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Thanks miz, I have soo many flowers, it smells like a garden. How's the job going? I agree with you about animals. I don't know how anyone can hurt any kind of animal. Godhelpus, I exercise every day, and get no relief from RLS. It is a very nasty disease. I can no longer sit through a movie, or sit still for very long to read. I hate it. Most of all, I hate being tired all the time. I just got my Requip bumped up to 4mgs and am still having problems. Thanks for the advice! Pirate, I don't have any pain, just the urge to constantly move, and I get very itchy. That is very annoying. I think the itchiness comes from the Raynaud's. When my legs are cold, ie. air conditioning, cold sheets, they itch until I warm up. It's just a hassle trying to get through the day on little sleep. How's work? Hope you have a good weekend.
Deef work is just plain hell. I can't tell you how many times I have asked for complete instructions to processes and you get nothing. I call our top manager... nothing. I call an Inventory Mgr....nothing..he NEVER EVER returns my call or emails..HOW UNPROFESSIONAL can you get. Every year we have to go through ethics training because some a$$holes at another site did something bad and so now all the employees have to suffer and they cover going to your bosses for help...so it's incredible how these folks never get back to you. Just incredible one of these days I am going to say it to their faces! Work is continuing to be hell, they dreamed up all kinds of things that stop us in our tracks instead of going forward with production simply amazing...I trully hate the workplace and all those in it that caused this muck and mire!
Pirate, I really wish you could find a different job. I hate to see you miserable like this. Life is hard enough without all that stress and headache. I hope your phone call went well. Thinking of you. :)
Hi Miz, yes the phone call did go well. I had an inkling of the concept that some of the Material Program managers were talking about but no one rolled out the process. At least he finally spoke a little about it...and got some fast work done this eve in prep for more hot work for Monday. At least I got what I needed to get done ahead of time now. I hate not knowing how to do anything especially if it is your job. And I have been around this block for 30 years.....they just have made things more convuluded and complicated than they need to...but that's a big company for you can't see their feet anymore..too big. I am going home now....going to concentrate on dinner and relaxing...tomorrow have to go to mommy dearest house.
Mom's latest rant is she is bored and lonely. She is alone for most of the day except for the 4 hours the caregiver is there and the 3 hours I am there on Tuesday and Thursday nights, and I am over there almost all days on Saturday and Sunday. I wish she would consider going to a NH instead of waiting for the last minute like she's trying to do. No...so I get the I'm so lonely and I'm so bored on Mon/Wed/Friday phone calls. Geesh....she has no friends no neighbors that look her up...only her one sister calls that's it. It's not my fault she does not want to go to any NH or Adult day center or what's left of her family does not want to visit or talk to her cept me or her 1 sis. She's the one who always told me there is no such thing as friends. Well there you have it..youre' alone. She tries to always use as her excuse her flippin eyesight....today she tried to use that excuse for just walking around the backyard...with the caregiver...okay after that I got off the phone in a heartbeat...why go through all that muck with her. She's got years experience with the guilt trip...but you know it doesn't work on me anymore...she's played that out on me way too long now...way too long now. It's now broken and worn out..and doesn't stick anymore.
Grandfather making stupid comments here, is a two part-er. I asked if we could order something for dinner, just for a change, we have not done that in.......I am thinking four months. Anyhow, fart pants saw it and the delivery guy who dropped off the sandwiches, and than he said to the dog supposedly..."What do ya think it is yer birthday?!!!" He doesn't like sandwiches. I have had to put up with over cooked everything, stuff that can be mushed into oblivion, things DDDAAAADDDDDEEEE will like for four years and he thinks it has to be a f in holiday for me to have something I Would Like....Tonight we had leftovers...he says "that was a good dinner.." Kiss My Ass old man! yes we should all be happy to live on over cooked meat coated in gravy, which he practically licks off the plate, then he goes on about how unhealthy other people food choices are..IE anything HE doesn't like. He would eat ice cream and cookies every night of his life if it were possible, but any one who likes french bread is making bad food choices. Dr visit Tuesday. I hope it is inoperable what ever it is.
Has anyone ever had a panic attack? Think that's what was wrong with me today. Very ansy...very nervous...couldn't stop crying...squirmy inside. Just thought I was absolutely gonna lose it!!! It was awful. I just got to thinking about what's still to come with my husband being sick & about the possibility of losing the house & me not being able to find a job & I just got overwhelmed! I couldn't stay here. Kissed my husband bye, got in the car & took off. Thought about not coming home. Now I have the headache from hades. One that even Excedrin Migraine hasn't touched! Don't know that I can do this anymore!
GODhelpus, please tell your husband thank you for protecting us!
J, sorry that you're having a difficult time with your grandfather.
Pirate, sorry things have been hectic at work & glad that you had a good call with your manager. Hopefully things will start to get better on Monday.
tennessee, I agree with your sugestion about the comments about the dead beat siblingss in the article.
Rip, hope your back's better...get some rest!!!
Hope everyone else has had a good day & will have an easy night!
Georgia', i'm sorry you had a bad day,I've had a few of those days,combination of too much stress and hotflashes combined for me.When I get overwhelmed with my troubles I just think of the here and now and live in the moment and try to make every moment count. My kid helps me live in the moment,but its like she told me tonight,no matter how bad things seem we always seem to pull through it and I'M sure that applies to you also. I'm sure after a good nights sleep tomorrow is another day.
Pamela, My son was in the Army from 1998 to 2008 was one of the first to go to War in Iraq was the worst time of my life. Came home for 6 months and he went to afganistan, got hurt and is out now on disability was due for another tour to Irag Tell your son how proud you are of him every day and Thank him from the bottom of my heart that what he is doing sacrificing all for our freedom is appreciated by all.
Im glad everyone got a kick about my bra story have many more to tell sometimes I surprise myself as to the things I come up. Today was not a good day for me went to pick up mom she of course had her pocketbook filled with clothes that she never changes, She went in her bag and looked at a blouse and said it wasnt her told her it cam out of her bag she said she would never wear something like that I told her it wasnt mine she kept insisting it was hers so I threw it out the car window (you have to understand she made me mad she tried to open the car door and throw herself out about 1/2 hour before that thank god I have safety locks that automatically lock or she would have been thrown from the car) Then we get to my house and she is insisting it wasnt my house told her yes this is my house she stopped at the steps she looked in her bag again and insisted the clothes werent hers so I threw them on the lawn told her the cats and dogs need clothes and if she didnt want them I would leave the cloths for them (Mind you all these clothes are winter clothes and they dont fit her anymore since she lost so much weight and they probably havent been washed for ever and they needed to be thrown out). Lost my temper I usually dont but she really upset me by the car issue. I have to stay calmer tommorow
oh jojo , u made me grin and smile . i know its not funny but it is anyways , i sure hope for ur sakes tmr will be a better day and plz try to hide ur momma s purse !! , i be havin heart attack if i see dogs and cats wearing ur momma s clothes !! . :-)
bobbie where are you !!! ure not lost outthere in the ocean are ya ? stay away from drunks and ride more of that harley cycle wooohooo!! u got it made down there ! i ll be joining ya one day . xoxo
yes i got email about wanna interview me , naahhh i delete it , dont have time for that stuff and im not people person anyway , journal just gonna have to get hd of somebody eles that likes to talk .
had a good time this evening and bonfire and a bud . it sure was nice , i was down in the dump all day and my husband just comes along and perks me up , i love my husband , hes the best thing that ever happen in my life . love him so much , smack .... goodnite u all . xoxo
Jojo, oh, my! At least, you have solved the problem of your cats' clothes for winter. I am sure that when you did that, your mother thought you were crazy. My mother thinks I am crazy, too. She (my mother) is very offended now because I tell her that her mother, father, brother, sister (all dead, poor ones) are on vacation on the mountains, and she is sorry she has not been invited! I tell her "yes you have been invited, but we cannot go because I have to work" she looks at me as if I were the source of all her miseries! If your mother fills up her bag with her clothes, I think it's because she wants to leave (to go back home)-. My mother is always ready to leave to go home! Her favorite sentence is: "When are we leaving?" And I fear these are days I will regret, when she will go worse!
GeorgiaPeach, I've had some panic attacks in one form or another. I think what you described is probably one. I think you did the right thing by getting away for awhile. You are overwhelmed and that's understandable. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Just take it one day at a time, one hour at a time. Love ya!!
Georgia! i had panic attacks. thought I was having a heart attack. Many times. not funny. Xanax. Next. 1 at bedtime really worked for me and if there was insanity that i could not deal with during the day, maybe. Rarely had to take one in the day because my coping mechanism was in better shape with the Xanax than without. I know because I tried and the stuff works. Doesn't have to be forever, but for right now you are in a highly stressful situation and you must cope so use all the tools at hand. Prozac if you need it, Xanax for anxiety. Once you bring your anxiety under control, and you will no worries, you'll be able to see your way through the rest of the crap: financial, etc. We love you Georgia and we're going to be here and help you through this.
Tennessee: There are other women who own larger boats and the electronics guy said that right now his two big customers are both women and in his 25+ years in the business he can't ever remember that happening before.
We'll be hauling the boat (out of the water) in the next week or so for additional repairs. Nothing serious but there's enough of a reason to haul her and fix her on land because divers would be more expensive and not do as good a job because of the limitations of the environment.
We have a line on a tender (dinghy), the future SS Now What? and will be going to the south side of Jax to have a look hopefully this afternoon. when you have a dinghy you can go all over the river system where the boat is docked and check out stuff and fish.
JoJo, so glad to see from you. great stories. Rossella love you my italian friend. I start buffing soon and will be thinking of you.
SS, Miz, Deef happy birthday and please come and make some of that you were talking about. Flex, Pirate! glad your manager finally got onthe horn with you. Little communication goes a long way.
Has anybody signed up for the interview request? I know Linda isn't interested and that was a funny post lharde.
Rosella & Jojo, When you wrote of finding a new way to communicate with our elders....Sounds like you two know exactly how to communicate!!!! LOL I'm honing my new skills as I write this! Now I'm thinking if I get just as irrational as mom it will throw her off guard! Soooo worth a try but I'm not much of an actress...Too much Popeye as a child..."I am what I am & I'll never tell a lie". It's gotten me into some messes; being at the other end of the pendulum.
Pirate, Try to keep in mind that your co-workers are probably just as baffled by the new OS as you are (if not more so). They are probably so insecure they won't admit it for fear of their stature. I do understand especially with big corps that the new directive seems to be.."If it works, break it". Slick salespeople and no one wants to admit that they don't understand what they are selling. It's nuts!!!!! The software designers go off on wild tangents and we all suffer for it. Almost sabotage! But the real profit is in the "tech support" they have to provide forever to unF their programs....A vicious circle. Problem is that it's happening everywhere and no employer seems to be exempt from it. Too many managers that don't know what the workers have to overcome to accomplish anything. More hoops to jump thru & less accomplished because of it. It's exasperating!!
Gpeach, Some days are just overwhelming. HIS grace is new each morning. We fall down but get right back up, press in & move on. I take half a Zoloft each day, 25 mg. It helps alot & keeps a lid on my temper.
Jsome, Do you ever tell him off? Would it do any good? Sounds like everyone in his life has been enabling him forever. Sooooo sorry you are being subjected to this. I wish we could rescue you. I pray for your deliverance from the wicked & abusive people in your life.
Tenn, Deef, Dflex, Rip, B321 & all others.....Be blessed today...You are a blessing to so many others. May you reap 1000 fold all the blessings you have sown.
Thanks for the tip on the quinine...my dad used to take it but I never knew what it was for.
jojo, i'm so sorry about your day. Too much of that would drive anyone nuts. I hate to keep giving my mom more meds but the one she is on now is very helpful with her crazy thinking. I don't feel bad about giving it to her because I think those days and nights of crazy thinking are exhausting for her and can't be fun for her mentally and emotionally. She still obsesses on stuff like money and this being her house and such but she's so much better. Just a thought. :)
I keep Mom's purse in a drawer next to her bed. We never take it out with us. I have all her stuff (SS card, medical insurance card, etc.) in my purse. She doesn't seem to mind this and I think it's safer that way. We won't lose it.
I take anxiety meds. Have for a long time now. Even before all of this stress. Doc says I need them, so I take them. It's just how I am. I'm an anxious person. Thank God there is help for it if we need it.
Bobbie, you can't know how many times I have just thought of jumping in my van, solo, and driving to your boat. O, what joy that would be! O, how I dream of just driving away; then sailing (boating) away! Delicious Calgon dreams.
Here I sit, busy, happy, and not even going to the beach, which is close, and which I dearly love. I am feeling productive, though. Started a new Facebook site Wednesday, and already have over 100 friends excited about it!!! I'm amazed! It's a political oasis for me, and encouragement to them. What a blessing! I am thrilled by the reception, and hoping for greater success! Let's just say I've found another niche...
We went to an annual picnic with the dads yesterday. The usually non-participating community came out in droves to our local Nursing Home. Hypocrites! Then trouble arrived, (mom and her "new family" paid transport "friend." Or should I say Double Trouble!-? Mom's contempt is transparent, and her bitter spirit quite infectious! I pray I can react with grace, even though... Lord, help me! Dad was quite the sport. I managed to maneuver him outside through crowds of leeches, and over to the bounce house, where he enjoyed a moment's recognition and admiration for his favorite WONDERFUL grandson. I love those moments! Dad was slipper-clad, with unsure steps, and wearied easily. He became overwhelmed quickly, and wanted to go back in. We didn't make it very far, as the exertion, and shortness-of-breath got the better of him. I secured a wheelchair for his return ride, but he refused it, sitting in the lobby, awhile, instead. Poor papa! He managed to walk back to his safe haven with me, but was put off by another resident lying on "his" hallway sofa. "Da*^ her," he spat, pointing. Manners flee with Alzheimer's. We found a more peaceful spot to park. I probably pushed him too much, taking him outside for the circus. The loud band didn't help at all; even I loathed it. Fortunately, we didn't have to deal with mom, as she was more concerned with feeding her sour face. Unfortunately, my parting was tainted by a brush with her caustic "greeting." Driving home to my haven was heavenly. I love my dad, and enjoyed holding his hand on our walk. Wow, for all the pain I suffer from mommy not-dearest, I am filled with emotion, and thankfulness for these moments with dad. I am once again, his "little girl," but also grown, loving, and devoted daughter. ~sigh~
Today is a better day finally got mom to take a shower told her the doctor told her it would make her feel better she said she is wants to kill the doctor i told her she could kill him when she sees him but for now she needs to take a shower. We are now listening to Andrea Boccelli that I taped making her feel a little better listening first she said she didnt want to listen since she can sign too I told her to sing along with him Thank God its all italian music hopefully she will enjoy it since I am
I think I am too much of a coward to confront any one about any thing. I worry if I were to win the lottery I would become a total jerk after all I put up with and no longer having to and finally being the one in power. I am just a wuss I guess.
if ya won the lottery u could have send ur gpa off to a nursing home . so u can enjoy ur life ! we;ll go to bobbies boat , ohhh wouldnt that be great ? maybe ya can buy u a boat and ride along with bobbie ! race !! woohoo.
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How's the job going? I agree with you about animals. I don't know how anyone can hurt any kind of animal.
Godhelpus, I exercise every day, and get no relief from RLS. It is a very nasty disease. I can no longer sit through a movie, or sit still for very long to read. I hate it. Most of all, I hate being tired all the time. I just got my Requip bumped up to 4mgs and am still having problems. Thanks for the advice!
Pirate, I don't have any pain, just the urge to constantly move, and I get very itchy. That is very annoying. I think the itchiness comes from the Raynaud's. When my legs are cold, ie. air conditioning, cold sheets, they itch until I warm up. It's just a hassle trying to get through the day on little sleep. How's work? Hope you have a good weekend.
Mom's latest rant is she is bored and lonely. She is alone for most of the day except for the 4 hours the caregiver is there and the 3 hours I am there on Tuesday and Thursday nights, and I am over there almost all days on Saturday and Sunday. I wish she would consider going to a NH instead of waiting for the last minute like she's trying to do. No...so I get the I'm so lonely and I'm so bored on Mon/Wed/Friday phone calls. Geesh....she has no friends no neighbors that look her up...only her one sister calls that's it. It's not my fault she does not want to go to any NH or Adult day center or what's left of her family does not want to visit or talk to her cept me or her 1 sis. She's the one who always told me there is no such thing as friends. Well there you have it..youre' alone. She tries to always use as her excuse her flippin eyesight....today she tried to use that excuse for just walking around the backyard...with the caregiver...okay after that I got off the phone in a heartbeat...why go through all that muck with her. She's got years experience with the guilt trip...but you know it doesn't work on me anymore...she's played that out on me way too long now...way too long now. It's now broken and worn out..and doesn't stick anymore.
GODhelpus, please tell your husband thank you for protecting us!
J, sorry that you're having a difficult time with your grandfather.
Pirate, sorry things have been hectic at work & glad that you had a good call with your manager. Hopefully things will start to get better on Monday.
tennessee, I agree with your sugestion about the comments about the dead beat siblingss in the article.
Rip, hope your back's better...get some rest!!!
Hope everyone else has had a good day & will have an easy night!
Im glad everyone got a kick about my bra story have many more to tell sometimes I surprise myself as to the things I come up. Today was not a good day for me went to pick up mom she of course had her pocketbook filled with clothes that she never changes, She went in her bag and looked at a blouse and said it wasnt her told her it cam out of her bag she said she would never wear something like that I told her it wasnt mine she kept insisting it was hers so I threw it out the car window (you have to understand she made me mad she tried to open the car door and throw herself out about 1/2 hour before that thank god I have safety locks that automatically lock or she would have been thrown from the car) Then we get to my house and she is insisting it wasnt my house told her yes this is my house she stopped at the steps she looked in her bag again and insisted the clothes werent hers so I threw them on the lawn told her the cats and dogs need clothes and if she didnt want them I would leave the cloths for them (Mind you all these clothes are winter clothes and they dont fit her anymore since she lost so much weight and they probably havent been washed for ever and they needed to be thrown out). Lost my temper I usually dont but she really upset me by the car issue. I have to stay calmer tommorow
bobbie where are you !!! ure not lost outthere in the ocean are ya ?
stay away from drunks and ride more of that harley cycle wooohooo!! u got it made down there ! i ll be joining ya one day . xoxo
yes i got email about wanna interview me , naahhh i delete it , dont have time for that stuff and im not people person anyway , journal just gonna have to get hd of somebody eles that likes to talk .
had a good time this evening and bonfire and a bud . it sure was nice , i was down in the dump all day and my husband just comes along and perks me up , i love my husband , hes the best thing that ever happen in my life . love him so much , smack ....
goodnite u all . xoxo
I am sure that when you did that, your mother thought you were crazy. My mother thinks I am crazy, too.
She (my mother) is very offended now because I tell her that her mother, father, brother, sister (all dead, poor ones) are on vacation on the mountains, and she is sorry she has not been invited! I tell her "yes you have been invited, but we cannot go because I have to work" she looks at me as if I were the source of all her miseries!
If your mother fills up her bag with her clothes, I think it's because she wants to leave (to go back home)-. My mother is always ready to leave to go home! Her favorite sentence is: "When are we leaving?"
And I fear these are days I will regret, when she will go worse!
miz
Georgia! i had panic attacks. thought I was having a heart attack. Many times. not funny. Xanax. Next. 1 at bedtime really worked for me and if there was insanity that i could not deal with during the day, maybe. Rarely had to take one in the day because my coping mechanism was in better shape with the Xanax than without. I know because I tried and the stuff works.
Doesn't have to be forever, but for right now you are in a highly stressful situation and you must cope so use all the tools at hand. Prozac if you need it, Xanax for anxiety.
Once you bring your anxiety under control, and you will no worries, you'll be able to see your way through the rest of the crap: financial, etc.
We love you Georgia and we're going to be here and help you through this.
Tennessee: There are other women who own larger boats and the electronics guy said that right now his two big customers are both women and in his 25+ years in the business he can't ever remember that happening before.
We'll be hauling the boat (out of the water) in the next week or so for additional repairs. Nothing serious but there's enough of a reason to haul her and fix her on land because divers would be more expensive and not do as good a job because of the limitations of the environment.
We have a line on a tender (dinghy), the future SS Now What? and will be going to the south side of Jax to have a look hopefully this afternoon. when you have a dinghy you can go all over the river system where the boat is docked and check out stuff and fish.
JoJo, so glad to see from you. great stories.
Rossella love you my italian friend. I start buffing soon and will be thinking of you.
SS, Miz, Deef happy birthday and please come and make some of that you were talking about.
Flex, Pirate! glad your manager finally got onthe horn with you. Little communication goes a long way.
Has anybody signed up for the interview request? I know Linda isn't interested and that was a funny post lharde.
more later, my ride is here.
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Pirate, Try to keep in mind that your co-workers are probably just as baffled by the new OS as you are (if not more so). They are probably so insecure they won't admit it for fear of their stature.
I do understand especially with big corps that the new directive seems to be.."If it works, break it". Slick salespeople and no one wants to admit that they don't understand what they are selling. It's nuts!!!!! The software designers go off on wild tangents and we all suffer for it. Almost sabotage! But the real profit is in the "tech support" they have to provide forever to unF their programs....A vicious circle. Problem is that it's happening everywhere and no employer seems to be exempt from it. Too many managers that don't know what the workers have to overcome to accomplish anything. More hoops to jump thru & less accomplished because of it. It's exasperating!!
Gpeach, Some days are just overwhelming. HIS grace is new each morning. We fall down but get right back up, press in & move on. I take half a Zoloft each day, 25 mg. It helps alot & keeps a lid on my temper.
Jsome, Do you ever tell him off? Would it do any good? Sounds like everyone in his life has been enabling him forever. Sooooo sorry you are being subjected to this. I wish we could rescue you. I pray for your deliverance from the wicked & abusive people in your life.
Tenn, Deef, Dflex, Rip, B321 & all others.....Be blessed today...You are a blessing to so many others. May you reap 1000 fold all the blessings you have sown.
Thanks for the tip on the quinine...my dad used to take it but I never knew what it was for.
Here I sit, busy, happy, and not even going to the beach, which is close, and which I dearly love. I am feeling productive, though. Started a new Facebook site Wednesday, and already have over 100 friends excited about it!!! I'm amazed! It's a political oasis for me, and encouragement to them. What a blessing! I am thrilled by the reception, and hoping for greater success! Let's just say I've found another niche...
We went to an annual picnic with the dads yesterday. The usually non-participating community came out in droves to our local Nursing Home. Hypocrites! Then trouble arrived, (mom and her "new family" paid transport "friend." Or should I say Double Trouble!-? Mom's contempt is transparent, and her bitter spirit quite infectious! I pray I can react with grace, even though... Lord, help me! Dad was quite the sport. I managed to maneuver him outside through crowds of leeches, and over to the bounce house, where he enjoyed a moment's recognition and admiration for his favorite WONDERFUL grandson. I love those moments! Dad was slipper-clad, with unsure steps, and wearied easily. He became overwhelmed quickly, and wanted to go back in. We didn't make it very far, as the exertion, and shortness-of-breath got the better of him. I secured a wheelchair for his return ride, but he refused it, sitting in the lobby, awhile, instead. Poor papa! He managed to walk back to his safe haven with me, but was put off by another resident lying on "his" hallway sofa. "Da*^ her," he spat, pointing. Manners flee with Alzheimer's. We found a more peaceful spot to park. I probably pushed him too much, taking him outside for the circus. The loud band didn't help at all; even I loathed it. Fortunately, we didn't have to deal with mom, as she was more concerned with feeding her sour face. Unfortunately, my parting was tainted by a brush with her caustic "greeting." Driving home to my haven was heavenly. I love my dad, and enjoyed holding his hand on our walk. Wow, for all the pain I suffer from mommy not-dearest, I am filled with emotion, and thankfulness for these moments with dad. I am once again, his "little girl," but also grown, loving, and devoted daughter. ~sigh~
ohhh wouldnt that be great ?
maybe ya can buy u a boat and ride along with bobbie ! race !! woohoo.