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Christina28 - Amen on the Mother Teresa post. I just wish I had that amount of humility. Every day I try to think that way. My friends tell me that I will have no regrets and I believe that that is true. Where my deadbeat siblings will continue to live with their regret, long past my parents' passing. Or maybe not. Not for me judge.
Austin - congrats on our newest milestone. Bobbie, how proud are you? Just look at what you started, oh my God! Are you an earthly being or an angel who's come to save us all? Christina - well said! We really do try to keep things in perspective but I, only speaking for myself, have to remind myself, many times out loud, of what is truly important. Some would consider me crazy, talking to myself. Me, I'm just glad that I don't usually expect an answer from myself to know I'm not yet schizo. Just got done cleaning urine bags, again spend some of the time talking to myself, wondering what my sibs would do in the same situation. And then reality sets in and I say to myself, get real - there's no way in hell they would be doing this. Never would I have thought I would consider it a chore no different than laundry, dishes, mopping floors, etc. Just glad I can do it for my dad and keep him in his home where he feels the most comfortable and safe. LIke I told Miz, no regrets, knowing you're doing all you can to make their last years, months, days, hours the most comfortable, loving, best you can despite all the other issues at hand. I know I said good night before but this time I really mean it. Have to be at work at 6am again - truly sucks this time of the year in a surgery center. Sweet dreams of better days. Kuli
Hi Angels. Just checking in. More emotional today and tonight. Wrote a "Card of Thanks" to put in the local paper where I work. They really did it up nice with a pretty border for free. Angels all around me. I'm tellin' ya. Touching notes and cards in the mail. Hubby took care of me tonight. Held me while I cried, soothed me, made my soup, and watched a movie with me. Shutter Island. Was pretty good. More of a me movie than a hubby movie. But he kinda liked it too. Gonna go have one more smoke and then go to bed. Hope I can sleep in the morning. Been waking up early and then can't sleep. Wonder when I'll get rested up. Maybe on the boat? Friend did my nails again today for free in leu of flowers. :) Helped me with my regrets. Good friend. Poor Pirate. Sad for her. Good night my friends. Love yous.
I've been catching up here with a glass of Chardonnay, can hardly scroll with my messed up nerves/shoulder and do the 'next', 'previous' thing, trying to find where the heck everyone is. What I have scanned and concluded from the gist of the discussion is this: What Would Mother Teresa Do? ( especially if she were alive, rest her saintly soul) Do you think she would worry about "friends"? NO, her mission was to help the lonely, sick, and homeless die with dignity. I am not equating anyone here with MT, least of all myself, but I think we need to get our priorities sorted out. There is NOTHING more important than the simplest act of human kindness, for it is done with a pure heart. There is nothing more decent than keeping ones word to care for another's needs, and continue to put your own last. Friends, breathe in deeply, and know that what you are doing is worthy of honor, set apart from the rancor of society. Allow for a renewal of your strength as necessary, a venting of your concerns, and be proud that only "the select" comprehend what you do. Peace, and Cheers. christina
How many episodes of Everybody Loves Raymond are there? Watching reruns & reruns & reruns .... Sir is Frank's character for sure. It's in my blood, folks! That's my excuse & I'm sticking to it.
In regards to young people here.. as Bette Davis said, "Gettin old ain't for sissies" and was she ever 10000% right on that one! We were ALL young at one point and the only alternative to getting old, and there is ONLY one is to die before you get there. If someone invents a new alternative nobody will ever be old again..That's for sure because nobody would be fool enough to try.
Pirate - we're here with you. Take comfort in the fact that you were there to hold his hand until the ambulance came. I pray I will be able to be with my dad when he goes. As a nurse, I've seen too many people die alone or amongst strangers and I personally wouldn't want to go that way. Wish I could pass along my dad's current caregiver. What a blessing she has been! Who knew I could actually find someone who truly cares about the person she is paid to care for?
Ted - I just had a conversation with someone today saying that so many of my "friends" don't even try to keep in touch because I can't make plans to meet for dinner, etc. I was telling this co-worker that I realized a few months back that those that are there when everything's done and check up on me from time to time with no pressure are the friends I will have for life. If that means none of my previous friends fit that bill, I guess I'll make new ones when my life is once again my own. I thank God for blessing me with the friends I have here. I tell my daughter that it's actually sad that these friends who I've never actually seen in person or spent physical time with care more about me than my own sibs. And as far as your venting? What the f**#? Isn't that what we're all here for anyway? We all just take turns so never, ever, ever apologize or feel bad! I am sorry I've been out of the loop for the past week or so. I threw out my back a week ago Monday and it pretty much pushed me over the edge of that dreaded black hole, but held one with my nails and scratched myself back out so far. The new doc my dad saw put him on meds that have not only made him dazed and confused but also very unsteady, fell at least a dozen times. Meds are stopped as of today thanks to the nurse practitioner (she's wonderful and practical) so hopefully he will clear up and not be weaving like he's had a bottle of vodka by tomorrow. Poor guy! Anyway, I have been trying to keep up with the posts and always, always keep each and everyone of you in my prayers! Hugs to all! Hope you have a peaceful and uneventful evening! Kuli
Ted, I appreciate your concern about what my daughter would think of your ranting.Ranting she understands and has heard plenty of-what she doesn't understand is why are her uncles so mean-why they did her granddad like they did-how a educated man can sit there and plot and plann on taking what another has worked for-the corruption in government and why there is a elem. school by a explosive plant in America.Her dad had cancer from the time she was born,she understands everything you are saying and has experience it also.I was about 40 when I figured out fair-weather friends,she already knows the difference. People abandoned us after Jeff died,the grief counselor says it was painful for them to see us in pain-Horse Manure to that.Then we were abandoned by some of my oldest and I thought closest friends during the lawsuit-now that it is over-people are coming back out of the woodwork now being friendly-which I am polite to them,but things have changed and I can say no very quick and easy now.I guess my concept of friendship is for better or worst-the buddies loved the better but ran like rats off of a sinkin ship when the bad hit.The up side is I have met some people I would have never had the pleasure of meeting-people with substance .Sometimes good can come out of the very worst situations,just takes patience and a willingness to accept the good.Rant on.......
Well, I guess she told me! Left Mom tied to her wheelchair after supper. Thought I would catch up on posts, not realizing how prolific you all have been! By the time I finished and went to get Mom ready for bed, she had crapped her pants and turned on the gas on the stove! Maybe I should have waited to do my reading. Not!!! Sorry I've been missing in action lately. Not much interest in anything. Still not feeling well even after a week on steroids which made me feel invincible for a while. Been feeling down and let down, and after reading all of your posts, realized the main reason was that I had missed all of you and the constant chatter! Mom is squeaky clean and in bed. A candle is burning off the gas and I surrender to you all! Bobbie, You are a lifeline to all of us and it is so wonderful of you to stick with everyone! I definitely want in on one of those "Bite Me" shirts. The first place I would wear it is to the family X-mas dinner at my sister's house. The 2 of 7 sibs that do the least will be there and I would wear it in their honor! Ted, You have been so positive lately and you shouldn't let 1 night out destroy your good mood! "f" them all! We know you are a good person and won't let you go away! All you newbies, listen well to all of these seasoned caregivers. You are already learning the value of their friendship. Keep on venting. It's the only way to get ant kind of relief from this hell we are all in. Rossella, Never feel guilty about what you say or how you treat your mom. The stress makes all of us do and say things we sometimes can't control. I have been ranting at Mom and the cats a lot lately. Can't seem to help myself. Don't know what happened to the easy going happy-go-lucky person I used to be. Jen, Your words are perfect as usual! Keep up the good work! You put what we do into words the rest of us struggle with. Miz, You are so courageous! You have come a long way in such a short time. I too think Mom was telling you she no longer needs the light. Linda, You are so good to your Pa! Keep up the good work. It's nice to have you watching everyone's back! Peach, Very eloquent speech! Hope to talk to you on Facebook soon. Maxine, Please be careful! Rip, words of wisdom as always. All you who think you know what we are going through, make sure you know what you are talking about before you try to chastise anyone on this thread, or be reading for the bashing that comes your way! Bobbie, Pirate is having a bad time of it lately. trying to find a new caregiver for mom, and just lost a cousin this past weekend. Held his hand until ambulance came, then did the hospital thing with her aunt and had to sign the "pull the plug" paperwork. Got to get some work done before hubby gets home. Talk to you all later. Kathy
I always try to remember................Handle every stressful situation like a dog........if you can't play with it or eat it, pee on it and walk away....... ...
By the way, the 90 year old list - I'm not so sure I agree with all but thought I would pass it along anyway. I sometimes question the alternative to growing old as I watch my dad but who am I to question life.
Ted.....it was not vulgar ranting....you were expressing how you feel and there is nothing to be ashamed of..... this is not a place for young people to hang out....and if "young" people are here it's because either they themselves are taking care of a loved one or someone else in their family is and they can and will be exposed to how hard this "caregiver" job is. Better they learn the tricks of the trade here from those who have gone before them......makes it easier later. And if you can't rant and rave occasionally I really feel like we would end up using "pillow therapy" on ourselves! I enjoy reading your posts and I think you are doing a super fabulous caregiver job!
Love the frog thing run off a copy to show my mom. Know I can't lick my elbow but I will try again later. I bet Gene Simmons can. Here's one: A woman also invented the circular saw. She cut up a pie pan when she saw the motion wasting energy of cross cut saw. Thanks Bobbie. just felt wordy last night. And that topic seems to come up a lot. Along with what Ted is going through, people being dismissive of his work like it is akin to saying "I'm a Housewife" and everyone just shutting you down. I have been AGORAPHOBIC in the past, I don't recommend it. it is people who can get you down, remember who you are and literally shake em off. No matter what they say or try to project they are not perfect whether and the more they dog you, you can be sure the more screwed up they are! Don't worry about the old posts just keep moving forward..They are part of your journey and they can't be erased from you live, let em go and go on from here. Listening to Burl Ives and The Fleetwoods here on yoututbe block out the Hawaiian crap...Man I won't be able to do any Polynesian locales when I get out of here!!! Mom will have her last day I think say the 27th. Then next... On to Petula Clark...just something else...
I hope everyone is doing Ok
Linda I am thinking of you and your Dad and hoping you are OK.
Ted: don't you even think of deleting your posts! It's truth we are going after, and truth sometimes is not flowers and jewels.
Noirvault! Congratulations! This is really gross! There is kind of a friendly competition between us. The person who finds the grossest thing, wins! (I'm joking of course. Better laugh than cry)
Grossed out is relative. Some people claimed to be grossed out by the discussion of picking your nose. Some even claim it makes them physically ill. The woman i care for sits in her own urine half the day before getting up and creeping to the bathroom and I do all her laundry. I would help her there if she would ever even ask, but she won't and the house is so full of clutter that if it ever caught fire there would be NO way in hell she could ever get out in time. I just baited for rats because they were taking over inside and finally got them under control. Now I'm just waiting for their little corpses to begin stinking the place up and I could never get to them because of all the clutter. Toothbrush? Bahh.. That's nothing. It's less gross than licking a stamp handled by a postal worker. ;)
Thanks, By the way, does anyone know how I can delete those ugly posts? I know that we have young folks join us and i'd rather they not see my vulgar ranting.
If your good friends have become jerks, drop them! With no regret. What happens to us is a good way to make a selection...Please, feel that it's you who make a selection, not them! By the way, I don't think they really think you are a downer. Maybe, they are just frightened that one day their life could become less careless than it is now.
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Christina - well said! We really do try to keep things in perspective but I, only speaking for myself, have to remind myself, many times out loud, of what is truly important. Some would consider me crazy, talking to myself. Me, I'm just glad that I don't usually expect an answer from myself to know I'm not yet schizo. Just got done cleaning urine bags, again spend some of the time talking to myself, wondering what my sibs would do in the same situation. And then reality sets in and I say to myself, get real - there's no way in hell they would be doing this. Never would I have thought I would consider it a chore no different than laundry, dishes, mopping floors, etc. Just glad I can do it for my dad and keep him in his home where he feels the most comfortable and safe. LIke I told Miz, no regrets, knowing you're doing all you can to make their last years, months, days, hours the most comfortable, loving, best you can despite all the other issues at hand. I know I said good night before but this time I really mean it. Have to be at work at 6am again - truly sucks this time of the year in a surgery center. Sweet dreams of better days. Kuli
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Are you a lucky gambler, Maxine? You keep hitting Milestones!
We all know your super sweet!
Maybe thats why?
Just stop overdoing the things that hurt your body!
I wish that milestone would bring a kid to shovel snow so you wouldn't need to do it.
What I have scanned and concluded from the gist of the discussion is this: What Would Mother Teresa Do?
( especially if she were alive, rest her saintly soul)
Do you think she would worry about "friends"? NO, her mission was to help the lonely, sick, and homeless die with dignity. I am not equating anyone here with MT, least of all myself, but I think we need to get our priorities sorted out.
There is NOTHING more important than the simplest act of human kindness, for it is done with a pure heart. There is nothing more decent than keeping ones word to care for another's needs, and continue to put your own last. Friends, breathe in deeply, and know that what you are doing is worthy of honor, set apart from the rancor of society.
Allow for a renewal of your strength as necessary, a venting of your concerns, and be proud that only "the select" comprehend what you do. Peace, and Cheers. christina
Maxine AKA Austin hit the 6,000th post without realizing it!!!
Bingo Lady! Did it again! You have a knack!
Ticker Tape, etc.
I somehow made the 6,500th post!
Honors to another brilliant comentator?
How many episodes of Everybody Loves Raymond are there? Watching reruns & reruns & reruns ....
Sir is Frank's character for sure. It's in my blood, folks! That's my excuse & I'm sticking to it.
Write on
We were ALL young at one point and the only alternative to getting old, and there is ONLY one is to die before you get there.
If someone invents a new alternative nobody will ever be old again..That's for sure because nobody would be fool enough to try.
Ted - I just had a conversation with someone today saying that so many of my "friends" don't even try to keep in touch because I can't make plans to meet for dinner, etc. I was telling this co-worker that I realized a few months back that those that are there when everything's done and check up on me from time to time with no pressure are the friends I will have for life. If that means none of my previous friends fit that bill, I guess I'll make new ones when my life is once again my own. I thank God for blessing me with the friends I have here. I tell my daughter that it's actually sad that these friends who I've never actually seen in person or spent physical time with care more about me than my own sibs. And as far as your venting? What the f**#? Isn't that what we're all here for anyway? We all just take turns so never, ever, ever apologize or feel bad!
I am sorry I've been out of the loop for the past week or so. I threw out my back a week ago Monday and it pretty much pushed me over the edge of that dreaded black hole, but held one with my nails and scratched myself back out so far. The new doc my dad saw put him on meds that have not only made him dazed and confused but also very unsteady, fell at least a dozen times. Meds are stopped as of today thanks to the nurse practitioner (she's wonderful and practical) so hopefully he will clear up and not be weaving like he's had a bottle of vodka by tomorrow. Poor guy! Anyway, I have been trying to keep up with the posts and always, always keep each and everyone of you in my prayers! Hugs to all! Hope you have a peaceful and uneventful evening! Kuli
Sorry I've been missing in action lately. Not much interest in anything. Still not feeling well even after a week on steroids which made me feel invincible for a while. Been feeling down and let down, and after reading all of your posts, realized the main reason was that I had missed all of you and the constant chatter!
Mom is squeaky clean and in bed. A candle is burning off the gas and I surrender to you all!
Bobbie, You are a lifeline to all of us and it is so wonderful of you to stick with everyone! I definitely want in on one of those "Bite Me" shirts. The first place I would wear it is to the family X-mas dinner at my sister's house. The 2 of 7 sibs that do the least will be there and I would wear it in their honor!
Ted, You have been so positive lately and you shouldn't let 1 night out destroy your good mood! "f" them all! We know you are a good person and won't let you go away!
All you newbies, listen well to all of these seasoned caregivers. You are already learning the value of their friendship. Keep on venting. It's the only way to get ant kind of relief from this hell we are all in.
Rossella, Never feel guilty about what you say or how you treat your mom. The stress makes all of us do and say things we sometimes can't control. I have been ranting at Mom and the cats a lot lately. Can't seem to help myself. Don't know what happened to the easy going happy-go-lucky person I used to be.
Jen, Your words are perfect as usual! Keep up the good work! You put what we do into words the rest of us struggle with.
Miz, You are so courageous! You have come a long way in such a short time. I too think Mom was telling you she no longer needs the light.
Linda, You are so good to your Pa! Keep up the good work. It's nice to have you watching everyone's back!
Peach, Very eloquent speech! Hope to talk to you on Facebook soon.
Maxine, Please be careful!
Rip, words of wisdom as always.
All you who think you know what we are going through, make sure you know what you are talking about before you try to chastise anyone on this thread, or be reading for the bashing that comes your way!
Bobbie, Pirate is having a bad time of it lately. trying to find a new caregiver for mom, and just lost a cousin this past weekend. Held his hand until ambulance came, then did the hospital thing with her aunt and had to sign the "pull the plug" paperwork.
Got to get some work done before hubby gets home. Talk to you all later. Kathy
This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!
Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important vital organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come...
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
Friends are the family that we choose.
****** **** *** ******* ** ***** ******** ******** *******
eh? eh? take THAT!!!!
lovbob
Thanks Bobbie. just felt wordy last night. And that topic seems to come up a lot. Along with what Ted is going through, people being dismissive of his work like it is akin to saying "I'm a Housewife" and everyone just shutting you down.
I have been AGORAPHOBIC in the past, I don't recommend it. it is people who can get you down, remember who you are and literally shake em off. No matter what they say or try to project they are not perfect whether and the more they dog you, you can be sure the more screwed up they are! Don't worry about the old posts just keep moving forward..They are part of your journey and they can't be erased from you live, let em go and go on from here.
Listening to Burl Ives and The Fleetwoods here on yoututbe block out the Hawaiian crap...Man I won't be able to do any Polynesian locales when I get out of here!!!
Mom will have her last day I think say the 27th. Then next...
On to Petula Clark...just something else...
I hope everyone is doing Ok
Linda I am thinking of you and your Dad and hoping you are OK.
Noirvault! Congratulations! This is really gross! There is kind of a friendly competition between us. The person who finds the grossest thing, wins! (I'm joking of course. Better laugh than cry)
The woman i care for sits in her own urine half the day before getting up and creeping to the bathroom and I do all her laundry. I would help her there if she would ever even ask, but she won't and the house is so full of clutter that if it ever caught fire there would be NO way in hell she could ever get out in time.
I just baited for rats because they were taking over inside and finally got them under control. Now I'm just waiting for their little corpses to begin stinking the place up and I could never get to them because of all the clutter.
Toothbrush? Bahh.. That's nothing. It's less gross than licking a stamp handled by a postal worker. ;)
By the way, I don't think they really think you are a downer. Maybe, they are just frightened that one day their life could become less careless than it is now.