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Hey, all! Been trying to keep up with everyone here. Had a steroid injection in my back last Thursday afternoon. Hurt like h*!l that night but has been getting gradually better since. Hoping it stays that way. Back pain truly sucks. Dad goes in for his pacemaker battery change on Friday. He was in a much better mood this past weekend - wasn't nasty to me at all - amazing, he really can do it if he wants to. Maybe he had a moment of realization that if something happens to me, he's basically screwed. Seems to be feeling pretty good right now though. As I read through the posts, I say a prayer for each and every one of you, of us, for peace, happiness, no poop fests, no pee fests, etc, etc, etc. And even when I don't write, know that ALL of you wonderful, selfless, loving caregivers are always close to my heart. Always remember how amazing you are to give what comfort you can to family when they need it most! Love to all - Kuli
Rossella, you are so right about the cats and about me. I do worry. :) All the time. My mom used to tell me I came by it honestly cause she was a worrier too.
Hi Theirdaughter, yep and it gets grosser as time goes on....not only will you be grossed out by dirty face, sticky dirty fingers...wait till you get to Shit-Fest time...ohhh lordy.....yes PoopDays! LOL....that's when the going gets really good...LOL...you have to just grin and bear it. It's amazing what we caregivers find as time goes by what you have to do and how you have to endure it. At first we are befrazzled and bewildered and just hating life...then you slowly learn how to be a caregiver...ackkkkk...where's the rule book?
They REALLY should put all this in HEALTH EDUCATION for high school kids....at the verrrrry end of the class have several days of yes...yes ....yes what they will expect in the future...some inkling would be helpful. Why they don't do this is is just INSANE...some prepwork in life sure would help...why not early in HEALTH EDUCATION IN HIGH SCHOOL??????????????????????????????????????
Hey Cuz! Excellent and I am so happy to hear it. Tell her whassup!
Just got back on the boat and the Cat is letting me know about all kinds of stuff. If I'm understanding what she is saying, right after I left a giant wave came and knocked over the bag of dry food while miraculously leaving all the glasses on the counter and the boxes of Swanson chicken broth upright.
All rightie, the Cat just tried to give herself a high five (wash the South End) and oozed off the table making me snort on myself.
Really happy to hear that my Aunt is out of the hospital. That must have hurt like the Dickens.
Did you guys know that Dickens was paid by the word?
ok, enough free association.
going up the dock for a brew.
any word from Ted?
Really happy to see from you Flex! got your room ready.
Hey Bobbie Got Ma home from hospital today. The pain is gone in her jaw and throat. She's really tired now so she said she will sleep and get more better. Luv ya cuz
Miz, I am glad you found cat-sitters when you will go to see Bobbie, but (in any case) leave the cats a big-big bowl of water and a big-big bowl of dry food! So, you will know that they are well even if (for example) it snows a lot and the cat sitter can't go there! Otherwise (I think I know you a little bit, now) you will be worried all the time and you will ask yourself all the time if they are well, if they are eating enough.... and so on and so on.
This is the place to be. I see in your profile you say your parents are in good health. While they are, do everything you want to do that would take you out of town!!!!!! :)
This thread is FABULOUS!!!! It is filled with great people either just facing the caregiver role, up to their eyeballs in the crap (literal) of caregiving or those that have lost their loved ones and finding themselves again. Our Captain of the crew is Bobbie, the originator of this thread. We are here for each other to vent, vent, vent! And we love to laugh even in the thick of things.
Welcome and we look forward to hearing more from you.
I just did a search for "elderly parents driving me crazy" and found this. I'm sorry, but I needed a good laugh and this post is really good. So many things my dad does grosses me out, but he has always been pretty relaxed about himself. He sees nothing wrong with spitting on the ground (something a lot of men seem to think is acceptable), walking around without a shirt in warm weather (and he has really bad "man boobs"). Now he cannot seem to eat without having something on his chin. Also, he likes to set his napkin on the table (instead of his lap) where everyone can look at it and wipe his messy fingers as he eats. The sloppier the sandwich, the worse it is. He has a workshop in our barn and I know he is peeing behind the barn. Maybe if it was just ONE thing, it wouldn't be so bad. I think what really irritates me the most is he has very nice manners whenever there is company, but as long as it's family, he seems to feel like anything goes.
Bobbie, hubby loves storms. Actually so do I ifn there's no bad damage and no one gets hurt.
Just did some more cleaning in the kitchen. It's amazing what you find when you start cleaning up high. Cleaned the top of the fridge and then saw how dusty some other stuff was hanging on the walls.
I have a dinner date Thursday after work with a very good friend who I have not seen in awhile. Still have her Christmas present to take to her. She works two jobs so it's hard for us to get together.
Bobbie, did you still feel like you needed to be home after your mom had passed? I guess it's a mind set for me.
Ya, I need to walk more. Good for you ssk. Glad you're here.
It's raining farm animals here, the N FL version of the storm the south is getting.
Peach! whassup how many inches now?
Oh Boy: Here's the Thunder. Boat's rocking. Railroad Bridge is down. OK, here comes the train. Nice heavy rain, train whistle,played by an artist... Rain and Train. Go with me now, to the days of Radio.... That must have been fun, to stand in a room with a bunch of sound effects. I would have lost my mind.
How is the weather in Tennessee, Tennessee? You feeling any better? This year's crud has been awful. hangs on and on. Love to lil Tenny and you.
anne! how you doing kid?
I just shot some vid off the cockpit. nice and peaceful. Can't wait for you guys to come on down.
miz, that's good to have the friend to take care of the kittys so you won't have to worry about them while you are gone. Are you going in Feb? or sooner. I'm waiting for the cna to come in, then I'll take a walk. woohoo ssk
One of Mom's caregivers (and a good friend of mine) will come and take care of the kitties every other day while hubby and I are visiting Bobbie. That's a relief.
Anne, I hear ya! Get a bottle of that Clorox Clean Up! Great Stuff and with mom I ended up with a bottle in the bathrooms and kitchen and (as Linda would say) zoom zoom all clean. No doubt it's gross but it's easier to know it's going to happen because as you are seeing, all logic and trying to get him to spit in the bathroom toilet is not going ot work and you will driver yourself nuts trying to keep him from spitting in the sink. Caregiving with dementia sux, but I think the men are grosser than the women. I could be full of it, because I only cared for my mom. Others will speak up and tell ya what's what too. How long have you been doing this? I know it's awful.
Miz! love Bites ...ain't that the name of a tune?
ssk! I know the lonelyitis well. The jokes were a good one for me too. Cuz is a straight up source for jokes.
Jen! Yes! get out! without the full burden of caregiving for fart pants you may have the energy to find a shelter. Hope your poor foot is better. Still in the bootie, I think? If we had our way you would be writing for Salon.com or something. Man you are a good writer.
Linda! how's Pa this morning?
Crew! love you guys and we had a good day yesterday with everybody rowing together and hopefully those of us isolated and alone and nuts with it all had some laughs.
Hopefully Kuli and DD and and and will check in and let us know how they are doing.
good morning, I enjoyed reading the jokes yesterday. Didn't have any help in over the weekend and got pretty depressed..lonelyitis. But feeling better now. I hate feeling trapped and can't go out . Jen, hope your day goes better today. ssk
Morning guys, A woman who started going to our church could not go back to her family after her aide job stopped because her family was in section 8 she went to a shelter was abel to take classes and got a job and got out of the shelter got a room in someones house and is saving to get an apartment.
jen . sounds like to me theyre both are ganging up on you . honey , i feel like theyre treating you like a cinderla ! damn them ! i sure hope you get online and see about shelter or some help out there , you can live somewhere eles and be apperciated by someone eles . you deserve it ! plz do keep in touch with us . plz stay out of th eblack hole my dear . ill be thinking of you . xoxo
NEVER HAVE REGRETS!!!! Think about this. You may not realize it, but it's 100% true. 1.There are at least two people in this world that you would die for. 2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way. 3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you. 4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you. 5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep. 6. You mean the world to someone. 7. You are special and unique. 8. Someone that you don't even know exists, loves you. 9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it. 10. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look 11.Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.
NEVER HAVE REGRETS!!!! "FRIENDS ARE ANGELS WHO LIFT US TO OUR FEET WHEN OUR WINGS HAVE TROUBLE."
"Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance"
Bobbie's Cuz: YOU are a Sweetheart, and you made me have a better day! Thank you so much! I gotta tell you that Maxine's true story absolutely made me, and my Mother and caregiver crack up for a long time! Laughter is the BEST Medicine, and thanks for helping lift the funk, pull us out f the black hole. Blessings to YOU. Bug Hugs, Christina
Thanks for letting me bring some laughter in your times of stress and disapointments. It's a rough job and I am glad that you took on the challenge when no one else would step up.
Jen, my heart hurts for you! I wish that there was something that I could do to make things better for you! We're here for you!
I had something funny happen to me tonight as we were leaving church. We usually get there early enough to park in the first handicapped parking place closest to the door, but had to park in the second one tonight. After church was over we walked out the door, I pressed the car remote to unlock the doors, which also turns on the headlights. Well, I just kept walking, not paying attention & out of force of habit I stepped up to the first car, also the same color as mine, & tried the door handle. I almost pee'd my pants as this HUGE black dog rose up out of the back seat & started barking & growling at me! In the process, I instinctively covered my mouth as I exclaimed some choice words...remember, I am in the church parking lot! It scared me so bad that it STILL hadn't dawned on me that was NOT my car until I heard laughter around me & folks asking what was wrong! What I wanted to know was WHO leaves a grizzly bear in the back of their car while they go to a church service?!?! Scared the poop out of me! By this time I was laughing so hard that I got choked & had an asethma attack & had to hit the inhaler! I've heard of car security alarms, but I definately wasn't expecting THAT!!! Sure glad that their door was still locked! Bet I'll be on time from now on & get that first parking place, huh?!?!
'Good looks catch the eye but a GOOD personality catches the heart. You're blessed with both!' Don't be flattered,this message was sent to ME!! I just wanted YOU to read it.
Many people will walk in and out of your life but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.
I scanned the posts but didn't read any jokes I am too depressed and upset now I will crawl back into my hole and think things over. Thank you for all your love and concern. i know there are options out there somewhere....
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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Bobbie, have a brew for me.
Sskape, we are going in February.
They REALLY should put all this in HEALTH EDUCATION for high school kids....at the verrrrry end of the class have several days of yes...yes ....yes what they will expect in the future...some inkling would be helpful. Why they don't do this is is just INSANE...some prepwork in life sure would help...why not early in HEALTH EDUCATION IN HIGH SCHOOL??????????????????????????????????????
Excellent and I am so happy to hear it. Tell her whassup!
Just got back on the boat and the Cat is letting me know about all kinds of stuff. If I'm understanding what she is saying, right after I left a giant wave came and knocked over the bag of dry food while miraculously leaving all the glasses on the counter and the boxes of Swanson chicken broth upright.
All rightie, the Cat just tried to give herself a high five (wash the South End) and oozed off the table making me snort on myself.
Really happy to hear that my Aunt is out of the hospital. That must have hurt like the Dickens.
Did you guys know that Dickens was paid by the word?
ok, enough free association.
going up the dock for a brew.
any word from Ted?
Really happy to see from you Flex! got your room ready.
lovbob
Got Ma home from hospital today. The pain is gone in her jaw and throat. She's really tired now so she said she will sleep and get more better.
Luv ya cuz
This is the place to be. I see in your profile you say your parents are in good health. While they are, do everything you want to do that would take you out of town!!!!!! :)
This thread is FABULOUS!!!! It is filled with great people either just facing the caregiver role, up to their eyeballs in the crap (literal) of caregiving or those that have lost their loved ones and finding themselves again. Our Captain of the crew is Bobbie, the originator of this thread. We are here for each other to vent, vent, vent! And we love to laugh even in the thick of things.
Welcome and we look forward to hearing more from you.
Diane (Flex)
Bobbie, hubby loves storms. Actually so do I ifn there's no bad damage and no one gets hurt.
Just did some more cleaning in the kitchen. It's amazing what you find when you start cleaning up high. Cleaned the top of the fridge and then saw how dusty some other stuff was hanging on the walls.
I have a dinner date Thursday after work with a very good friend who I have not seen in awhile. Still have her Christmas present to take to her. She works two jobs so it's hard for us to get together.
Bobbie, did you still feel like you needed to be home after your mom had passed? I guess it's a mind set for me.
More later.
love,
miz
It's raining farm animals here, the N FL version of the storm the south is getting.
Peach! whassup how many inches now?
Oh Boy: Here's the Thunder. Boat's rocking.
Railroad Bridge is down.
OK, here comes the train. Nice heavy rain, train whistle,played by an artist... Rain and Train.
Go with me now, to the days of Radio....
That must have been fun, to stand in a room with a bunch of
sound effects. I would have lost my mind.
How is the weather in Tennessee, Tennessee?
You feeling any better? This year's crud has been awful. hangs on and on. Love to lil Tenny and you.
anne! how you doing kid?
I just shot some vid off the cockpit. nice and peaceful.
Can't wait for you guys to come on down.
later,
lovbob
I'm waiting for the cna to come in, then I'll take a walk. woohoo
ssk
Anne, I hear ya! Get a bottle of that Clorox Clean Up! Great Stuff and with mom I ended up with a bottle in the bathrooms and kitchen and (as Linda would say) zoom zoom all clean.
No doubt it's gross but it's easier to know it's going to happen because as you are seeing, all logic and trying to get him to spit in the bathroom toilet is not going ot work and you will driver yourself nuts trying to keep him from spitting in the sink.
Caregiving with dementia sux, but I think the men are grosser than the women. I could be full of it, because I only cared for my mom. Others will speak up and tell ya what's what too.
How long have you been doing this? I know it's awful.
Miz! love Bites ...ain't that the name of a tune?
ssk! I know the lonelyitis well. The jokes were a good one for me too. Cuz is a straight up source for jokes.
Jen! Yes! get out! without the full burden of caregiving for fart pants you may have the energy to find a shelter. Hope your poor foot is better. Still in the bootie, I think?
If we had our way you would be writing for Salon.com or something. Man you are a good writer.
Linda! how's Pa this morning?
Crew! love you guys and we had a good day yesterday with everybody rowing together and hopefully those of us isolated and alone and nuts with it all had some laughs.
Hopefully Kuli and DD and and and will check in and let us know how they are doing.
More later,
lovbob
I'm sitting here with sweet Sassy on my lap. She's giving me kisses and love bites.
Hoping you all have a good day without grossness. Okay, I'm off to eat breakfast. Love yous!!
miz
Jen, hope your day goes better today.
ssk
s-l-o-w! lol Thanks for making us laugh!
Bobbie, we're half way there...4" already & it's still snowing!
plz do keep in touch with us . plz stay out of th eblack hole my dear . ill be thinking of you . xoxo
Think about this. You may not realize it, but it's 100% true.
1.There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.
2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to
be just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't
like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. You are special and unique.
8. Someone that you don't even know exists, loves you.
9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from
it.
10. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look
11.Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the
rude
remarks.
NEVER HAVE REGRETS!!!!
"FRIENDS ARE ANGELS WHO LIFT US TO OUR FEET WHEN OUR WINGS HAVE
TROUBLE."
"Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might
as
well dance"
Bug Hugs, Christina
Bet you will open door slowly also huh
Love cuz
I had something funny happen to me tonight as we were leaving church. We usually get there early enough to park in the first handicapped parking place closest to the door, but had to park in the second one tonight. After church was over we walked out the door, I pressed the car remote to unlock the doors, which also turns on the headlights. Well, I just kept walking, not paying attention & out of force of habit I stepped up to the first car, also the same color as mine, & tried the door handle. I almost pee'd my pants as this HUGE black dog rose up out of the back seat & started barking & growling at me! In the process, I instinctively covered my mouth as I exclaimed some choice words...remember, I am in the church parking lot! It scared me so bad that it STILL hadn't dawned on me that was NOT my car until I heard laughter around me & folks asking what was wrong! What I wanted to know was WHO leaves a grizzly bear in the back of their car while they go to a church service?!?! Scared the poop out of me! By this time I was laughing so hard that I got choked & had an asethma attack & had to hit the inhaler! I've heard of car security alarms, but I definately wasn't expecting THAT!!! Sure glad that their door was still locked! Bet I'll be on time from now on & get that first parking place, huh?!?!
Thought For The Day
'Good looks catch the eye but a GOOD personality catches the heart.
You're blessed with both!' Don't be flattered,this message was sent to ME!! I just wanted YOU to read it.
Many people will walk in and out of your life but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.