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Christina...grab a hold of yourself g/f you sound like you are loosing it. Stop and start counting one two three four and breathe deep the hikers method through your mouth and out yer nose....do that for about 5 times or so. Okay no don't worry about no one following you this is NOT facebook or twadle or a chat room. It is a message blog and you have to wait sometimes for a response. Now get a hold of yerself...any vino in the fridge you can take a nip at. Big hugs and calm down - try to watch some silly tv or cartoons...sometimes that helps me with depression or trying to forget the stress!
I did it again. Every time I post something, no one follows me, and that is why I am feeling like I don't belong. Is it the "time zone" thing? I am up with my Mother from 4 am--7 yous guysez time--off and on until 7 am here--10 on the right coast. I'm sure you are all going about your day and have had way too much coffee by then, and I am having my first and only large cup. Please set me straight. I am trying to be logical and not sensitive. Forget the name thing--that sounds very self-centered and it's not important. I am going to run errands now and will be back around 3 pm, 6 your time, at which time, y'all will be cooking or eating dinner, and I will wonder where everyone is. I want to do the Face Boat thingy; guess I better work that into my schedule or I will never hook up with you guys correctly. Please, help me. I'm not whining, no tears, no fears. Ok. I'll wait.
OK, let's ask Captain Bobbie. In school they named me "Tiny Tears" on the class prophecy page--remember the doll that cries? How humiliating. I've always been sensitive, and I had bad depression as a child, because no one was there for me, so I cried all the time. Please don't pick that one. We can discuss it, and I will go with the vote. After all, we name our pets and they have to live with it, don't they?
I like PirateQueen. It sounds very in control. Which one are you going to use? Maybe I should pick an online name? It might confuse me, that's why I stuck with the real thing. Or--I have an idea: Let's have a Gross Out contest and pick an online name for Christina! You all (Y'all) can rename me! what do you think? Please be nice about it, OK?
well heck seems i have 2 logons now Pirate Queen at work and Piratess2011 at home..geesh, this website is lame for logging on. OH well you know if it's pirate anything it's moi!
Some people like their picture takin some people don't-done for today.By mistake I took some pictures of some guys doing drug crap-They ran after me hollaring.I was looking at a trailor not underpenned,I now understand what the problem is I am one of the few people who don't have broken down couchs and appliances on their front porch-I knew there was a reason I didn't fit in.From what I could tell from driving around,having old furniture and appliances on your front porch must be a requirement to get VIP privelges around here. Guess I'll check on it..Old TIRE collecting seems to be a hobby for most also.Last week at cityhall books were public friendly-this week I understand there is a new privacy law.
Shopping day maybe become Tuesdays now on, quiet during week and no grandpa to deal with could turn out to be a good thing...waiting for Adult Day Health bus to come get him...Not much else here...Thank God.
angie, you have never experienced this before. The tears are oh so natural. Cry as much as you need to. Nothing wrong with it. At least you are getting it out. Be kind to yourself and just do a little of the sad stuff at a time. Pace yourself. It will get done. Love you lots!!
ohyes , christina u sound just like me , heck i even made a list to take to the store and oops where did that list go , ahh sittin on the table at home . duh . call home hey honey read that list ! sometimes i dont even get everything on the list either , oh hell i didnt see that one ! speakin of cold yep im cold , need go find me a sweater . i bought 2 brand new lighters few weeks ago and guess what theyre gone ! im using my lighter that is almost out of fulid , shit wheres my lighter . i didnt go anywhere to lose em . maybe theyre layin outside somewhere ? maybe thats a sign of somebody upstairs is pullin atrick on me ? ill just go buy me more lighters . oh yes forgot to do that yesterday too . lol . you all have a great day . bobbie ure funny , glue coins every where , u sure know how to make someone smile . love u bunch ! xoxo
continuing on here since i cut myself off lol...... jammies and watch some silly tv maybe nap and knit..... and oh yes, wait for 4 pm for my martini.....
Just finished doing some of the paperwork for mom, the ss and pension stuff, getting death certs out in the mail asap.... it just sucks because to get some of the paperwork, i had to keep going in papa's room..... tear up real bad every time..... Honestly i think that is going to be it for me for today. i have never really been an emotional person, but it seems like i am making up for it now for sure....... the tears just come out of nowhere....sorry to be "debbie downer guys".... Mom is a hot mess for sure.... i swear she is like a bird, just going around in circles..... and to top it off, the dog has been constipated, yuk, yes even though papa is not here, i am still cleaning poop lol lol It is freezing here burrrr............... going to put on comfy j
I'm still feeling so tired. Wide awake at 5 am. Tried to nap but didn't have much luck. I'm going to work at 1:00 today. Usually 1:30 on Tuesdays but I want to make up my time for when I go to the doc tomorrow. I'm so much more depressed now than before. Really sucks. Sorry, I sound like a broken record I am sure. Jam, you are amazing.
I worked in a donut shop and I crazy glued a dime to the counter by the register and glued a quarter to the sidewalk outside where we all could see it. Made for some great entertainment!
I saw a lot of money on the ground after my dad died. It really is cool how it works.
Hi Linda--we're all connected. I bet if I bent over to pick up that same dime it would have let go. lol I'm always forgetting something: go to the bedroom to get a sweater, see the towels on the floor, pick them up and put in the hamper, then remember there's clothes in the washer, need to put in the dryer, open the washer, see the pants I was supposed to take to the dry cleaners--uh oh--write that down, sit back down at the table to finish feeding my Mother, and wonder why I'm still cold and what I went into bedroom for. It's a girl thing.
good morning to u all . funny talk about dimes and pennies , i pulled up at wendys drive thru and drop a quarter , opened the door to get em ah theres a penny and a dime laying next to it , couldnt get the dime cuz it was stuck to the pavement , but i got the penny and gave the lady the quarter , maybe that dime was for u christina :-) . pat u were talking about cancer on the skin . they need to come out . my dad has had cancer all over his face and arms . they hurt and he is all the time picking at it , once theyre removed its all good . his ears would have a growth on it , it grew a horn ! his forehead would grow a horn too . nasty lit shit . they do hurt and its painful . now he has another growth on his arm . notice its not so bad now cuz he s been wearing long sleave shirt . that prevents him pickin on it . go get em cut out . yep it has to be done at the hospital . knock pa out and he s in lala land . no pain no stress and happy when he wakes up , ready for wendys . :-) pa s feeling alot better and im just starting to feel lit better myself . still blowing brains out . speaking of walmart grrrr went there yesterday and told my daughter dont let me forget to get dad some briefs (pullups) ok mom . left walmart and pulled up in d rive way ah shit we didnt get briefs ! . wasnt going back to town , 319 a gal of gas and i live out in the country ah forget it . we have some briefs here that i do not like previel , its not as good as depends . guess will use them up till i go back to town . going to make a pot of veg soup today , yum yum . you all have a wonderful day . xoxoxo
oops, and tennessee and lil tenny. Rossellamex: when my brother passed in 2003, I found a PILE of dimes on the floor of the backseat of my car. That got my attention. I mentioned it to my son, who had worked on cars with brother. When bro would finish waxing a car, he would say,"Shines like a dime"--but the accurate phrase is "shines like a diamond in a goat's a--". He changed it so as not to offend my young son:) lol Anyway, since then, I find dimes on the ground, forget pennies--I still see pennies, but someone puts dimes in my path. Often, when I am contemplating an issue, a dime shows up. I have found them on my walks on the bridle trail, in parking lots, on the kitchen counter--yes, just sitting there, as if placed from above. I feel my brother, I hear him in his personality style speak to me, and it is comforting. He is starting to speak to me about Mother, and about our other brother. I don't think it's weird at all. Life is a circle, different dimensions, some things we just cannot see. In fact, joke time: my wonderful step-father who was my Mother's third husband, not the last one, used to say when he would see a seemingly mismatched couple, "He/She must have something you cant see". LOL hahaha He was from TENNESSEE!!! WHOO HOO!!!! christina xoxo
Good for you Jam! Have fun at Walmart. Have to go there myself today. Yuck!!! Peach, I was slammed by a few in the beginning, but was not chased away. Figured people were having a bad day and I hung in there for the support I could get and hopefully give back. I try not to take things too personally and give myself time to ponder a situation before acting on it. Christina, the bed wetting will get worse. Meds make them relax so much they can't help it. Mom has problems going because of PD and is in pull ups 24/7. I order them from medical warehouses and have found the best there is. If you need the info, let me know. Also, order some washable chux pads to place under your mom at night. They keep the entire bed from getting soaked. I spent many a day washing everything, yes, even her pillow, until I got the pads and the better pull-ups. Angie, Your dad is still with you! Bobbie, hope you are feeling better today. Rossella, It's happy colors for you!!! Hope you all have a good day! Kathy
bobbie....I'm actually doing pretty good this morning.....have to take COL's dog to vet and then onto Wal-Mart, my least favorite place in the world. Hubby will be at home sleeping, worked last night. Tonight will be the show of shows by younger sibs and grandchildren.....going to give them their space to put on an act...my goodbye to Mom was done with dignity and I will not allow myself to witness a false show of grief. Nuff said...................................
It's 6:30 am in California, and this is the first time I could get on here. Thank you all for your support. I have Coffee, my Bed is my BOAT. I went back to read the posts since the last time i posted, and I agree with Rossellamex--she is so wise and thoughtful--about not jumping on newbies for their "gross mistakes" and judging us for being upset about hairs in toothbrushes. Made me think more than twice about the need to embrace each other, new and old alike, with our compassion. A laugh, and a "oh, you did it, too. Let us explain.." would be a great response. I was guilty of taking the defensive mode, too, and it is truly with the intention of Protecting Our Own, Mama Grislies, and Papa Bears, so to speak. How bold of me to admit, within a month of being here, I DID feel part of the family, so diverse, yet linked by caring, and going beyond the daily work, market, carpool kind of lifestyle. Two nights in a row Mother has wet the bed. First night, I put depends on her and changed the bed. Second night caregiver called me to tell me she forgot to put them on her before she left and I said, oh, she won't do it 2 nights in a row. OK, so I'm off to Sit and Sleep later to buy another mattress protector so I have an alternate. She is starting to see "all the people looking at her" in the living room. Cat is sleeping consistently downstairs on 'catchair' and follows us into bathroom to 'help' Mother pee. Weekend girl is moving in this week since she lost her apt--God moves in mysterious ways, yes. Bobbie, I believe it was Charlie Brown--who shares my Sept 28 birthday, btw--who coined the phrase,"Good Grief", although Shakespeare could have said it. What's good about grief, to me, is that it eventually cleanses and dissolves. All things keep moving, live die, up down, in out, sad happy, but a Boat is a Boat, no matter what. Thank you again, to Kathy the deefer, Jam, Jsomebody, Peach, Sue, Rossellamex, Miz sweetheart, Angie, RIP one, Linda Heart, SS,, TruElizabeth, and NewPat, all those who think you have been cast off, you have not; and oh yea, the Captain. Love, many thanks, Hugs, christina
Bobbie: "Good grief" is a thing Charlie Brown often said. Is this you wanted to know? You are the wisest captain we could have. Georgia you are the best sailor! You know why I say it. Angie, 15 years after my father's death, I don't leave him alone even where he is. I talk to him all the time. Sometimes I call him outloud (when I am alone in the fields, of course) Many times I am angry at him, and I explain to him why. I have not made a saint out of him, just because he is dead. I am keeping with him the same relationship we had in life. If this is a way to keep our dead ones alive, I sure keep my father alive a lot. As a result, I am convinced that he intervenes in our lifes when the situation gets difficult. At least, this is what I feel. I also had some very convincing signs of his presence, during these years. Your father is not lost for you...you have just to find another level of communication. If you know him well, you will know what he wants to tell you, even if you don't actually hear his voice. I know even too well what my father expects from me, that's why I am here working my guts out!
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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speakin of cold yep im cold , need go find me a sweater . i bought 2 brand new lighters few weeks ago and guess what theyre gone ! im using my lighter that is almost out of fulid , shit wheres my lighter . i didnt go anywhere to lose em . maybe theyre layin outside somewhere ? maybe thats a sign of somebody upstairs is pullin atrick on me ? ill just go buy me more lighters . oh yes forgot to do that yesterday too . lol .
you all have a great day .
bobbie ure funny , glue coins every where , u sure know how to make someone smile . love u bunch ! xoxo
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Made for some great entertainment!
I saw a lot of money on the ground after my dad died. It really is cool how it works.
Off to work on the boat.
love ALL you guys and glad to see you Christina!
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funny talk about dimes and pennies , i pulled up at wendys drive thru and drop a quarter , opened the door to get em ah theres a penny and a dime laying next to it , couldnt get the dime cuz it was stuck to the pavement , but i got the penny and gave the lady the quarter , maybe that dime was for u christina :-) .
pat u were talking about cancer on the skin . they need to come out . my dad has had cancer all over his face and arms . they hurt and he is all the time picking at it , once theyre removed its all good . his ears would have a growth on it , it grew a horn ! his forehead would grow a horn too . nasty lit shit . they do hurt and its painful . now he has another growth on his arm . notice its not so bad now cuz he s been wearing long sleave shirt . that prevents him pickin on it .
go get em cut out . yep it has to be done at the hospital . knock pa out and he s in lala land . no pain no stress and happy when he wakes up , ready for wendys . :-)
pa s feeling alot better and im just starting to feel lit better myself . still blowing brains out .
speaking of walmart grrrr went there yesterday and told my daughter dont let me forget to get dad some briefs (pullups) ok mom . left walmart and pulled up in d rive way ah shit we didnt get briefs ! . wasnt going back to town , 319 a gal of gas and i live out in the country ah forget it . we have some briefs here that i do not like previel , its not as good as depends . guess will use them up till i go back to town .
going to make a pot of veg soup today , yum yum . you all have a wonderful day . xoxoxo
Anyway, since then, I find dimes on the ground, forget pennies--I still see pennies, but someone puts dimes in my path. Often, when I am contemplating an issue, a dime shows up. I have found them on my walks on the bridle trail, in parking lots, on the kitchen counter--yes, just sitting there, as if placed from above. I feel my brother, I hear him in his personality style speak to me, and it is comforting. He is starting to speak to me about Mother, and about our other brother. I don't think it's weird at all. Life is a circle, different dimensions, some things we just cannot see.
In fact, joke time: my wonderful step-father who was my Mother's third husband, not the last one, used to say when he would see a seemingly mismatched couple, "He/She must have something you cant see". LOL hahaha
He was from TENNESSEE!!! WHOO HOO!!!! christina xoxo
Peach, I was slammed by a few in the beginning, but was not chased away. Figured people were having a bad day and I hung in there for the support I could get and hopefully give back. I try not to take things too personally and give myself time to ponder a situation before acting on it.
Christina, the bed wetting will get worse. Meds make them relax so much they can't help it. Mom has problems going because of PD and is in pull ups 24/7. I order them from medical warehouses and have found the best there is. If you need the info, let me know. Also, order some washable chux pads to place under your mom at night. They keep the entire bed from getting soaked. I spent many a day washing everything, yes, even her pillow, until I got the pads and the better pull-ups.
Angie, Your dad is still with you!
Bobbie, hope you are feeling better today.
Rossella, It's happy colors for you!!!
Hope you all have a good day! Kathy
I went back to read the posts since the last time i posted, and I agree with Rossellamex--she is so wise and thoughtful--about not jumping on newbies for their "gross mistakes" and judging us for being upset about hairs in toothbrushes. Made me think more than twice about the need to embrace each other, new and old alike, with our compassion. A laugh, and a "oh, you did it, too. Let us explain.." would be a great response. I was guilty of taking the defensive mode, too, and it is truly with the intention of Protecting Our Own, Mama Grislies, and Papa Bears, so to speak. How bold of me to admit, within a month of being here, I DID feel part of the family, so diverse, yet linked by caring, and going beyond the daily work, market, carpool kind of lifestyle.
Two nights in a row Mother has wet the bed. First night, I put depends on her and changed the bed. Second night caregiver called me to tell me she forgot to put them on her before she left and I said, oh, she won't do it 2 nights in a row. OK, so I'm off to Sit and Sleep later to buy another mattress protector so I have an alternate. She is starting to see "all the people looking at her" in the living room. Cat is sleeping consistently downstairs on 'catchair' and follows us into bathroom to 'help' Mother pee. Weekend girl is moving in this week since she lost her apt--God moves in mysterious ways, yes.
Bobbie, I believe it was Charlie Brown--who shares my Sept 28 birthday, btw--who coined the phrase,"Good Grief", although Shakespeare could have said it. What's good about grief, to me, is that it eventually cleanses and dissolves. All things keep moving, live die, up down, in out, sad happy, but a Boat is a Boat, no matter what. Thank you again, to Kathy the deefer, Jam, Jsomebody, Peach, Sue, Rossellamex, Miz sweetheart, Angie, RIP one, Linda Heart, SS,, TruElizabeth, and NewPat, all those who think you have been cast off, you have not; and oh yea, the Captain. Love, many thanks, Hugs, christina
You are the wisest captain we could have.
Georgia you are the best sailor! You know why I say it.
Angie, 15 years after my father's death, I don't leave him alone even where he is. I talk to him all the time. Sometimes I call him outloud (when I am alone in the fields, of course) Many times I am angry at him, and I explain to him why. I have not made a saint out of him, just because he is dead. I am keeping with him the same relationship we had in life. If this is a way to keep our dead ones alive, I sure keep my father alive a lot. As a result, I am convinced that he intervenes in our lifes when the situation gets difficult. At least, this is what I feel. I also had some very convincing signs of his presence, during these years.
Your father is not lost for you...you have just to find another level of communication. If you know him well, you will know what he wants to tell you, even if you don't actually hear his voice. I know even too well what my father expects from me, that's why I am here working my guts out!