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and that's why it hurt me personally, you can mess with me, I can take it, but don't mess with my momma and her future care, d*mn hillbillies!!! Your gonna hear me roar!
I can do one more thing when I am healthy and rested is we will be on their doorstep they cant ignore that! as soon as safe to travel I been wanting to get to Ptown anyway before I leave only went once quickly thru, and I need to do few things anyway up there! oh ya the new boss lady is there too! and I want to see Astoria!! ever since I saw 8 below the week I decided to move north...I have wanted to see that!!
I have been sick as a dog… read your posts but didn't have the snap to think, much less write. Turns out that Shingles is pretty painful (you got it Veronica… mine is right in the same spot as yours were) so I got some pain meds and took one 2 days ago. It was Oxysomething. Don't think it was oxycontin but was oxycodone or something. Well. I couldn't move. Couldn't talk. Could grunt. Was awful. Thank God the Boat Angel is back and he talked me through it. Was so sick to my stomach and not at all out of pain, but had titty nerve pain in addition to sick stomach and blah blah blah, you guys get it. OY!
Anyway, it eventually wore off and now I have a fat Tylenol going and that is doing just fine. I suck at being a pill head. I honestly don't know how people can take those things. Thought I would be out of pain and have a nice buzz and maybe doze off, not be in fear for my life and wondering when I would stop breathing. Jeeze.
OK, Juju! So sorry I haven't been able to write. Been stupid but now not smarter, just less stupid.
I can't go on the Cruise because, miracle of miracles, I have been booked as a stand up through that time. We confirmed about a month ago and I have been worried that I would be too sick with everything that has happened. All time between then and now I have to work on being able to deliver an hour and a half, since I am headlining and haven't worked in a long time and don't want to suck. An hour and a half is a long time to suck if you don't have your act together.
Personally, I think what you are doing Juju is a great idea and I hope beyond hope that you get some support in the form of others who may be able to sign up for a trip! I know that you want to be able to provide caregivers with respite and I know that you know how many issues are involved in just being able to do that simple thing.
Is there any way to get the word out on that trip to a wider audience? Caregivers who are no longer in the trenches and maybe could afford to go? Don't even know where to start on that one…
Have you thought about kickstarter? Maybe there's a way to go with crowd sourcing.
I know I'm not much help and I wish I had the wherewithal to wave a wand but I don't. Wah.
Try not to be discouraged. AND… you have hit the last 2 Boat Times with the 29,600th and 29,700th posts! That's a great sign!
OK, I hope everyone is doing as well as they can with what they have to deal with. Thanks everyone for being here and I hope to read from all who have the energy to post.. Mame! Deef! Kuli! Austin! SharynMarie! Susan! Meanwhile! Veronica! Jen! Cuz!!! Who did I miss? Can't think! Post and chew me out!
OK Juju, try and get some rest and calm your mind. You are overwrought with all of this because you have been working so hard and trying to be all things to everyone. We love you and hope that all things work out!
yes I am done, it is out of my hands but it was a good trial run, I needed a cause to work toward and Brittany just sparked an idea to get me motivated. I never want to keep mom around longer than it is comfortable and I was so low I didn't realize I have that option to make that choice here in Oregon and it relieved so much stress,,,,then I looked at real estate and found if I could sell I can live in Hawaii mortage free...my only issue with this job, not having a home....if I never do a cruise again it be fine I mean after mom but now just seems easy to me....and why not better than the pity pot and can take some people with...maybe....this is me first from now on...I just needed to know I could do it and learned my mistakes... and try one more for mothers day to see if it as difficult and if so, I;dd rather find that particular harbor and scuba!! no stress there,,,,,it is over!! I found hazel too on the northshore!!!! I cant wait to get to see my new place...I don't even need to sell the old to move I culd go as soon as escrow closes then clear out, set up house/stage it with no animals and ma making messes and lay on a beach while it sells!!!! then take a big break before doing anything else just think,,,,for a while
unless the boss lady convinces them tomorrow then I will at least promote it and see where it goes after I lay on the beach for a week or two!! llolllll
Bobbie have they given you any gabapentin for your shingles pain. It is for seizures but used off label for nerve pain. It does make you very sleepy so I never took enough to really make a difference but it might be worth a try. If plain Tylenol work for you don't take anything stronger. Tylenol never did anything for me for bad pain but now I am ancient they knock me stupid. good luck with the stand up although you may have to do it braless!!!!!!
Juju calm down you are going to blow a gasket. Sorry no cruise for me I get sick just watching waves on TV. I once sailed from England to Norway in Winter to go ski ing in rough seas. I spent most of the vacation in bed recovering. never did get warm.
BTW bobbie yes kickstart or go fund me was the plan until iti went awry but nobody is going to tell meto calm down until I protect my investment which I have done now...so yes all I need is a ticket and thanks for the advice and support!!! but you are not me and don't live my life....so please be considerate. I have dreamed of this since I was 20! I am now at peace and therefore instantly see a reflection in my mom....This is how it should be, me to afford to pay someone to do the dirty sh*t.....I will not spoil one more day in negativity, I do not have to or wish to! GOod lcuk crew , l see you all later maybe after the cruise! call me bobbie!
Haha Veronica! ya, been braless for a looong time. I wear work shirts with 2 pockets. Never was that big and now just a chubby so actually have decent boobies as long as you don't pay attention to what my butt is doing…. I tried wearing something yesterday that didn't hang from my shoulders and I couldn't stand it. I can't even imagine a bra. Yikes!
Haven't tried that drug but making a note so if this nerve pain keeps up and the Tylenol loses its effectiveness. Thanks!
Wow on the trip from England to Norway! One of those things that I would totally love to watch a movie about while sitting in a nice recliner in a warm room…
I have always wanted to take a cruise which is why this is so weird about the timing. No one has asked me to do anything for a few years now and the 2 offers I get are on the same week. I would have been down for it as long as I knew that there would be other caregivers so we all would have something to swill boat drinks over! Little umbrellas!!
Juju! Veronica is right. Resume normal breathing and get that even keel thing going. Nothing is worth you getting so upset over even though we have all been there with the high expectations and low realities of caregiving. Hug your mama and enjoy the beautiful sky if everything else is making you nuts. I have stared at some sky in my time trying to get my balance and that's for sure.
Cuz! How is your mom and brother and sister and wife?
Meanwhile! How are you and how is that eating maching of a horse making out with his dietary restrictive halter? How are Indio's ribs? And didn't he have an issue with an eye? Am I totally off the rails? (Probably)
Austin! What is new with you and the crew at the Senior Center? How are you doing girlfriend.
Mame! What is up? Are you doing ok? People treating you right?
Deef!! How is the situation with Blanche? Have you put your beautiful gardens to bed for the winter yet?
Jen! Is he still alive? How is your mom and most importantly, how are you?
SharynMarie! How is it going? Are you still coping ok with the crazy that you had to endure? My respect gurl.
Kuli! Don't know if you still read on a regular basis but I think of you so often and how you miss your dad. Grief is a wave coming to shore and going back out to sea. Sometimes the waves are so big and sometimes they are just ripples but we feel them all.
Susan! Tell us more of your story! How are you coping?
Mitch! Are you reading? Go ahead and Vent Vent Vent and tell anyone who bugs you to get Bent Bent Bent. This is a walk that can't be appreciated unless one has walked it. Talk is just that.
Veronica! Tell us some more of your story too! I know that you are adventurous and have a good sense of humor!
Well, I guess I am feeling a bit better since I can string a sentence together without getting a headache. Now all I have to do is get over the Shingles, not relapse with C-Diff and write an hour and a half comedy set and then memorize it and knock it out of the park.
Ok, now have headache….. not proofing this so I hope I didn't say anything especially idiotic.
what don't you all get, I am just fine....calm downs that are causing the problem, or your disturbed... i am just fine,,,,and would love person to say wow awesome you did it.....i have been trhu h*ll here and am touchy that is all...i did not mean toward you bobbie. i am sorry but i have no one saying good job here in person so that set me off....who the heck would not be excited and rightfully so to know they have accomplished re-entry nearly seamlessly....In ratio to the goal! i am sorry if i snapped at you all it was the "calm down" I do apologize and do need to go rest now so i can get serious on the move i will be gone for a few days or a while, that was the plan anyway,,,, sorry guys i do love you, just bad timing issue and i thought i could just be happy for once! I could not process anything incoming cause i am happy and tired!!!! Not upset!!! I will let you all know how the house goes....i am pretty sure i found another i like better anyway so we will see when i get there.....Again i am sorry it just hurt me, felt like my friends all do knock you down.....message me an address if you want a postcard ok and that is all i can handle for a while,,,,,the only reason i came back on is to delete my posts bout cruise i guess i was misunderstood, but then that would prevent someone getting the help so i wont but i am not even gonna ever mention it again that is for sure!! when i come back sorry guys
He isn't dead yet bobbie, neither are we, but I am in hibernation mode. juju I don't know how to access my message board...Hope you are doing OK there. More school shootings locally, great great, young people die, fp goes on and on and on... Have a sane week all... Just not "in" right now I guess... Jen
What is wrong with this world.....when did doing something nice turn into such a nitemare....well the season of learning has finally begun...no wonder I get depressed when it seems the whole world is so dang selfish and negative. Here I thought maybe if I post about what I feel important and my needs since I have no one else in the world than you guys who understand...I just thought maybe someone would care about something for me, not put your own feelings into it just for once say wow she must really mean it, maybe I could do something....get my back, sorry for being hopeful that I matter!!
it seems to me like I was so proud of myself till I shared my success here on aging care.......now I feel like crap! the one place I thought might apprecieate my efforts, understand how much I want what I posted since I gave out every detail I knew to help me get what I need and make my effort valid to someone besides momma, someone who understands what I am doing!!!! to try to exist again and allow myself to want something again.....but it is just momma I guess! what was I thinking, help haha???? Now I sound just like my momma did in her day that'll shut one up....tomorrow is another day and for me literally another shitty day!
just to clarify not everyone is negative but it is the majority reaction, is nothing or mild acknowledgment....only couple stand out as positive,bob! .that is why I was trying to not tell anyone. I needed help (so i had to tell ev why to try to get her to stop whining about nothing and embrace something) I ended up with the only option I had knowing it would backfire and still going in...I needed it to get mind flowing again, now I have so much.
sorry guys but i need to get this out so i can sleep...who i am really upset with is my old friends..... who always post of FB how great we are and she is proud of me..but have never picked up the phone. well now i need tickets n stuff to Hawaii i go to classic of course, and as both had touted if i ever need anything, so i give emr brief rundown trying to move over to open a hospice need flights and after the first one blew up at me cause it was the busy hour when i called with a complicated air routing....and the other i went to next dropped the ball, never called back as arranged and i never got an email then posts again....anything you need you let me know I have been waiting for days for you to find my air! but of course that facebook is such a wonderful place to pump yourself up, sometimes i just cant take it..........
Juju, everything you've accomplished is amazing, really it is. It's hard for me to keep up. Seems like your going 100 mph. I hate to sound like an old mother hen. Just don't want you to crash. I know I'm too cautious most of the time, afraid to put myself out there, and take a risk. You have a lot more courage than I do.
Bobbi, don't know how you remember everything that goes on. Thanks for asking about Indio. His eye is not good, and have to find a different, hopefully better eye doctor. The one he was referred to just keeps saying it is fine, come back in a month. He can barely see out of that eye now, and it looks like a cataract has formed . However his ribs are almost completely healed. He is horseback riding again. Won't even let me saddle for him. Say's if you can't saddle your own horse, than have no business riding. Hope your feeling better, Bobbi. Wish I could see your comedy act, you'll be great
it is my only hope to make some money and I learned a lot and now I can plan what will work best! I am happy and in no hurry any more! it worked!!
I learned who my go to peeps are! now I can make logical decisions with what I have learned.... I am in a hurry cuz like I said weird things are happening here and mom doesn't look well so I am scared to death to be unprepared for the event now I am!!! I was making sure I don't blow it....I have good people to help me and we will put togher a 5 yr plan so I don't mess this up....that Is my problem I lead with emotion and I had to get excited about something to get me out of the funk so I would not die! so to those who were concerned never messaged me to help guide me , so idk.....I really don't know what to think bout this place right now....I know who I can count on tho! and I just solved the whole cruise problem thank you!
so if someone wants to help me, really cause I am so busy now catching up on my rest and time with mamma they can figure out and delete my cruise promotoion posts and we will start from scratch and I will keep more to myself next time cuz I love you all and \cant do it without bobbie jen and the dream of the big trip!!!
ok just so you all don't worry but then that is it....I am done with sharing my heart and drive.... the plan was to wait a week before offering just to make sure and then if not accepted, which probably wont cause i didn't offer much. then that would at least justify a scouting trip and reunion with my second mom which i deserve a couple weeks in Hawaii with someone who can finally help me!! then once relaxed we are gonna put together a plan....and she is ohana can do so much for me, i need to be near hazel or angel and angel is too busy with her lil family and struggles... HAZEL is retired boss and second mom wonderful person i love charity community minded, the perfect thing for me now
so my dilemma, i have been listening to little signs here and there...and today woke up to the lava flow....so now i can really have more objective view...and learning more every day!
Bobbie I would love to see your show and now that our cruise plans are so messed up I was just looking for another cruise to take with my peeps that love me! so I was wondering where was the comedy seems I thought it might be at a cruise port town if I remember, maybe we could just switch and catch your show I would love that (and bring as many who WANT to be there) don't panic everyone I know the xmas penalty rules now real good, lol!!! Idk just thinking BTW that was what created the problem that made us rush decide. I call it a dry run.learning experience and now know I can do it!!!! I am just trying to look forward to my goals again! even if it don't work out I will learn something in a sane fashion this time!!! so tell me bob where is it at and what dates and maybe we can pop in, maybe not!!! its up to you all, I will definitely I just want some one to cook n clean and serve me for a week WTF Is wrong with that and then make a business out of it even better in my eyes and get the capital to support my goals
ok I love you guys sorry I got so mad! IT HAS BEEN JUST AS SCARY FOR ME THAT WHY I WAS SO STRESSED. I AM KNOWN FOR EMOTIONAL FINANCIAL DECISIONS AND POOR DECISIONS. But now I know what I want to do and save myself.....so I am thinking very cautiously inside but bursting at the seams outside! k I am done with it now!! XOXOXOXOXOXOOXOOXOX peace juju
AND best of all I get to finally enjoy mom.....we are back where we were before I saw the real truth in hospital situation here....which thank you now I can put that as one objective of our goal....good hospital care available!!!
also I think the drama sometimes has its purpose once one can take the emotion out of it....I would have been pacing and waiting for the answer on the house all weekend and now between the offer going in and the deadline....the support plan emerged$$! I totally forgot about it so now I am happy again I only have a couple hours to pace and a plan I am confident in!
Hi Crew, Juju, Having a very rough day and have to rest. Glad to hear that things are moving where you want them.
The show is not a big deal, I will fly in, do the time and fly out. It's work for me so I usually don't make a party out of it. If I was doing it all the time it would be different. Thanks for thinking of me though!
Hey well like I said it was all part of a well thought out plan, the only problem was the friend who flaked on me.... I just opened an email from ALZ ASSN which means a lot.... they wrote a nice letter of apology and will be following up with me shortly to see how they can best meet my needs.... we will see but I was impressed the phone rang at 9am! I guess what people don't know each other they make some assumptions...between travel my other job was program/production management..it was my job to get stuff done hell or hi water so I thrive in fast paced environment.craziness. loved it but had no passion. It is when logic goes out the window that disturbs me, when stuff just doesn't make any sense .I get down and depressed if I have no goal. I was in that caregiver coma for so long I lost all my goals and dreams... each person has there thing I wish I could garden or can like deef, read n write like Jen n bob but I cant
anyway I cried when AA sent me an apology...I am so sick of BS and that was BS! I am done, really done with it all!!! I know why you live out on a boat now BOB!! BTW we did get on the original cruise just us a small group. I really wanted New Orleans this time for a reason. Well keep us posted if you get any more gigs! anyway if the friend had not flaked I would not have made the call for help and got that job. life is weird.... this passed few weeks are weird, good but crazy.....nice to relax with momma...i swear she can sense the difference! she was so cute today she is still momma! i had a bit of a meltdown cry spell this afternoon i had to hug and snuggle her and she tried to comfort me!!!! she got it! and we were talking about the ideas, she retained something and asked it bac a few seconds later, that is huge!!! we had a conversation!! I am so glad not to be stressed anymore i can enjoy her now i hope!
well i have a funny story to describe one of the relentlessly obtuse conversations i have had to endure with the cruiseline to get this straightened out.... Today i woke up decided i will give them one more chance to make right and then that is it.. went about the call....the nature was for me to just tell them i am no longer interested in this cruise...i need to have the problem solved "in this phonecall" or i will cancel and get my attorneys involved. so he responds "did you want me to add any gratuities,gift baskets candy, snackbags yada yada.....i swear i cannot bite my tongue when i need toi kinda did this time but had to do the "are you kidding me"? in the late 90's when i last was an agent, they were were "my" favorite and now i don't know what they could do to get me to place another booking there. it nearly killed me this weekend hours on hold, going in circles, i am going to set up a meet with the DSM (district sales manager) and discuss this because it was horrific what was going on in that res center! i cannot waste days upon days to accomplish things. they are going to have to get me my own computer link in or something it was that bad... isn't even bout the cruise anymore. i fear for the sole who has to deal with that place, especially those not familiar with it....they are so rude and sales driven it is mind boggling!
Morning wow life is crazy no kidding...today i woke up and found my solution to a lot of my current issues! too much to explain but i tell you i am sure of my plans now, yesterday their was doubt , today it is confidence! don't know where I will end up but learning to trust my instinct...... JEN the message i think was about writing/journaling when i think about it i not sure how you can help me from afar i was drowning and grabbing at straws.... well back to sleep for me XOXOX,
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I have been sick as a dog… read your posts but didn't have the snap to think, much less write.
Turns out that Shingles is pretty painful (you got it Veronica… mine is right in the same spot as yours were) so I got some pain meds and took one 2 days ago.
It was Oxysomething. Don't think it was oxycontin but was oxycodone or something.
Well.
I couldn't move. Couldn't talk. Could grunt. Was awful.
Thank God the Boat Angel is back and he talked me through it.
Was so sick to my stomach and not at all out of pain, but had titty nerve pain in addition to sick stomach and blah blah blah, you guys get it.
OY!
Anyway, it eventually wore off and now I have a fat Tylenol going and that is doing just fine. I suck at being a pill head. I honestly don't know how people can take those things. Thought I would be out of pain and have a nice buzz and maybe doze off, not be in fear for my life and wondering when I would stop breathing.
Jeeze.
OK, Juju! So sorry I haven't been able to write. Been stupid but now not smarter, just less stupid.
I can't go on the Cruise because, miracle of miracles, I have been booked as a stand up through that time. We confirmed about a month ago and I have been worried that I would be too sick with everything that has happened.
All time between then and now I have to work on being able to deliver an hour and a half, since I am headlining and haven't worked in a long time and don't want to suck.
An hour and a half is a long time to suck if you don't have your act together.
Personally, I think what you are doing Juju is a great idea and I hope beyond hope that you get some support in the form of others who may be able to sign up for a trip!
I know that you want to be able to provide caregivers with respite and I know that you know how many issues are involved in just being able to do that simple thing.
Is there any way to get the word out on that trip to a wider audience?
Caregivers who are no longer in the trenches and maybe could afford to go?
Don't even know where to start on that one…
Have you thought about kickstarter?
Maybe there's a way to go with crowd sourcing.
I know I'm not much help and I wish I had the wherewithal to wave a wand but I don't. Wah.
Try not to be discouraged.
AND… you have hit the last 2 Boat Times with the 29,600th and 29,700th posts!
That's a great sign!
OK, I hope everyone is doing as well as they can with what they have to deal with.
Thanks everyone for being here and I hope to read from all who have the energy to post..
Mame! Deef! Kuli! Austin! SharynMarie! Susan! Meanwhile! Veronica!
Jen! Cuz!!! Who did I miss? Can't think! Post and chew me out!
OK Juju, try and get some rest and calm your mind. You are overwrought with all of this because you have been working so hard and trying to be all things to everyone.
We love you and hope that all things work out!
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I cant wait to get to see my new place...I don't even need to sell the old to move I culd go as soon as escrow closes then clear out, set up house/stage it with no animals and ma making messes and lay on a beach while it sells!!!! then take a big break before doing anything else just think,,,,for a while
Juju calm down you are going to blow a gasket. Sorry no cruise for me I get sick just watching waves on TV. I once sailed from England to Norway in Winter to go ski ing in rough seas. I spent most of the vacation in bed recovering. never did get warm.
ya, been braless for a looong time. I wear work shirts with 2 pockets. Never was that big and now just a chubby so actually have decent boobies as long as you don't pay attention to what my butt is doing….
I tried wearing something yesterday that didn't hang from my shoulders and I couldn't stand it. I can't even imagine a bra. Yikes!
Haven't tried that drug but making a note so if this nerve pain keeps up and the Tylenol loses its effectiveness. Thanks!
Wow on the trip from England to Norway! One of those things that I would totally love to watch a movie about while sitting in a nice recliner in a warm room…
I have always wanted to take a cruise which is why this is so weird about the timing. No one has asked me to do anything for a few years now and the 2 offers I get are on the same week. I would have been down for it as long as I knew that there would be other caregivers so we all would have something to swill boat drinks over!
Little umbrellas!!
Juju! Veronica is right. Resume normal breathing and get that even keel thing going. Nothing is worth you getting so upset over even though we have all been there with the high expectations and low realities of caregiving.
Hug your mama and enjoy the beautiful sky if everything else is making you nuts.
I have stared at some sky in my time trying to get my balance and that's for sure.
Cuz! How is your mom and brother and sister and wife?
Meanwhile! How are you and how is that eating maching of a horse making out with his dietary restrictive halter? How are Indio's ribs? And didn't he have an issue with an eye? Am I totally off the rails? (Probably)
Austin! What is new with you and the crew at the Senior Center? How are you doing girlfriend.
Mame! What is up? Are you doing ok? People treating you right?
Deef!! How is the situation with Blanche? Have you put your beautiful gardens to bed for the winter yet?
Jen! Is he still alive? How is your mom and most importantly, how are you?
SharynMarie! How is it going? Are you still coping ok with the crazy that you had to endure? My respect gurl.
Kuli! Don't know if you still read on a regular basis but I think of you so often and how you miss your dad. Grief is a wave coming to shore and going back out to sea. Sometimes the waves are so big and sometimes they are just ripples but we feel them all.
Susan! Tell us more of your story! How are you coping?
Mitch! Are you reading? Go ahead and Vent Vent Vent and tell anyone who bugs you to get Bent Bent Bent. This is a walk that can't be appreciated unless one has walked it. Talk is just that.
Veronica! Tell us some more of your story too! I know that you are adventurous and have a good sense of humor!
Well, I guess I am feeling a bit better since I can string a sentence together without getting a headache.
Now all I have to do is get over the Shingles, not relapse with C-Diff and write an hour and a half comedy set and then memorize it and knock it out of the park.
Ok, now have headache….. not proofing this so I hope I didn't say anything especially idiotic.
lovbob
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juju I don't know how to access my message board...Hope you are doing OK there.
More school shootings locally, great great, young people die, fp goes on and on and on...
Have a sane week all...
Just not "in" right now I guess... Jen
Hope your feeling better, Bobbi. Wish I could see your comedy act, you'll be great
I learned who my go to peeps are! now I can make logical decisions with what I have learned.... I am in a hurry cuz like I said weird things are happening here and mom doesn't look well so I am scared to death to be unprepared for the event now I am!!! I was making sure I don't blow it....I have good people to help me and we will put togher a 5 yr plan so I don't mess this up....that Is my problem I lead with emotion and I had to get excited about something to get me out of the funk so I would not die! so to those who were concerned never messaged me to help guide me , so idk.....I really don't know what to think bout this place right now....I know who I can count on tho! and I just solved the whole cruise problem thank you!
so my dilemma, i have been listening to little signs here and there...and today woke up to the lava flow....so now i can really have more objective view...and learning more every day!
I call it a dry run.learning experience and now know I can do it!!!! I am just trying to look forward to my goals again! even if it don't work out I will learn something in a sane fashion this time!!!
so tell me bob where is it at and what dates and maybe we can pop in, maybe not!!! its up to you all, I will definitely I just want some one to cook n clean and serve me for a week WTF Is wrong with that and then make a business out of it even better in my eyes and get the capital to support my goals
ok I love you guys sorry I got so mad! IT HAS BEEN JUST AS SCARY FOR ME THAT WHY I WAS SO STRESSED. I AM KNOWN FOR EMOTIONAL FINANCIAL DECISIONS AND POOR DECISIONS. But now I know what I want to do and save myself.....so I am thinking very cautiously inside but bursting at the seams outside! k I am done with it now!!
XOXOXOXOXOXOOXOOXOX
peace juju
also I think the drama sometimes has its purpose once one can take the emotion out of it....I would have been pacing and waiting for the answer on the house all weekend and now between the offer going in and the deadline....the support plan emerged$$! I totally forgot about it so now I am happy again I only have a couple hours to pace and a plan I am confident in!
Juju,
Having a very rough day and have to rest. Glad to hear that things are moving where you want them.
The show is not a big deal, I will fly in, do the time and fly out. It's work for me so I usually don't make a party out of it. If I was doing it all the time it would be different.
Thanks for thinking of me though!
Ok, back to laying down.
lovbob
juju hang in there. I know what crazy desperate, how do I fix this feels like!
I just opened an email from ALZ ASSN which means a lot.... they wrote a nice letter of apology and will be following up with me shortly to see how they can best meet my needs.... we will see but I was impressed the phone rang at 9am!
I guess what people don't know each other they make some assumptions...between travel my other job was program/production management..it was my job to get stuff done hell or hi water so I thrive in fast paced environment.craziness. loved it but had no passion. It is when logic goes out the window that disturbs me, when stuff just doesn't make any sense .I get down and depressed if I have no goal. I was in that caregiver coma for so long I lost all my goals and dreams... each person has there thing I wish I could garden or can like deef, read n write like Jen n bob but I cant
anyway I cried when AA sent me an apology...I am so sick of BS and that was BS! I am done, really done with it all!!! I know why you live out on a boat now BOB!! BTW we did get on the original cruise just us a small group. I really wanted New Orleans this time for a reason. Well keep us posted if you get any more gigs!
anyway if the friend had not flaked I would not have made the call for help and got that job. life is weird.... this passed few weeks are weird, good but crazy.....nice to relax with momma...i swear she can sense the difference! she was so cute today she is still momma! i had a bit of a meltdown cry spell this afternoon i had to hug and snuggle her and she tried to comfort me!!!! she got it! and we were talking about the ideas, she retained something and asked it bac a few seconds later, that is huge!!! we had a conversation!! I am so glad not to be stressed anymore i can enjoy her now i hope!
Today i woke up decided i will give them one more chance to make right and then that is it.. went about the call....the nature was for me to just tell them i am no longer interested in this cruise...i need to have the problem solved "in this phonecall" or i will cancel and get my attorneys involved. so he responds "did you want me to add any gratuities,gift baskets candy, snackbags yada yada.....i swear i cannot bite my tongue when i need toi kinda did this time but had to do the "are you kidding me"?
in the late 90's when i last was an agent, they were were "my" favorite and now i don't know what they could do to get me to place another booking there. it nearly killed me this weekend hours on hold, going in circles, i am going to set up a meet with the DSM (district sales manager) and discuss this because it was horrific what was going on in that res center! i cannot waste days upon days to accomplish things. they are going to have to get me my own computer link in or something it was that bad... isn't even bout the cruise anymore. i fear for the sole who has to deal with that place, especially those not familiar with it....they are so rude and sales driven it is mind boggling!
wow life is crazy no kidding...today i woke up and found my solution to a lot of my current issues! too much to explain but i tell you i am sure of my plans now, yesterday their was doubt , today it is confidence! don't know where I will end
up but learning to trust my instinct......
JEN the message i think was about writing/journaling when i think about it i not sure how you can help me from afar i was drowning and grabbing at straws....
well back to sleep for me
XOXOX,