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Yes, Angie ~ What Miz said. You have way too much to deal with & zero control of much right now. Don't even try to corral up your emotions - they must be flying everywhere! There is no hand book for coping with what has happened.
Glad to see your post this evening ... stay in contact. (I know I'm one to talk, being all silent)
Angie, you have nothing to apologize for. You have so much to process and grieve. No need to be sorry. Just take care of you and your mom. Hug your pillow. Whatever you need to do. Lots of tears, that's normal. Love you, girl.
Ted you are doing a great job..... Your mom is so very lucky to have you for sure.... Glad to hear that your spirits are up. I had to put my dad in a home before we brought him home, due to the financial burden. Although she may not express it due to her mental decline, but deep down in her, she knows how lucky she is. Try to believe in that. I have been awol alot too and I apologize for not being here for everyone , I am so sorry. I love you all I really do. Just trying to figure things out..... thank you all soo sooo sooo much for all of your hugs and support. Mom is a mess of course..... as she was not even mentioned in the obit..... but i know that i need to be ok for her, i have to be here for her. so in my down time i am just trying to get a grip. i love you all.. hopefully one day we can all have a reunion, on a boat, hint bobbie lol lol lol..... i will be checking in from time to time ..... but know that you are alll very very very special people and i thankful so thankful to have found each and everyone of you........angie
Good Evening Everyone or Morning or Night or whatever the case may be. Hubby and I are in Orlando and I ended up going with him to Universal Studios this morning after I yakked. Don't know why I yakked. I said to myself, you can do this and got in the shower and got dressed and stuff and we went and did the Harry Potter thing. It was pretty fun, rainy and cold so not lots and lots of people. As the day wore on I got so cold and throat started to hurt again and I said I need to eat somewhere warm and go back to the hotel. So we ate at "Bubba Gumps" and then came back here and yep I'm sick. I will go to doc on Monday if I still feel bad. We get back home Saturday evening. If I feel really bad I'll go to doc in the box. I am afraid hubby will be going to the park tomorrow by himself. Pirate, I think you are right. PTSD. Wow. But, things could always be worse. Love yous. Thanks so much for being here. Try to hang in. Jen, you can do it darlin'. Angie, take good care and be kind to yourself. Bobbie, love you!! All of yous!!
No she does not want a hole for her ear..she was just wiggin out....can't wait to hear what comes out of her mouth tonight...I tell you when their minds go haywire is the MOST FRIGGIN STRESSFULL TIME....Calgon TAKE HER AWAY!
Ted, It must feel good to get the house cleaned up and to go thru stuff. There is a rug here that's about 60 yrs old that I would love to take to the dump, but my mom is attached to it so I just leave it there. Did your mom try to leave with you when you went to visit? It must have been a hard thing to do. Hi Jen, hope the right source of income comes into your life. Pirate, good luck with your mom today, hope she calms down some. ssk
Ted - "false guilt from real regrets" ??? - I haven't read everything but from what I DID read, it doesn't sound like you should have ANY regrets. You sound awesome. Take some pleasure in your success as a caregiver. Take a bow. I cleaned out my parents house of 53 years (and they were semi-hoarders), after I moved them out. I threw away A TON of stuff. And that's exactly what it was, stuff. It was hard, no doubt. Kept all the photographs and slides, yearbooks, stuff like that. You'll be ok, Can you chill tomorrow, for yourself? Take a walk, go to a movie? Now that's an idea....
Hey There All, Just a quick update on my respite week. To start, I broke the cardinal rule and went down to visit mom at the home the day after I dropped her off. Everyone had told me not to have contact with her for the week, and tried to urge me to leave town so that I wouldn't have any reminders of her or our day to day life for the week, but I couldn't afford to leave and so I just dove in and started clearing out the house. I'm trying to get a fresh start again with everything. I had to go through a bunch of boxes of mom's stuff that have been hanging around since I brought her back from the Danish Home 4 years ago. It's all stuff that she doesn't even remember is her's anymore and she's never gone through it all herself, but it reminded me of the awful process I went through of clearing her house after I put her in the Danish Home. It's a terrible feeling to be going through her stuff and decided for her what to keep around and what to throw away, I guess it's like what people have to do when a parent dies but this just seemed worse because she's not dead, she just isn't here anymore. So while I'm going through all this, trying to decide if it would be best to put some of this stuff out for her or if the vague memories would cause her stress or sadness, I found that I was arguing with myself about my own role in all of this. Trying to seperate false guilt from real regrets, telling myself that I can't blame myself for the decline of an elderly woman's 82 year old life while berating myself for things that in hindsight I shoulda, coulda, woulda done different. But overall, I'm glad I'm slimming things down now, hopefully simplifying or purifying whatever time we have left. As I've said before, I am determined to cheer things up for her around here, Her experience level now, her 'quality of life', is solely dependent on immediate (and shallow) minute to minute experience, and I must be the one to lead that experience by being joyful and happy and laughing and easygoing, no matter what the reality of my problems are. Her room looks great with a fresh coat of paint and new rug. The rest of the house is getting a spring scrub down too, for my sake. I hung some stuff on the walls and I did put out her family photos that I found tucked away. To me it all seems maudlin but I hope it make her days more pleasant. I really do love you all, and apologize for being awol so much, but I needed to spend some time focusing on things, had to do a little course correction I guess. Boat!
skape...hitch hiking My God and you lived, I think the world was a different place in 1970, now you really just couldn't do that! I never could have I become literally agorophobic for about ten years. Though I won't do that one again I still would rather be home with my bed and books and my own company. I hope to GOD I can do something here. I had a job for about six months about say 8 years ago...I got really upset and edgy and started hiding and trying to get out of going I shot myself in the foot (figuratively) and got myself fired around Halloween and have not tried to work since... I was a good worker well liked productive efficient I just hated the trapped feeling that I HAD to be there and couldn't leave...God I am screwed!
Pirate does your mom maybe want an "Ear Hole" in the pillow? I have seen them on pillows before the ear isn't smmooshed under your head that way?
Have the scientific on the beach sand death...when the guys were here digging up our sewer I learned that you can die by being buried in sand only knee deep, the pressure on the blood vessels release gasses in the body that cause death after less than 15 minutes...
Ah to be in Egypt...well not just now....
Still looking up job stuff, day by day, will get there...
Hope all are well and miz feels better and gets a little bit of her vaccy time !
Christina - Hugs to you Angie - My condolences on your losses, it must have been quite a shock to find that obit. ShelfishSib - Glad you picked that route to do with your fantastic family pic. Miz - Maybe it's like PTSD...your illness is coming now after all you went through.
Well my mom started to act wierd again last night...she said "I don't like it here anymore - it's the same thing over again tomorrow". I had to give her a lorazapam to quiet her down. I washed her face with warm water and some new soap that smells like vanilla sugar and cut her nails on hands and feet, she seemed to get sleepy around 9:00 when I left. This morning I called her around 7:30 and she said a feeble hello and just ended up hanging up the phone which took 2 minutes. The caregiver called and said she has a UTI..well the pain she is complaining about IS NOT THE URINE it's her BUTT from falling on it Monday night....I told her we have to see how she does in the next few days. I said ask her if she wants to go to the doctor NO comes the answer. Will have to wait for the soreness to away before I can access her more...and then will probably schedule a check up...she is def declining the fall made it worse...as others have said..when they have falls they also fall into a decline. I don't think she broke anything...did not hear any cracks...and she would be screaming in pain if something was broke...we will see how she does by Sunday eve. I am starting to look up Nursing homes again..boy that is frustrating..no websites and no information for most..it's all you have to contact these F@CKING SERVICES..that want to do that for you..and I think they are flakey and don't care either.
rossella, why did you change your city on FB? good day, well, I blew my diet yeaterday and drank wine and ate a box of ice cream. shoot! Forced myself to go for a walk this morning. In some ways I have it easy with mom because she mostly sleeps or plays with cards or watches tv, but by the later afternoon I sometimes have to yell at the top of my lungs.. booooooriiiing! boring! Then just try to get through it. I need a hobby , I guess.
Gail72...frustrating isn't it? Mil was like that over a year ago, but she had some dementia going on and liked to see the bottom of a gin or wine bottle every night....now she lives in her own little home attached to our home, without bottles, but plenty of dementia, I clean her and clean her house. They do get worse...just be prepared for the ride...lol.
Yikes! Yep, I would be frustrated. My mom doesn't want to bathe--nor does she clean house, etc. She's not incapable nor is she incompetent, she's just been on the lazy side for as long as I can remember. She doesn't think it's necessary, & she's then wonders why people don't want to come around or why she stays sick. Hmm......
good morning . same shit here . nothing exciting . just sad morning . pa ask where is your brother ( one got burnt up in camper) and wonder why he hasnt seen him in a while . i said oh dad he s prob out driving semi s , u know he loves to drive that big ole semi . dad smiled real big and said yes he always drivin semi and giggled , his eyes lit up . i had to hug him and kiss his cheek , that made him smile even more . he ate happy bfast panacakes , now he s sleeping . miz- hope it stops rainin for ur hubby to be able to enjoy all by himself , youre missing it too and sufering , when he gets back see if u can find a clinic med check and get urself cked out . am bettein u have a viral in ur throat , strep or what ever , when are u guys flyin back home ? ok i think im going to soak in the tub and just lay there , till i swivvel up in purne shape . oh hell bed sounds even better , but i do need to clean up anyway , smelly sally here , angi- sent u hug .. xoxo
angie...my heart goes out to you, I am so sorry you have to suffer through this. There are things that we don't understand and won't understand until we meet our maker. God granted his followers "free will" and that's what gives us the option to do, think or feel the way we do. It may not always be right in someone else's eyes. I hope your sister left this world in peace and not suffering because of her earlier decisions. I try to always remember that God gives us no more burdens than He thinks we can handle. Sometimes it seems like our backs are breaking from holding the load, but we are strong and will do this thing asked of us. My prayers and sympathy are with you and your mother.....may you find some measure of peace.
Good Morning All my caregiver angels, Just wanted to post a quick note that I wont be posting for a while. As I am still grieving my papas passing, this mourning picked up a newspaper to ofcourse read the obits, and there was my oldest sister's name. 55 yr old. She has had no contact with our family for about 8 or 9 years due to the fact that her husband was outted as the child molester that he is. Upon this information she choose to stand by her man, but was also given the oppurtunity to remain as our sister/daughter, she choose not to..... So upon reading the obit, it has made my depression oh so worse..... i dont understand anything in life anymore, mom is more than ever beside herself...... do things ever get any better for some of us, why does it seem like just an uphill battle all of the time, I dont know and i dont understand. Sorry everyone for being a downer, but i will be back on here soon, i just need to try to make sense of everything i guess... Each and everyone of you are in thoughts for sure and my prayers.......... love each and everyone of you believe me..... Angie
selfish......very wonderful idea about the pic, that is the perfect thing to do. rossella.....glad that your mom is doing so much better, you are right, we just keep going, and going, and going. it's freezing cold this morning, had some frost on the hardwood floor right in front of the sliding doors...I'm thinking they need to be sealed across there with something. Supposed to start a slow warm-up and by next week we should see 60 degrees......I need that badly....and the col needs to be able to walk outside and get some fresh air. She was a little confused and doing silly things last night while putting her to bed. I have to put a pad in her undies so her tailbone doesn't hurt so bad when she sits on it all day, and she was trying to rip it off her undies to reuse. But it's wet.........She also stuffs toilet paper down there because she is convinced that's what makes it feel better and I spent all day explaining the uselessness of that....so she decided she would only use one square of paper to wipe her butt with to conserve.....oh please keep the pillows away from me!!!!!! Must make appt today for her doggie to see vet next week. Must get my hair cut....can't stand it anymore. Have to finish typing letters of resignation for hubby....he is medical director for several ambulance services in the area and since he is retiring they will have to look for someone else. His head looks good, no visible scarring. Let's see what else......go through all my pics and box up the ones I won't use....finish reupholstering some dining chairs and get the room finished downstairs....we don't use the family room for that purpose so we thought using it as a dining room would be good since it's so big. Our house is an open floor plan but the space for a table is just not big enough for a large table and more than 4 people, so downstairs it is. I'm having fun with it....going to be a tropical theme. Finish coffee now before col gets up and starts wandering around in circles. Hope everyone has a peaceful, sunny day.....Hugz!!
Hi Everyone. Hubby and I are in Orlando to go to Universal Studios cause he really wants to see the Harry Potter thing. I am still sick. Worse I think. Threw up this morning. Was really bad last night. Reminded myself of Mom on her last night whimpering and crying out some. Made me cry for a long time. This really sucks. Sick on vacation. I was telling Bobbie i remember how I wanted to get sick when Mom was around so I could get a break. Now we go to the BOAT (long time dream as you all know) and I'm sick. So, hubby's getting ready to go to Universal alone and it's raining. Can't catch a f#!@%ing break. Poor hubby I feel so bad. I haven't been this sick in so long. I keep thinkin' I should suck it up and go but I know I would just end up wanting to lay down. I don't know. If I had the strength I would scream. So anyways, that's the story.
Peach, I have been thinking of you so much. Worried about you. Love you. Hate that we didn't get to meet this trip.
K, Everyone. I'm gonna go lay down. I think I should rest. Linda thinks maybe I got the strep throat. I don't know. Can't see the back of my throat. Too dark and no flash light. Love yous. Talk to yas later. Bobbie, you're the best!!!!
Hey everyone - just wanted to update you on what I actually did with that picture of my selfish sibling, they kids(when they were little) and my parents, (when THEY were younger and much healthier). By the way, it was a very nice picture. Anyway, thanks for all your ideas, Christina, bobbie, Pirate, Rossellamex and everyone else. Loved the one about drawing horns of the sib!! And sending in a valentines day card FROM my Mom!
What I decided to do was to give the picture to my Mom and Dad, which I did and I said to them, "Please send this to my brother in a Valentine's Day card. It's a really nice picture of him and the two of you together. He should have it so he can remember you." I think that will get the message across but it comes from Mom and Dad, not me. What do ya'll think??
Sskape2 - I have a horrbile fear of public speaking. That, flying (but I can take a pill for that!) and big dogs. So much therapy needed, so little time!
Jen- You go into those job interviews with the attitude that they are lucky to have you! I'm seriuos! And don't let the agencies dumb you down. They have a tendency to do that to people cause they want to fill a search. If you need help with a resume let me know. :) Peace out, -SS
Hi everybody! I slept last night and I did not switch on the PC, I was too tired because of the last two days. My mother is much better and we all think her crisis was due to a medicine that she took for the circulation. She is going to the doctor today and we hope he gives her another one which does not hurt so much. The situation was really bad and my helpers too were very worried, but my mother is made of steel and today she is almost perfectly normal (if you can say so). We sure need a lot of strength and patience to do what we do. I feel very close to all of you that feel they can't take it anymore. We can... One day after another. Try to take some precious moments for yourself, every day. Those free moments save your life. Bye! I think it's night-time for all of you. Here, it is a sunny and cold morning. The best for walking the dogs....
Peach update...went to the doc today for the biopsy's...don't EVER want to do that again!!! Will have results back in about 1 1/2 weeks. More blood tests...Hemoglobin slowly rising! YEAH! Thyroid, instead of being very low has done an about face & is now off the chart high. Doc thinks that the thyroid problem is the cause of the original problem! Going back to the doc again tomorrow, if they're not closed due to the snow...Yes, more snow tonight! Already have about 1-1 1/2 inches & it's still snowing! Strange weather!
Rip & kuli...miss you guys!!!
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A Kept Woman.......................... I Am a 'Kept ' Woman? You see, there were a few times when I thought I would lose my mind, But GOD kept me sane. (Isa. 26:3) There were times when I thought I could go no longer, But the LORD kept me moving. (Gen 28:15) At times, I've wanted to lash out at those whom I felt had done me wrong, But the LORD kept my mouth shut.. (Psa. 13) Sometimes, I think the money just isn't enough, But GOD has helped me to keep the lights on, the water on, the car paid, the house paid, etc.., (Matt. 6:25 -34) When I thought I would fall, HE kept me up. When I thought I was weak, HE kept me strong! (I Pet. 5:7, Matt. 11:28-30) I could go on and on and on, but I'm sure you hear me! I'm blessed to be 'kept ' Do you know a 'kept ' woman? If so pass it on to her to let her know she is 'Kept ' I'm "Kept" by the Love and Grace of God "A beautiful life does not just happen, it is built daily by prayer, humilty, sacrifice and love"
YOU CAN'T FIX STUPID These people prove it is a terminal condition. As always, competition this year has been keen. The candidates this year are...
Eighth Place In Detroit, a 41-year-old man got stuck and drowned in two feet of water after squeezing head first through an 18-inch-wide sewer grate to retrieve his car keys.
Seventh Place A 49-year-old San Francisco stockbroker, who "totally zoned when he ran," accidentally jogged off a 100-foot high cliff on his daily run.
Sixth Place While at the beach, Daniel Jones, 21, dug an 8 foot hole for protection from the wind and had been sitting in a beach chair at the bottom when it collapsed, burying him beneath 5 feet of sand. People on the beach used their hands and shovels trying to get him out but could not reach him. It took rescue workers using heavy equipment almost an hour to free him. Jones was pronounced dead at a hospital.
Fifth Place Santiago Alvarado, 24, was killed as he fell through the ceiling of a bicycle shop he was burglarizing. Death was caused when the long flashlight he had placed in his mouth to keep his hands free rammed into the base of his skull as he hit the floor.
Fourth Place Sylvester Briddell, Jr., 26, was killed as he won a bet with friends who said he would not put a revolver loaded with fourbullets into his mouth and pull the trigger.
Third Place After stepping around a marked police patrol car parked at the front door, a man walked into H&J Leather & Firearms intent on robbing the store. The shop was full of customers and a uniformed officer was standing at the counter. Upon seeing the officer, the would-be robber announced a hold-up, and fired a few wild shots from a target pistol. The officer and a clerk promptly returned fire, and several customers also drew their guns and fired. The robber was pronounced dead at the scene by Paramedics. Crime scene investigators located 47 expended cartridge cases in the shop. The subsequent autopsy revealed 23 gunshot wounds. Ballistics identified rounds from 7 different weapons. No one else was hurt.
HONORABLE MENTION Paul Stiller, 47, and his wife Bonnie were bored just driving around at 2 A.M. so they lit a quarter stick of dynamite to toss out the window to see what would happen. Apparently they failed to notice the window was closed.
RUNNER UP Kerry Bingham had been drinking with several friends when one of them said they knew a person who had bungee-jumped from a local bridge in the middle of traffic. The conversation grew more heated and at least 10 men trooped along the walkway of the bridge at 4:30 AM. Upon arrival at the midpoint of the bridge they discovered that no one had brought a bungee rope. Bingham, who had continued drinking, volunteered and pointed out that a coil of lineman's cable lay near by. They secured one end around Bingham's leg and the tied the other to the bridge. His fall lasted 40 feet before the cable tightened and tore his foot off at the ankle. He miraculously survived his fall into the icy water and was rescued by two nearby fishermen. Bingham's foot was never located.
AND THE WINNER IS... Zookeeper Friedrich Riesfeldt (Paderborn, Germany) fed his constipated elephant 22 doses of animal laxative and more than a bushel of berries, figs and prunes before the plugged-up pachyderm finally got relief. Investigators say ill-fated Friedrich, 46, was attempting to give the ailing elephant an olive oil enema when the relieved beast unloaded. The sheer force of the elephant's unexpected defecation knocked Mr. Riesfeldt to the ground where he struck his head on a rock as the elephant continued to evacuate 200 pounds of dung on top of him. It seems to be just one of those freak accidents that proves... "Shit happens"
PQ: I think of everyone here, but I forget a name or 2 sometimes. {{{{{{{{{{{{{DEEFER}}}}}}}}}}}} this morning. Jam, we do not let Mother watch the news! OMG she gets confused and wonders if "all those people" are staying for dinner! No, Mother, especially NOT the terrorists or the politicians! We play the music channels--jazz, standards, easy listening, etc.--do you have that where you are? Very non-controversial, and old Doris Day movies are a plus. hahaha Linda, you are a doll. I was thinking of CHIN LENGTH. That is not short, it's medium. Or, between your chin and shoulder would be a good place to start. OK--BOBBIE: when we all get to the BOAT, I'll do the cooking, the haircuts, and water the plants-- IF-- I don't have to do any gross stuff. The word "bilge" sounds awful to me, but i have no idea what it means. I live near the water, but I am a LL. SSK--I went back to college at 50, and studied Archaeology, Horticulture, etc., then went to design school for 2 years and got my AA there. I love it, but I have performed all my life, so audiences don't bother me at all. In fact, I am pretty confident, which I'm sure is quite annoying to shy types. Conversely, if I am tired and get insecure, or an old stubborn button is pushed, well you have all seen that, too. Mentally, I "pretended" I had confidence, until I really did. It takes all types, and we gottem here! Whoo Hoo! Has anyone heard from Rosella? Thinking about her and her Mom all day. Love and Prayers, Rosella:) Think I'll go to Fb later, Gators. Hugs, christina
pirate - oh my goodness that is a scary one . soon you ll end up movin in with ur mom so u wont worry too much , hey thanks for the link about hair , been a lookin , found few i like , layers meduim shoulder style , , mmm . goodnight you all , dad had me hoppin fixin him something to eat , every 20 mins ! damn he so hungry , thinkin about givin him a zannie so he can rest and forget about food for the night . eat eat eat . then he wanted to get up i tld him no , u look comfty right there stay there . recliner u always sleeping and ur neck is hangi over the recliner about fell out of the chair ya were leanin toomuch . pirate , i dont know why ur mom said that about needin a hole in a pillow , it does makes you wonder . hope i dont have a bad dream tnite , wa now im afraid to sleep . food bechasinme pa be yellin feed me feed me waaaaa , oh shit nightmare has begun . xoxo
Christina..thanks for thinking of me in your post earlier....I think of everyone here as well and tell the outside world many of our horror stories...they just don't know do they!
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What Miz said. You have way too much to deal with & zero control of much right now. Don't even try to corral up your emotions - they must be flying everywhere!
There is no hand book for coping with what has happened.
Glad to see your post this evening ... stay in contact.
(I know I'm one to talk, being all silent)
Cheers ~
Rip
miz
love,
miz
Hi Jen, hope the right source of income comes into your life.
Pirate, good luck with your mom today, hope she calms down some.
ssk
Peace,
-SS
Just a quick update on my respite week.
To start, I broke the cardinal rule and went down to visit mom at the home the day after I dropped her off. Everyone had told me not to have contact with her for the week, and tried to urge me to leave town so that I wouldn't have any reminders of her or our day to day life for the week, but I couldn't afford to leave and so I just dove in and started clearing out the house. I'm trying to get a fresh start again with everything. I had to go through a bunch of boxes of mom's stuff that have been hanging around since I brought her back from the Danish Home 4 years ago. It's all stuff that she doesn't even remember is her's anymore and she's never gone through it all herself, but it reminded me of the awful process I went through of clearing her house after I put her in the Danish Home. It's a terrible feeling to be going through her stuff and decided for her what to keep around and what to throw away, I guess it's like what people have to do when a parent dies but this just seemed worse because she's not dead, she just isn't here anymore.
So while I'm going through all this, trying to decide if it would be best to put some of this stuff out for her or if the vague memories would cause her stress or sadness, I found that I was arguing with myself about my own role in all of this. Trying to seperate false guilt from real regrets, telling myself that I can't blame myself for the decline of an elderly woman's 82 year old life while berating myself for things that in hindsight I shoulda, coulda, woulda done different.
But overall, I'm glad I'm slimming things down now, hopefully simplifying or purifying whatever time we have left. As I've said before, I am determined to cheer things up for her around here, Her experience level now, her 'quality of life', is solely dependent on immediate (and shallow) minute to minute experience, and I must be the one to lead that experience by being joyful and happy and laughing and easygoing, no matter what the reality of my problems are.
Her room looks great with a fresh coat of paint and new rug. The rest of the house is getting a spring scrub down too, for my sake. I hung some stuff on the walls and I did put out her family photos that I found tucked away. To me it all seems maudlin but I hope it make her days more pleasant.
I really do love you all, and apologize for being awol so much, but I needed to spend some time focusing on things, had to do a little course correction I guess. Boat!
(Note to Bobbie- A good preist is hard to find!)
I was a good worker well liked productive efficient I just hated the trapped feeling that I HAD to be there and couldn't leave...God I am screwed!
Pirate does your mom maybe want an "Ear Hole" in the pillow? I have seen them on pillows before the ear isn't smmooshed under your head that way?
Have the scientific on the beach sand death...when the guys were here digging up our sewer I learned that you can die by being buried in sand only knee deep, the pressure on the blood vessels release gasses in the body that cause death after less than 15 minutes...
Ah to be in Egypt...well not just now....
Still looking up job stuff, day by day, will get there...
Hope all are well and miz feels better and gets a little bit of her vaccy time !
Jen
Angie - My condolences on your losses, it must have been quite a shock to find that obit.
ShelfishSib - Glad you picked that route to do with your fantastic family pic.
Miz - Maybe it's like PTSD...your illness is coming now after all you went through.
Well my mom started to act wierd again last night...she said "I don't like it here anymore - it's the same thing over again tomorrow". I had to give her a lorazapam to quiet her down. I washed her face with warm water and some new soap that smells like vanilla sugar and cut her nails on hands and feet, she seemed to get sleepy around 9:00 when I left. This morning I called her around 7:30 and she said a feeble hello and just ended up hanging up the phone which took 2 minutes.
The caregiver called and said she has a UTI..well the pain she is complaining about IS NOT THE URINE it's her BUTT from falling on it Monday night....I told her we have to see how she does in the next few days. I said ask her if she wants to go to the doctor NO comes the answer. Will have to wait for the soreness to away before I can access her more...and then will probably schedule a check up...she is def declining the fall made it worse...as others have said..when they have falls they also fall into a decline. I don't think she broke anything...did not hear any cracks...and she would be screaming in pain if something was broke...we will see how she does by Sunday eve. I am starting to look up Nursing homes again..boy that is frustrating..no websites and no information for most..it's all you have to contact these F@CKING SERVICES..that want to do that for you..and I think they are flakey and don't care either.
good day, well, I blew my diet yeaterday and drank wine and ate a box of ice cream. shoot! Forced myself to go for a walk this morning. In some ways I have it easy with mom because she mostly sleeps or plays with cards or watches tv, but by the later afternoon I sometimes have to yell at the top of my lungs.. booooooriiiing! boring! Then just try to get through it. I need a hobby , I guess.
he ate happy bfast panacakes , now he s sleeping .
miz- hope it stops rainin for ur hubby to be able to enjoy all by himself , youre missing it too and sufering , when he gets back see if u can find a clinic med check and get urself cked out . am bettein u have a viral in ur throat , strep or what ever ,
when are u guys flyin back home ?
ok i think im going to soak in the tub and just lay there , till i swivvel up in purne shape . oh hell bed sounds even better , but i do need to clean up anyway , smelly sally here ,
angi- sent u hug ..
xoxo
We don't know why anything, but your sister does not have problems anymore, bless her soul. Peace to you and your Mom.
Christina xo
I am so very sorry for your loss and for your Mom's loss. I will pray for you.
-SS
rossella.....glad that your mom is doing so much better, you are right, we just keep going, and going, and going.
it's freezing cold this morning, had some frost on the hardwood floor right in front of the sliding doors...I'm thinking they need to be sealed across there with something. Supposed to start a slow warm-up and by next week we should see 60 degrees......I need that badly....and the col needs to be able to walk outside and get some fresh air. She was a little confused and doing silly things last night while putting her to bed. I have to put a pad in her undies so her tailbone doesn't hurt so bad when she sits on it all day, and she was trying to rip it off her undies to reuse. But it's wet.........She also stuffs toilet paper down there because she is convinced that's what makes it feel better and I spent all day explaining the uselessness of that....so she decided she would only use one square of paper to wipe her butt with to conserve.....oh please keep the pillows away from me!!!!!! Must make appt today for her doggie to see vet next week. Must get my hair cut....can't stand it anymore. Have to finish typing letters of resignation for hubby....he is medical director for several ambulance services in the area and since he is retiring they will have to look for someone else. His head looks good, no visible scarring. Let's see what else......go through all my pics and box up the ones I won't use....finish reupholstering some dining chairs and get the room finished downstairs....we don't use the family room for that purpose so we thought using it as a dining room would be good since it's so big. Our house is an open floor plan but the space for a table is just not big enough for a large table and more than 4 people, so downstairs it is. I'm having fun with it....going to be a tropical theme.
Finish coffee now before col gets up and starts wandering around in circles.
Hope everyone has a peaceful, sunny day.....Hugz!!
Peach, I have been thinking of you so much. Worried about you. Love you. Hate that we didn't get to meet this trip.
K, Everyone. I'm gonna go lay down. I think I should rest. Linda thinks maybe I got the strep throat. I don't know. Can't see the back of my throat. Too dark and no flash light. Love yous. Talk to yas later. Bobbie, you're the best!!!!
love,
miz
What I decided to do was to give the picture to my Mom and Dad, which I did and I said to them, "Please send this to my brother in a Valentine's Day card. It's a really nice picture of him and the two of you together. He should have it so he can remember you." I think that will get the message across but it comes from Mom and Dad, not me. What do ya'll think??
Sskape2 - I have a horrbile fear of public speaking. That, flying (but I can take a pill for that!) and big dogs. So much therapy needed, so little time!
Jen- You go into those job interviews with the attitude that they are lucky to have you! I'm seriuos! And don't let the agencies dumb you down. They have a tendency to do that to people cause they want to fill a search. If you need help with a resume let me know. :)
Peace out,
-SS
We sure need a lot of strength and patience to do what we do.
I feel very close to all of you that feel they can't take it anymore.
We can... One day after another.
Try to take some precious moments for yourself, every day. Those free moments save your life.
Bye! I think it's night-time for all of you. Here, it is a sunny and cold morning. The best for walking the dogs....
Rip & kuli...miss you guys!!!
Hope everybody is already fast asleep & will have a great day tomorrow!
Love & hugs,
peach : )
@ +70 degrees Texans turn on the heat and unpack the thermal underwear.
People in Michigan go swimming in the rivers.
@ +60 degrees North Carolinians try to turn on the heat.
People in Michigan plant gardens.
@ +50 degrees Californians shiver uncontrollably.
People in Michigan sunbathe.
@ +40 degrees Italian & English cars don’t start.
People in Michigan drive with the windows down.
@ +32 degrees Distilled water freezes.
Manistee River and the Grand River water gets thicker.
@ +20 degrees Floridians don coats, thermal underwear, gloves, and wool hats.
People in Michigan throw on a flannel shirt.
@ +15 degrees Philadelphia landlords finally turn op the heat.
People in Michigan have the last cookout before it gets cold.
@ +10 degrees people in Miami all die..
Michiganders lick the flagpole. (Jenny Star!)
@ -20 degrees Californians fly away to Mexico.
People in Michigan get out their winter coats.
@ -40 degrees Hollywood disintegrates.
The Girl Scouts in Michigan are selling cookies door to door.
@-60 degrees Polar bears begin to evacuate the Artic.
Michigan Boy Scouts postpone “Winter Survival” classes until it gets cold enough.
@ -80 degrees Mt.St. Helens freezes.
People in Michigan rent videos.
@ -100 degrees Santa Clause abandons the North Pole.
Michiganders get frustrated because they can’t thaw the keg.
@ -297 degrees Microbial life no longer survives on dairy products.
Cows in Michigan complain about farmers with cold hands.
@- 460 degrees ALL atomic motion stops (absolute zero in the Kelvin scale).
People in Michigan start saying, “Cold ‘nuff for ya ?”
@ -500 degrees Hell freezes over.
The Lions win the Super Bowl.
These people prove it is a terminal condition. As always, competition this year has been keen. The candidates this year are...
Eighth Place
In Detroit, a 41-year-old man got stuck and drowned in two feet of water after squeezing head first through an 18-inch-wide sewer grate to retrieve his car keys.
Seventh Place
A 49-year-old San Francisco stockbroker, who "totally zoned when he
ran," accidentally jogged off a 100-foot high cliff on his daily run.
Sixth Place
While at the beach, Daniel Jones, 21, dug an 8 foot hole for protection from the wind and had been sitting in a beach chair at the bottom when it collapsed, burying him beneath 5 feet of sand. People on the beach used their hands and shovels trying to get him out but could not reach him. It took rescue workers using heavy equipment almost an hour to free him. Jones was pronounced dead at a hospital.
Fifth Place
Santiago Alvarado, 24, was killed as he fell through the ceiling of a bicycle shop he was burglarizing. Death was caused when the long flashlight he had placed in his mouth to keep his hands free rammed into the base of his skull as he hit the floor.
Fourth Place
Sylvester Briddell, Jr., 26, was killed as he won a bet with friends who said he
would not put a revolver loaded with fourbullets into his mouth and pull the trigger.
Third Place
After stepping around a marked police patrol car parked at the front door, a man walked into H&J Leather & Firearms intent on robbing the store. The shop was full of customers and a uniformed officer was standing at the counter. Upon seeing the officer, the would-be robber announced a hold-up, and fired a few wild shots from a target pistol. The officer and a clerk promptly returned fire, and several
customers also drew their guns and fired. The robber was pronounced dead at the scene by Paramedics. Crime scene investigators located 47 expended cartridge cases in the shop. The subsequent autopsy revealed 23 gunshot wounds.
Ballistics identified rounds from 7 different weapons. No one else was hurt.
HONORABLE MENTION
Paul Stiller, 47, and his wife Bonnie were bored just driving around at 2 A.M. so they lit a quarter stick of dynamite to toss out the window to see what would happen. Apparently they failed to notice the window was closed.
RUNNER UP
Kerry Bingham had been drinking with several friends when one of them said they knew a person who had bungee-jumped from a local bridge in the middle of traffic. The conversation grew more heated and at least 10 men trooped along the walkway of the bridge at 4:30 AM. Upon arrival at the midpoint of the bridge they discovered that no one had brought a bungee rope. Bingham, who had continued drinking, volunteered and pointed out that a coil of lineman's cable lay near by. They secured one end around Bingham's leg and the tied the other to the bridge. His fall lasted 40 feet before the cable tightened and tore his foot off at the ankle. He miraculously survived his fall into the icy water and was rescued by two nearby fishermen. Bingham's foot was never located.
AND THE WINNER IS...
Zookeeper Friedrich Riesfeldt (Paderborn, Germany) fed his constipated elephant 22 doses of animal laxative and more than a bushel of berries, figs and prunes before the plugged-up pachyderm finally got relief. Investigators say ill-fated Friedrich, 46, was attempting to give the ailing elephant an olive oil enema when the relieved beast unloaded. The sheer force of the elephant's unexpected defecation knocked Mr. Riesfeldt to the ground where he struck his head on a rock as the elephant continued to evacuate 200 pounds of dung on top of him. It seems to be just one of those freak
accidents that proves... "Shit happens"
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Jam, we do not let Mother watch the news! OMG she gets confused and wonders if "all those people" are staying for dinner! No, Mother, especially NOT the terrorists or the politicians! We play the music channels--jazz, standards, easy listening, etc.--do you have that where you are? Very non-controversial, and old Doris Day movies are a plus. hahaha
Linda, you are a doll. I was thinking of CHIN LENGTH. That is not short, it's medium. Or, between your chin and shoulder would be a good place to start.
OK--BOBBIE: when we all get to the BOAT, I'll do the cooking, the haircuts, and water the plants-- IF-- I don't have to do any gross stuff. The word "bilge" sounds awful to me, but i have no idea what it means. I live near the water, but I am a LL.
SSK--I went back to college at 50, and studied Archaeology, Horticulture, etc., then went to design school for 2 years and got my AA there. I love it, but I have performed all my life, so audiences don't bother me at all. In fact, I am pretty confident, which I'm sure is quite annoying to shy types. Conversely, if I am tired and get insecure, or an old stubborn button is pushed, well you have all seen that, too. Mentally, I "pretended" I had confidence, until I really did. It takes all types, and we gottem here! Whoo Hoo!
Has anyone heard from Rosella? Thinking about her and her Mom all day. Love and Prayers, Rosella:)
Think I'll go to Fb later, Gators. Hugs, christina
hey thanks for the link about hair , been a lookin , found few i like , layers meduim shoulder style , , mmm .
goodnight you all , dad had me hoppin fixin him something to eat , every 20 mins ! damn he so hungry , thinkin about givin him a zannie so he can rest and forget about food for the night . eat eat eat . then he wanted to get up i tld him no , u look comfty right there stay there . recliner u always sleeping and ur neck is hangi over the recliner about fell out of the chair ya were leanin toomuch .
pirate , i dont know why ur mom said that about needin a hole in a pillow , it does makes you wonder . hope i dont have a bad dream tnite , wa now im afraid to sleep . food bechasinme pa be yellin feed me feed me waaaaa , oh shit nightmare has begun .
xoxo