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Cbsissy, you must be a saint. I am not! I can't say I'm delighted to live among stinky things. Sorry if I am cruel, but my mother "decided" to have me, so she had the DUTY to take care of me and clean me. I have not decided to come in this world, so, sorry, I don't have toward her the same DUTIES she had toward me. If I take care of her, it's my CHOICE, which is different.
Shame on you! How many times did you gross your mom out as young children? The little hand in the diaper playing in poop, picking noses, licking snot, playing in toilets. You need to remember your mom has been through grosser things than using a tooth brush for a hair brush. How much does a new one cost??? And as far as being a messy eater... Did she give birth to a perfect eater, never making a mess? I have pictures where I had food from head to toe when I was small, a mess my mom was loving enough to overlook. I am thankful for the time I have with my mom and do keep in mind her state of mind. I feed her and change her messy pants, making sure she is clean and dry. I comfort her through her confusion and do everything in my power to make her feel loved and never complain.
Boy, you guys sure have been busy today! It's taken me a while to catch up, but well worth it! I made the mistake of taking my laptop to bed with me, it's after 2 am & I'm still up! lol Rip, I'm sorry that I missed you!
Angie, you're in my thoughts and prayers! Please keep us updated.
Will post some 'fun' stuff hopefully tomorrow, but wanted to let you guys know that I've done a little research on Marissa's situation & have found what seems to be the national site for the Philippeans. It includes the Philippines Government Offices Directory, complete with names, offices, phone numbers & email addresses. The web-site address is philippeancountry DOT com (I know that y'all know how to enter that info the correct way online.) Bobbie, I know that you'd have a better idea of who to contact on the list & what to ask. Will you please see if you can find the right people to ask on there to help Marissa? I did find out that most people in the Philippeans respect their elderly & they are mostly cared for by the family, (it'a an honor thing) but they do have nursing homes. Some are private & some are government run for people with little money available. There are supposed to be 1-2 available in each province. That might be of help to Marissa instead of the other that she was thinking of. Bobbie, if I can help you, please let me know.
Thanks everybody for caring so much about others! Smiles & hugs all around! Peach
well, Amber Jane, your timing & tone came at a very poor time. Your words seemed to verbally attack us. Last thing we need is a naive lecture. You need to realize some history - its way too much to try to explain. You might begin with post #1
ssk, tomorrow ask her what she's doing. Explain to her that if she doesn't eat it will be very painful so she must eat to avoid the pain. Tell her that not eating will not kill her it will simply make her hurt more than she has ever experienced. my mom did that and that explanation worked for her, maybe it will work for your mom. good luck and keep us posted!
I'm turning in. I have the staysail hanging in the pilothouse doorway to keep the cold draft out and the Cat is losing her mind stuffing herself in and out of the doorway and rolling around in the sail. Goofball Cat. nightynight. lovbob
I'm worried about my Mom. She's been refusing to eat anything today which is unlike her. She's so sweet and kind and nice, I hate the thought of losing her someday. guess I'll get some sleep and see what tomorrow brings.
if she does something, her child will suffer. She needs out. and she's only 40 and she has a full life ahead but won't see it until she is free. heartbreaking. thank you angels for taking the time to help when you are all so tired and spent caring for your own problems. Sweet sweet angels.
i believe she raises a pertinent and legitimate ethical question, but I agree that we should give her every strength we can to find an alternative that will allow her peace of mind and strength to properly raise a child that has a full life ahead.
lets just hoping shes just venting out and dont mean what she said . 19 yrs is a long time , sure hope there is some kind of help out there , i did give her a hug and told her to hop on this thread and she will feel so much better , hope she will do that . cross fingers , bless her heart ,,, i shall pray for her .
everybody post on her wall with hugs. It's a start and when she goes to bed tonight maybe there will be a little spark of love in there to get her through to the morning. I'm sitting here crying, lovbob
I am worried about the lady mhmarfil. read her stuff and profile and hugs. she is ready for meltdown. i don't know how to help because she is in the Phillipines.
I am going to send her a hug. Looks like she has already hit her mom. She's crying out for help. I wrote to Carol already.
oh my angels. just when we think we have it bad....
brb off to give her a hug. what to say what to say. Join me?
"Where do we want to go from here?" To hell and back. "Is there a way to shorten the life span of my mother?" See: "Criminal minds", "Law and order" to get some ideas "What do I charge?" Nothing, I'm charged by bills "I am so tired of people telling me God is teaching" and so on... God is teaching me an immense patience....
WOO-HOO! I accept that boat and want to thank... eh forget it. yes men also get menopause, it took me 5 minutes to figure what the 6400 was. BOAT TIME!
love the new icon. i know that we think that we might have th eearly onset but it is part of the stress. I know that I would have forgotten my butt except that it is bolted on.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Cbsissy, you must be a saint. I am not! I can't say I'm delighted to live among stinky things. Sorry if I am cruel, but my mother "decided" to have me, so she had the DUTY to take care of me and clean me. I have not decided to come in this world, so, sorry, I don't have toward her the same DUTIES she had toward me. If I take care of her, it's my CHOICE, which is different.
Angie, you're in my thoughts and prayers! Please keep us updated.
Will post some 'fun' stuff hopefully tomorrow, but wanted to let you guys know that I've done a little research on Marissa's situation & have found what seems to be the national site for the Philippeans. It includes the Philippines Government Offices Directory, complete with names, offices, phone numbers & email addresses. The web-site address is philippeancountry DOT com (I know that y'all know how to enter that info the correct way online.) Bobbie, I know that you'd have a better idea of who to contact on the list & what to ask. Will you please see if you can find the right people to ask on there to help Marissa? I did find out that most people in the Philippeans respect their elderly & they are mostly cared for by the family, (it'a an honor thing) but they do have nursing homes. Some are private & some are government run for people with little money available. There are supposed to be 1-2 available in each province. That might be of help to Marissa instead of the other that she was thinking of. Bobbie, if I can help you, please let me know.
Thanks everybody for caring so much about others!
Smiles & hugs all around!
Peach
Your words seemed to verbally attack us. Last thing we need is a naive lecture.
You need to realize some history - its way too much to try to explain.
You might begin with post #1
ssk, tomorrow ask her what she's doing.
Explain to her that if she doesn't eat it will be very painful so she must eat to avoid the pain. Tell her that not eating will not kill her it will simply make her hurt more than she has ever experienced.
my mom did that and that explanation worked for her, maybe it will work for your mom.
good luck and keep us posted!
I'm turning in.
I have the staysail hanging in the pilothouse doorway to keep the cold draft out and the Cat is losing her mind stuffing herself in and out of the doorway and rolling around in the sail.
Goofball Cat.
nightynight.
lovbob
She needs out. and she's only 40 and she has a full life ahead but won't see it until she is free.
heartbreaking.
thank you angels for taking the time to help when you are all so tired and spent caring for your own problems.
Sweet sweet angels.
lovbob
19 yrs is a long time , sure hope there is some kind of help out there ,
i did give her a hug and told her to hop on this thread and she will feel so much better , hope she will do that . cross fingers , bless her heart ,,, i shall pray for her .
I'm sitting here crying,
lovbob
I am worried about the lady mhmarfil. read her stuff and profile and hugs. she is ready for meltdown. i don't know how to help because she is in the Phillipines.
I am going to send her a hug. Looks like she has already hit her mom. She's crying out for help. I wrote to Carol already.
oh my angels. just when we think we have it bad....
brb off to give her a hug. what to say what to say. Join me?
lovbob
"Is there a way to shorten the life span of my mother?" See: "Criminal minds", "Law and order" to get some ideas
"What do I charge?" Nothing, I'm charged by bills
"I am so tired of people telling me God is teaching" and so on...
God is teaching me an immense patience....
love the new icon. i know that we think that we might have th eearly onset but it is part of the stress. I know that I would have forgotten my butt except that it is bolted on.
lovbob
ted ure killin me ! menopause ! dont u men go thru menopause too ?
oohhh... did I make 6400?
I never knew who 'they' are/were and I've heard about 'they' all my life. Never met 'them'.
lovbob
Do you see? The mental confusion rises!