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The following is a quote from Nance from her Going Nuts thread.
"I'll never understand why some people like to hurt others. I pray that I'll NEVER be one of them."
I also looked through Nance's hugs and saw that the ones that I had sent her had been deleted. Nice touch.
Another telling truth. go to Nance's profile and look at how many hugs she has given out. Exactly one in 2009 and one in 2010. Wow, there's a Compassionate Caregiver!
Georgia, I appreciate that with a family if you disagree then you change the subject, however, this has been going on and on.
I have had others tell me that we are made fun of on other's walls for acting like children because of the boat or whatever, but yet Nance constantly returns for support and we all reach out to help, including me. Many times. Nance has never responed to me directly when I've invited her to the boat or offered what I hoped were words of comfort and I figured, that's ok, she's grieving, she's sad, she's fill in the blank. I have made excuses for her when others have complained about her actions. After being sniped at for over a year by NANCE, I am choosing to take offense at her remarks and tone.
At the end of the day, I am just tired of being villified. Life's short. Nance, I am truly sorry for the loss of your mom and I am truly sorry that you still don't 'get it'.
I am mostly sorry that you misinterpret what we all mean to each other and that you can't share that because something in you keeps that from happening.
Hi, It's good to be a part of this group. Like peach said, when one is down the others may have some uplifting suggestions to help, or just be there because they are going through a similar issue. Just listened to the weather, too, and snow on the way for tomorrow. When I was a kid winter was my favorite season, sledding, skiing, skating, playing, now... not so good,, shovelling, trapped in side more, cold..although I still like the beauty of the white snow which blankets the land. I'm trying a new year resolution of "eating and drinking a normal portion" and have done it for 5 days, probably why I was crabby yesterday! We'll see how today goes. ssk
Good morning all we are expexting snow in New York how is still up for grabs-it will be good to get back to the senior center -have not been there for about 2 weeks.
Awwww, you guys are so sweet! It's nice to be remembered! Thank you!
I agree, Rossella, this is a really great, & unique thread where we are open to speak what's important to us at the time! Sometimes it's us who needs the extra help or encouragement or needs to vent & sometimes it's us making the offering! That's why we're good for each other! We are always there for whoever is closest to the black hole or the 'foxhole' to pull them back! And we're not all close to the having a meltdown at the same time, which is good! "It takes a village...!" And we've learned so much from each other being able to share! What issue one is having a problem with, another may know exactly what will work & make that caregiver's life, as well as the loved one's better! If it doesn't work, we appreciate the effort of the one offering the suggestion! They just want to help us!
We have addressed SO many issues on this thread! Venting, gross things, encouragement needed, encouragement given, black hole patrol, good ideas on caregiving, recipes, menu plans, jokes, puns, craft ideas, self protection gear, legal problems & suggestions, medicines, exercises, books, BOAT time, lessons of life & yes, being there for our online family at a loved ones passing!
Most of the time we're non-judgemental & even if we don't agree totally with someone, we'll still try to find something positive to say or change the subject! That's what family should be about...something that most of us have found here on this thread! No expectancies, just folks who actually care about what happens in the lives of those we're building bonds with! Like Rossella said, 'Sometimes we need more & sometimes we need less', but we know that the words & thoughts are coming from the hearts of those who actually care what we're each going through & in our own small way we try to make the other caregiver's lives better...easier!
I'm very glad to have found this site & very proud to have 'met' each of you! And I think you for putting up with me! We're mishpukhe...Yiddish for FAMILY!
Saw them. Beautiful!!! Mine are all behaving better and getting used to each other, well, except the female who was her first. She still b!tches at the 3 males and tries to get them in trouble all the time. I have pictures of her wearing a scarf a knitted for her last winter. I will have to post it on F/B.
Speaking of cats, Kathy, I posted 3 beautiful photos on Facebook which I stole from a friend of a friend. Never seen so beautiful photos of cats. They have been made with a Reflex
Hey Miz! Just got done catching up on posts after dealing with Mom and a crabby hubby! Geesh! As if things aren't bad enough, the men have to add to the mix! Sounds like you are feeling better today. Rossella, as always, the voice of reason! I'm with you and writing! Hurts my hand like crazy! Arthritis and carpel tunnel don't help. Neither does all the painting and knitting. Not likely ti give those up though! Christina, Glad you got out today. It does make a difference. Jen, More snow? Did you get any good books? I think we have a storm coming for the weekend here. SSK, My experience with home visits is just that! Come at any time that's convenient for them, and do their thing and leave. They are not there to relieve you or give your mom companionship. Check your local senior center. There should be someone on staff that can help you find local organizations that have either paid or volunteer companions so you can get out for an hour. The other option is to get a home health aid either through a service,(big bucks) or find a Cna that is willing to come for a few hours to sit with your mom, to make a few extra bucks. Linda, Sounds like a great lunch! Love Dairy Queen!!!! Nance, what Linda said about sending stuff. I would send something to everyone if I had their address. I took care of the lamp for Angie because I live close by and am in contact with her through e-mail. I would like Jam's address so we can honor her mom. I'm not familiar with when your Mom passed. Were you on this thread at the time? Fill me in please. Pirate, your Mom may need to be fed by someone if she has dementia. She just may not have the ability to focus enough to feed herself anymore. Definitely get her checked by her doctor, but have the helpers try to feed her or at least prompt her to pick up her fork and eat. Babz? You've got the idea. Say what's on your mind. We're all used to getting pointed in the right direction when necessary! Got to feed the 4 kitties and take my meds. Maybe back on if I can stay awake! Kathy
hi folks im here . yesterday the internet kept comin on and off and on and off , got fed up with it so i said to hell with it . i still am not feeling good , today i had no enegry at all , pa too , told him we need to go bye bye so we did , drove to the next city and stop at dairy queen , got us pulled bq pork sandwhich and milkshake oh yes onion rings . crank on the music 70 s 80 s , boggie on the way home . dad ate happy all the way . drove about an hr and half round trip . did us good .
i see nance askin question about who decides who gets bears or who gets lamps . im guessing whoever decides it takes care of it , whoever wants to do it out of kindness of thier heart then they do it . if some wants to pay thier share of the cost they can and ask for home addy and mails thier part of thier share . only if they can or want to . its up to whom ever wants to do it . id love to do it all cuz i love you all ! but i cant do it all . you all caregivers are spiecal people in my eyes , love you bunch , i better get off here before this internet decides to shut down again ,. damn bastard ! , goodnight xoxoxox
We had a home care nurse whom neither my husband or I liked-sometimes we would agree on things and my cat went over to her one day and talked to her and she said he is so cute he is talking to me and he went away and kept comming to scold her -before that he was always so quiet I had to keep myself from laughing because he really was telling her off. Another nurse reported us ro a social worker that our house was too messy he came and made a report that it was better than ever and that my husband was very well cared for. This is the site to vent we are all family and at times we get our knickers twisted but we support each other and everyones ideas are respected. My Mom was very nausated and stoped eating and was losing weight and we found that her med for osteoporis was being injected in the morning and was changed to bedtime and that made a big difference so if your elder is not eating check their meds with the pharmacy and ask their advice sometimes they are more informed than the docs. Linda where are you?
Hi Babzgirl, I hear you, and yes, I was probably using a sort of judgment, as I do all day long! We vent here, and we help each other. And and and: I apologized right away, didn't I:)?And and and: You accepted my apology, you little sweetheart! If you want to read one of my MOST EMBARRASSING posts on this site--and I haven't been here very long--you can go back and read my sob story about my bad relationship with my Mother -- who I care for in my home--and my Dad's suicide. But let's not and say we did, OK? I'm fine with things the way they are, and I do not ass u me anything. Let's DROP IT, AND BE FRIENDS, OK? Otherwise I'm gonna have Piratequeen kick your BUTT. She's so good at it, and I'm kinda busy. HUGS! christina xoxoxoxoxo
here's one, or two...That big mega millions jackpot was won by two people, one from eastern WA one From Post Falls Idaho...cool it was so close locally...
Get on the book idea. Try asking the people who do the "Dummies" series if they were interested.
Just cold and cold here...gonna go read my library books...Mom is mad a lot now but maybe once the new routine is more established she will feel she has more control and made the right decision.
Babzgirl, (I speak for myself) one of the pleasures I find in this site is that everybody feels free to say what he wants, to tell his story, to make comments about what the other person said... Words at freedom! Sometimes you get more comments than you wish. Sometimes, less comments than you wish... Everybody here has good intentions. Otherwise he would not even take the trouble of writing something. We are so different! We have so many different ways to deal with things, to react to things... I think it is fascinating.
Hey PQ--just hearing about someone getting their butt kicked does my heart good. Ha! it wouldn't be worth it. To my siblings, my direct deliverance of the truth makes them shiver their timbers, ay, matey? I am a very nice person, until I am confronted with any sort of injustice--then I become righteously indignant. My Mother's appetite has waned the last couple of weeks, but we were trying her on anti-depressants. She is much thirstier, and very agitated. Have you changed or added meds? Are you measuring how much she drinks then measure how much she pees? and weigh a couple of times a day. Maybe her sodium is high? We need a book, "Caregiving for Dummies". Is there one?
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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When you coming to the boat??
lovbob
I am here to settle some business.
The following is a quote from Nance from her Going Nuts thread.
"I'll never understand why some people like to hurt others.
I pray that I'll NEVER be one of them."
I also looked through Nance's hugs and saw that the ones that I had sent her had been deleted. Nice touch.
Another telling truth. go to Nance's profile and look at how many hugs she has given out. Exactly one in 2009 and one in 2010.
Wow, there's a Compassionate Caregiver!
Georgia, I appreciate that with a family if you disagree then you change the subject, however, this has been going on and on.
I have had others tell me that we are made fun of on other's walls for acting like children because of the boat or whatever, but yet Nance constantly returns for support and we all reach out to help, including me. Many times. Nance has never responed to me directly when I've invited her to the boat or offered what I hoped were words of comfort and I figured, that's ok, she's grieving, she's sad, she's fill in the blank.
I have made excuses for her when others have complained about her actions.
After being sniped at for over a year by NANCE, I am choosing to take offense at her remarks and tone.
At the end of the day, I am just tired of being villified.
Life's short.
Nance, I am truly sorry for the loss of your mom and I am truly sorry that you still don't 'get it'.
I am mostly sorry that you misinterpret what we all mean to each other and that you can't share that because something in you keeps that from happening.
You know where the plank is: take a hike.
Captain Bob
Just listened to the weather, too, and snow on the way for tomorrow. When I was a kid winter was my favorite season, sledding, skiing, skating, playing, now... not so good,, shovelling, trapped in side more, cold..although I still like the beauty of the white snow which blankets the land. I'm trying a new year resolution of "eating and drinking a normal portion" and have done it for 5 days, probably why I was crabby yesterday! We'll see how today goes.
ssk
I agree, Rossella, this is a really great, & unique thread where we are open to speak what's important to us at the time! Sometimes it's us who needs the extra help or encouragement or needs to vent & sometimes it's us making the offering! That's why we're good for each other! We are always there for whoever is closest to the black hole or the 'foxhole' to pull them back! And we're not all close to the having a meltdown at the same time, which is good! "It takes a village...!" And we've learned so much from each other being able to share! What issue one is having a problem with, another may know exactly what will work & make that caregiver's life, as well as the loved one's better! If it doesn't work, we appreciate the effort of the one offering the suggestion! They just want to help us!
We have addressed SO many issues on this thread! Venting, gross things, encouragement needed, encouragement given, black hole patrol, good ideas on caregiving, recipes, menu plans, jokes, puns, craft ideas, self protection gear, legal problems & suggestions, medicines, exercises, books, BOAT time, lessons of life & yes, being there for our online family at a loved ones passing!
Most of the time we're non-judgemental & even if we don't agree totally with someone, we'll still try to find something positive to say or change the subject! That's what family should be about...something that most of us have found here on this thread! No expectancies, just folks who actually care about what happens in the lives of those we're building bonds with! Like Rossella said, 'Sometimes we need more & sometimes we need less', but we know that the words & thoughts are coming from the hearts of those who actually care what we're each going through & in our own small way we try to make the other caregiver's lives better...easier!
I'm very glad to have found this site & very proud to have 'met' each of you! And I think you for putting up with me!
We're mishpukhe...Yiddish for FAMILY!
Love & BIG hugs,
Peach : )
Sounds like you are feeling better today.
Rossella, as always, the voice of reason! I'm with you and writing! Hurts my hand like crazy! Arthritis and carpel tunnel don't help. Neither does all the painting and knitting. Not likely ti give those up though!
Christina, Glad you got out today. It does make a difference.
Jen, More snow? Did you get any good books? I think we have a storm coming for the weekend here.
SSK, My experience with home visits is just that! Come at any time that's convenient for them, and do their thing and leave. They are not there to relieve you or give your mom companionship. Check your local senior center. There should be someone on staff that can help you find local organizations that have either paid or volunteer companions so you can get out for an hour. The other option is to get a home health aid either through a service,(big bucks) or find a Cna that is willing to come for a few hours to sit with your mom, to make a few extra bucks.
Linda, Sounds like a great lunch! Love Dairy Queen!!!!
Nance, what Linda said about sending stuff. I would send something to everyone if I had their address. I took care of the lamp for Angie because I live close by and am in contact with her through e-mail. I would like Jam's address so we can honor her mom. I'm not familiar with when your Mom passed. Were you on this thread at the time? Fill me in please.
Pirate, your Mom may need to be fed by someone if she has dementia. She just may not have the ability to focus enough to feed herself anymore. Definitely get her checked by her doctor, but have the helpers try to feed her or at least prompt her to pick up her fork and eat.
Babz? You've got the idea. Say what's on your mind. We're all used to getting pointed in the right direction when necessary!
Got to feed the 4 kitties and take my meds.
Maybe back on if I can stay awake! Kathy
love,
miz
yesterday the internet kept comin on and off and on and off , got fed up with it so i said to hell with it .
i still am not feeling good , today i had no enegry at all , pa too , told him we need to go bye bye so we did , drove to the next city and stop at dairy queen , got us pulled bq pork sandwhich and milkshake oh yes onion rings . crank on the music 70 s 80 s , boggie on the way home . dad ate happy all the way . drove about an hr and half round trip . did us good .
i see nance askin question about who decides who gets bears or who gets lamps . im guessing whoever decides it takes care of it , whoever wants to do it out of kindness of thier heart then they do it . if some wants to pay thier share of the cost they can and ask for home addy and mails thier part of thier share . only if they can or want to . its up to whom ever wants to do it .
id love to do it all cuz i love you all ! but i cant do it all . you all caregivers are spiecal people in my eyes , love you bunch , i better get off here before this internet decides to shut down again ,. damn bastard ! , goodnight xoxoxox
Pirate? Did you take my tequila?
If you want to read one of my MOST EMBARRASSING posts on this site--and I haven't been here very long--you can go back and read my sob story about my bad relationship with my Mother -- who I care for in my home--and my Dad's suicide. But let's not and say we did, OK?
I'm fine with things the way they are, and I do not ass u me anything. Let's DROP IT, AND BE FRIENDS, OK? Otherwise I'm gonna have Piratequeen kick your BUTT. She's so good at it, and I'm kinda busy. HUGS! christina xoxoxoxoxo
Just cold and cold here...gonna go read my library books...Mom is mad a lot now but maybe once the new routine is more established she will feel she has more control and made the right decision.
We are so different! We have so many different ways to deal with things, to react to things... I think it is fascinating.
miz-your doctor is a good one, he cares
ssk