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THINK ABOUT THIS!! READ THIS VERY SLOWLY...... IT'S PRETTY PROFOUND. Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour? " She would gasp and stammer, "I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday. I had a late breakfast. It looks like rain." And my personal favorite: "It's Monday." She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together. Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect! We'll go back and visit! the grandparents when we get Stevie toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college. Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to", "I plan on" , and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit." When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Roller blades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord. My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I ! might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy. Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you. Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply? When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through yo! ur head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"? When you worry and hurry through your day, It is like an unopened gift....Thrown away... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over. It's National Friendship Week. Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.
One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of showing his son how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family. On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" " It was great, Dad." "Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked. "Oh yeah," said the son. "So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father. The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them." The boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, "Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are." Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have. Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends! Please pass this page on to friends and acquaintances to help them refresh their perspective and appreciation. "Life is too short and friends are too few."
A row of bottles upon my shelf Has caused me to analyze myself. One yellow pill I hope to pop Goes to my heart so it won't stop. A little white one that I take Goes to my hands so they won't shake. The blue ones that I use a lot, Tell me I'm happy when I'm not. The purple one goes to my brain And tells me that I have no pain. The capsules tell me not to sneeze Or cough, or choke or even wheeze The red ones, smallest of them all Goes to my blood so I won't fall. The orange ones, so big and bright, Stop my leg cramps in the night. Such an array of brilliant pills, Helping to cure all kinds of ills. But what I'd REALLY like to know------ IS WHAT TELLS EACH ONE WHERE TO GO?????????
The Pianist Thought you might enjoy this.......... The minister was preoccupied with thoughts of how he was going to, after the worship service, ask the congregation to come up with more money than they were expecting for repairs to the church building. Therefore, he was annoyed to find that the regular organist was sick and a substitute had been brought in at the last minute. The substitute wanted to know what to play. "Here's a copy of the service," he said impatiently. "But you'll have to think of something to play after I make the announcement about the finances." During the service, the minister paused and said, "Brothers and Sisters, we are in great difficulty; the roof repairs cost twice as much as we expected, and we need $4,000 more. Any of you who can pledge $100 or more, please stand up." At that moment, the substitute organist played "The Star-spangled Banner." And that is how the substitute became the regular organist! HYMNS FOR ALL THINGS
The Dentist's Hymn:.....................Crown Him with Many Crowns Weatherman's Hymn..............There Shall Be Showers of Blessings Contractor's Hymn:............... The Church's One Foundation The Tailor's Hymn:....................... Holy, Holy, Holy The Golfer's Hymn:....................... There's a Green Hill Far Away The Politician's Hymn:................... Standing on the Promises Optometrist's Hymn:.............. Open My Eyes That I Might See Agent's Hymn:....................... I Surrender All The Gossip's Hymn:.......................Pass It On The Electrician's Hymn:..................Send The Light The Shopper's Hymn:................. Sweet Bye and Bye The Realtor's Hymn:.......................I've Got a Mansion Just Over the Hilltop The Massage Therapists Hymn.... He Touched Me The Doctor's Hymn:...................... The Great Physician
AND for those who speed on the highway - a few hymns:
-----45mph....................God Will Take Care of You -----55mph....................Guide Me, O Thou Great Jehovah -----65mph....................Nearer My God To Thee -----75mph....................Nearer Still Nearer -----85mph....................This World Is Not My Home -----95mph....................Lord, I'm Coming Home -----Over 100mph...........Precious Memories
Give me a sense of humor, Lord, Give me the grace to see a joke, To get some humor out of life, And pass it on to other folk.
I found a penny today Just laying on the ground, But it's not just a penny This little coin I've found. Angels put them there That's what my Grandpa told me, He said Angels toss them down Oh, how I loved that story. He said when an Angel misses you
They toss a penny down, Sometimes just to cheer you up To make a smile out of your frown
So don't pass by that penny When you're feeling blue, It may be a penny from heaven That an Angel's tossed to you. Author: Unknown
What would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there?
What would you do if for every moment you were truly happy there would be 10 moments of sadness?
What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt?
So, I just wanted to say, even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference i n my life.
I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you.
Send this to all your friends, no matter how often you talk, or how close you are, and send it to the person who sent it to you.
Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them, and tell new friends you never will.
Remember, everyone needs a friend, someday you might feel like you have NO FRIENDS at all, just remember this e-mail and take comfort in knowing somebody out there cares about you and always will.
these are great posts and i totally agree with all of you...good luck livetoride...we are here for you...look around on the website read the stories...you will be amazed...god bless all of us and our families...
For those lucky to still be blessed with your Mom this is beautiful. For those of us who aren't, this is even more beautiful. The young mother set her foot on the path of life. "Is this the long way?" she asked. And the guide said: "Yes, and the way is hard. And you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the beginning." But the young mother was happy, and she would not believe that anything could be better than these years. So she played with her children, and gathered flowers for them along the way, and bathed them in the clear streams; and the sun shone on them, and the young Mother cried, "Nothing will ever be lovelier than this." Then the night came, and the storm, and the path was dark, and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her mantle, and the children said, "Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can come." And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary. But at all times she said to the children, "A little patience and we are there." So the children climbed, and when they reached the top they said, "Mother, we would not have done it without you." And the mother, when she lay down at night looked up at the stars and said, "This is a better day than the last, for my children have learned fortitude in the face of hardness. Yesterday I gave them courage. Today, I have given them strength." And the next day came strange clouds which darkened the earth, clouds of war and hate and evil, and the children groped and stumbled, and the mother said: "Look up. Lift your eyes to the light." And the children looked and saw above the clouds an everlasting glory, and it guided them beyond the darkness. And that night the Mother said, "This is the best day of all, for I have shown my children God." And the days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years, and the mother grew old and she was little and bent. But her children were tall and strong, and walked with courage. And when the way was rough, they lifted her, for she was as light as a feather; and at last they came to a hill, and beyond they could see a shining road and golden gates flung wide. And mother said: "I have reached the end of my journey. And now I know the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk alone, and their children after them." And the children said, "You will always walk with us, Mother, even when you have gone through the gates." And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, and the gates closed after her. And they said: "We cannot see her, but she is with us still. A Mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a living presence." Your Mother is always with you. She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street; she's the smell of bleach in your freshly laundered socks; she's the cool hand on your brow when you're not well. Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she's crystallized in every tear drop. She's the place you came from, your first home; and she's the map you follow with every step you take. She's your first love and your first heartbreak, and nothing on earth can separate you... Not time, not space...not even death! PASS THIS ON TO ALL THE MOTHERS and CHILDREN YOU KNOW. MAY WE NEVER TAKE OUR MOTHERS FOR GRANTED.
Jam, what a nice post Yes, that's what you will find here--family and friends, support and endless caring. We don't give up. Some days, a few of us are worn out, and the others who have more energy take the lead. We're like a battalion of soldiers; we're all willing to be on the front lines, and maybe we don't want to, but we've signed up, so that's it. Lots of encouragement and grounding by our fearless Captain Bobbie. Have a good evening. Prayers sent up for all;)
welcome livetoride...this is a terrific group of caregivers....some having done it for years, others not quite so long but we all have things to offer you. We all (caregivers) tend to hang together and have each others backs, although we can and do give our own opinions. We are here for your questions, to listen when you need to vent, to lend a shoulder if you need to cry....oh heck we'll even join you in a pity party. We offer the occasional margarita, beer, rum and coke and have a pillow to offer when you need to use "pillow therapy". We look to our "captain" bobbie.....the wonderful caregiver who started this thread.....she offers a lot of most appreciated post-caregiver advice. Some of us have recently lost a parent and yet are still caring for one or more parents, grandparents, husbands.......so on that welcome it is time for me to get the col (crazy old lady, mil) up off the couch, change wet undies and into bed. Goodnight and I hope it is peaceful for all....Hugz!!!!
welcome livetoride .. wonder if the poa has been set up ? prob be the best way to talk to a lawyer and go from there , i wouldnt know cuz my bro is the poa , i m caregiver , take care of dad instead of nursing home , it is only the begining for u . i have been doing this for comin 3 yrs , he lives with me .
christina ! yes im right there with you on that dream ! margaritta plzzzz and we all go moon the other houseboats wooo ! ohh like bobbie said we all gotta have a reunion one day . it would be so great if dreams can come true . we re a new crew siblings a lota caring people like us . love you all have a good night xoxoxox
i am new to the caregiver dutys.my parents live with me and my mom has always cooked the family meals, but lately when she cooks she doesnt do very good.for instance,when she cooks meat she always undercooks it,mashed potatoes come out like thick soup.I believe its time to start taking over.i hate to couse i dont want them to feel like i dont think theyre capable.they can still do everything for themselves my mom's PA thinks she may have alzhiemers. who can i talk to about financial help and also about where i can learn to care for them in my home as time goes on? niether i nor my parents can afford a nursing home for them.
Wow. Thank you, Angie. That is very humbling, like a big star. I appreciate you words and thoughts. I'm glad to be helpful:) Rosella, my prayers are with you and your Mom. We think we know what these things will bring, but we don't. Best if we don't speculate, but hang onto hope that she is in good hands--on earth, and from Heaven, and again, we pray. Big Hugs, Sister. I don't know about you, (yes I do!!) but I am really missing Bobbie and Miz. Sigh. I can almost feel the undulating waves beneath me as I am sitting here, on this cyber BOAT. Taste the margaritas and crab and smell the salty air, hear the laughter of Bobbie, Miz and hubby. Can't wait to hear about the excursions and surprises. I am so glad we have each other. Screw the selfish siblings. Sometimes, members of the same family are not found on the same tree. I like this tree. I'm putting down roots. Pirate Queen, Deefer, Maxine--I didn't mention you this morning, and it bugged me all day. You are in my heart. Love and hugs, christina
Ted it sounds like you made your decision to keep her wirh you -but please try to relax for your self and see when you can get respite caare again. Making the house neat and comfortable will help a lot -I did that for myself when my husband was alive and it did help a lot-I am hoping this week is good for you and she may even appreciate you more when she comes home.
Christina...yes they sure do permeate the house...I hate it....they rearrange things on their own..do stuff I don't like, can't find when they put every living dish and silverware away..I like to keep a few simple dishes and silverware out to grab easily nope have to refind and rewash...my mom's old cupboards are a bit moldy from being old so I have to wash everything that comes out of the cupboard, guess I am a freak like that...then the other day AFTER PUTTING A NOTE BY THE HEATER DON'T TURN PAST 70..I come home to find the heater blasting at 72 dehydrating my mom even more...I ask her to give Gatorage and some mild laxatives..don't know if that is being done...seems they are a help and in a way a nuissance...but I am stuck...can't quit work.
Self Sib...I still like my idea of mailing that same photo to each sibling in a Valentines day card from mom.....no words just simple....lol...that ought to get to them. She squeezed each one of them out of herself....I am sure they can SQUEEZE some time for her.....pun intended...LOL
Hi Christina, I just have to say how much i enjoy reading your blogs. You say everything that stews inside of my head in re: to my siblings..... Thank you for being my voice too....... You are the best.... I so know exactly how you feel.
Dear caregivers, I had two very difficult days with my mother's health; yesterday. she stayed all day at the hospital doing exams for problems of blood circulation, they prescribed her a medicine, they told us there was nothing serious. Today she took the pill and had a very bad reaction to the pill and she vomited and she can't stand on her feet, she is a dead weight. I put her (literally) in bed and as I have to work tonight I am going to check on her every half an hour or so. Maybe we shall have to go back to the hospital tonight. I hope not. Well, I have not even called her brother and sister, I have called my brother for sure, who is giving me advice by telephone. But, as usual, the whole situation is 99 percent on my shoulders. (and on my helpers' shoulders; i have to say they have behaved very well these last two days). I think that our work as caregivers is so exhausting, it drains so much of our mental, physical, emotional energies that we don't need more problems. I advice to all of you who still feel abandoned by their siblings to simply forget it; it is a waste of time. They don't care enough (or they don't care at all). There is no point in getting sad or distressed about it anymore. They won't change they won't understand whatever you do. The irony is useless, the confrontation is useless, too... Just forget it and keep your energy for the hard work we do. This is just my advice. It took me two years to start thinking like this. The thing that opened my eyes was last Christmas when the two siblings of my mother organized a Christmas holiday between the two of them (the healthy ones) excluding my mother as she is no more herself. That made me understand were we stand, and took away all the illusions... I live much better since. Lots of kisses to all of you. Ted, yes, try to rest, because I think I have understood that you are going to keep your mother with you at least for the moment, so you need to rest before she comes back home. 'Nite everybody and a big kiss to SS
selfish....I understand your feelings of frustration and the need to do SOMETHING....and how you feel because you are the only one doing things.....a conscience would make them do or feel something correct? Maybe they are suffering their own feelings of guilt and by your sending the picture maybe they would then think it's okay to visit because you don't blame them for ignoring the parents. Clueless? You bet they are.......I did everything for my mother and my youngest sister called me a bitchy c--t..........the same one who saw my mother once every 6 months when the guilt got so bad she thought she should do something....so a 30 min visit was in order. Hurts? You bet it does, feels like your heart is being wrenched right out of your chest...frustrating, maddening, makes you want to use a pillow on someone, anyone. You know in your heart what needs to be done or what you want to do......we can only tell you what we would do in our own situation. I cannot speak for everyone else here, but whatever your decision I agree with you and will be here to listen.
PQ--I hate caregivers in the house, too. It's my house, and my husband and I have NO PRIVACY anymore unless we go upstairs into our bedroom. He does not like that. They permeate the house along with my Mother They are helpful during the day, and I need the help, so I'm thankful, but, what I have given up for a manipulative Mother, and how my generous husband has given up so much for however long, it is very unfair. Besides that, I have gained weight from the stress, while my sister gloats over yet another pant size down. "Well, I just quit eating sugar. You can do it too" F--- Y--, B----!@!!!!!!
Well, as Bobbie says, why don't you get the film crew, SelfishSiblings, and go to their respective doors? Or, wait until they're out to dinner somewhere really nice, then go there with a camera, or a big burly guy--a Big Rocky type, heehee-- and HUMILIATE THE HELL OUT OF THEM IN PUBLIC! Serious. I'll be there. Are you in California, or would I have to fly to get there? I often wonder if my sibs will feel any guilt after our Mother leaves the planet, or will I still be harboring resentment, and wishing they had left with her. I can feel the patronizing pats on my head even now. I'm trying, too, SS, every day. I calm down, then one of them does something mindless, shallow, inconsiderate, selfish, and I ask, WHY ME, GOD?!?! COME ON, GIVE ME A FRICKIN BREAK!!! Maybe that's why i keep re-injuring my shoulder? Hang in there, SS. Love, c
sskape2 - YES!!! LOL - the laugh I needed!!! Keep the ideas coming! I know we've got some creative people out there!
Look, I know I can't successfully humiliate them that they blew off their parents, or shame them as Christina said. But what's happening here is "out of sight, out of mind." So I just thought I'd keep the thought of what they are missing, in their minds, or at least in their mailbox.
Jam and Christina - wish I agreed cause it would be a lot easier, but I do not. Not there yet. Not close. Why should I have to sit and watch my parents deteriorate in front of eyes, do EVERYTHING for them, while the other two continue to stay out of the picture? One of them is so clueless they call my parents and complain about their stupid shit. They have no idea what it is like out here. How bad Mom and Dad are. They're not even human. Screw them.
I am so sorry your stand in caregiver abused the situation. I am a live-in caregiver and there are drawers here that I have never opened!! I know where the things are that I need, and I have no need to look any further. I feel so bad for all of you that do not have someone you can count on, on all levels, to give you a break. I pray for all of you to get someone as wonderful as me...lol I hope ya'll know I am kidding, because I really feel bad for ya'll. And if you find anything missing, confront her!!!!
Selfish....I would put it in a Valentines day card from Mom to them...with much love kids....tear at their frayed heartstrings!
Ted- good luck with the scrubbing, dont; forget to use gloves those detergents will do a number on your skin!
Yesterday I had a substitute caregiver - mine was moving over the weekend and needed Mon off...so I got there before the caregiver did and cleaned up mom and showed the caregiver the basic ropes..when I got there after work you wouldn't believe how many drawers were opened up in my mom's room and not closed properly..what the h#ll was she looking for..never once called me if she was looking for something...wonder if it was money...there was no money in any of those drawers...well I don't think some I have not checked..mostly a million pieces of clothes or perfum. Will have to look through those again...geesh..I hate having caregivers in the house I really hate it!
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THINK ABOUT THIS!!
READ THIS VERY SLOWLY...... IT'S PRETTY PROFOUND.
Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.
I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour? " She would gasp and stammer, "I can't. I have
clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday. I had a late breakfast. It looks like rain." And my personal favorite: "It's Monday."
She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.
Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!
We'll go back and visit! the grandparents when we get Stevie toilet-trained.
We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a
second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.
Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer.
One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to", "I plan on" , and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."
When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious.
You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Roller blades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's
just that I ! might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula
and eliminate the digestive process.
The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.
Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list.
If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?
Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.
Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through yo! ur head?
Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"?
When you worry and hurry through your day, It is like an unopened gift....Thrown away...
Life is not a race. Take it slower.
Hear the music before the song is over.
It's National Friendship Week. Show your friends how much you care. Send
this to everyone you consider a FRIEND.
If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.
Thanks for being my friend.
One day a father of a very wealthy family took his
son on a trip to the
country with the firm purpose of showing his son how
poor people live.
They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm
of what would be
considered a very poor family. On their return from
their trip, the
father asked his son, "How was the trip?"
" It was great, Dad."
"Did you see how poor people live?" the father
asked.
"Oh yeah," said the son.
"So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?"
asked the father.
The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and
they had four. We
have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden
and they have a
creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns
in our garden and they
have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the
front yard and they
have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of
land to live on and
they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have
servants who serve
us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but
they grow theirs. We
have walls around our property to protect us, they
have friends to
protect them."
The boy's father was speechless.
Then his son added, "Thanks, Dad, for showing me how
poor we are."
Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you
wonder what would happen
if we all gave thanks for everything we have,
instead of worrying about
what we don't have. Appreciate every single thing
you have, especially
your friends! Please pass this page on to friends
and acquaintances to
help them refresh their perspective and
appreciation.
"Life is too short and friends are too few."
A row of bottles upon my shelf
Has caused me to analyze myself.
One yellow pill I hope to pop
Goes to my heart so it won't stop.
A little white one that I take
Goes to my hands so they won't shake.
The blue ones that I use a lot,
Tell me I'm happy when I'm not.
The purple one goes to my brain
And tells me that I have no pain.
The capsules tell me not to sneeze
Or cough, or choke or even wheeze
The red ones, smallest of them all
Goes to my blood so I won't fall.
The orange ones, so big and bright,
Stop my leg cramps in the night.
Such an array of brilliant pills,
Helping to cure all kinds of ills.
But what I'd REALLY like to know------
IS WHAT TELLS EACH ONE WHERE TO GO?????????
GOD BLESS AMERICA
Thought you might enjoy this..........
The minister was preoccupied with thoughts of how he was going to, after the
worship service, ask the congregation to come up with more money than they
were expecting for repairs to the church building. Therefore, he was annoyed
to find that the regular organist was sick and a substitute had been brought
in at the last minute.
The substitute wanted to know what to play. "Here's a copy of the service,"
he said impatiently. "But you'll have to think of something to play after I
make the announcement about the finances." During the service, the minister
paused and said, "Brothers and Sisters, we are in great difficulty; the roof
repairs cost twice as much as we expected, and we need $4,000 more. Any
of you who can pledge $100 or more, please stand up." At that moment, the
substitute organist played "The Star-spangled Banner."
And that is how the substitute became the regular organist!
HYMNS FOR ALL THINGS
The Dentist's Hymn:.....................Crown Him with Many Crowns
Weatherman's Hymn..............There Shall Be Showers of Blessings
Contractor's Hymn:............... The Church's One Foundation
The Tailor's Hymn:....................... Holy, Holy, Holy
The Golfer's Hymn:....................... There's a Green Hill Far Away
The Politician's Hymn:................... Standing on the Promises
Optometrist's Hymn:.............. Open My Eyes That I Might See
Agent's Hymn:....................... I Surrender All
The Gossip's Hymn:.......................Pass It On
The Electrician's Hymn:..................Send The Light
The Shopper's Hymn:................. Sweet Bye and Bye
The Realtor's Hymn:.......................I've Got a Mansion Just Over the Hilltop
The Massage Therapists Hymn.... He Touched Me
The Doctor's Hymn:...................... The Great Physician
AND for those who speed on the highway - a few hymns:
-----45mph....................God Will Take Care of You
-----55mph....................Guide Me, O Thou Great Jehovah
-----65mph....................Nearer My God To Thee
-----75mph....................Nearer Still Nearer
-----85mph....................This World Is Not My Home
-----95mph....................Lord, I'm Coming Home
-----Over 100mph...........Precious Memories
Give me a sense of humor, Lord,
Give me the grace to see a joke,
To get some humor out of life,
And pass it on to other folk.
I found a penny today
Just laying on the ground,
But it's not just a penny
This little coin I've found.
Angels put them there
That's what my Grandpa told me,
He said Angels toss them down
Oh, how I loved that story.
He said when an Angel misses you
They toss a penny down,
Sometimes just to cheer you up
To make a smile out of your frown
So don't pass by that penny
When you're feeling blue,
It may be a penny from heaven
That an Angel's tossed to you.
Author: Unknown
What would you do if for every moment you were truly happy there would be 10 moments of sadness?
What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt?
So, I just wanted to say, even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference i n my life.
I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you.
Send this to all your friends, no matter how often you talk, or how close you are, and send it to the person who sent it to you.
Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them, and tell new friends you never will.
Remember, everyone needs a friend, someday you might feel like you have NO FRIENDS at all, just remember this e-mail and take comfort in knowing somebody out there cares about you and always will.
I'll Always Be There
In times of trouble,
In times of need,
If you are feeling SAD,
You can count on me.
I will give you a wink,
Until you smile,
give you a hug,
And stand by your side.
I'll be there for you till the end,
I'll always and forever, be your friend!
For those of us who aren't, this is even more beautiful.
The young mother set her foot on the path of life. "Is this the long
way?" she asked. And the guide said: "Yes, and the way is hard.
And you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end
will be better than the beginning."
But the young mother was happy, and she would not believe that
anything could be better than these years. So she played with her
children, and gathered flowers for them along the way, and
bathed them in the clear streams; and the sun shone on them,
and the young Mother cried, "Nothing will ever be lovelier than
this." Then the night came, and the storm, and the path was
dark, and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother
drew them close and covered them with her mantle, and the
children said, "Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no
harm can come."
And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the
children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary. But
at all times she said to the children, "A little patience and we are
there." So the children climbed, and when they reached the top
they said, "Mother, we would not have done it without you." And
the mother, when she lay down at night looked up at the stars and
said, "This is a better day than the last, for my children have
learned fortitude in the face of hardness. Yesterday I gave them
courage. Today, I have given them strength." And the next day
came strange clouds which darkened the earth, clouds of war and
hate and evil, and the children groped and stumbled, and the
mother said: "Look up. Lift your eyes to the light." And the
children looked and saw above the clouds an everlasting glory,
and it guided them beyond the darkness. And that night the
Mother said, "This is the best day of all, for I have shown my
children God."
And the days went on, and the weeks and the months and the
years, and the mother grew old and she was little and bent. But
her children were tall and strong, and walked with courage. And
when the way was rough, they lifted her, for she was as light as a
feather; and at last they came to a hill, and beyond they could see
a shining road and golden gates flung wide. And mother said: "I
have reached the end of my journey. And now I know the end is
better than the beginning, for my children can walk alone, and
their children after them."
And the children said, "You will always walk with us, Mother, even
when you have gone through the gates." And they stood and
watched her as she went on alone, and the gates closed after her.
And they said: "We cannot see her, but she is with us still. A
Mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a living
presence."
Your Mother is always with you. She's the whisper of the leaves as
you walk down the street; she's the smell of bleach in your
freshly laundered socks; she's the cool hand on your brow when
you're not well.
Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she's crystallized in
every tear drop. She's the place you came from, your first home;
and she's the map you follow with every step you take.
She's your first love and your first heartbreak, and nothing on
earth can separate you... Not time, not space...not even death!
PASS THIS ON TO ALL THE MOTHERS and CHILDREN YOU KNOW.
MAY WE NEVER TAKE OUR MOTHERS FOR GRANTED.
Have a good evening. Prayers sent up for all;)
i wouldnt know cuz my bro is the poa , i m caregiver , take care of dad instead of nursing home ,
it is only the begining for u . i have been doing this for comin 3 yrs , he lives with me .
christina ! yes im right there with you on that dream ! margaritta plzzzz and we all go moon the other houseboats wooo ! ohh like bobbie said we all gotta have a reunion one day . it would be so great if dreams can come true . we re a new crew siblings a lota caring people like us .
love you all have a good night xoxoxox
Rosella, my prayers are with you and your Mom. We think we know what these things will bring, but we don't. Best if we don't speculate, but hang onto hope that she is in good hands--on earth, and from Heaven, and again, we pray. Big Hugs, Sister.
I don't know about you, (yes I do!!) but I am really missing Bobbie and Miz. Sigh. I can almost feel the undulating waves beneath me as I am sitting here, on this cyber BOAT. Taste the margaritas and crab and smell the salty air, hear the laughter of Bobbie, Miz and hubby. Can't wait to hear about the excursions and surprises.
I am so glad we have each other. Screw the selfish siblings. Sometimes, members of the same family are not found on the same tree. I like this tree. I'm putting down roots.
Pirate Queen, Deefer, Maxine--I didn't mention you this morning, and it bugged me all day. You are in my heart.
Love and hugs, christina
Self Sib...I still like my idea of mailing that same photo to each sibling in a Valentines day card from mom.....no words just simple....lol...that ought to get to them. She squeezed each one of them out of herself....I am sure they can SQUEEZE some time for her.....pun intended...LOL
Just forget it and keep your energy for the hard work we do.
This is just my advice. It took me two years to start thinking like this. The thing that opened my eyes was last Christmas when the two siblings of my mother organized a Christmas holiday between the two of them (the healthy ones) excluding my mother as she is no more herself. That made me understand were we stand, and took away all the illusions...
I live much better since.
Lots of kisses to all of you. Ted, yes, try to rest, because I think I have understood that you are going to keep your mother with you at least for the moment, so you need to rest before she comes back home.
'Nite everybody and a big kiss to SS
Peace out,
-SS
They are helpful during the day, and I need the help, so I'm thankful, but, what I have given up for a manipulative Mother, and how my generous husband has given up so much for however long, it is very unfair. Besides that, I have gained weight from the stress, while my sister gloats over yet another pant size down. "Well, I just quit eating sugar. You can do it too"
F--- Y--, B----!@!!!!!!
COME ON, GIVE ME A FRICKIN BREAK!!! Maybe that's why i keep re-injuring my shoulder? Hang in there, SS. Love, c
Look, I know I can't successfully humiliate them that they blew off their parents, or shame them as Christina said. But what's happening here is "out of sight, out of mind." So I just thought I'd keep the thought of what they are missing, in their minds, or at least in their mailbox.
Ted- good luck with the scrubbing, dont; forget to use gloves those detergents will do a number on your skin!
Yesterday I had a substitute caregiver - mine was moving over the weekend and needed Mon off...so I got there before the caregiver did and cleaned up mom and showed the caregiver the basic ropes..when I got there after work you wouldn't believe how many drawers were opened up in my mom's room and not closed properly..what the h#ll was she looking for..never once called me if she was looking for something...wonder if it was money...there was no money in any of those drawers...well I don't think some I have not checked..mostly a million pieces of clothes or perfum. Will have to look through those again...geesh..I hate having caregivers in the house I really hate it!