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I would suggest that the staff tell him and if he asks you at the time you agree that it is the only option-he can not handle staris and there is no room for someone to assist him-he may be angery at first but in this case that is what has to happen-you will be surprised how soon he will adapt-I have in the past and am now spending a lot of time in a nursing home and I never see residents who sit around and feel sorry for themselves-they join in with what ever activity is going on and many become friends-he will do ok and you are probably more worried about it then he is at this point and as your mother will be having surgery there is no other choice for you.
Hi Guys, We are sitting down with Dad (in teh NH), in a few days to say something to the effect that you need to stay. Any advice? I'm going to have at the meeting the social worker and a geriatric psychologist there, the head of nursing for his station and probably my Mom. The nasty side of his dementia is rearing its ugly head because I think he knows what is going down but he is confused because we haven't come out and said, "you need to stay here." I think it's time and I think it's unfair to him and all the people caring for him at the NH (including me) that he is being nasty to. Any advice on how to play this? He's mad as hell and I get that but I can't have him come back to their leased condo because he literally can't make it up the stairs and their is no room for a caregiver in a one bedroom condo (he needs supervision for toileting, bathing and transferring in and out of a chair etc..) and my 84 yr old, 120 lb mother can't help him. Besides she's goes in for hip surgery in two weeks. How do we tell him he's staying? I just want this over with.
You guys keep me going. I am so lucky to have such friends. My husbands birthday is coming up (this Friday). He would have been 65. Asked Indio if he would go to the cemetary with me. It is kind of getting me down. Indio was wondering about Sam's birthday as well. Haven't decided if I will take flowers, or a 6 pack of beer. I miss him everyday, but try to stay busy. Indio calls to talk almost everyday, it really helps. He even came out to the ranch to see the new horse. Take care everyone. Love you guys.
Oh yea, sandfox. We hear you. Hang on, stick with us and you will get through it. This thread was started almost 2 years ago by our Captain. Many of us have lived through the Gross stuff and come out the other side-- so to speak. Sometimes I cannot believe or remember the gross stuff. Life evolves. Hope you all had a great day. We are waiting for the rain in SoCA. Cold and dreary. Heating up the ribs and chicken tonite. Hugs and much Love to : Bobbie, Miz, Cricket, LindaHeart, Jen, Diane, Annt, SelfishSibs, Kuli. meanwhile2, angelhair, KimBo, Austin, Rossella in the SnowBella, Cuz, the LateNight Comic, and all newbies, where ever you all are:) have a good one. PS: still not used to new wall format and not sure I am enjoying it. But I will TRY!!!:)
Wow, gross! My situation hasn't gotten that bad yet, but I sure get the comment about asking mom to chew with her mouth closed, and she won't. So disgusting and irritating to me. I too found one my toothbrushes stuffed into an inappropriate place in the bathroom. I threw that one away and I now keep all my tooth care products in my room and carry them to the bathroom. That way, I know where they have been. I get the comment too about wondering where their hands have been lately. My mother wants to help, so I let her put the dishes away, but, be sure that I am cringing the whole time, wondering if she washed her hands lately. One day, after she just dumped her dirty adult diaper in the trash, she came to the sink that was full of food I was preparing for supper, and started to wash her hands over the top of the food!!!! No soap. Just "rinsing" her hands off after handling bacteria infected diapers! On top of my food! I ran her butt out of there in a minute and told her to go to the bathroom to do that and please use soap this time. Yuk! Then I wonder why I have stomach problems. Is it the nerves or is it the bacteria being spread around by unclean hands on food, surfaces, etc? Yuk! It takes constant vigilance.
Meant to say: Rossella, saw the Pope on tv ( His Popeness, as Whoopee says) and heard the details of the snow in Roma! I can't wait to hear the story!!! I hope there is not a physical or mechanical mishap within. {{{{RossellaBella}}} {{{{{ANNT}}}}}} Love and Hugs, Punkin. Hang in there!! {{{Where is our redhead, Jen?}}} haha! Whoo Hoo!!! {{{{{{{Love Y'All xo}}}}}}}}
Morning Everyone! Cricket, your artwork is so appreciated and enjoyed by all!!! You make an effort every day to entertain and it makes me so happy! Thank You, LoveBug:) meanwhile2, since I was a small child, I dreamed of having horses. Every book I read was about horses, "Misty of Chincoteague' was my favorite. I collected model horses and finally took riding lessons with my girl scout troop when I was 12. I resumed riding again in my 30s, but complications from Crohn's disease with my joints stopped it again. Oh well. Thank you for all you do to care for these precious animals. I shall live vicariously through you, and when I am on the bridle trail, the smell of the horses makes me happy:) Good to see friends here, and know even when you are simply reading, we send love and encouragement. Sometimes we need to stay in a place for awhile, accumulating energy until we can send it out again. Just be a magnet and receive the love and energy others are able to generate. It's reciprocal with friends. It's supposed to rain tomorrow and the clouds are gathering today. Will get out on the trail before it gets muddy. A good day for Chicken Soup! Make it a Great Day, my Friends! Love you girls and a Cuz. Hugs, Christina xo
Diane thanks for the encouraging words about school. Like Christina I to am in competition with myself. I am only taking one class (American History) and it's online except I have to go over to the College for the exams. I have to spend a lot of time studying because I literally did not retain any of it from school when I was a kid. It's challenging but it feels so good to do this for myself. Diane you sound in good spirits the last month, not that things aren't hard but you sound like you are coping so much better and that is really good. :) Hannalee! welcome to this thread.... your camping trip sounds awesome! You will find it to be wonderful to get outdoors and breathe the fresh air, not to mention the peace and quiet... you go girly!! Linda, how is Pa today? How are you holding up? I'm thinking about you and keeping you in my prayers. I wish I lived closer to you, I would be there for moral support but know that I and all of us here are sending you love and prayers daily. Meanwhile2, Bless your heart for helping "Omar", don't they have pills to d-worm horses these days? Maybe you can get a discount since he is a rescue horse? SPCA offers help in that area with Dogs and Cats but I'm not sure if they do with Horses. Kimbo! What's the story? Are you fighting with your Dad about the move or is he co-operating? I'm dying to know!! You might have to get out the tree pruning shears and cut those roots underneath him, LOL Christina, you are a whirlwind in the kitchen! Has Morgan and Jeremy set a Wedding date yet? I can see you making the Wedding Cake and more! Yikes!! Bee, I hope you are coping, and that goes for everyone else too. *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Love and Hugsღ
We brought home a new horse today. Rachel Waller, the daughter of Robert Waller (wrote Bridges of Madison County), lives around the corner from us. She has been rescuing unwanted horses for years. But, last fall the Sherriff's dept found over 20 starving horses in a pen headed for a slaughter house in Mexico. Anyway, Rachel ended up with them. Now she is trying to adopt them out. Don't know if we will keep this guy, just agreed to foster him. A real sweet heart though. My sister has named him Omar. He is in a paddock by himself for now, I'm afraid he has ring worm. Yuck. Gonna try putting some fungicide on him tomorrow. I'm itching just thinking about it.
Hi girls I can't write now. I have to finish a work before. We have the snow here and I can't move from home! I can't read your posts today, I hope you are alright. Christina, I shall tell you a story, for which you will call me "la Regina della neve", too!
Mom is in the twilight zone tonight. Doesn't know me or that she is in her own house. Oh well, at least we had a pleasant afternoon sitting outside. She watched me and James weed the flower beds and she just enjoyed the beautiful weather.
Annt, try take care of yourself throught this all!
I hope you all are enjoying the Superbowl. Last look the Giants were ahead. Have a good night all!
Welcome, Hannalee! How nice you are getting away! Don't pick up any hitchhikers, OK? Unless they look like they could be a decent caregiver. We know about delicate sisters, helpless sisters, rude brothers, etc. Your sister will survive. Don't answer your cell phone. Make her text you only in dire emergency. Hey SSK! Happy Superbowl! Whoo Hoo! I really hope your team wins. Miss you and keep talking to your neughbor and drinking wine. Of course we are here! The Crew is loyal and faithful to our Captain and each other:). We are all in this BOAT together. Mother is arguing with someone today. Doesn't like anything except the See's candy. My sister showed up yesterday, as the wind subsided. I've hot ribs cooking slowly in the oven, going to put in the wings and glaze the cupcakes. TTY'All tomorrow. Love each and every one of you. Christina xo
Forgot to mention what's bugging me. My delicate sister, coming to relieve me for 2 weeks, thinks she cannot stand to be awakened in the night to help my mom. So we're considering a bedside commode (that would also be good for me if it's possible). My sister informed me she just can't "handle it" otherwise. Poor baby.
Is this the place where you can write whatever's bugging you today? Love you guys, by the way. I'm working my way through thousands of comments. I'm going to have my first vacation in about--God, I don't know how long. Certainly not since my mother got acutely sick again almost 4 years ago. I'm not counting being alone briefly in the house trying to get done all the things I wanted to do while she was gone--or oral surgery either. So, everyone, listen to this: I'm going for two weeks, on my own, with my two lab mixes (totaling 140 pounds of dog...). I'm driving in my little Kia from Flagstaff to Redding, CA the first day. 900 miles. I'm going to pick up a tiny teardrop trailer in Eugene, OR second day. Proceeding from there to Bend (with chains??? hope it works out). Camping in Bend two days. Then camping in my little teardrop and two big puppies RIGHT on the beach in Sonoma County, CA. Then--maybe Grand Canyon for the balance. I hope it's not TOO exciting. Just wanted to let you know so you can think of me towards the end of February. I would invite you to come, but every friggin' square inch of my Kia (Kias looks funny with tow bars...) is already stuffed with camping gear. Do you know what it's like to tote food for 140 pounds of dog? Just letting you all know.
Hi , I'm still here taking care of my Mom, today we're waiting for the superbowl, Go Pats! I had been in a black hole mood for a while, but have been visiting at the neighbor's house, and it really helped to talk to someone. jGood to see everyone still on here,,ssk
good morning to u all . i never did go over to ted s site . i was hurting too bad and slept most ofthe weekends away . woke up this mornin i thought i have had enuff of this sleeping shit and begin in pain too much . took my drugs and hop in the tub and whoa i felt better . swept all carpets in house now my shoulder side is achin bad again . damn it ! done the dishes too . pa is still sleeping . hate to wak ehim up and watch him suffer and try to spit the mucus out , hear em rattle and hear him coughin . i just left him alone to sleep and not be fussy . i did changed him it was all waa waa waaa . done changed him he went back to sleep . no bfast no meds . almost noon here . ill just wait till he wakes up then watch him suffer , yesterday he was awake all day . i cleaned out his closet and found his gitar and let him cked it out , took some pictures too . didnt last long he wanted me to put them away , i said oh no u dont wanna play , he said no u play for me so i ding ding dong on it and told him i dont know how to play , so i put em away and ended up givn him xannie cuz he sure was mirrisable , sad all around me , damn it ..... love you all and happy to hear from u guys as always ., xoxoxo
Hello all, I know I have been missing for a while. I have just been too darned tired to turn on the computer most days. I woke up early this morning so I get a few minutes for myself. Mom's hip is not healing in the proper manner. Her foot sticks out to one side and it hinders her walking. Laughingly I call it walking. I have a belt around her middle so I can hold her up while she tries to walk with her walker. She only makes it about 30ft and then has to sit down. She came home from rehab with a bed sore on her heel so I'm having to use the big pressure booties as much as possible. Right now she is very needy emotionally. She wants me to bend over and let her hug me every five minutes even tho I tell her it hurts my back to bend over. Like a child she just wants attention. And constant reassurance that I still love her. I have to tell her over and over all day that 'yes Mom I do love you'.Now I have to do rehab myself during the the day. OT and PT. I have her playing with leggos, winding yarn onto one of my grandkids longer building blocks, scooping beads from one bowl to another and pinning clothes pins onto the side of a metal bowl and then taking them off and replacing them into the bowl. Trying to keep her hands occupied. I try to walk her three times a day to build up the strength in that hip.
David has been home with me and helping me with her and that's really been a blessing, but we need the money so I'm hoping he can pick up some work soon. His mental state is much better right now. Probably cause he doesn't have the mental stress of working for the public. He's been getting some projects done around the house. I'm grateful for what I get these days. I've finally bought a landline phone and will call tomorrow to get AT&T to switch it on. I will apply for the call center job when I get a phone number. Maybe I can do three hours a day. That would help a lot. I think they pay $10 an hour.
Thanks Diane for remembering me. Christina and Crickett what are you taking in school? I've toyed with the idea of going back to school when the caregiving is over. I just don't know at my age what I want to do. I was a fool for dropping out for that stupid exhusband! I would at least have the Associates Degree. I had two quarters left til graduation. I've been such a dumbass where men are concerned. I can surely pick em!!
Jen, it's great that you're getting that room cleaned out. If you could only tune out your mom. Are you going with wood flooring or more carpet? I love my laminate flooring in mom's room and its easy to keep clean. Kuli, I can only imagine what you must be going thru. I know my time will come. Maybe sooner than later since mama is not eating again, but the loss you must be feeling is great I'm sure. Yes it's hard to focus on anything anymore, whether you are still in the trenches or recently out. The mental confusion and pain are probably the same. Hang in there girl, I'm sure there's a time when you will feel free of this overwhelming emotion. Linda, I think of you and Pa and pray things are better. You've had a rough year! Love you girl. Hold on.
I love you all. Sorry I've been missing for so long. I'm finding it a little hard to cope right now. I try to read your posts, but I find I just get too tired and turn off the computer. I need to look at my fb page too. See what's going on there.
Harv, Annie et al, that have sent me forwards. Thank you. It lets me know you still are thinking of me.
That's all I got for now. Love you and praying for personal peace for us all. Ann
Thank you Diane. You stay sane, as Jen would advise. If you were really losing it you wouldn't be admitting it. Haha! Right? I have a couple of orchids and I am always amazed when they rebloom on the spike. I fertilize them constantly cause I am afraid they will not keep blooming. I do the same with a Christmas cactus-- I think over and over "it's never going to bloom". Then it does! WhooHoo! My plants defy my negativity!! A law has been broken! Isn't that great? Well, congrats, Diane on your multiple shopping finds. I have not yet received my grade for the midterm, but I am looking forward to it. I shall be honest about it, but I am only in competition with myself. Go, Cricket! Everyone, have a wonderful Superbowl Sunday, or a regular Sunday. I'm going to try Ina Garten's rib marinade and try out her chocolate ganache cupcakes. My daughter may want them for her wedding cake! Love you darlings. Christina xo
Hey Y'all, I really don't have anything new to tell you about. I'm hanging on for dear life to what little sanity I have left. Mom has been a handful this afternoon. TWILIGHT ZONE!!!! Oh well, such is life. Just took 1/2 a xannie to chill out. I did manage to find a comfortable chair for moms room for the helpers to sit in when mom is in her recliner. I got it at the Habitat for Humanity ReStore fro $25. My real bargain for the day was at the nursery were I got out of bloom orchids for $3 a plant. Each plant looks a little battered but they all have spikes for blooms. A little TLC and they will be beautiful! I'm as crazy about my plants as I am about my pets. I'll bounce around my rubber room with a kitty cat and an orchid...lol Linda, how is Pa? You and Pa have been on my mind all day. Annt, where are you? Lilli, did the oven explode? Kuli, it was good to hear from you. I know you are still grieving. Just remember we are here for you sweetheart. Change is the only constant in life and it is human nature to resist it.
Ok, so much for my philosophy for tonight. May angels watch over you all tonight and every night.
Hey, all. Still reading, just don't feel like I know what to post. As hard as caregiving was, the loss of it continues to seem completely overwhelming at times. I'm back to work but can't seem to get my heart into that either. Wednesday Jim's mom passed, once again bringing loss to the surface. I think of you all often and pray for peace, for patience, for less stink, for your sanity. God bless all of you for what you do. For those of us still trying to find our normal, I realize that normal will never be what it used to be and I need to find a way to assimilate it all. Right now I still feel numb, like I'm just going through the motions. Bobbie - so glad to hear from you. Love to all ~ Kuli
To tired to notice the new format....Just cleaned his room after pulling up (peeling up) the carpet....ewwwwww But it's done, re settled furniture, cleaned the dust mess up Mom crabbin the whole time about him leaving thins places and keeping napkins and the wax wrappers of cough drops...Me I just wanna wash out my nose!
Hi everyone, I get all the art characters online and some of the pictures to, then I move things around or change them to get a picture, anyone can do it.
Linda how you met your Husband is hilarious, not to mention that you were standing on a street corner!! teehee! So sorry to hear you got bad news about Pa. Both of you are in my prayers and I'm here for you if you need to talk.
Christina, how was your day and the Movie? You are such a good daughter going over and doing your Mom's nails. Miss you Sisterheart.
I have been wondering where AnnT and Lilli both have been?
Dad's Nurse is here to bathe him and the dogs are going ape shit so I gotta go, bbl
hi there folks . hubby just left me for his mother and his bro for the weekend . says he try hurry home sunday , i laugh told him dont hurry just take ur time . its a superbowl and it is in indy , i havent gone to downtown to see it and am not plannin to do that either . stay home where its safe . i see enuff of it on tv anyways , bobbie - big hugs to you ! i know its heart broken when someone u care so much is very ill . he s so young too . bless his heart ,,,, austin - keep on praying . thats how i found my hubby , well actualy he found me . on a street corner !! i was standing there along with couple friends , waiting for pool hall to open . here comes hubby on his cycle zroom zuroooom . askin me if i wanna ride , oh yeah baby , i hop on and we went for a ride and bam got married 3 mos later lalala . 32 yrs and still going strong . i didnt even know who he was , i ask my friend who is he ? he laugh said i have no clue . well it was soooooooo ot outside that day yep id take a ride to cool off oh wow that was a blessing . im glad he wasnt no killer or rapist , he was the man the lord sent him to me . thank u jesus . was suppose to gone to walmart this morning , well never did go , i shall go after sis wakes up , just hate going to walmart , barf , maybe i ll go to kroger instead ,
you all have a good evening , i may come back later tnite , may go over and visit ted and meow at who evers on live , hubby be gone and i have nobody to bug at . guess i ll bug ted , if he s there , meow at ya all later , love you !! xoxoxox
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We are sitting down with Dad (in teh NH), in a few days to say something to the effect that you need to stay. Any advice? I'm going to have at the meeting the social worker and a geriatric psychologist there, the head of nursing for his station and probably my Mom. The nasty side of his dementia is rearing its ugly head because I think he knows what is going down but he is confused because we haven't come out and said, "you need to stay here." I think it's time and I think it's unfair to him and all the people caring for him at the NH (including me) that he is being nasty to. Any advice on how to play this? He's mad as hell and I get that but I can't have him come back to their leased condo because he literally can't make it up the stairs and their is no room for a caregiver in a one bedroom condo (he needs supervision for toileting, bathing and transferring in and out of a chair etc..) and my 84 yr old, 120 lb mother can't help him. Besides she's goes in for hip surgery in two weeks. How do we tell him he's staying? I just want this over with.
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This thread was started almost 2 years ago by our Captain. Many of us have lived through the Gross stuff and come out the other side-- so to speak.
Sometimes I cannot believe or remember the gross stuff. Life evolves.
Hope you all had a great day. We are waiting for the rain in SoCA. Cold and dreary. Heating up the ribs and chicken tonite. Hugs and much Love to : Bobbie, Miz, Cricket, LindaHeart, Jen, Diane, Annt, SelfishSibs, Kuli. meanwhile2, angelhair, KimBo, Austin, Rossella in the SnowBella, Cuz, the LateNight Comic, and all newbies, where ever you all are:) have a good one. PS: still not used to new wall format and not sure I am enjoying it. But I will TRY!!!:)
{{{{{ANNT}}}}}} Love and Hugs, Punkin. Hang in there!!
{{{Where is our redhead, Jen?}}} haha! Whoo Hoo!!!
{{{{{{{Love Y'All xo}}}}}}}}
Cricket, your artwork is so appreciated and enjoyed by all!!! You make an effort every day to entertain and it makes me so happy! Thank You, LoveBug:)
meanwhile2, since I was a small child, I dreamed of having horses. Every book I read was about horses, "Misty of Chincoteague' was my favorite. I collected model horses and finally took riding lessons with my girl scout troop when I was 12. I resumed riding again in my 30s, but complications from Crohn's disease with my joints stopped it again. Oh well. Thank you for all you do to care for these precious animals. I shall live vicariously through you, and when I am on the bridle trail, the smell of the horses makes me happy:)
Good to see friends here, and know even when you are simply reading, we send love and encouragement. Sometimes we need to stay in a place for awhile, accumulating energy until we can send it out again. Just be a magnet and receive the love and energy others are able to generate. It's reciprocal with friends.
It's supposed to rain tomorrow and the clouds are gathering today. Will get out on the trail before it gets muddy. A good day for Chicken Soup!
Make it a Great Day, my Friends!
Love you girls and a Cuz. Hugs, Christina xo
Love you all,
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Diane thanks for the encouraging words about school. Like Christina I to am in competition with myself. I am only taking one class (American History) and it's online except I have to go over to the College for the exams. I have to spend a lot of time studying because I literally did not retain any of it from school when I was a kid. It's challenging but it feels so good to do this for myself. Diane you sound in good spirits the last month, not that things aren't hard but you sound like you are coping so much better and that is really good. :)
Hannalee! welcome to this thread.... your camping trip sounds awesome! You will find it to be wonderful to get outdoors and breathe the fresh air, not to mention the peace and quiet... you go girly!!
Linda, how is Pa today? How are you holding up? I'm thinking about you and keeping you in my prayers. I wish I lived closer to you, I would be there for moral support but know that I and all of us here are sending you love and prayers daily.
Meanwhile2, Bless your heart for helping "Omar", don't they have pills to d-worm horses these days? Maybe you can get a discount since he is a rescue horse? SPCA offers help in that area with Dogs and Cats but I'm not sure if they do with Horses.
Kimbo! What's the story? Are you fighting with your Dad about the move or is he co-operating? I'm dying to know!! You might have to get out the tree pruning shears and cut those roots underneath him, LOL
Christina, you are a whirlwind in the kitchen! Has Morgan and Jeremy set a Wedding date yet? I can see you making the Wedding Cake and more! Yikes!!
Bee, I hope you are coping, and that goes for everyone else too.
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I can't read your posts today, I hope you are alright.
Christina, I shall tell you a story, for which you will call me "la Regina della neve", too!
Annt, try take care of yourself throught this all!
I hope you all are enjoying the Superbowl. Last look the Giants were ahead. Have a good night all!
Love ya,
Diane
Hey SSK! Happy Superbowl! Whoo Hoo! I really hope your team wins. Miss you and keep talking to your neughbor and drinking wine. Of course we are here! The Crew is loyal and faithful to our Captain and each other:). We are all in this BOAT together.
Mother is arguing with someone today. Doesn't like anything except the See's candy. My sister showed up yesterday, as the wind subsided. I've hot ribs cooking slowly in the oven, going to put in the wings and glaze the cupcakes.
TTY'All tomorrow. Love each and every one of you. Christina xo
Just stopping in to say hello......Hello everyone!
i never did go over to ted s site . i was hurting too bad and slept most ofthe weekends away . woke up this mornin i thought i have had enuff of this sleeping shit and begin in pain too much . took my drugs and hop in the tub and whoa i felt better . swept all carpets in house now my shoulder side is achin bad again . damn it ! done the dishes too .
pa is still sleeping . hate to wak ehim up and watch him suffer and try to spit the mucus out , hear em rattle and hear him coughin . i just left him alone to sleep and not be fussy . i did changed him it was all waa waa waaa . done changed him he went back to sleep . no bfast no meds . almost noon here . ill just wait till he wakes up then watch him suffer ,
yesterday he was awake all day . i cleaned out his closet and found his gitar and let him cked it out , took some pictures too . didnt last long he wanted me to put them away , i said oh no u dont wanna play , he said no u play for me so i ding ding dong on it and told him i dont know how to play , so i put em away and ended up givn him xannie cuz he sure was mirrisable ,
sad all around me , damn it .....
love you all and happy to hear from u guys as always ., xoxoxo
I know I have been missing for a while. I have just been too darned tired to turn on the computer most days. I woke up early this morning so I get a few minutes for myself. Mom's hip is not healing in the proper manner. Her foot sticks out to one side and it hinders her walking. Laughingly I call it walking. I have a belt around her middle so I can hold her up while she tries to walk with her walker. She only makes it about 30ft and then has to sit down. She came home from rehab with a bed sore on her heel so I'm having to use the big pressure booties as much as possible. Right now she is very needy emotionally. She wants me to bend over and let her hug me every five minutes even tho I tell her it hurts my back to bend over. Like a child she just wants attention. And constant reassurance that I still love her. I have to tell her over and over all day that 'yes Mom I do love you'.Now I have to do rehab myself during the the day. OT and PT. I have her playing with leggos, winding yarn onto one of my grandkids longer building blocks, scooping beads from one bowl to another and pinning clothes pins onto the side of a metal bowl and then taking them off and replacing them into the bowl. Trying to keep her hands occupied. I try to walk her three times a day to build up the strength in that hip.
David has been home with me and helping me with her and that's really been a blessing, but we need the money so I'm hoping he can pick up some work soon. His mental state is much better right now. Probably cause he doesn't have the mental stress of working for the public. He's been getting some projects done around the house. I'm grateful for what I get these days. I've finally bought a landline phone and will call tomorrow to get AT&T to switch it on. I will apply for the call center job when I get a phone number. Maybe I can do three hours a day. That would help a lot. I think they pay $10 an hour.
Thanks Diane for remembering me. Christina and Crickett what are you taking in school? I've toyed with the idea of going back to school when the caregiving is over. I just don't know at my age what I want to do. I was a fool for dropping out for that stupid exhusband! I would at least have the Associates Degree. I had two quarters left til graduation. I've been such a dumbass where men are concerned. I can surely pick em!!
Jen, it's great that you're getting that room cleaned out. If you could only tune out your mom. Are you going with wood flooring or more carpet? I love my laminate flooring in mom's room and its easy to keep clean.
Kuli, I can only imagine what you must be going thru. I know my time will come. Maybe sooner than later since mama is not eating again, but the loss you must be feeling is great I'm sure. Yes it's hard to focus on anything anymore, whether you are still in the trenches or recently out. The mental confusion and pain are probably the same. Hang in there girl, I'm sure there's a time when you will feel free of this overwhelming emotion.
Linda, I think of you and Pa and pray things are better. You've had a rough year! Love you girl. Hold on.
I love you all. Sorry I've been missing for so long. I'm finding it a little hard to cope right now. I try to read your posts, but I find I just get too tired and turn off the computer. I need to look at my fb page too. See what's going on there.
Harv, Annie et al, that have sent me forwards. Thank you. It lets me know you still are thinking of me.
That's all I got for now. Love you and praying for personal peace for us all.
Ann
I have not yet received my grade for the midterm, but I am looking forward to it.
I shall be honest about it, but I am only in competition with myself. Go, Cricket!
Everyone, have a wonderful Superbowl Sunday, or a regular Sunday. I'm going to try Ina Garten's rib marinade and try out her chocolate ganache cupcakes. My daughter may want them for her wedding cake! Love you darlings. Christina xo
I really don't have anything new to tell you about. I'm hanging on for dear life to what little sanity I have left. Mom has been a handful this afternoon. TWILIGHT ZONE!!!! Oh well, such is life. Just took 1/2 a xannie to chill out. I did manage to find a comfortable chair for moms room for the helpers to sit in when mom is in her recliner. I got it at the Habitat for Humanity ReStore fro $25. My real bargain for the day was at the nursery were I got out of bloom orchids for $3 a plant. Each plant looks a little battered but they all have spikes for blooms. A little TLC and they will be beautiful! I'm as crazy about my plants as I am about my pets. I'll bounce around my rubber room with a kitty cat and an orchid...lol
Linda, how is Pa? You and Pa have been on my mind all day. Annt, where are you? Lilli, did the oven explode? Kuli, it was good to hear from you. I know you are still grieving. Just remember we are here for you sweetheart. Change is the only constant in life and it is human nature to resist it.
Ok, so much for my philosophy for tonight. May angels watch over you all tonight and every night.
Love ya,
Diane
Linda how you met your Husband is hilarious, not to mention that you were standing on a street corner!! teehee! So sorry to hear you got bad news about Pa. Both of you are in my prayers and I'm here for you if you need to talk.
Christina, how was your day and the Movie? You are such a good daughter going over and doing your Mom's nails. Miss you Sisterheart.
I have been wondering where AnnT and Lilli both have been?
Dad's Nurse is here to bathe him and the dogs are going ape shit so I gotta go, bbl
Love to all of you,
Cricket
hubby just left me for his mother and his bro for the weekend . says he try hurry home sunday , i laugh told him dont hurry just take ur time . its a superbowl and it is in indy , i havent gone to downtown to see it and am not plannin to do that either . stay home where its safe .
i see enuff of it on tv anyways ,
bobbie - big hugs to you ! i know its heart broken when someone u care so much is very ill . he s so young too . bless his heart ,,,,
austin - keep on praying . thats how i found my hubby , well actualy he found me . on a street corner !! i was standing there along with couple friends , waiting for pool hall to open . here comes hubby on his cycle zroom zuroooom . askin me if i wanna ride , oh yeah baby , i hop on and we went for a ride and bam got married 3 mos later lalala . 32 yrs and still going strong . i didnt even know who he was , i ask my friend who is he ? he laugh said i have no clue . well it was soooooooo ot outside that day yep id take a ride to cool off oh wow that was a blessing . im glad he wasnt no killer or rapist , he was the man the lord sent him to me . thank u jesus .
was suppose to gone to walmart this morning , well never did go , i shall go after sis wakes up , just hate going to walmart , barf , maybe i ll go to kroger instead ,
you all have a good evening , i may come back later tnite , may go over and visit ted and meow at who evers on live , hubby be gone and i have nobody to bug at . guess i ll bug ted , if he s there ,
meow at ya all later , love you !! xoxoxox