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My mother won't drink anything but coffee, and since she still makes her own, can't stop; her. She says she drinks water, but filling the glass up with water and taking one sip is what she means by that. She barely made it out of bed today. Refused to get dressed or showered. Cool windy weekend, any my horse got a scratch on his heel. Not bad but can't ride. Been keeping it clean and medicated. My horse is easier to take care of than Mom. Much more cooperative.
Meanwhile as a horse owner you very well know how true the saying is"You can take a horse to water but you can't make him drink" same applies to your Mom. leave her be unless she is lying in bed in filth then call APS. do you buy her coffee? Buy decaf and out it in a regular can. She MAY not know the difference.
M-awweee I cant even imagine the challenges you all go thru...I mean I have mine of isolation and loneliness...but she is a saint to work with, she just beyond any kind of comprehension of her own health needs at all! although a constant challenge, I do not have to argue, just prompt!!!! still tedious but less stressful!!! I really don't think we would have made it 10ys if she was like some of your loved ones are!! Honestly I am so impressed with those who do...I could not..Kudos to you all !!!
All rested up and ready for our new life and knowledge to put us on a positive path to our goals, slow but sure!! What an EyeOpening experience this journey of caregiving finally brought me where I always have wanted to be in my own self/mind...now if I can just recover financially that would be the icing on the cake...but if I don't I will survive and have achieved my one true goal: tools to deal with life on life's terms!!! I could never get it, thru my rosy glasses!
Gang---sorry for throwing up all my emotional crap, I hate being in the spotlight or ?? but I guess I had to do it!! I feel like I went thru an exorcism or something lol....trying to make myself laff about it...but really it was like getting out everything I have always wanted to tell people and didn't...well I am done being a doormat...maybe a little overconfident on A/C as to boost my resolve up I have no one here to counsel or talk with so I guess that is why I do it! anyway calm cool and collected we now know where we need to get too, and I know who has got our back and who doesn't !!!
Stubbed my pinky toe...real good ripped off nail and it looks like a giant grape on the side of my foot, hurts real good too....Had to take ma in to dr's for UTI (knew it was coming she had the runs last week bad) so had him look at it sayz not broken but mine as well hurts that bad!!! Mama n I are really doing good again...I got back to that stress free place I got before we got off track with moms drs' and construction...I feel relaxed and she is responding well to it! she was so cute waiting room....I rested my head on her shoulder for a minute and she said :"awe this is nice, your my honeybunch" and morning I was crying and she said "oh honey what is wrong, come here, and she reached out and comforted me" This is huge, you guys, the way she sed It I thought that part of her was gone but not,,,,just like when I was young! I love her so much!! and speaking of dr's, that went really well, I was impressed for once...almost too good as the MD popped in to oversee the NP (who was the one who never got her broken leg diagnosed properly) seemed weird tho, that they were so thorough, as they have not been in past! I did have ot to kinda tell them what I expected out of visit first,! Yay...
well rested up and was gonna try to see what I can catch up on with you all here and I just plain cannot kick this headache for several weeks now in back neck/head area think it a stress knot but it Is a bit debilitating! and I smashed my toe yesterday baby looks like a big grape hurts like heck..ripped tonail up just hanging there....was at doc with ma yesterday and he looked at it...sed not broken but a dooozy nothing they can do, I cleaned it with there iodine stuff n move on!! ouch tho,,,,,hurting but happy! Mom has been so darn cute, really alor more vocal and animated I nearly cried at dr right there in waiting room, I rested my head on her shoulder for a minute and she said in her loud way for al lto here "awe this is nice, your my honeybunch" you have no idea how huge it was to hear her use another word baby girl...it never happens, she reached for something...my happiness Is her happiness and when I was crying at home she called me over and held my face and comforted me! I never thought I would ever have that moment with her again,, I GOT IT!!! SHE IS STILL MY MOMMA!!! MADE EVERYTHING WORTH WHILE even if I made an idiot out of myself to purge my frustration with everyone and everything!
Hang in there, JEN BOB MAME DEEF CUZ AUSTIN everyone take care!
Thanks Jen ya I am gonna soak in Epsom salts etc.... AND I put the old fart down the street in his place too.....had to deal with him cause he wants to buy my car I am selling but held my ground and I sent him to senor center for that type of discussions! sweet and to the point! YES!! now he has a girlfriend!!! wow !
Lastly the pic of the house I posted was 2nd choice, if real one didn't come thru...and now is out as it is uninsurable due to current lava flow and delay has hooked me up with auntie hazel who suggest I watch dog the bounty hunter and even paradise has its cracks in society...her sister is realtor and will protect us!!! So we are so on the right path no matter where we end up, we are weeding out the haters and building bonds with those who really care! not grasping at straws!
and everyone who gave me trouble were the ones who knew about my dream house. and I can only gather were jealous....as they have been behind the headsets....for 20+ years selling it and aren't living it like I wanted too!
now I am done b*tching and moaning bout my mistakes in trust and hope!
the one house I was trying to keep secret for exactly that reason, It was everything we wanted....now I am sure I did not get it for a reason and If I was meant to it will be there for me when we are ready to resume the offer process! least I made connections and am moving forward to a goal!
oh my fuel ran out long time ago, that is why it is all so frustrating and I need to vent to make room for the challenges we face in our life and situation. I have an ill woman who is not getting the services she deserves so we have to make plans to care for her! I need all the encouragement I can get just to get this done, Alone!!!! Thank you!!!
Of course I am swinging from the trees, I got that moment back with my momma! I thought I would never feel her comfort me again! I wasted a lot of time stressing and missed out on that!
NIce to have our routine back!!!! mom and I went for a drive yesterday, had errands to run 90 miles away in Ashland, very cute "hip" li'l college town, was a nice warm 70 day with fall colors everywhere and nice to have different scenery! We needed some quality time, was a nice little getaway!
OK I have to laff when I told my friend about mom at the DR's I sed "I took mom to the VET yesterday" I needed that laff!!!
Hang in there, thanks for putting up with me! VENT TO LIVE!!! Peace, Juju
Hi gals. Update on my mom (bobbie's Aunt Hank). We put her in an assisted living facility because the drs said she was unable to go back to her home because she can't care for herself properly. It was the right thing to do because we didn't want her to fall or hurt herself with nobody around to watch her. She will be 90 in Dec and she has really slowed down both physically and mentally. They ran a couple of memory tests at the rehab and that didn't go well. We knew it was coming and I think she did too. She just wants to stay independent but can't anymore. She likes the place we put her in but still asks when can I go home. We tell her this might be temporary until you get better and she said OK. Will keep every one in the loop. I did talk to bobbie yesterday and filled her in on what was going on. She is still recouping from being so sick herself but is slowly getting over it. She hopes that it doesn't ever come back. I guess that I am no longer an honorary member of the thread no more. I guess you can say that I am a newby now right? Hugs to everyone and yes I will try to post jokes when I come across a good one. luvCuz
Cuz, you'll always be welcome. Glad your mom likes the assisted living place, has to be quite an adjustment for everyone. Sounds like a good idea to tell her it might be temporary, why upset her. Have a question. Has anyone had problems with lipitor? A friend of mine has been taking lipitor for years, suddenly had a bad reaction to it. His muscles cramped up, he could barely move. The CPK enzymes coming from his muscles went up to 30,000. (normal is less than 300). Since he quit taking the lipitor is feeling better. I'm wondering about trying to convince my mother to stop taking.
Was he taking the band name or generic? The generics are made by different manufacturers and the filler used in the pill may have changed. As far as mom is concerned Drs are trying to stop giving them to us elders. So talk to her Dr
meanwhile I was on Lipitor for about 10 years before he changed to Pravistatin. I was getting sore knees etc. Been on this now for about 10 yrs and think the stiffness now is just old age catching up with me.
hi there folks , cuz - ure great and praying everything goes well at ur way .. bobbie - speedy recovery ! do i have to come down there and get u back on ur feet ? i dont think i ll be going anywhere for a long while .... my 58 yrs old husband had a stroke last sat , they did the test and found a old stroke , on top of another one . im a wreck ... i google tryin to find out if the memory loss will get any worst , not findin what i needed , hubby is in deep depresions , forgeting how to operate the tv , :( ... his right arm shakes and now his right leg is doing that also , i took care of dad with his stroke , he had dementia . sweet man .. hubbu has memory loss , blows up , gets fussy , i get scared , i had to walk away few time , i tried to talk to him and he tells me BE QUITE ! DONT SPEAK !! i just walk away ,, then he says he is soo sorry . we been married for 35 yrs . it breaks my heart ... will his memory loss get worst ??? jsomebody --- i always think of you .. hope fp goes to the otherside soon . so u and mom can be peace and finaly get to rest ,,,, meanwhile - big hugs to u and ur horsey ,
Meanwhile~My dad could not take statin drugs because they caused muscle weakness. His leg muscles would hurt and mobility was a problem. My mother would not take statin drugs because she was afraid of them...she used OTC Cholestoff and non flushing zinc...it has kept her cholesterol down.
Cuz -you are an important part of our group and always will be. I only took my Lipitor 3 times a week my podiatrist scared me about taking it and now my doc says my cholesterol is favorable so am stopping it altogether.
Linda so sorry about hubby. It is early days yet so don't give up. I know it is really hard when someone who you have loved and has loved you for so many years turns into someone so different. Do you have family and friends to be there for you? Don't take all of this on alone it is just too much. you need time for yourself and rest.Blessings
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Cool windy weekend, any my horse got a scratch on his heel. Not bad but can't ride. Been keeping it clean and medicated. My horse is easier to take care of than Mom. Much more cooperative.
All rested up and ready for our new life and knowledge to put us on a positive path to our goals, slow but sure!! What an EyeOpening experience this journey of caregiving finally brought me where I always have wanted to be in my own self/mind...now if I can just recover financially that would be the icing on the cake...but if I don't I will survive and have achieved my one true goal: tools to deal with life on life's terms!!! I could never get it, thru my rosy glasses!
Gang---sorry for throwing up all my emotional crap, I hate being in the spotlight or ?? but I guess I had to do it!! I feel like I went thru an exorcism or something lol....trying to make myself laff about it...but really it was like getting out everything I have always wanted to tell people and didn't...well I am done being a doormat...maybe a little overconfident on A/C as to boost my resolve up I have no one here to counsel or talk with so I guess that is why I do it! anyway calm cool and collected we now know where we need to get too, and I know who has got our back and who doesn't !!!
Mama n I are really doing good again...I got back to that stress free place I got before we got off track with moms drs' and construction...I feel relaxed and she is responding well to it! she was so cute waiting room....I rested my head on her shoulder for a minute and she said :"awe this is nice, your my honeybunch" and morning I was crying and she said "oh honey what is wrong, come here, and she reached out and comforted me" This is huge, you guys, the way she sed It I thought that part of her was gone but not,,,,just like when I was young! I love her so much!!
and speaking of dr's, that went really well, I was impressed for once...almost too good as the MD popped in to oversee the NP (who was the one who never got her broken leg diagnosed properly) seemed weird tho, that they were so thorough, as they have not been in past! I did have ot to kinda tell them what I expected out of visit first,! Yay...
well done anyway love you guys!
XOXOXOXOX
Juju
I GOT IT!!! SHE IS STILL MY MOMMA!!! MADE EVERYTHING WORTH WHILE even if I made an idiot out of myself to purge my frustration with everyone and everything!
Hang in there, JEN BOB MAME DEEF CUZ AUSTIN everyone
take care!
AND I put the old fart down the street in his place too.....had to deal with him cause he wants to buy my car I am selling but held my ground and I sent him to senor center for that type of discussions! sweet and to the point! YES!! now he has a girlfriend!!! wow !
So we are so on the right path no matter where we end up, we are weeding out the haters and building bonds with those who really care! not grasping at straws!
now I am done b*tching and moaning bout my mistakes in trust and hope!
We needed some quality time, was a nice little getaway!
OK I have to laff when I told my friend about mom at the DR's I sed "I took mom to the VET yesterday" I needed that laff!!!
Hang in there, thanks for putting up with me! VENT TO LIVE!!!
Peace,
Juju
They ran a couple of memory tests at the rehab and that didn't go well. We knew it was coming and I think she did too. She just wants to stay independent but can't anymore. She likes the place we put her in but still asks when can I go home. We tell her this might be temporary until you get better and she said OK. Will keep every one in the loop. I did talk to bobbie yesterday and filled her in on what was going on. She is still recouping from being so sick herself but is slowly getting over it. She hopes that it doesn't ever come back. I guess that I am no longer an honorary member of the thread no more. I guess you can say that I am a newby now right? Hugs to everyone and yes I will try to post jokes when I come across a good one.
luvCuz
Have a question. Has anyone had problems with lipitor? A friend of mine has been taking lipitor for years, suddenly had a bad reaction to it. His muscles cramped up, he could barely move. The CPK enzymes coming from his muscles went up to 30,000. (normal is less than 300). Since he quit taking the lipitor is feeling better. I'm wondering about trying to convince my mother to stop taking.
As far as mom is concerned Drs are trying to stop giving them to us elders. So talk to her Dr
bobbie - speedy recovery ! do i have to come down there and get u back on ur feet ?
i dont think i ll be going anywhere for a long while ....
my 58 yrs old husband had a stroke last sat , they did the test and found a old stroke , on top of another one . im a wreck ... i google tryin to find out if the memory loss will get any worst , not findin what i needed ,
hubby is in deep depresions , forgeting how to operate the tv , :( ...
his right arm shakes and now his right leg is doing that also ,
i took care of dad with his stroke , he had dementia . sweet man ..
hubbu has memory loss , blows up , gets fussy , i get scared , i had to walk away few time , i tried to talk to him and he tells me BE QUITE ! DONT SPEAK !! i just walk away ,, then he says he is soo sorry . we been married for 35 yrs .
it breaks my heart ... will his memory loss get worst ???
jsomebody --- i always think of you .. hope fp goes to the otherside soon . so u and mom can be peace and finaly get to rest ,,,,
meanwhile - big hugs to u and ur horsey ,
Another dr appt this week, making progress!
Love to you all!!
Peace juju
someone so different. Do you have family and friends to be there for you? Don't take all of this on alone it is just too much. you need time for yourself and rest.Blessings