shake em loose a bit it does go away! Trying to sleep, listen to mom and fp argue...He picked up his under pad off the recliner because he soaked it, so what did he do....? he turned it over so the top (blue side) was up and the wet side....yes, on the recliner...THAT is disordered thinking...
THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE SUPPORT PRAYERS AND WISHES! I will be on my own and there is no way to shift fp and mom won't ask anyone to help. So I will bus up to hospital at 6AM and IF mom is available, she and fp will come get me or I think they have s hospital transport can take you home after...Startin to wish I was staying three days... rather have the transport...REALLY
Well, we ordered new hearing aids this morning. Too bad it takes 2 weeks to get them in! Was going to order one for $800, but 2 will be $1100 so I said get the 2 and I will keep one with me so if Blanche loses the one she has, I will have a replacement. In the meantime, if I find the originals, we'll have a spare set! Didn't tell her how much they were going to cost. She would pitch a fit for sure. I will just have her sign a check when they come in and I will write it out for her as I do with all her bills. So we get home and I make lunch and after she eats, she is digging around in her purse and I see her wrapping something in a grocery receipt. I asked her what she had and she unrolled the paper and gave it to me but still had something in her hand. Guess what it was!!! Her f'ing house key that I just spent the last week looking for!!! Little sh!t had it all along and was trying to hide it from me so I wouldn't know she found it!!! She was not happy when I made her give it to me but I made sure she put it in the front zipper of her purse where she always kept it. Then there was the whole trying to explain her new meds and take away one of the old ones. Geez!!! I was never so happy to get out of there!! When I told my husband about the keys he said I should have looked to see if her hearing aids were in her bag too! I said I would be looking for sure when I see her tomorrow! Laurie, I'm with you on the dentures!! When Mom was still alive, I hated the mornings I had to get her ready for daycare. Her dentures made me gag all the time. Butt stuff doesn't bother me, but anything from the mouth does me in!!! Mame, it has taken me a couple weeks to get all my planting done here. I have 2 gardens and we just expanded the one in the middle of the yard. I put in 3 kinds of squash, 2 varieties of cukes, cherry tomatoes, early girl and roma tomatoes and green, red and jalapeno peppers. Then there are the green and yellow beans, radishes and leaf lettuce which we will be eating in a week or so. The raspberry patch is fenced in and the plants tied in rows and the concord grapes are sprouting like crazy. We also have rosemary, thyme, mint and basil in pots. It's not much work right now, but in a month I'll have to be working in the gardens every day weeding, watering, fertilizing and eventually harvesting. Planning on doing a lot of canning this year as funds will be low and I will need the extra food to keep the grocery bills down during the heating season. Jen, good to hear they can remove the pesky thing the easiest way! After that you should be good to go, and feeling great. Talked to my baby brother this morning and he told me our sister Peg has been in the hospital recently. Her crit was 7!!!!! They had to keep her in for a couple days and do a blood transfusion and a couple of iron transfusions. They did the camera through the digestive system to see if there is any internal bleeding which they think is the cause of her low blood count. She has autoimmune like me and has had 2 surgeries on her colon. The first was for a prolapsed rectum and the second was to remove her small colon because of polyps. I need to call her tonight and see what the heck is going on. She didn't let anyone in the family know until she talked to our brother this weekend. Fool!!!! Okay, now I'm back home and have some time, I think I will start a much needed project here. Thing is there are so many I don't know which one to start first!! Good to see everyone posting! Let's try to keep it up ladies!!! Love Deef!
Jen, it's been rainy for days and today is cold! been in the 50's. But I'm not complaining, you know how much I hate the heat!!! It was humid and hot until mid afternoon yesterday then the rain came and cooled it down. Great for the gardens but now we need some sun if we want fruit and veggies. Hope you don't have it too hot out there yet. Need to get the air conditioners in soon, as the cats don't like the heat either.
Well, amend that last weather update for Ma. it's now 49 degrees and supposed to be around 39 tomorrow morning!! then it's gonna warm up to 70's and be sticky. Go figure!!!
Jen~It's about time! Your mother needs to realize you have issues too. I did some research, if issues you are having with your arms, specifically if it is the right arm and shoulder... it could be related to gall bladder issues.
Bleh...well least it is coming out...Wonder what the after affects will be, pain possible and food/stomach issues, but I have that now so... Thank you for the support Sharyn!
Jen! You will fell better after the surgery for sure.
I am high on Margaritas. Might barf but don't know yet.
Making out with the Cat. I had the Low Country Boil tonight at the local pub and the Cat thinks this is the jackpot. I reek of shrimp. The Cat is very attentive.
OK. Going to lay down. Love you guys and will check in tomorrow.
Jen, Bobbie is right! Everyone I know that has had that surgery said it was the best thing they ever had done. Glad to see mom is going to be there for you. It's the least she could do after all you've done to help with FP. Bobbie!!! What the ???? That's what happens when you're not used to the drink! I would be hanging over the bowl for sure. A real lightweight when it comes to booze and drugs! It was sunny and warm here today. I really wanted to just enjoy my backyard, but hung out 3 loads of laundry, did Blanche's hair, fed her lunch and took her shopping. Then I came home and got comfortable on my swing when the phone rang and it was the neighborhood kids calling to say they were going to mow Blanche's lawn. So I had to drive back across town and sit outside with Blanche for an hour and a half while the kids mowed her almost acre of land that was covered with knee deep grass. They will be back this weekend to do more cleaning out around the flower beds, etc. She has sh!t planted everywhere and can't remember if it's plants or weeds. I tried doing it myself, but it was neglected for too long. There is a brand new rider mower in the garage, but I never used one before, and being so short, I don't know if I can even reach the clutch with my foot. The kids are only 13 and 15 and each have their own riding mowers already! Maybe I will get them to teach me how to use it. My yard is tiny and mostly garden, so it only takes about 10 minutes to mow. Supposed to be in the 40's again tonight and showery all day tomorrow, AGAIN!!! My garden is longing for sun and warmer days and nights. We already had cherry tomatoes turning red by this time last year. Going to be able to pick some fresh leaf lettuce for salads this weekend. That will be good. Okay, have to get early to get the trash out so I need to get to bed. Hope everyone had a good day today and a better one tomorrow!
Trash is out, gardens are watered, and cut some more bittersweet down before it kills the neighbor's tree that border the back of our yard. Sitting at the table on my new patio withacup of coffee and my tablet trying to catch up on emails etc. Just had a blue heron fly overhead! Wanted to get some quiet time before I have to head to Blanche's with lunch. My sil hardwired the entire house and put in 3 routers so we can enjoy our electronic toys both inside and outside of the house. Kind of cool! Bobbie no old time remedies for that hangover? Hope you don't have to rough of a day scheduled! How is everyone else doing?
Deef! Just had some melon and a Vitamin B complex. Headache slowly going away. I have already done the dock and the clubhouse and committed insecticide on some ants.
I hope you are all feeling better...hangovers and gallbladder attacks. I am getting over a migraine. Just on the left side of my head. I finally took some excederin late last night and of course from the caffiene didn't fall asleep until 3am., LOL!I am just getting up...10am!
We have this awkward shaped cupboard in the kitchen that is not very functional. When you open the door, we have the width of the door and a depth of about maybe 18 inches but then the cupboard. Continues another 2 feet to the left.. if something gets back in the 2 foot area...I use a skewer to reach back there to slide it out. It has a top and bottom shelf...yesterday I pulled out all the tupperware and other plastic ware. I filled 3 30 gallon trash bags. We never use this stuff. Maybe I can figure something out to make it more usable. Been cleaning out closets and just getting rid of stuff we don't need or use. have a good weekend...getting hot here. H
Spent an hour cleaning more dead stuff from Blanche's flower beds. Got home and did more yard work here. Need to hook up the pump and hoses and uncover the pool this weekend but it is cold and raining again after a gorgeous morning. Sharyn, I'm supposed to be doing that stuff in my house but too busy with the yards right now. If I could just get one or two full days without having to drive across town for a couple hours, maybe I could get some major housework going. Fat chance of that! My new avatar is a picture of the patio my daughter and I built 2 weeks ago. We are definitely enjoying it every chance we get. Off to the store for a few things!
Bobbie thanks for asking about me-I am doing ok without my furry friend just a few weeks before he got so sick I talked to him about getting older and someday him not being here for me. My brother s not doing well-this is his third time with colon cancer and his wife and son do not seem to be able to face what is happening and are living their lives like he will be around forever I can only tell them the truth and hope they get it-which is not happening which is sad. I am glad we now are able to send private messages on the walls for times when we need to do this.
Austin, so sorry about your brother. Jen, sure hope your gall bladder surgery goes well. My evil mother is trying to come up with hurtful things. She tried to throw away some of my stepdads stuff, an engraving his mother made, and her old White house cookbook. The cookbook is from 1912, and his mother has all these little notes in it, there is even a note from her mother in it. Managed to rescue the engraving, it looks really nice on my kitchen shelf, and the cookbook. Mom is mad at all of us. Too bad.
Austin~I am so sorry about your brother, {{{{Hugs}}}}! I completely understand your pain and frustration. It was a year on May 10th when my nephew passed away from colon cancer. Very difficult for my sil as Mother's Day was the next day. My nephews wife has been unaffected and she does not keep in touch with my brother and sil at all. She received a very hefty life insurance policy pay out and that seems to be all that she cared about.My brother and sil are very disgusted with her.
Meanwhile~Wow, glad you were able to rescue the engraving. Hopefully she get over this and you can have peace with her.
Deef~your patio looks beautiful...I am jealous, LOL!! I am ashamed to say that because of me running back and forth taking care of my mom's house, gardens...running to the memory care to visit, bring her supplies, dr. appts. etc. both my house inside and outside are cluttered. I am tackling the inside first and hope that in the autumn when the weather cools down again, I will tackle the outside.
I was on the pone last night with the sil and also her gown son they do not get it -their plans are more important then his heath at this time-tried to tell them e does not have much time left but it must not interfere with their life.
Hi All. Happy Saturday. Beautiful day here in Central NY. Warm and sunny. Hoping to get some gardening done here today. Like you Sharon, all the running in the middle of the day to see mom etc has left my house cluttered and gardens needing a good weeding! I love Sat/Sun when I don't have to leave in the middle of the day-I can start something and may actually get it done!
Austin-do you think this is just how they are coping with the issue cause they can't or don't want to believe it? And same with Sharon's nephew's wife-maybe she is too upset to be around his family? I hope that is the case...sad to believe otherwise. Jen-I am so happy your mom is putting fp somewhere for the day of your surgery! It is terrible how caught up we can get with the person we are caring for...and not care for our other loved ones-or even ourselves. It is great she will be there for you that day. :) I can just see your cat Bobbie-loving the smell of the shrimp on your face! Too funny. Sorry you had to pay with a headache for a little night of fun... But maybe it is worth it once in a while! Meanwhile-glad you were able to recover the items from the trash! I too found my mother's grandmother's cookbook-with notes and everything! What a find! I hope it never gets thrown out! How are the baby goats? Deef-the patio is beautiful! Love the new pic. You two should go into business! How is your sister doing? Hey Cuz! And Juju! And hello to everyone else out there in caregiver land! Mame
And that's just what you CAUGHT her doing. Imagine what she gets up to that you don't know about! A little story: Once I knew a young woman who really hated her stepfather. She couldn't stand the guy, and so she took passive-aggressive revenge against him by doing things like scrubbing the toilet with his toothbrush, rinsing it off, and putting it back where she found it. She was very proud of herself for doing this. The difference is, your mother isn't being passive-aggressive, just forgetful, but there are still many horrible things that she might be doing with your stuff that don't bear thinking about. I'd advise keeping all your personal care items locked up, either that or investing in an autoclave and sterilizing everything.
OMG, was able to bring up photos from aunt and cousin visit...there is a pic of the little girl, cousins baby, kissing grandpa on the mouth, Good God that is disgusting...Lucky she is not here. I feel like I am gonna puke!
Jen, Big YUCK!!!!! Austin, It must be hard for you to see your brother so sick again. I hope his family can get it together and be there for him. My sister hasn't gotten her test results yet, but I hope it's a simple fix. A bone marrow sample could mean something ugly! Meanwhile, Glad you were able to rescue those treasures! It would have been a devastating loss of something so precious. Blanche can be a b!tch like that! Has been miserable to my sister, her DIL, for almost 50 years! She tries that stuff on me, but I don't let her get away with it! How are the kids?? Sharyn, It's a mess here inside and out! The yard looks great, but the porches, hallways and windows all need cleaning. With the 2 empty apartments and mine, I now have 39 windows to wash and all the curtains that cover them, And yes, I iron my curtains! There are 15 rooms and 3 bathrooms and most need the paint on the walls, ceiling, and woodwork redone. Then there are all the rugs to be shampooed. It's endless and been let go for far too long, but I have to start somewhere, so that will be the front porches first, then the hallways, then the windows. I'd like to do all this before it gets too hot! Oh yeah! We won't talk about the 4 rooms of junk in the attic, or the huge cellar full of stuff! Hey Mame! Having a full day at home without interruptions is a definite plus! It started out nice here this morning then kept getting cloudy then sunny again with a few sprinkles in between. I worked on cleaning around Blanche's flower beds for over an hour again today. She kept complaining about "those people" in her house and I tried again to explain no one is there. The hallucinations are getting worse. She has all her blinds closed tight and hides things so "they" can't find them. I explained that if she was too afraid to stay alone, she would have to move out of her house. me staying there all the time is not an option. Bobbie, you would be proud of me! I called my BIL when I got home and told him what was going on and that he should come up here soon and see what he needs to do. I really hate to lose the $$ I get for taking care of her, but I refuse to get tied up again like I was with my mom. It's just going to be getting harder to deal with her if these hallucinations get worse and I don't think I can cope with all that again. She had me call a friend and ask her to pick her up for church tomorrow, so hopefully she will take Blanche to lunch afterwards and I will just have to stop up around supper time to check on her. Keeping my fingers crossed on that!!! Well I guess I better get to the sink full of dishes and try to accomplish a few thing here before bedtime. Let me see... Maybe clean the bathrooms? Or maybe the fridge. Or maybe find something good to watch on TV! Hope everyone has a good weekend! Deef!
Deef~I cannot imagine...your caregiving days have been much longer than mine and I do know the clutter I have here and the things that need repair...but as a landlord on top on of it...oh my!!
As you know, I have my mom's dog living with me and hubs. She is a thief...LOL!! She steals socks from my clean clothes basket that I havent folded yet...does not seem to matter where I put the basket, she finds a way to get into it like a leopard on the hunt.
My husband was looking for a missing sock the other day, he went through her kennel...he did not find the sock but...he did find our checkbook, LOL!! Really?? How did she get the checkbook...I used it that day to get a few groceries and I put my purse up on a chair...it was out of her reach, so how did she get the checkbook?
Scarier still is several nights ago, I went on an ice cream run...I bought a couple dove ice cream bars on a stick. The next day, she had the stick to one of the bars...I tried to get it from her, it disappeared in her mouth...she stated to heave...OMG!!! I am thinking I will have to rush her to the ER Vets. Well thank goodness she was able to bring it up so I grabbed it out of her mouth! Again, How in the He!! did she get it?? She is also taking my eyeglasses, LOL!!
I am laughing, but this dog is worse than a 3 year old child. Now I am child proofing my home again and everything is going up every high...she is not a large dog, but apparently she thinks she is a mountain goat with the climbing skills to match.
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Welcome to the Grossed Out thread.
get some of those latex gloves. They have them at the supermarket where they keep the other gloves.
One day your mom won't be able to pop the teeth out by herself and you'll be ready!
I swear when I started caregiving my mom I threw up a few times. Always made it out of the room but man oh man.
Good luck and keep venting!
Jen! ok, June 6th and we all will be thinking positive thoughts for you. Told you that I had mine out and was not out of commission for long at all. We will all be holding our breath waiting for your first post op post. ha.
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Jen, I will def be saying a prayer for you and your procedure! How are your arms?
Deef-thanks and yes, it is hard to get motivated to start a project when you have to leave in the middle...and then are tired when you get home. Ugh. My new normal.
Meanwhile-Cork! That is a good one! Glad they are doing well. What an interesting life you lead!
Bobbie-sounds like you are in a good place right now! Happy for you. Enjoy.
Sharyn, those babies will be here before you know it! Such an exciting time.
Hello Susan! Welcome!
Cuz-you are a wonderful part of this thread and are a caregiver-of all of us! All your jokes and kind words keeping us afloat!
Juju-So much work on the house! Hope you can have a sense of accomplishment soon!
Meanwhile-the gardening does take up a lot of time. For my bday, some gave me gift cards for the local plant store here...knowing with hubby out of work I wouldn't use any money or don't have any for that-so I have been able to get some nice plants to put in and pretty up the yard. I wish I had the energy to just get it done...it has taken me many days...must be cause I'm 50 now...haha
Did I tell you my son took me out for a surprise Horseback (Trail) Ride on my bday? It was great to be in the saddle again!
Austin-how you holding up in our humidity? Glad it's cooler today!
Well, Hello to everyone else out there! Hope everyone is doing ok. Talk to you soon. Mame
Trying to sleep, listen to mom and fp argue...He picked up his under pad off the recliner because he soaked it, so what did he do....? he turned it over so the top (blue side) was up and the wet side....yes, on the recliner...THAT is disordered thinking...
THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE SUPPORT PRAYERS AND WISHES! I will be on my own and there is no way to shift fp and mom won't ask anyone to help. So I will bus up to hospital at 6AM and IF mom is available, she and fp will come get me or I think they have s hospital transport can take you home after...Startin to wish I was staying three days... rather have the transport...REALLY
So we get home and I make lunch and after she eats, she is digging around in her purse and I see her wrapping something in a grocery receipt. I asked her what she had and she unrolled the paper and gave it to me but still had something in her hand. Guess what it was!!! Her f'ing house key that I just spent the last week looking for!!! Little sh!t had it all along and was trying to hide it from me so I wouldn't know she found it!!! She was not happy when I made her give it to me but I made sure she put it in the front zipper of her purse where she always kept it.
Then there was the whole trying to explain her new meds and take away one of the old ones. Geez!!! I was never so happy to get out of there!! When I told my husband about the keys he said I should have looked to see if her hearing aids were in her bag too! I said I would be looking for sure when I see her tomorrow!
Laurie, I'm with you on the dentures!! When Mom was still alive, I hated the mornings I had to get her ready for daycare. Her dentures made me gag all the time. Butt stuff doesn't bother me, but anything from the mouth does me in!!!
Mame, it has taken me a couple weeks to get all my planting done here. I have 2 gardens and we just expanded the one in the middle of the yard. I put in 3 kinds of squash, 2 varieties of cukes, cherry tomatoes, early girl and roma tomatoes and green, red and jalapeno peppers. Then there are the green and yellow beans, radishes and leaf lettuce which we will be eating in a week or so. The raspberry patch is fenced in and the plants tied in rows and the concord grapes are sprouting like crazy. We also have rosemary, thyme, mint and basil in pots. It's not much work right now, but in a month I'll have to be working in the gardens every day weeding, watering, fertilizing and eventually harvesting. Planning on doing a lot of canning this year as funds will be low and I will need the extra food to keep the grocery bills down during the heating season.
Jen, good to hear they can remove the pesky thing the easiest way! After that you should be good to go, and feeling great.
Talked to my baby brother this morning and he told me our sister Peg has been in the hospital recently. Her crit was 7!!!!! They had to keep her in for a couple days and do a blood transfusion and a couple of iron transfusions. They did the camera through the digestive system to see if there is any internal bleeding which they think is the cause of her low blood count. She has autoimmune like me and has had 2 surgeries on her colon. The first was for a prolapsed rectum and the second was to remove her small colon because of polyps. I need to call her tonight and see what the heck is going on. She didn't let anyone in the family know until she talked to our brother this weekend. Fool!!!!
Okay, now I'm back home and have some time, I think I will start a much needed project here. Thing is there are so many I don't know which one to start first!!
Good to see everyone posting! Let's try to keep it up ladies!!!
Love Deef!
Hope you don't have it too hot out there yet. Need to get the air conditioners in soon, as the cats don't like the heat either.
I am high on Margaritas. Might barf but don't know yet.
Making out with the Cat. I had the Low Country Boil tonight at the local pub and the Cat thinks this is the jackpot. I reek of shrimp. The Cat is very attentive.
OK. Going to lay down. Love you guys and will check in tomorrow.
lovbob
luvCuz
Bobbie!!! What the ???? That's what happens when you're not used to the drink! I would be hanging over the bowl for sure. A real lightweight when it comes to booze and drugs!
It was sunny and warm here today. I really wanted to just enjoy my backyard, but hung out 3 loads of laundry, did Blanche's hair, fed her lunch and took her shopping. Then I came home and got comfortable on my swing when the phone rang and it was the neighborhood kids calling to say they were going to mow Blanche's lawn. So I had to drive back across town and sit outside with Blanche for an hour and a half while the kids mowed her almost acre of land that was covered with knee deep grass. They will be back this weekend to do more cleaning out around the flower beds, etc. She has sh!t planted everywhere and can't remember if it's plants or weeds. I tried doing it myself, but it was neglected for too long. There is a brand new rider mower in the garage, but I never used one before, and being so short, I don't know if I can even reach the clutch with my foot. The kids are only 13 and 15 and each have their own riding mowers already! Maybe I will get them to teach me how to use it. My yard is tiny and mostly garden, so it only takes about 10 minutes to mow.
Supposed to be in the 40's again tonight and showery all day tomorrow, AGAIN!!! My garden is longing for sun and warmer days and nights. We already had cherry tomatoes turning red by this time last year. Going to be able to pick some fresh leaf lettuce for salads this weekend. That will be good.
Okay, have to get early to get the trash out so I need to get to bed. Hope everyone had a good day today and a better one tomorrow!
Ow my head. hahaha
At least I didn't hurl. I sure don't drink very often and that's for sure.
So good to see some activity here. I think I was simply missing my friends.
DEEF!! Jen! Cuz! Everybody!!
ok, coffee time.
lovbob
Wanted to get some quiet time before I have to head to Blanche's with lunch. My sil hardwired the entire house and put in 3 routers so we can enjoy our electronic toys both inside and outside of the house. Kind of cool!
Bobbie no old time remedies for that hangover? Hope you don't have to rough of a day scheduled!
How is everyone else doing?
Just had some melon and a Vitamin B complex. Headache slowly going away.
I have already done the dock and the clubhouse and committed insecticide on some ants.
Anybody else out there?
lovbob
We have this awkward shaped cupboard in the kitchen that is not very functional. When you open the door, we have the width of the door and a depth of about maybe 18 inches but then the cupboard. Continues another 2 feet to the left.. if something gets back in the 2 foot area...I use a skewer to reach back there to slide it out. It has a top and bottom shelf...yesterday I pulled out all the tupperware and other plastic ware. I filled 3 30 gallon trash bags. We never use this stuff. Maybe I can figure something out to make it more usable. Been cleaning out closets and just getting rid of stuff we don't need or use.
have a good weekend...getting hot here.
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Sharyn, I'm supposed to be doing that stuff in my house but too busy with the yards right now. If I could just get one or two full days without having to drive across town for a couple hours, maybe I could get some major housework going.
Fat chance of that!
My new avatar is a picture of the patio my daughter and I built 2 weeks ago. We are definitely enjoying it every chance we get. Off to the store for a few things!
My evil mother is trying to come up with hurtful things. She tried to throw away some of my stepdads stuff, an engraving his mother made, and her old White house cookbook. The cookbook is from 1912, and his mother has all these little notes in it, there is even a note from her mother in it. Managed to rescue the engraving, it looks really nice on my kitchen shelf, and the cookbook. Mom is mad at all of us. Too bad.
Meanwhile~Wow, glad you were able to rescue the engraving. Hopefully she get over this and you can have peace with her.
Deef~your patio looks beautiful...I am jealous, LOL!! I am ashamed to say that because of me running back and forth taking care of my mom's house, gardens...running to the memory care to visit, bring her supplies, dr. appts. etc. both my house inside and outside are cluttered. I am tackling the inside first and hope that in the autumn when the weather cools down again, I will tackle the outside.
Austin-do you think this is just how they are coping with the issue cause they can't or don't want to believe it? And same with Sharon's nephew's wife-maybe she is too upset to be around his family? I hope that is the case...sad to believe otherwise.
Jen-I am so happy your mom is putting fp somewhere for the day of your surgery! It is terrible how caught up we can get with the person we are caring for...and not care for our other loved ones-or even ourselves. It is great she will be there for you that day. :)
I can just see your cat Bobbie-loving the smell of the shrimp on your face! Too funny. Sorry you had to pay with a headache for a little night of fun... But maybe it is worth it once in a while!
Meanwhile-glad you were able to recover the items from the trash! I too found my mother's grandmother's cookbook-with notes and everything! What a find! I hope it never gets thrown out! How are the baby goats?
Deef-the patio is beautiful! Love the new pic. You two should go into business! How is your sister doing?
Hey Cuz! And Juju! And hello to everyone else out there in caregiver land! Mame
A little story: Once I knew a young woman who really hated her stepfather. She couldn't stand the guy, and so she took passive-aggressive revenge against him by doing things like scrubbing the toilet with his toothbrush, rinsing it off, and putting it back where she found it. She was very proud of herself for doing this.
The difference is, your mother isn't being passive-aggressive, just forgetful, but there are still many horrible things that she might be doing with your stuff that don't bear thinking about. I'd advise keeping all your personal care items locked up, either that or investing in an autoclave and sterilizing everything.
I hope you get some gardening done this weekend. Always something to do and not enough time.
Austin, It must be hard for you to see your brother so sick again. I hope his family can get it together and be there for him. My sister hasn't gotten her test results yet, but I hope it's a simple fix. A bone marrow sample could mean something ugly!
Meanwhile, Glad you were able to rescue those treasures! It would have been a devastating loss of something so precious. Blanche can be a b!tch like that! Has been miserable to my sister, her DIL, for almost 50 years! She tries that stuff on me, but I don't let her get away with it! How are the kids??
Sharyn, It's a mess here inside and out! The yard looks great, but the porches, hallways and windows all need cleaning. With the 2 empty apartments and mine, I now have 39 windows to wash and all the curtains that cover them, And yes, I iron my curtains! There are 15 rooms and 3 bathrooms and most need the paint on the walls, ceiling, and woodwork redone. Then there are all the rugs to be shampooed. It's endless and been let go for far too long, but I have to start somewhere, so that will be the front porches first, then the hallways, then the windows. I'd like to do all this before it gets too hot! Oh yeah! We won't talk about the 4 rooms of junk in the attic, or the huge cellar full of stuff!
Hey Mame! Having a full day at home without interruptions is a definite plus! It started out nice here this morning then kept getting cloudy then sunny again with a few sprinkles in between. I worked on cleaning around Blanche's flower beds for over an hour again today. She kept complaining about "those people" in her house and I tried again to explain no one is there. The hallucinations are getting worse. She has all her blinds closed tight and hides things so "they" can't find them. I explained that if she was too afraid to stay alone, she would have to move out of her house. me staying there all the time is not an option.
Bobbie, you would be proud of me! I called my BIL when I got home and told him what was going on and that he should come up here soon and see what he needs to do. I really hate to lose the $$ I get for taking care of her, but I refuse to get tied up again like I was with my mom. It's just going to be getting harder to deal with her if these hallucinations get worse and I don't think I can cope with all that again.
She had me call a friend and ask her to pick her up for church tomorrow, so hopefully she will take Blanche to lunch afterwards and I will just have to stop up around supper time to check on her. Keeping my fingers crossed on that!!!
Well I guess I better get to the sink full of dishes and try to accomplish a few thing here before bedtime. Let me see... Maybe clean the bathrooms? Or maybe the fridge. Or maybe find something good to watch on TV!
Hope everyone has a good weekend!
Deef!
As you know, I have my mom's dog living with me and hubs. She is a thief...LOL!! She steals socks from my clean clothes basket that I havent folded yet...does not seem to matter where I put the basket, she finds a way to get into it like a leopard on the hunt.
My husband was looking for a missing sock the other day, he went through her kennel...he did not find the sock but...he did find our checkbook, LOL!! Really?? How did she get the checkbook...I used it that day to get a few groceries and I put my purse up on a chair...it was out of her reach, so how did she get the checkbook?
Scarier still is several nights ago, I went on an ice cream run...I bought a couple dove ice cream bars on a stick. The next day, she had the stick to one of the bars...I tried to get it from her, it disappeared in her mouth...she stated to heave...OMG!!! I am thinking I will have to rush her to the ER Vets. Well thank goodness she was able to bring it up so I grabbed it out of her mouth! Again, How in the He!! did she get it?? She is also taking my eyeglasses, LOL!!
I am laughing, but this dog is worse than a 3 year old child. Now I am child proofing my home again and everything is going up every high...she is not a large dog, but apparently she thinks she is a mountain goat with the climbing skills to match.