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Ha! That will sure make my evening fun! Seriously I don't think you have to worry about that. It's very difficult for me to get my mind off of mom no matter where I am if i'm not here with her. Even going to the supermarket is hard becuase I can't focus on what i'm doing worrying if mom has fallen or is lonely or scared or.... well, you guys know what I mean. But it is just plain impossible for me to think that I can be here 24 HRS. I have no help at all from sibs, and can't afford or even find a sitter willing to stay for a couple hours at a time. So, I thank you for caring, it's like having mom back for a little bit, and I promise I will be careful.
Here is an exercise for all those wise folks like Amber Jane:
If you don't have one at home, visit a nursing home & collect a wet, ripe Depends. We know the person did not mean to crap & piss but we also know it happens.
Take the offensive diaper to your vehicle. Close the windows & try to drive in rush hour traffic. Imagine you are on your way home from a devastating doctor's appt. after having a terminal diagnosis. Imagine the person who has soiled that vile diaper is sitting in the waste while you are helplessly in gridlock due to a snowstorm ...
chances are those tell us compassion people have yet to experience anything of that nature. I welcome them to try it out to gain such wisdom. Otherwise, I'm with the captain. Bite Me!!!
omg yea i want to just go some where i know mom wont go any where but in the house but that is where the truble started and the closes and safest place to go is 20 miles away and is walmart so what's a girl gona do i gues i' ll have to just hang out with you guys maybe moma will let me buy some tequlia better not i might not want to quit hey any body got skype maybe we can share drinks through the camers no better not dont have money to replace them and then i would not see my son in california oh well GLAD I FOUND YOU GUYS lol (lots of love)
ted , make sure u make it back home after the pub . i always worry about my bil going out when he waits till his mom is in bed , he slurps way too much and drives ! i told him whats going to happen to mom if u got arrested ? , he realized after one night he came home at 3 am / mom was in kitchen fryin bacon and the whole house was filled with smoke , that woke him up and realized he cant do that anymore . i told him that one day shes going to walk out of the house looking for him and shes going to be buried in deep snow ! then we would have to wait till spring to find her . i dont think he does that anymore . at least i hope he dont . u be careful going out ted ...
Ted, I know what you mean about getting a little agoraphobic. When I have some time off I don't know what to do with myself after an hour or two. I think it is from having to be "on guard" all the time, it's hard to relax. What scent of Febreeze will you be wearing? My Mom is doing better today, has been eating and drinking OK. Nurse coming to check her out tomorrow.
Think I'll spruce myself up, spray on a little fabreze, and go to the christmas party at the local pub tonite (after mom's asleep of course) I'm afraid I'm starting to get alittle agraphobic (the one where your afraid to leave the house?), So i consider it a health issue to see people and do stuff.
i would suggest we put a moratorium on new post for a day so that we can all go back and reread from the start, but I for one would nuts without my regular fix of you guys.
I wish it were easier to track these posts. Looks like 6,500 will happen today ~ sometimes I'd like to reread one & find it so slow back paging. Any ideas?
Thought maybe we could all use a light-hearted banter -----probably not the best place to post but maybe it will give someone a chuckle.................................................... With time,women gain weight because we accumulate so much information and wisdom in our heads that when there is no more room, it distributes out to the rest of our bodies. So we aren't heavier, we are enormously cultured, educated, and happy. Beginning today, when I look at my butt in the mirror I will think, “Good grief, look how smart I am!”
And that folks is where the term "Smart Ass" comes from .......:)
We have the music on 24/7 in his room, and census confirms, decorations it is. I just feel so filled with emotions, and all of you have made my day that started out sad and just irritating if you will, much brighter for sure. Thanks. Mom just went to the market, ahhhh peace lol lol lol...... they have been married 55 years, imagine such a thing. For the past 7 months mom and I have been like a married couple while taking care of dad, every so often we get into these arguments, and of course within an hour, we were fine. Dad would say, oh you and mom are not divorcing thats good.... lol lol
My mom hated the oxygen mask in the hospital. She kept taking it off. They even put some balls in some of those socks they give you to wear at hospitals and stuck them on her hands. She still managed to easily get the mask off. Made her kinda look like a boxer. :) Finally they gave up and put her on the nasal thingie. She didn't like that either but mostly kept it in there. The bad thing was that she was breathing through her mouth a lot so the oxygen was not helping. Poor Mama. All of that irritation for nothing. But I know they had to try everything and I am very glad they did.
Just checked on dad, he is the same. The nurse was here last night put the oxygen on to help with his breathing. If this was 2 months ago, he would be pulling the nasal canual out of his nose and screaming at mom and I telling us we are just stupid lol lol.
Thanks Rosesella, Hugs and Kisses can certainly makes things a bit brighter for sure. I am thinking later today, i may put some holiday decorations up, still not sure yet. Maybe good therapy, i have a table top tree i am going to put in dads room, for him. He always loved christmas and hopefull it will brighten his path to the next level Mom is having such a hard time, she makes me crazy lol, but then again when doesnt she lol lol... I love her dearly.
Good Noon Time to all. I have missed all my family on here, and thought during this difficult time as I sit with dad I can connect with all of you. Being a caregiver is not easy task for sure, I cant tell you how many times the frustration got to me and i would just vent to my daughter mostly, let me tell you some of the things i had been thinking were not so nice. All in all i am glad that i am here and have been here for dad, but let me tell ya, during the weekly er visits and 2-4 hrs of sleep a night, i was not feeling so merry and thankful to be a caregiver. Unless someone totally walks in our shoes they can never understand!!!! I thank god that bobbie founded this site/blog it has been a major lifesaver for me. Although dad is passing, i will be continuing to care for mom. So this site is my life line in so many ways. SO THANK YOU ALL MY CARGIVER FAMILY, EACH AND EVERYONE ON HERE IS AN ANGEL, AND believe me even angels have bad days.
Ted, I like your idea very much, but please stop changing the image of your profile. You make my head turn turn turn. My brain can contain just 2000 bit of information and you occupy 1800 of them (when I have to think: Who is this pig, now?) BTW I love real pigs. They are intelligent animals and they can become like pets. Ask George Clooney. In the other house where I lived there was a female pig named Gina whom I loved dearly and she had become the leader of my dogs pack. I took her to walk every night when my landlord slept. My dogs followed her! It is a shame (again) I did not take pictures of that incredible sight
p.s. I am so worried about her because I empathize - I know that in another ten years I would probably say and think the same things she says and thinks now. Shame on me!
Guys, I'm so proud of you all. I know you don't need me to remind you, but let's continue helping Marissa as much as we can. Georgia you really did a good job. I think I understood Bobbie has contacted one of the people responsible for this site? I have advised Marissa to leave her country and go to another one, where there is a kind of assistance. Maybe it is drastic... Maybe it's the only solution. I love you all. You are great and strong people.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you don't have one at home, visit a nursing home & collect a wet, ripe Depends. We know the person did not mean to crap & piss but we also know it happens.
Take the offensive diaper to your vehicle. Close the windows & try to drive in rush hour traffic. Imagine you are on your way home from a devastating doctor's appt. after having a terminal diagnosis.
Imagine the person who has soiled that vile diaper is sitting in the waste while you are helplessly in gridlock due to a snowstorm ...
chances are those tell us compassion people have yet to experience anything of that nature.
I welcome them to try it out to gain such wisdom.
Otherwise, I'm with the captain.
Bite Me!!!
better not i might not want to quit
hey any body got skype
maybe we can share drinks through the camers
no better not dont have money to replace them and then i would not see my son in california oh well
GLAD I FOUND YOU GUYS
lol (lots of love)
i always worry about my bil going out when he waits till his mom is in bed , he slurps way too much and drives ! i told him whats going to happen to mom if u got arrested ? , he realized after one night he came home at 3 am / mom was in kitchen fryin bacon and the whole house was filled with smoke ,
that woke him up and realized he cant do that anymore .
i told him that one day shes going to walk out of the house looking for him and shes going to be buried in deep snow ! then we would have to wait till spring to find her .
i dont think he does that anymore . at least i hope he dont .
u be careful going out ted ...
My Mom is doing better today, has been eating and drinking OK. Nurse coming to check her out tomorrow.
Frustrating with a day like yesterday ...
Kitties on the keyboard don't always help Purrrrr Purrrr .......
Any ideas?
Deef & Jen .. where are you??
information and wisdom in our heads that when there is no more room, it distributes out to the rest of our bodies. So we aren't heavier, we are enormously cultured, educated, and happy.
Beginning today, when I look at my butt in the mirror I
will think,
“Good
grief, look how smart I am!”
And that folks is where the term "Smart Ass" comes from .......:)
love,
miz
BTW I love real pigs. They are intelligent animals and they can become like pets. Ask George Clooney.
In the other house where I lived there was a female pig named Gina whom I loved dearly and she had become the leader of my dogs pack. I took her to walk every night when my landlord slept. My dogs followed her! It is a shame (again) I did not take pictures of that incredible sight
love,
miz
I love you all. You are great and strong people.