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Bad Morning, as opposed to Good Morning. No sleep. Trazodone did nothing for her last night. As soon as I would get back in bed and feel like I was almost asleep again, she would start whining again. I am not a happy camper. 3 nights with no sleep and I have a design job tomorrow I need to do research on today. Sister may not drive out because the wind is blowing, and she is worried about the finish on the car. Would it just be easier for ME, if she were to come Friday instead? I have a word in mind, It's only four little letters and the first one is f. I feel it coming up from my gut, in a very powerful surge, the little desert breeze stirring the sands around her stupid car is NOTHING compared with the gale force of this word soon to come out of my mouth and echo all the way to Deefer on her roof. But I don't want you to fall, Kathy, with the snow, so I'm bottling it up. Tonight, I will give her the recommended increase 4 hours after she goes to bed. Her lovely overnight security underwear :))) is dry as a bone. JUST PEE IN THE DAMN THING AND LET ME GET 3 HOURS OF SLEEP. PLEASE. OK. I'm done for now. The best part of waking up, is Folgers in your cup--right, Bobbie, Deef, Miz, Jam, Rosella, Peach, SSK, Chill, CC, Headbanger, LINDA, Elizabeth, Angie, Maxine?
wow,deef,can't wait to see the pictures. Again, we have about 3 inches of wet snow. I hope your mom lets you "chill out" for a while today. My mom needs a change, but I'm going to wait to see if the cna makes it in. All day cares are closed and schools are probably delayed. Don't you hate it when your have just shoveled and the plow comes by and piles it all up at the end of the driveway! talk to ya later. ssk
Nope! No "cracker Jack" surprise today!!! But the Easter Bunny left me a lovely brown egg.!!! After being outside from 5AM until 7:30, cleaning up another 8" of the white stuff, I came in to find Mom with her pull ups off and her knees up. All she had to say for herself was,"who the heck was mowing the lawn last night?" Got to love it! Guess she heard the snow blower after all! Cleaned her up and put her back in bed so I could have 1 peaceful cup of coffee. No daycare and no Merry today. Should be interesting. Got to sneak out the attic window a bit later after I get her settled, and shovel off the back porch roof. Off to put in the second load of laundry! I'll post a few pics of the snow on FB later. The yard is so full, and almost as deep as I am tall!!!
Hi Christina, I'm glad you had a good visit with your mom at the psychiatrist. My mom also seems to have a slight fever, so I may have to bring her to the dr tomorrow. I'll see how she is in the morning. We're having another blizzard, and the wind woke me up. I'm going to try to get back to sleep now, so goodnight.
Linda, Prayers for Pa. That bugs is all over here in CA. Mother has it a bit but giving her Mucinex--original, vit.C, Airbourne. You take care of yourself too, and don't worry:) Mother was so good today, and laughing a lot, and good memory at the psychiatrist! He was laughing, and he is very serious! He is decreasing Seroquel to 25 mg at dinner, and put her on 50 mg Trazodine at bedtime. I feel better she is on anti depressant, but very low dose for sedation, not depression--rather than anti-psychotic. He also believes, (as does the RN with dementia care homes I spoke to yesterday), the further into dementia, the less drugs should be given. I am not expecting anything easy or miracles, just a less anxious Mother, enjoying life as long as she can. Let's see what tomorrow brings... Deefer, Chillout, CC, Headbanger, SSK. Jam, Maxine, Rosella, Miz, Peach, Cuz and the Captain, Jen, Selfish Siblings, Linda and Elizabeth {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}christina xoxo Did someone say, 'margaritas'?
thanks miz , so do i , i just put him in bed with his ox on him , and gave him his antidobi and muxinex , sure hope he feels better tmr , plz lord ... im feelin so down and i dont like this feeling , havent seen any black hole yet so thats one good thing . miz , i hope money wise be ok for you guys real soon , heard how much one of my kid s getting back wow ! never got that much back during my 31 yrs of marriages ! after hearing what thier plans are with the money , just floors me. my mouth drop opened ~ doesnt do any good to tell em to save it in case u re out of job tmr ! nanana parents dont know what theyre talkin about , ohh ok whatever ! dont come to me when u run out of money ! sick to my tummy . i ask dad if that is why him and mom ran off to fla and live peacefuly , he said yep , dealing with 6 grown kids , run away to paradise , i told my baby girl mmm i think i shall do that she said oh im plannin to move to az or sc , i frown at her told her she need to buy that house across street and we be neighbors ! she laugh . oh boy bet walmart s going to be rakin in all these peoples tax checks real soon . it s just materials and i dont care about those materials . i rather have glasses full of margaritta , food , make sure my bills are paid for . then im happy camper that i was able to pay all my bills this month . jam wanna have maragitta with me when we get on the boat ? love you all xoxo
jam - love that story u just wrote . angi - im sorry to hear ur daughter s losin weigh and not doing good , i sure hope that they ;; find out whats wrong with her real soon . pa is still the same , he whined and said ear hurts and i dont feel good waaaa. i ck his ox and heart rate . 98 - 71 . so i thought thats good , i dont think that antibodi s is doing the job , amoxillin , i dont think im spelln that right , ah well . appt monday , unless if i dont take him back sooner , i am tired , not feeling too great , think its the weather , hurry up spring ! have a good evening you all xoxo
sskape, you may need to really stand your ground with the nurse. Putting your mother on meds she does not yet need is not a good idea in my opinion. You are the best one to know your mother's behavior.
Angie, my mom got worse after Dad passed. She was really pushing herself for him. After he passed she said she was so tired of pushing herself. That's why I did not push her to do too much. If she said she was not up to something or was tired I usually went along with what she did or did not want to do. I'm glad your mom is going to get grief counseling. I hope and pray that helps her. And my prayers are with your daughter too. I feel so bad for her and for you too, seeing your daughter deal with all of that.
deef, you so have your hands full. You are an amazing woman.
My love and hugs to all of you. Hubby and I have been stressing about money tonight and we're going to watch the rest of Sherlock Holmes and then at least start watching Untraceable. I hope it will take our mind off of things for awhile.
The madam opened the brothel door in Las Vegas and saw a rather dignified, well-dressed, good-looking man in his late forties or early fifties. "May I help you sir?" she asked. The man replied, "I want to see Valerie." "Sir, Valerie is one of our most expensive ladies. Perhaps you would prefer someone else" said the madam. He replied, "No, I must see Valerie." Just then, Valerie appeared and announced to the man she charged $5,000 a visit. Without hesitation, the man pulled out five thousand dollars and gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs. After an hour, the man calmly left. The next night, the man appeared again, once more demanding to see Valerie. Valerie explained that no one had ever come back two nights in a row as she was too expensive. "There are no discounts. The price is still $5,000." Again, the man pulled out the money, gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs. After an hour, he left. The following night the man was there yet again. Everyone was astounded that he had come for a third consecutive night, but he paid Valerie and they went upstairs. After their session, Valerie said to the man, "No one has ever been with me three nights in a row." "Where are you from?" The man replied, "Texas!" "Really," she said. "I have family in Texas. "I know." the man said. "Your Great Aunt just died, and I am her attorney." "She asked me to give you your $15,000 inheritance." The moral of this story is that three (3) things in life are certain: 1. Death
Ok Just got in from shoveling again..... UGGHHHH.... lol bobbie I am praying that one day I will be able to join you on that boat.....away from this weather sipping on a martini on the boat with you and others..... lol....... I am about to have a Budweiser, not my fav but hey whats a girl to do right. Mom is watching tv upstairs with the dog. On my way in she told me the same story 2xs.... Sometimes I say thanks papa for leaving with mom, i mean that in the nicest way, at least when he was here, it was kind of a break lol.. Good news, a hospice grief councilor is coming to the house on monday to meet with mom, hopefully that will help. Think i will be heating up a frozen pizza for dinner , it will a long night, i will be out shoveling so it wont be so tough in the morning. Have to bring my daughter to the dr. tomorrow. Had ultra sound monday, keeps losing weight, down to about 85 pounds, not so good.... bad migraines, factor 5 blood disorder, reynaud's, amongst other conditions and she is only 20. Just another worry. She is my only one. Please keep her ( emily in your prayers. I remember when papa was so hard to move due to the PD, i use to joke that i was bencing 179 6 times a day. I had the papa gym..... lol saved me a bunch of money.... lol lol Ok think i have babbled enough..... be back later...thank you all for the hugs..... and support. angie
Good Evening Caregivers! having a bowl of Campbells Chunky Bean and Ham. Pretty good, pretty fast and should be pretty funny later when I scare the Cat. Plumbing work on the boat today and tomorrow and then the bottom job will begin. Big grinder to take the top 2 coats of paint off and get it ready for new paint.
that's about it for me, tired and I didn't even do anything today. Well I did but you know what I mean. nothing compared to the active caregivers who are working so hard and burning the candle at both ends.
My mom had no drugs to make her quiet. It's part of the disease that their hands are going and some may remember that I bought her a bunch of different kinds of cloth napkins so she had different textures to play with. That and the Activity Lap thingy that she really loved.
there's a bunch of stuff in that catalogue that I got for mom and she really enjoyed it. I love you guys, be well and safe and I will check in later!
Good Afternoon, all my favorite angels It has been a busy couple of days. Went to the bank yesterday with mom to straighten out the finances since papa passing. Amazingly I held up pretty well. Had to go to the city hall for more death certs, again did amazing well. Did some shoveling , did well. Today did some food shopping, since we have not been practically since his death and so tired of take out, have already shoveled 3 times to prevent the 10 inches buidling up and becoming heavy. Now I am just sitting and really really missing papa. Mom is a handful, her forgetfulness has gotten ten times worse since his passing. It is so mentally exhausting sometimes. But I am glad that I am here to look out for her. Does not look like I will be going to work anytime soon, at least until the spring and she is settled. I turn on my beautiful lamp from all of you everyday at 4 and take the pic of papa and talk to it for a bit and even kiss it and tell him how much his little 43 yr old girl loves and misses him. OMG am I going nutss.... lol At the market I picked up a huge jar of mayonaisse, why i was thinkiing papa was still with us, realized when i got home what i did. Papa loved mayo on everything. One day caught him putting it on banana's .... lol lol I have read through the thread and love to everyone. Honestly dont have the energy to respond right now, but know that each and everyone of you are in my thoughts all the time. Boy do i remember the poops and pees Deef...... love and hugs to all angie
Less drugs is good unless you are my mother!!! She is constantly agitated and even keeps her fingers busy while sleeping! Now she is starting to stiffen up like a board and leans backwards. Very hard to walk her any distance. She either refuses or cannot bend at the waist when necessary. One of many symptoms of PD. Without xanax 3 times a day, Paxil in the AM and seroquel to sleep at night, I would have to send her away! It's just too much work for 1 person to handle alone. It takes both Merry and myself to all of our strength to manhandle her from chair to bed etc. These drugs help to keep her body relaxed enough to do these things. On another note, we missed her 6 month neurologist appt. that was this morning. It was made last July and I didn't remember to mark it down. They always send a letter or call the week before, but didn't this time. So now we are rescheduled for mid March. they want us to see an associate this time. I always get an AM appt. because that is when she is easiest to handle. this one is for 2:45, so it should be interesting! That's the time of day she is the worst. Maybe they can boost her Pd meds again. Getting some snow, but not the storm that is heading this way. that will be later tonight. Can't wait to see where we will put this batch of snow! For sure there will be no daycare tomorrow, and it is Merry's day off, so it should be interesting to say the least! Hope everyone stays safe and warm in the snow regions!
Yes, SSK! I am off in 20 minutes to the psychiatrist!! I am going to discuss this very thing and will be back later with new info! Less is better for dementia. The RN I spoke to yesterday said the drugs they give to D patients are for people with over-active brains, not "swiss cheese brains". Well, I am a sponge today--I'll do the best I can and squeeze myself out here later!! Chill likes our metaphors and such!! See Y'all Later. Hugs christina
Thanks rossella, she is probably just doing her job. Discussing all the possibilities, but she scared me. It would be a lot better to get help by private pay so as not to have to deal with "the system" and all of their laws. I'm going to call my brother when he get out of work to discuss finances, so I'll probably be venting again after that. Oh well.
Sskape, I think the nurse wants to give medications to your mother so she (the nurse) has less problems. In other words, she wants to sedate her. It's only you that have to decide if and when sedate your mother...
HI, today I feel the need to vent again. This time about the vna nurse. Sometimes they seem to want to push medications on people they don't need. My mom is very calm and quiet now and is easy to deal with, but the Darn nurse doesn't seem to believe me. She goes on and on , well, people with dementia get agitated, and will strike out or this, that, the other..and may need haldol or ativan etc,, and she doesn't believe that mom is fine on what she's on. Now I need an ativan after talking to her! Thanks for letting me vent.
Deef, yes, what a good idea! If you stay in bed and put the blanket on your head, you will find 800 dollars, for sure! I do it every day, so I find 800 euros every day, Can we find a way to grow them? (I mean, dollars and euros) Can we put a boy dollar close to a girl dollar and wait until they reproduce? Christina, I understand you very well. I hated when they woke me up in the morning, even if they did it with a hot coffee, when Ii was a girl, and now I have just an endless list of people and animals who want something from me! Where are the good old years of no responsibility?
Bobbie I am so glad for what you said about post distress I did much better the first year maybe because I had to fight for everything to get settled esp. his pension now I feel adrift and the snow just keeps comming even the kids who get a day off from say enough already I am trying to stay out of the dark hole but it is hard,
Have you all seen that commercial for one of the credit cards where the guy answers the phone, "This is Peggy."? Well, Dunkin' Donuts charged us twice for a purchase at the St. Louis airport likes 3 weeks apart. Anyway, hubby called Dunkin' Donuts a little bit ago and a woman answered the phone and he jokingly said, "Is this Peggy?" She said something like, "Excuse me, what did you say?" and he said "I thought you were going to say, "This is Peggy." and he continued on with what he was calling about and she had hung up on him. I laughed. LOL. Too funny.
I love the analogies I see here...makes my day. Yes Bobbie I live in Ft Myers, Fl. I'm a transplant from N.C. I love the winters here. I don't know how you folks up north do it!!! Getting Mom out to appts. in the cold and snow...don't think I could do it. At least I can get outside for awhile, walk around, get a minute to regroup without battling the cold. My old bones don't like the cold and will let me know it! Blessings to all.
Looks like I'll have the first gross out story of the day! Got Mom up this morning and as usual, she was soaking wet. I noticed a brown stain on the chux pad and figured their was a prize in the "Cracker Jacks" box. Yup!!! A huge baseball size poop!!! As I was trying to get the pull ups off, she dropped another baseball on the floor and peed everywhere!!! It took me a while to get her cleaned up and dressed for daycare, but I finally got her ready. Life is such a JOY!!!! I had to go to the bank, post office, and pet store for more cat food. Now I am trying to figure out where I can get $800 to pay the tax bill that is due Tuesday. Maybe I'll just go back to bed and pull the covers over my head until next Wednesday. Do ya think that will make all this go away??? Hope everyone is well.
"Wake up. wake up, whoever you are, and get your fat butt out of bed and into your car/(boat.).." Rick Dees wife, a comic, did a parody of Glynda, the GWOTW back in the 80's on local morning radio show. I just liked it. Anytime you can tell someone to get their fat butt out of bed, it kind of gets you going. Almost like a good cup of coffee. My Mother used to stick her cold hand under the covers and pull my big toe and say, "Rise and Shine, Sleeping Beauty". Pissed me off every time. Then my step-Father would follow up, if I did not get out of bed, which I did not want to do because I hated high school, with,"Get UP, Queenie!". Oh Joy, to begin the day with cold hands on my body and gruff voices in my ears. These days, I wake up to, "I have to go to the bathroom! Isn't anyone going to get me out of here?! I've been in here for hours! I can't get out. I've got this horrible rubbery stuff in my mouth. There's dirt in my bed"! Oh, my. What I would give to be in high school again... Have a great day everyone!!! LOVE YOU!! christina
Dinghy dry and engine tested and runs fine. My butt's wet, however. finally some sun today and we continue on with the repairs.
Thanks for the hugs, ssk and kuli! means a lot to me and I appreciate it. I will tell you that I am beyond grateful for you guys and you keep me going too. Life after caregiving can be hard because we move into Post Traumatic Stress and all of the nasties that go with that. At least now I know what it is and why it's hard and slow to get it all together. You guys will be faced with certain levels of that also but we will know it's coming and it will be a little easier to deal with. And I just thought I was nuts for no reason........
Going to have a nice bowl of Kashi and soy milk. with nuts. lovbob
Yesterday there was a tornado warning. Not a watch, a warning! one was on the ground and I couldn't see it or I would have crapped crab cakes. This is a heavy boat, but omg not even a chance with that kind of storm. Tense few hours there and when it was over and all was safe I fell asleep.
GP!! 9200!!! you're going to be better and really get your boat time!!
More later you guys. It's light enough now for me to go out and pump out my dinghy.
It was moving, Miz. I'd like to be able to do the same - go back to the past. You and I know that it's just a wish, and though, we suffer we can't have it. But we can rationalize. People like my mother don't realize they can't have it anymore, and so they suffer even more. I'm very sorry for her.
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I have a word in mind, It's only four little letters and the first one is f. I feel it coming up from my gut, in a very powerful surge, the little desert breeze stirring the sands around her stupid car is NOTHING compared with the gale force of this word soon to come out of my mouth and echo all the way to Deefer on her roof. But I don't want you to fall, Kathy, with the snow, so I'm bottling it up. Tonight, I will give her the recommended increase 4 hours after she goes to bed. Her lovely overnight security underwear :))) is dry as a bone. JUST PEE IN THE DAMN THING AND LET ME GET 3 HOURS OF SLEEP. PLEASE.
OK. I'm done for now. The best part of waking up, is Folgers in your cup--right, Bobbie, Deef, Miz, Jam, Rosella, Peach, SSK, Chill, CC, Headbanger, LINDA, Elizabeth, Angie, Maxine?
don't feel good and will be laying low today.
Love to you all and I hope everybody has a not so stressful day.
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After being outside from 5AM until 7:30, cleaning up another 8" of the white stuff, I came in to find Mom with her pull ups off and her knees up. All she had to say for herself was,"who the heck was mowing the lawn last night?" Got to love it! Guess she heard the snow blower after all! Cleaned her up and put her back in bed so I could have 1 peaceful cup of coffee. No daycare and no Merry today. Should be interesting.
Got to sneak out the attic window a bit later after I get her settled, and shovel off the back porch roof.
Off to put in the second load of laundry! I'll post a few pics of the snow on FB later. The yard is so full, and almost as deep as I am tall!!!
You take care of yourself too, and don't worry:)
Mother was so good today, and laughing a lot, and good memory at the psychiatrist! He was laughing, and he is very serious! He is decreasing Seroquel to 25 mg at dinner, and put her on 50 mg Trazodine at bedtime. I feel better she is on anti depressant, but very low dose for sedation, not depression--rather than anti-psychotic. He also believes, (as does the RN with dementia care homes I spoke to yesterday), the further into dementia, the less drugs should be given.
I am not expecting anything easy or miracles, just a less anxious Mother, enjoying life as long as she can. Let's see what tomorrow brings...
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Did someone say, 'margaritas'?
im feelin so down and i dont like this feeling , havent seen any black hole yet so thats one good thing .
miz , i hope money wise be ok for you guys real soon , heard how much one of my kid s getting back wow ! never got that much back during my 31 yrs of marriages ! after hearing what thier plans are with the money , just floors me. my mouth drop opened ~ doesnt do any good to tell em to save it in case u re out of job tmr ! nanana parents dont know what theyre talkin about , ohh ok whatever ! dont come to me when u run out of money ! sick to my tummy .
i ask dad if that is why him and mom ran off to fla and live peacefuly , he said yep , dealing with 6 grown kids , run away to paradise , i told my baby girl mmm i think i shall do that she said oh im plannin to move to az or sc , i frown at her told her she need to buy that house across street and we be neighbors ! she laugh .
oh boy bet walmart s going to be rakin in all these peoples tax checks real soon . it s just materials and i dont care about those materials . i rather have glasses full of margaritta , food , make sure my bills are paid for . then im happy camper that i was able to pay all my bills this month .
jam wanna have maragitta with me when we get on the boat ?
love you all xoxo
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angi - im sorry to hear ur daughter s losin weigh and not doing good , i sure hope that they ;; find out whats wrong with her real soon .
pa is still the same , he whined and said ear hurts and i dont feel good waaaa. i ck his ox and heart rate . 98 - 71 . so i thought thats good , i dont think that antibodi s is doing the job , amoxillin , i dont think im spelln that right , ah well .
appt monday , unless if i dont take him back sooner ,
i am tired , not feeling too great , think its the weather , hurry up spring !
have a good evening you all xoxo
Angie, my mom got worse after Dad passed. She was really pushing herself for him. After he passed she said she was so tired of pushing herself. That's why I did not push her to do too much. If she said she was not up to something or was tired I usually went along with what she did or did not want to do. I'm glad your mom is going to get grief counseling. I hope and pray that helps her. And my prayers are with your daughter too. I feel so bad for her and for you too, seeing your daughter deal with all of that.
deef, you so have your hands full. You are an amazing woman.
My love and hugs to all of you. Hubby and I have been stressing about money tonight and we're going to watch the rest of Sherlock Holmes and then at least start watching Untraceable. I hope it will take our mind off of things for awhile.
Woo Hoo for the new paint, Bobbie!! :))
love,
miz
"May I help you sir?" she asked.
The man replied, "I want to see Valerie."
"Sir, Valerie is one of our most expensive ladies. Perhaps you would prefer someone else" said the madam.
He replied, "No, I must see Valerie."
Just then, Valerie appeared and announced to the man she charged $5,000 a visit.
Without hesitation, the man pulled out five thousand dollars and gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs.
After an hour, the man calmly left.
The next night, the man appeared again, once more demanding to see Valerie.
Valerie explained that no one had ever come back two nights in a row as she was too expensive.
"There are no discounts. The price is still $5,000."
Again, the man pulled out the money, gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs.
After an hour, he left.
The following night the man was there yet again.
Everyone was astounded that he had come for a third consecutive night, but he paid Valerie and they went upstairs.
After their session, Valerie said to the man,
"No one has ever been with me three nights in a row." "Where are you from?"
The man replied, "Texas!"
"Really," she said. "I have family in Texas.
"I know." the man said. "Your Great Aunt just died, and I am her attorney." "She asked me to give you your $15,000 inheritance."
The moral of this story is that three (3) things in life are certain:
1. Death
2. Taxes
AND
3. Being screwed by a lawyer!
I remember when papa was so hard to move due to the PD, i use to joke that i was bencing 179 6 times a day. I had the papa gym..... lol saved me a bunch of money.... lol lol Ok think i have babbled enough..... be back later...thank you all for the hugs..... and support. angie
having a bowl of Campbells Chunky Bean and Ham. Pretty good, pretty fast and should be pretty funny later when I scare the Cat.
Plumbing work on the boat today and tomorrow and then the bottom job will begin. Big grinder to take the top 2 coats of paint off and get it ready for new paint.
that's about it for me, tired and I didn't even do anything today. Well I did but you know what I mean. nothing compared to the active caregivers who are working so hard and burning the candle at both ends.
My mom had no drugs to make her quiet. It's part of the disease that their hands are going and some may remember that I bought her a bunch of different kinds of cloth napkins so she had different textures to play with.
That and the Activity Lap thingy that she really loved.
there's a bunch of stuff in that catalogue that I got for mom and she really enjoyed it.
I love you guys, be well and safe and I will check in later!
lovbob
It has been a busy couple of days. Went to the bank yesterday with mom to straighten out the finances since papa passing. Amazingly I held up pretty well. Had to go to the city hall for more death certs, again did amazing well. Did some shoveling , did well. Today did some food shopping, since we have not been practically since his death and so tired of take out, have already shoveled 3 times to prevent the 10 inches buidling up and becoming heavy. Now I am just sitting and really really missing papa. Mom is a handful, her forgetfulness has gotten ten times worse since his passing. It is so mentally exhausting sometimes. But I am glad that I am here to look out for her. Does not look like I will be going to work anytime soon, at least until the spring and she is settled. I turn on my beautiful lamp from all of you everyday at 4 and take the pic of papa and talk to it for a bit and even kiss it and tell him how much his little 43 yr old girl loves and misses him. OMG am I going nutss.... lol At the market I picked up a huge jar of mayonaisse, why i was thinkiing papa was still with us, realized when i got home what i did. Papa loved mayo on everything. One day caught him putting it on banana's .... lol lol I have read through the thread and love to everyone. Honestly dont have the energy to respond right now, but know that each and everyone of you are in my thoughts all the time. Boy do i remember the poops and pees Deef...... love and hugs to all angie
On another note, we missed her 6 month neurologist appt. that was this morning. It was made last July and I didn't remember to mark it down. They always send a letter or call the week before, but didn't this time. So now we are rescheduled for mid March. they want us to see an associate this time. I always get an AM appt. because that is when she is easiest to handle. this one is for 2:45, so it should be interesting! That's the time of day she is the worst. Maybe they can boost her Pd meds again.
Getting some snow, but not the storm that is heading this way. that will be later tonight. Can't wait to see where we will put this batch of snow! For sure there will be no daycare tomorrow, and it is Merry's day off, so it should be interesting to say the least!
Hope everyone stays safe and warm in the snow regions!
Less is better for dementia. The RN I spoke to yesterday said the drugs they give to D patients are for people with over-active brains, not "swiss cheese brains". Well, I am a sponge today--I'll do the best I can and squeeze myself out here later!! Chill likes our metaphors and such!! See Y'all Later. Hugs christina
Oh well.
It's only you that have to decide if and when sedate your mother...
Now I need an ativan after talking to her!
Thanks for letting me vent.
Can we find a way to grow them? (I mean, dollars and euros)
Can we put a boy dollar close to a girl dollar and wait until they reproduce?
Christina, I understand you very well. I hated when they woke me up in the morning, even if they did it with a hot coffee, when Ii was a girl, and now I have just an endless list of people and animals who want something from me!
Where are the good old years of no responsibility?
Yes Bobbie I live in Ft Myers, Fl. I'm a transplant from N.C. I love the winters here. I don't know how you folks up north do it!!! Getting Mom out to appts. in the cold and snow...don't think I could do it. At least I can get outside for awhile, walk around, get a minute to regroup without battling the cold. My old bones don't like the cold and will let me know it! Blessings to all.
Got Mom up this morning and as usual, she was soaking wet. I noticed a brown stain on the chux pad and figured their was a prize in the "Cracker Jacks" box. Yup!!! A huge baseball size poop!!! As I was trying to get the pull ups off, she dropped another baseball on the floor and peed everywhere!!! It took me a while to get her cleaned up and dressed for daycare, but I finally got her ready. Life is such a JOY!!!!
I had to go to the bank, post office, and pet store for more cat food.
Now I am trying to figure out where I can get $800 to pay the tax bill that is due Tuesday. Maybe I'll just go back to bed and pull the covers over my head until next Wednesday. Do ya think that will make all this go away???
Hope everyone is well.
My Mother used to stick her cold hand under the covers and pull my big toe and say, "Rise and Shine, Sleeping Beauty". Pissed me off every time. Then my step-Father would follow up, if I did not get out of bed, which I did not want to do because I hated high school, with,"Get UP, Queenie!". Oh Joy, to begin the day with cold hands on my body and gruff voices in my ears.
These days, I wake up to, "I have to go to the bathroom! Isn't anyone going to get me out of here?! I've been in here for hours! I can't get out. I've got this horrible rubbery stuff in my mouth. There's dirt in my bed"!
Oh, my. What I would give to be in high school again...
Have a great day everyone!!! LOVE YOU!! christina
My butt's wet, however.
finally some sun today and we continue on with the repairs.
Thanks for the hugs, ssk and kuli! means a lot to me and I appreciate it.
I will tell you that I am beyond grateful for you guys and you keep me going too.
Life after caregiving can be hard because we move into Post Traumatic Stress and all of the nasties that go with that.
At least now I know what it is and why it's hard and slow to get it all together. You guys will be faced with certain levels of that also but we will know it's coming and it will be a little easier to deal with.
And I just thought I was nuts for no reason........
Going to have a nice bowl of Kashi and soy milk. with nuts.
lovbob
Yesterday there was a tornado warning. Not a watch, a warning! one was on the ground and I couldn't see it or I would have crapped crab cakes.
This is a heavy boat, but omg not even a chance with that kind of storm. Tense few hours there and when it was over and all was safe I fell asleep.
GP!! 9200!!! you're going to be better and really get your boat time!!
More later you guys. It's light enough now for me to go out and pump out my dinghy.
lovbob
I'd like to be able to do the same - go back to the past.
You and I know that it's just a wish, and though, we suffer we can't have it. But we can rationalize.
People like my mother don't realize they can't have it anymore, and so they suffer even more. I'm very sorry for her.