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It is hard to not get grossed out, and it is great that you can vent it out hear. Try to remember it is the disease and not your mother. Pamela6148, as for you , I hope that this will make you feel a little better dear. By letting you mother eat in that way , no matter how it may gross you out, you are still letting her have some independence and dignity .That is saying a lot for you. Give yourself a big pat on the back and a hug....
"Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those that matter...don't mind... And those that mind... Don't matter." May you always have Love to share, Health to spare, and Friends that care!
lhardbeck Thanks for missing jokes. This last snow storm is killing me. In the last 3 days i have hauled over 100 loads of snow at the airport in Grand Rapids, Michigan. I pull a 23 yard dump trailer and I think they have been putting on around 28 yards of snow on it. Luckily I'm dumping it where the big snowblowers can spread it out over the field. Done hauling for the weekend. Will start again next Monday. Bobbie Uncle Chuck is in rehab but has had two strokes. Ma is trying to find out where he is staying for rehab. Jam red about hubby's headache. Man it hurts to even think about it. Hope he is recovering. Everyone else please try to think happy thoughts in your dark times. Luv ya Cuz
A blonde woman was speeding down the road in her little red sports car. Eventually she was pulled over by a female police officer, also a blonde. The blonde cop asked to see the blonde driver's license. She dug through her purse, getting progres- sively more agitated. "What does it look like?" she asked. The policewoman replied. "It's square and it has your picture on it." The driver finally found a square mirror in her purse and looked at it. "Here it is," she said. The blonde officer looked at the mirror and then handed it back. "Okay," she said. "You can go I didn't realize you were a cop."
COLD OUT THERE A friend in North Dacota near the Canadian border says their snow is about waist deep and still falling. The temperature has dropped to zero and the north wind is close to gale force. Her husband has done nothing but look through the kitchen window and stare. She says that if it gets much worse, she may have to let him in.
miz ! ure leavin soon . u have a safe journey out . hope everything goes smooth for you all and have a happy sailin . will be thinking of ya all . xoxoxox
I hope that Miz and Peach have a wonderful time and get a chance to relax and enjoy...... Be safe ladies... and Have an absolutely fabulous time, well deserved and long over due for sure..... love angie
sskape, I am so glad you are feeling better today. :) Pirate, that has got to be so frustrating at work. You are under so much pressure. I don't know how you handle it but you do. Christina is right. It's nothing but stress with the phone thing. I think she has a good idea. The phone was always pretty hard with Mom too. She did not hear well at all and her hearing aid would squeal. They have better hearing aids now but she did not want to spend the money. I'm thinkin' we should have now. As far as her health goes, do you trust the caregiver to give you adequate information? Also, Mom lost her appetite before she went into congestive heart failure. She is probably depressed though. Winters are hard on the elderly. When was the last time she went to the doc?? I'm sorry this post is so choppy. I'm not feeling the greatest myself and I'm stressed about leaving the kitties and getting a good night sleep.
You all are such good people. Thanks so much for being here for me and for each other.
K, friend is on her way to show her what to do for the kitties. Love yous!!
Hi Pirate, I totally agree with Christina on this one for sure. On another note I came across this poem written by someone else but so puts all my feelings in words. Just thought I would share here with my angels.
I miss you daddyI miss you daddy by Dana Marie Daddy come back. I want you back. Why did you have to go. It's just not the same without you. We still get mail with your name on it. It makes me sad every time i see the envelopes. Mommy's always crying. She's always yelling too. She makes me cry a lot but not as much as you. I'm always thinking about you. Your always making me teary-eyed. I love you daddy why did you have to go. I miss you a lot but you obviously don't know. Otherwise you wouldn't have had to go. God makes me mad because he took you away. It's hard not to cry in church but i go anyway. Sometimes when I'm all alone and i have time to think. I think about you and i cry and cry and cry. Some people think "oh you should be over this" But then i think to myself you don't know how it feels to be in this pain or to how hard it is to make it go away. Councilors try to help me but they don't help at all. My head hurts all the time, especially when I'm about to cry. Its hard to type down these words as tears blur up my eyes. When i try to speak about you i choke and then i start to cry I miss you daddy why did you have to go by Dana Marie
PirateQueen, I know how that can be. "Can you hear me now?" NO answer. Plain confusion and hearing difficulties. Is there a house phone with a speaker? That's what we do when my idiot brother calls once a year and doesn't have anything to say. Oh, sorry:) Other than that, I would hang up the phone, because you will not get the response you need/want when you are at work, and no sense embarrassing yourself, because others don't understand (maybe). Hang up, call back the caregiver and tell her to explain to Mom that you will be over (whenever) and talk to her in person. It's not worth the frustration it causes YOU, and Mom will not remember anything but the stress. OK--I think this is kind of a good answer. No way can I answer this as well as Bobbie can, but no one else here:) Hugs, christina
Hi Christina and Bobbie, Just checking in....was very exaperated a bit a go...my mom's caregiver put my mom on the phone..must have been one of the newer smaller phones, cause she can never have a conversation with me on these phones...she never or can respond well. I am shouting at her into the phone here at work wondering if folks around me think I am just plain mean, but I wanted her to give the phone back to the caregiver so she can hang it up. I don't think I will bother talking to her again cause it's futile. She just seems to be a big slug nowadays...so stressful and sad at the same time. Her appetite is down and she sleeps alot and I don't know how well she sleeps at night cause I am not over there. I keep this waiting game going on in my head with what is going to happen with her next. I will be there tonight and then over the weekend..I will see how she is doing....Any suggestions?
Sorry, Bobbie. Of course, on Jacks. Jills, too. whatever!!heehee "From the desert to the sea, from the left coast of California to the first coast of Florida, may the BOAT be with you"! ta dah!!!
Hi everyone -at least the sun is shining today-I got out today but just to PO bank and food store next storm comming tomarrow and another next week-the snow is so high I can not see the road, Hope evey one is coping better we will keep the blavk hole for the ground hog New York's mayor wore thick gloves this -he does not want to get bite again by the critter,
Wow--yes, Ssk: nothing like getting the heart racing, the blood flowing, deep breaths to take in maximum oxygen. Fighting is the ONLY way! I am serious. You have to get angry enough at whatever is trying to SCREW WITH YOU! I don't care if it is your OWN MIND. Ask my sister. I tell her, "I don't give up until I get the results I want". She says, sheepishly, "I know." :((( WHOO HOO!!! hahaha. I love it when that happens!!!! Have a wonderful day: in the snow, in the desert, on the water; wherever you may be! HUGS TO ALL!!! christina
That's the stuff ssk! 50 jumps. omg, that is amazing. I don't think I can do one! The sun really makes a difference doesn't it? Been cloudy here for what feels like forever and I am ready for a little Vit D too, love you guys and glad you're a fighter ssk!
Good morning, Just wanted to let you all know that I am feeling a lot better today. The sun is out and I went for a walk when the aid came in for my mom. Thanks for your kind support. Screw depression, I'm going to fight that sucker off! There was a jumprope in the closet and I decided to try it. I'm up to 50 jumps without stepping on the thing. I'll write more later. lov ya, ssk
Miz, I make the BEST chicken soup. I send you right now, and pretend it is making you well:) HMMMM. YUMMMM! Can you make some for real? According to a chemist I know, it actually does heal the body. I don't mean Campbell's, either. NO offense, Campbell's. Can't wait for Cuz's jokes. Here is one in the meantime:
Tough looking group of bikers were riding when they saw a girl about to jump off a bridge, so they stop.
The leader, a big burly man ( DUH, OF COURSE) gets off his bike and says, "What are you doing?"
"I'm going to end it all" she says.
While he did not want to appear insensitive, he didn't want to miss and opportunity, so he asked, " Well, before you jump, why don't you give me a kiss?"
So, she does, and it was a long, deep, lingering kiss.
The biker says, "WOW, that was the best Kiss I have ever had! You could be famous. Why do you want to end it all?"
"My parents don't like me dressing up like a girl,,,"
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Pamela6148, as for you , I hope that this will make you feel a little better dear. By letting you mother eat in that way , no matter how it may gross you out, you are still letting her have some independence and dignity .That is saying a lot for you. Give yourself a big pat on the back and a hug....
1. It’s important to have a woman who helps at home, who cooks from time
to time, cleans up and has a job.
2. It's important to have a woman who can make you
laugh.
3. It's important to have a woman who you can trust
and who doesn't lie to you.
4. It's important to have a woman who is good in bed
and who likes to be with you.
.
5. It's very, very important that these four women
don't know each other.
A man and his wife moved back home to da UP, from
Detroit .
The wife had a wooden leg and to insure it in Detroit was
$2000 a year!
When they arrived in Calumet, they went to an Insurance
agency to see how much it would cost to insure the wooden leg.
The agent looked it up on the computer and said to the
couple, '$39.00.'
The husband was shocked and asked why it was so cheap here
in da UP to insure, because it cost him $2000 in Detroit !
The agent turned his computer screen to the couple and
said, 'Well,here it Is on the screen, it says:
*Any wooden structure, with a sprinkler system over it,
$39.00.*
I always did find the YOUPER Logic far superior to
most others .
Because those that matter...don't mind...
And those that mind... Don't matter."
May you always have
Love to share,
Health to spare, and Friends that care!
Bobbie Uncle Chuck is in rehab but has had two strokes. Ma is trying to find out where he is staying for rehab.
Jam red about hubby's headache. Man it hurts to even think about it. Hope he is recovering.
Everyone else please try to think happy thoughts in your dark times.
Luv ya Cuz
To write with a broken pencil is pointless.
A blonde woman was speeding down the road in
her little red sports car. Eventually she was pulled over
by a female police officer, also a blonde.
The blonde cop asked to see the blonde driver's
license. She dug through her purse, getting progres-
sively more agitated.
"What does it look like?" she asked.
The policewoman replied. "It's square and it has
your picture on it."
The driver finally found a square mirror in her
purse and looked at it. "Here it is," she said.
The blonde officer looked at the mirror and then
handed it back. "Okay," she said. "You can go I didn't
realize you were a cop."
Q: What sits on the bottom of the Artic Ocean and
shakes?
A: A nervous wreck.
A friend in North Dacota near the Canadian border
says their snow is about waist deep and still falling.
The temperature has dropped to zero and the north wind
is close to gale force. Her husband has done nothing
but look through the kitchen window and stare. She
says that if it gets much worse, she may have to let
him in.
Never hold your farts in
They travel up your spine, into your brain,
and that is where shitty ideas come from.
will be thinking of ya all .
xoxoxox
love,
miz
You all are such good people. Thanks so much for being here for me and for each other.
K, friend is on her way to show her what to do for the kitties. Love yous!!
love,
miz
On another note I came across this poem written by someone else but so puts all my feelings in words. Just thought I would share here with my angels.
I miss you daddyI miss you daddy
by Dana Marie
Daddy come back.
I want you back.
Why did you have to go.
It's just not the same without you.
We still get mail with your name on it.
It makes me sad every time i see the envelopes.
Mommy's always crying.
She's always yelling too.
She makes me cry a lot but not as much as you.
I'm always thinking about you.
Your always making me teary-eyed.
I love you daddy why did you have to go.
I miss you a lot but you obviously don't know.
Otherwise you wouldn't have had to go.
God makes me mad because he took you away.
It's hard not to cry in church but i go anyway.
Sometimes when I'm all alone and i have time to think.
I think about you and i cry and cry and cry.
Some people think "oh you should be over this"
But then i think to myself you don't know how it feels to be in this pain
or to how hard it is to make it go away.
Councilors try to help me but they don't help at all.
My head hurts all the time, especially when I'm about to cry.
Its hard to type down these words as tears blur up my eyes.
When i try to speak about you i choke and then i start to cry
I miss you daddy why did you have to go
by Dana Marie
I know how that can be. "Can you hear me now?" NO answer. Plain confusion and hearing difficulties. Is there a house phone with a speaker? That's what we do when my idiot brother calls once a year and doesn't have anything to say. Oh, sorry:)
Other than that, I would hang up the phone, because you will not get the response you need/want when you are at work, and no sense embarrassing yourself, because others don't understand (maybe). Hang up, call back the caregiver and tell her to explain to Mom that you will be over (whenever) and talk to her in person. It's not worth the frustration it causes YOU, and Mom will not remember anything but the stress.
OK--I think this is kind of a good answer. No way can I answer this as well as Bobbie can, but no one else here:)
Hugs, christina
Just checking in....was very exaperated a bit a go...my mom's caregiver put my mom on the phone..must have been one of the newer smaller phones, cause she can never have a conversation with me on these phones...she never or can respond well. I am shouting at her into the phone here at work wondering if folks around me think I am just plain mean, but I wanted her to give the phone back to the caregiver so she can hang it up. I don't think I will bother talking to her again cause it's futile. She just seems to be a big slug nowadays...so stressful and sad at the same time. Her appetite is down and she sleeps alot and I don't know how well she sleeps at night cause I am not over there. I keep this waiting game going on in my head with what is going to happen with her next. I will be there tonight and then over the weekend..I will see how she is doing....Any suggestions?
"From the desert to the sea, from the left coast of California to the first coast of Florida, may the BOAT be with you"!
ta dah!!!
WHOO HOO!!! hahaha. I love it when that happens!!!!
Have a wonderful day: in the snow, in the desert, on the water; wherever you may be! HUGS TO ALL!!! christina
50 jumps. omg, that is amazing.
I don't think I can do one!
The sun really makes a difference doesn't it?
Been cloudy here for what feels like forever and I am ready for a little Vit D too,
love you guys and glad you're a fighter ssk!
lovbob
Screw depression, I'm going to fight that sucker off! There was a jumprope in the closet and I decided to try it. I'm up to 50 jumps without stepping on the thing.
I'll write more later.
lov ya, ssk
Can't wait for Cuz's jokes. Here is one in the meantime:
Tough looking group of bikers were riding when they saw a girl about to jump off a bridge, so they stop.
The leader, a big burly man ( DUH, OF COURSE) gets off his bike and says, "What are you doing?"
"I'm going to end it all" she says.
While he did not want to appear insensitive, he didn't want to miss and opportunity, so he asked, " Well, before you jump, why don't you give me a kiss?"
So, she does, and it was a long, deep, lingering kiss.
The biker says, "WOW, that was the best Kiss I have ever had! You could be famous. Why do you want to end it all?"
"My parents don't like me dressing up like a girl,,,"
Later, Gators. HUGS! Christina