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Well, I guess is a little bit of hopeful news;

I just got off the phone with an attorney in NY who deals specifically with Inheritance theft and probate. I gave her a basic run-down on the situation with my father's estate (for those who don't know, in short -my sister is executrix and is stone-walling me and stealing my equal share of my father's estate)
And the lawyer is going to pull his file and have a sit-down with another attorney to discuss what they think might be going on and what might be done about it, and of course, what they are going to charge me to do it. She asked me to photocopy whatever papers I have and send them to her.

I'm still afraid that this is gonna turn into a huge litigation thing, but I'm hoping that it is just as simple as forcing my sister to do what the will says and that's that.

I'll keep my fingers crossed but at least I feel that i am doing whatever I can to protect myself and not letting anyone take advantage of the fact that my hands are tied with caring for OUR mother while they quietly rip me off of money I was counting on to care for her.
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When the end comes, family will be there, only to see what they might gain, mine did, they got zip and I haven't seen any of the ass's since. They never came to visit or help so I in turn gave them what they deserved. My family are friends that stuck by me through years of caregiving and they are few--you all were my family. Love ya all and try to have a good Holiday season.
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Good Afternoon, I think that we all here can relate to Bobbie for sure. We are the doers!! I know that I am and always have been the different one....... I have struggled with that all of my life. Although it has been a struggle, and sometimes lonely one, due to no family members to help, i have learned to be comfortable in my own skin. and with who i am.Dad has now gone 48 hrs without fluids and no food in days on end. So !! I think I fit my own mold that all of you share. I read all the funnies on here earlier, thank you for the laughs. Dealing with my family is not going to be easy for sure.... i do not look forward to it for sure.... we are the angels
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Bobbie, please keep in mind that if you weren't who you are, WE Here would be a lot worse off. If you don't fit their mold, it's because their mold is wrong for YOU. You sure fit ours and I just want to thank you and whatever lucky (for me) breaks kept you from changing to fit them.
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Hey Bobbie,I guess that is my problem also,member of the same club.People get uncomfortable when you don't fit their mold.My dad told me before he passed of all of his kids that he never thought that I would end up being the one he could count on.There are talkers and then there are doers,and I'm not a very good talker,but I'm a good doer.I HOPE you have more success with your remaining family than I,because we have realized no one gives a damn about us,no family anyhow When I had beauty I was popular when I had money I was popular,but now with neither asset,I'm just mud..
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Positive thoughts to bobbie dealing with relatives.
I am waiting for my uncle and aunt to visit, which they do once a year. It is kinda uncomfortable. I know they mean well, but will ask the questions that "push my buttons", like, do you have a boyfriend?, where are you working now?, How are your sons doing.?
I don't think many people can understand the caregiving situation unless they are in it too! You all know what I mean.
Just wanted to check in.
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Thanks Miz!

It's been a running theme in my life where people just don't get me and make me out to be an awful person and I suppose to them I may be because I didn't respond they way they wanted me to, etc.
What is truly important to me is that even though my parents played that game with me too, in the end they knew the truth and both died with me right there telling them to save a place for me and we'll get to hang out like we were never able to do on Earth.
Shoot. Crying again.
suck it up Bob.

lovbob
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Positive thoughts and prayers for you, bobbie, all day. And, who you are is a wonderful loving, sympathetic, kind and caring person with an awesome sense of humor. A true angel.

love,
miz
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ok crew,

I could use some positive thoughts for what I am trying to accomplish today. I thank you in advance and please please let this work.

no word from the cousin yet, but that's ok. I just thought I'd verify what family I might have left. admittedly I am not easy to put in a box and that makes some folks uncomfortable.
Like I said to a good friend earlier today:
I am who I am. It's too hard to change for other people so I gave it up.

love you caregivers.

lovbob
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Spell check, i just go as far as I can and it lights up and I clicked the correct spelling...usually works unless it gets confused and thinks you meant something else ...handkerchief...hand basket?, neckerchief?, I have got some really weird ones on spell check...
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I have Mom's robe that smells like her. Won't wash it. Guess I should put it in something like you did the handkerchief.

J, I'm impressed that you knew how to spell handkerchief. I sure would not have. :)
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Welcome. I still have my grandmas Diabetes stuff too...and her lipstick and a handkerchief that smells like her I keep it in a zip lock so it stays that way...
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Thank you, J.
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Glad you are doing ok and not rushing things and are surrounded by understanding loved ones....
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Good Morning Everyone. Kind of a tough morning. Hubby is gonna use Mom's room for his ebay room. That is fine with me, in fact I suggested it. I cried when I put Mom's clothes away (mostly her jammies) that had been washed but did okay otherwise. It was actually my idea and I think it will be good because it will be less of a reminder in some weird way. I hope Mom doesn't mind. If her spirit is somehow in there she will enjoy the company if not the clutter. Also, I'm sick of all of his ebay stuff cluttering up the house. It will go in there and the rest of the house will be neat and tidy I hope. I told him I was not ready for him to clear off the top of Dad's dresser yet. It has Mom's diabetes stuff and other stuff. Too soon for that. Hubby has stepped up to the plate in a big way since Mom passed. I think it has matured him some. He's more patient and and even more loving.

We had our Secret Santa gift exchange at work yesterday. Mine gave me a set of Vanilla Sugar fragrance bubble bath, lotion and such. Very nice. Also, our boss gave us each a scented candle. Mine is Caribbean Escape. I guess she knows me pretty well. :)

Still tired. Really cold here too. Today is my last day of work until after Christmas. It's a good thing cause we got lots to do.

Have as good a day as you can have, my angels.

love,
miz
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And finally:

Two elderly women were out driving in a large car--both could barely see over the dashboard. As they were cruising along, they came to an intersection. The stoplight was red, but they just went on through.

The woman in the passenger seat thought to herself 'I must be losing it. I could have sworn we just went through a red light.' After a few more minutes, they came to another intersection and the light was red. Again, they went right through. The woman in the passenger seat was almost sure that the light had been red but was really concerned that she was losing it. She was getting nervous.
At the next intersection, sure enough, the light was red and they went on through. So, she turned to the other woman and said, “Mildred, did you know that we just ran through three red lights in a row? You could have killed us both!”

Mildred turned to her and said, “Oh, crap, am I driving?”

lovbob
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Good Morning! Maybe you'll heard this one before...but I like it!! Have a good day everyone! - Mom's bday today, she's a spry 83!

After a long illness, a woman died and arrived at the Gates of Heaven. While she was waiting for Saint Peter to greet her, she peeked through the Gates. She saw that it was so beautiful.

Saint Peter came by; the woman said to him "This is such a wonderful place! How do I get in?"

"You have to spell a word", Saint Peter told her.
"Which word?" the woman asked.

"Love."

The woman correctly spelled "Love" and Saint Peter welcomed her into Heaven.

About six months later, Saint Peter came to the woman and asked her to watch the Gates of Heaven for him that day. While the woman was guarding the Gates of Heaven, her husband arrived.

"I'm surprised to see you," the woman said. "How have you been?" "Oh, I've been doing pretty well since you died," her husband told her. "I married the beautiful young nurse who took care of you while you were ill. And then I won the lottery. I sold the little house you and I lived in and bought a big mansion. And my wife and I traveled all around the world. We were on vacation and I went water skiing today. I fell, the ski hit my head, and here I am. How do I get in?"

"You have to spell a word", the woman told him.

"Which word?" her husband asked.

"Czechoslovakia."
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Variation on an earlier story:

A little old lady was going up and down the halls in a nursing home. As she walked, she would flip up the hem of her nightgown and say “Supersex.”

She walked up to an elderly man in a wheelchair. Flipping her gown at him, she said, “Supersex.”

He sat silently for a moment or two and finally answered, “I'll take the soup.”

lovbob
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The Holiday Day Inn sounds perfect, how far in advance can we book? Pool count me in!
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BOAT!

Good Morning Caregivers:

Two elderly ladies had been friends for many decades. Over the years, they had shared all kinds of activities and adventures. Lately, their activities had been limited to meeting a few times a week to play cards.

One day, they were playing cards when one looked at the other and said, “Now don't get mad at me. I know we've been friends for a long time, but I just can't think of your name! I've thought and thought, but I can't remember it. Please tell me what your name is.”

Her friend glared at her for at least three minutes; she just stared and glared at her. Finally she said, “How soon do you need to know?”

lovbob
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Georgia - So sorry to hear about your kitty. Not fair. So sad...I hope today is a better day for you.

xoxo
-SS
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GP, Great Idea!

I have a vague memory of a story about groups of elderly getting together with one or two paid assistants and living on cruise ships for cheaper than a home. Don't know if its true or not but....BOAT!
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An old guy has been sitting at a bar for hours when three huge, mean-looking bikers walk in. Laughing and carrying on, they sit at a table and order a round. The old guy gets an evil grin on his face and slowly turns to look at the biggest meanest looking biker and says to him-

"I saw your granma naked through her kitchen door today."

The bikers stop thier loud laughing and the bar goes silent. The biggest biker just turns and stares at the old guy.

The old guy slowly gets up off his barstool, walks toward the biggest biker and says to him-

"Your granma looked so good there in her kitchen naked that I went in and had her right there on the floor."

The two other bikers are steaming mad at this point and look at the biggest biker who just keeps staring at the old guy.

The old guy slowly walks right up to the biggest biker's face and yells "And she liked it dammit, SHE LIKED IT!"

By now the other two bikers are on thier feet and the biggest biker gets up also, looks the old man in the eye, and says-

"My Granma's been dead for ten years, and you're drunk. So now go on home grampa and I'll be by in the morning with breakfast. I love you."
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I'm sold.

I bet the radar doesn't need to be replaced at a Holiday Inn.

Ted! THAT was GREAT!

Miz!! 6700! Boat time for you and Husband!!

Was that you, GP? I am so sorry about your kitty. sux.
I'll holler at a caregiver tomorrow.

turning in, but first:

Three retirees, each with a hearing loss, were playing golf one fine March day. One remarked to the other, “Windy, isn't it?”;
“No,”the second man replied, “it's Thursday.”;
And the third man chimed in, “So am I. Let's have a beer.”

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Thanks everybody, for your support! I love you guys!

This one's not as good as the 'frog', but cute...It's where I wanna go!

NO Nursing Home for me!

With the average cost for a Nursing Home per day reaching $188.00,there is a better way when we get old & feeble. I have already checked on reservations at the Holiday Inn for a combined long term stay discount and senior discount of $49.23 per night. That leaves $138.77 a day for:


1. Breakfast, lunch and dinner in any restaurant I want, or room service.

2. Laundry, gratuities and special TV movies. Plus, they provide a swimming pool, a workout room, a lounge, washer, dryer, etc. Most have free toothpaste and razors, and all have free shampoo and soap.

3. They treat you like a customer, not a patient. $5 worth of tips a day will have the entire staff scrambling to help you. There is a city Bus stop out front, and seniors ride free. The Handicap bus will also pick you up (if you fake a decent limp). To meet other nice people, call a Church bus on Sundays. For a change of scenery, take the Airport shuttle Bus and eat at one of the nice restaurants there. While you're at the airport, fly somewhere. Otherwise, the cash keeps building up.

4. It takes months to get into decent nursing homes. Holiday Inn will take your reservation today. And you are not stuck in one place forever, you can move from Inn to Inn, or even from city to city. Want to see Hawaii? They have a Holiday Inn there too.

5. TV broken? Light bulbs need changing? Need a mattress replaced? No problem. They fix everything, and apologize for the inconvenience. The Inn has a night security person and daily room service. The maid checks to see if you are ok. If not, they will call the undertaker or an ambulance. If you fall and break a hip, Medicare will pay for the hip, and Holiday Inn will upgrade you to a suite for the rest of your life.

6. And no worries about visits from family. They will always be glad to find you, and probably check in for a few days mini-vacation. The grand kids can use the pool. What more can you ask for?


So: As I reach the Golden age I'm facing it with a grin. I'll just check into the nearest Holiday Inn!

Love & bunches of hugs!
Peach
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The owners should be punished. The dog should not have been running lose like that.
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Georgia that is so terrible my heart goes out to you, and RELOAD ! That would kill me to have that happen to one of my pets! find em turn em in put em down...
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Georgia, sorry to hear about your kitty.
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Georgia, when the dogs form packs they are terrible. One of my friends lived in the outskirst of Rome and he had a big house with some land. He kept some sheep. His dog lived happily and peacefully with the sheep. One night, a pack of stray dogs arrived in his land, and his own dog joined the pack and they killed all the sheep! They are like Hooligans. I have lost a couple of cats for this reason, too. No way to avoid it, unless you keep the cats always at home. Which, according to me, is not the ideal life for a cat. I always run the risk of losing mine for one reason or another. Anyway, it is a matter of opinion.
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Ted, I am Herman...
Liked the one about Mary Gandhi Poppins
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