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Hooray for the ramp getting done!!!!!!!!! Now you should christen it with a bottle of champagne ... well, maybe not. Maybe you should drink the champagne ON the ramp - hate to waste good alcohol.
Hmm ramp update...It is "done"...We are waiting for the inspector to come sign off on it. Dave tells me this guy is the only one he has EVER encountered who said nails not screws...apparently it is one for the books now...The roof that grandpa put up himself incorrectly 20 years ago, is I don't know going to be fixed removed re done I don't know but it is leaking down the wall now...The main guy working ON the ramp for two weeks called just now and is mad because the other guys finished HIS JOB and they took his tools for him (This is the mans LIVELIHOOD) and he wants to come by and check they didn't forget anything..Man it isn't my fault!
Anyhow, it is thawing majorly here slush slush slush off the roof down yer neck...LOOK OUT, FLuummppph off the trees. very excitin..
Castoff my Mom still pushes my buttons but try to ignor her firey arrows the funy thing we are ok on the phone she will be 92 soon and thinks she in independent but could not live alone if two of the other tenents did not help her out and my sister did not live nearby.
Looks like we are moving the boat tomorrow so I am wrapping up everything here. Sweet! We will run on the inside (Intracoastal Waterway) North to Jacksonville and be hauled out for the rest of the repairs. Finally.
Wish me luck. I'm driving. I spent all this time perusing the charts and it boils down to: leave Marina. Make left.
Never ceases to amaze me the crazy things they do......the other morning I went down to make sure mil was up and around since remodeler was there to work on her bathroom.....she is still in bed so I tell her she needs to go to bathroom, etc and I go to intercom in living room to tell hubby it will be just a minute and she jumps out of bed and hollers "okay" on the bedroom intercom......lol. Didn't even bother to remind her she was talking to me. Off to Wal-Mart now.......hope you all have a wonderful day filled with some peace.
Miz, Good thoughts from Austin. Keeping busy/distracted.....not right away, but you will need to get out & do things to fill the time void. There's plenty out there.....volunteer? Bobbie, Getting a little Freudian are we? lol
Got mom's groceries yesterday. Her apt is set up so that you can't open the door to enter if the closet door is open....she was in there when I arrived but didn't hear me knock. I gently half closed the other door to enter & was in the kitchen when she came out. I said hi but she must have thought I was still in the hallway. "Is that you?....I'll be out of your way in a minute..". As I watched her from the kitchen stand and block the entrance for what seemed like forever......"I'm right here mom.....Is that you?...I'll be out of your way in a minute" (still blocking the door)...."No mom, I'm already inside"..."What? I'll be out of your way in a minute".....Honest, it was something out of a Laurel & Hardy movie. When she finally realized I was in the kitchen putting away the food she knew she was busted for intentionally blocking the door & was all sheepish & sweet. You would think...maybe she didn't hear me, but she did have her ear in & could hear everthing I said after that. Crazy can't even push my buttons efficiently anymore. Oh well. Another doc visit again today....hoping it goes peacefully.
Miz -take care of yourself be kind to yourself. My husband was creameted also and we had a memorial service when everyone could get together-his ashes are in a nice urn my son picked out it is marble and my husband would have liked in-it is on a shelf near where he use to sit-once his bills are paid in about 5 years I will get him a headstone. I am glad your family is with you. I found the first year easier because we had two weddings and had my hight school reunion and went out to PA a lot -for the craft fair and when Mom had surgery and again at Christmas-this year has been worse for me-just recently thought of good memories of his loving Christmas shopping I guess as time goes by the happier times will enter my thoughts instead of his anger. You will be able to help others in time-that is a nice thing about this site our unasked for experience helps other more than we can imagine-we love you Miz.
Just a brief update about me. After my first week of being on twice the anti-depressant and a new med, abilify, I am functioning at a bit higher level. My therapist was overjoyed today to her my psychiatrist increased my welbutrin to 300mgs and added2 grams of abilify to my already taking 200mgs of lamictal twice a day. I've needed this increase and have been asking for it, but only now I finally got listened to.
Morning for me, night for you. I'd like to say that I have taken this from the Bible. No, I heard it the first time in a ER episode.
There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven. A time to give birth, and a time to die; A time to plant, and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill, and a time to heal; A time to tear down, and a time to build up. A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to mourn, and a time to dance. A time to throw stones, and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace, and a time to shun embracing. A time to search, and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep, and a time to throw away. A time to tear apart, and a time to sew together; A time to be silent, and a time to speak. A time to love, and a time to hate; A time for war, and a time for peace.
Miz, Thanks for letting us know how you are. Glad your sibs are there for you too. I think Bobbie is a good name for your bear! I'm sure we are all in for a big adjustment when our time comes. A lot of us have been at this for many years, so getting back to normalcy will not come easy. But with the connections we have made here, I know that we will not be alone, and that is a big comfort to me right now. Bobbie, love your play on words! Put a smile on my face when I needed one. Good night everyone!
Again, rum and what??? Just kidding - years of working with urologists, can't help myself. Miz, you know our hearts are hurting right along with yours. My boss keeps telling me that his sister was as stressed as we are while she cared for her mom and he was worried that she would be a mess when mom passed. Not to say she didn't grieve but now, several months later, she has rediscovered the life she had pre-caregiver and seems so relaxed and happy. I know none of us wish for our loved ones to pass to get to this point in our lives but we also have to make sure once it happens we recognize what WE have done to make their lives so much more comfortable and peaceful in their last years, months, days. No regrets. Miz, I hope you can look forward with no regrets once the initial grieving is over and know that your mom would want you to be glad that she passed peacefully, after living a full life, knowing the comfort of someone who loved her so much took such good care of her when she could no longer care for herself. You've done a spectacular job! Prayers for peace. xoxo
I'm thinking a change in meds are due also. After hubby got home, went down to talk with mil, she acts so differently around him of course. Repeated DO NOT feed your dinner to the dog. Guess what? Not 10 minutes after she was told there is the dog eating her dinner. Are you wet or dry? I don't know I changed this morning...........well let's just go change for the fun of it. eeeeewwwwwww sopping, dripping diaper. and it looks like her skin is breaking down again......another round of staring at her butt several times a day. I'm really tired tonight......thanks bobbie.......only I had a rum and coke...:)
bless your heart miz . i too am worried how i would behave when its time for dad to go . i prob be in the same boat u re in now as bobbie was in hers last spring . i am not looking forward to it . breaks my heart to even think about it and begin prepared for it , miz , what a wonderful idea to wait till spring , it be wamer and beautiful out . so sweet ur bear s name is bobbie , awwww , perfect name , now u ll have to find a caption outfit and dress up him up .:-) he be so cute ! we all have been thinking about you for a long time . we care about you , love you too , youre a good daughter and the lord rewards u for that . one step at a time , my brother would always tell me that . keep in touch miz , xoxoox
Hello Fellow Boat Mates, I still have not read the posts. I am afraid I will break down crying and I have cried so much. I am mentally and physically exhausted. I am so very sad but I know that Mom was suffering last night and it was best for her for her to go to God and to my dad. She looked so at peace with her eyes closed like she was sleeping and her face relaxed. That is a comfort that she was did not look in pain after she passed. She passed while I slept. I feel so empty inside. It's hard to be at this house without her. It is going to be a very big adjustment. My bro and SIL are making most of the arrangements with my and my sister's input. My sister will be here sometime tomorrow. I hope we can all just get along and be kind to each other. We will not be burying Mom and Dad's ashes until the Spring. My nieces can't come now and so we will wait until then. At least it will be warm and my mom loved the Spring and Summer. I don't know what the future holds for me right now. I just have to take it one day at a time and probably one hour at a time, etc. I want to again express my gratitude and love for all of you and your loving support during this time. Hubby has been so wonderful. I hope that I, like bobbie, can help those of you that will experience what we have experience and pray that it makes it easier for you. I have named the bear bobbie in our captains honor. He's a boy though. :) Sandy was grooming him earlier today. Sweet baby. Okay, I'm gonna get off of here before I start crying again. Be safe my friends and please express your feelings for those you love everyday. It will give you peace and will fill their hearts.
Rum and what???? Love the "supposed" slip. Can't stop thinking of the boat today - bad day at work, daughter still sick with pneumonia and dad confused. Not enough chocolate and wine for today. Hope all are having a better day and evening. Love and kisses, Linda K
I know this is tough but in her mind she was making herself pretty .I have found if you do daily task getting ready ie bath or wash face and brush teeth help her with her hair and maybe a little clear zip cosmetic bag for her brush and essentials for the morning .I would put her toothbrush in the bathroom and leave bag on the table next to her bed .I have found if you do this everyday before breakfast and teeth after meals they get used to it better . I know it is rough I have been thru it but just think of how it was when you were a child and you depended on her . They have childlike behaviors and need some discipline just as we did when we were taught . God Bless you ,You will never be able to take away this time make the most of it .Have her tell old stories and this will stay with you until the end of time .Her legacy will live on and this will be your gift :)
oh my goodness i needed a good laugh and u just made me bust out laughing ! maybe u need a man asap ! lmao !!! jam sounds like those meds are not working right for ur mom . time to ask the dr for something eles , drive u bonker and lots of rum and coke , my dad was on namenda . it did help him stop begin so cocky and stress me out , bad thing about it the ins refuse to pay for it , after awhile i took him off of it and he seems to be ok , he doesnt get mean , just acts like baby huey . dad just dont feel good , he is on one antidepresion meds , i cant think of the name , dont want to go in my bdrm lookin for the bottle , hubby s in bed , :-) gosh my spellin is bad ! im so tired and worn out , had togo to the store and get some bfast stuff for dad . came home with chinese for supper , tasted too plaine . wasnt very good , threw it away ! life unexpected is going to be comin on soon , i love that show , hope its not repeat . i need to get the wood stove going , going to get cold in the morning low 23 , burrrr . xpxp
wow. that's a buncha stuff! I was lucky because I got mom on Namenda and it adjusted her attitude immediately. She was being mean, took the pill and came back 20 minutes later as this warm and funny and engaging person. Jam, I wish that she would be ok to you and not make you nuts. the disease just by itself is enough to make you nuts and her having a crappy attitude just makes it so tough. I am so sorry. yup. Rum and Cock.
you are so right.....nothing makes sense out of her mouth.....and she has started to lie horribly! is this normal? she is on prozac and zyprexa at bedtime, nexium and ditropan in the morning. had to add an extra dose of zyprexa because she was getting more argumentative. Found they make a combo pill of zyprexa and prozac now, Symbiax I think it is. I think she is headed toward another few days in the local behavioral health unit for an attitude adjustment. falls asleep easily when zyprexa kicks in, but this morning she just went bonkers. and yes capt I WILL have a rum and coke for you.....:)
I wouldn't have been able to make it without you guys and there you go! jam i am so happy you and your husband have a united game plan. Nik and I were united with mom too and it really helped.
Jam! jeeze! don't cut your throat! You screw it up and you just have more stuff to clean up! lock the door and I love Rum and Coke! have one for me!
Jam, nothing is going to make sense coming out of your mil, probably never again. It's the disease and may I ask, is she on any meds? and if you told us before, forgive me for not remembering. My mom was a terror until we started Namenda. It's very frightening for them to lose control over everything and they get combative to show you 'they still have it'.
yes , i thank god everyday for this online angels ! what we do without us all ? i was frustated for a long time till i found this and found bobbie , ahh its so great to look fwrd to getting on . :-)
Aaww Miz, I'm SO sorry! I'm at a loss as to what to say...mere words don't seem to be enough to tell you what's in my heart! You are in my thoughts & prayers & will continue to be!
oh i'm so sorry your nap was ruined. thank God there is a locked door between mil and me right now. she is on a roll about finances..........understands nothing anymore.....doesn't even know the name of her bank half the time. she pays her state and federal taxes quarterly, 3rd quarterly I had to tell her the amount, how to make the check out, don't forget to sign it, don't worry about a stamp, I have plenty. 4th I just paid online. Everything is electronic now, but she's bitching because I won't take her check register and write down every little amount paid and deposited over the past month. I told her it's not statement time yet.................just called the doctor for a refill on valium. I'm not mad anymore, past frustrated, hubby is not home...........but she wants to sit down and talk to him with me present. How easily she has forgotten how many times he has told her what I say is the same as him. We are united and nothing she does will cause a rift between us. maybe a nice glass of rum and coke would just do the trick........I will tell you again that you angels are my lifeline......:)
oh my jam , i feel it , i was sleeping good and pa waaaaaaaaaaaa gotta peeeeee , woke me up and only found out i have slept maybe 20 mins , ah hell i decide to stay awake now , just put ur mom in her room and shut the door and run and hide somewhere ? ur mom sounds like my mother in law and i cant handle her . bless your heart , xoxo
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Anyhow, it is thawing majorly here slush slush slush off the roof down yer neck...LOOK OUT, FLuummppph off the trees. very excitin..
I hope everyone is doing OK in there areas.
Hope all are well today.
Miz! we love you!
Looks like we are moving the boat tomorrow so I am wrapping up everything here. Sweet!
We will run on the inside (Intracoastal Waterway) North to Jacksonville and be hauled out for the rest of the repairs. Finally.
Wish me luck. I'm driving. I spent all this time perusing the charts and it boils down to:
leave Marina.
Make left.
More later.
lovbob
Bobbie, Getting a little Freudian are we? lol
Got mom's groceries yesterday. Her apt is set up so that you can't open the door to enter if the closet door is open....she was in there when I arrived but didn't hear me knock. I gently half closed the other door to enter & was in the kitchen when she came out. I said hi but she must have thought I was still in the hallway. "Is that you?....I'll be out of your way in a minute..". As I watched her from the kitchen stand and block the entrance for what seemed like forever......"I'm right here mom.....Is that you?...I'll be out of your way in a minute" (still blocking the door)...."No mom, I'm already inside"..."What? I'll be out of your way in a minute".....Honest, it was something out of a Laurel & Hardy movie. When she finally realized I was in the kitchen putting away the food she knew she was busted for intentionally blocking the door & was all sheepish & sweet. You would think...maybe she didn't hear me, but she did have her ear in & could hear everthing I said after that. Crazy can't even push my buttons efficiently anymore. Oh well. Another doc visit again today....hoping it goes peacefully.
Blessings to all.
Just a brief update about me. After my first week of being on twice the anti-depressant and a new med, abilify, I am functioning at a bit higher level. My therapist was overjoyed today to her my psychiatrist increased my welbutrin to 300mgs and added2 grams of abilify to my already taking 200mgs of lamictal twice a day. I've needed this increase and have been asking for it, but only now I finally got listened to.
I'd like to say that I have taken this from the Bible. No, I heard it the first time in a ER episode.
There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven.
A time to give birth, and a time to die; A time to plant, and a time to uproot what is planted.
A time to kill, and a time to heal; A time to tear down, and a time to build up.
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to mourn, and a time to dance.
A time to throw stones, and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace, and a time to shun embracing.
A time to search, and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep, and a time to throw away.
A time to tear apart, and a time to sew together; A time to be silent, and a time to speak.
A time to love, and a time to hate; A time for war, and a time for peace.
I'm sure we are all in for a big adjustment when our time comes. A lot of us have been at this for many years, so getting back to normalcy will not come easy. But with the connections we have made here, I know that we will not be alone, and that is a big comfort to me right now.
Bobbie, love your play on words! Put a smile on my face when I needed one.
Good night everyone!
Miz, thanks for naming the bear after me.
Miz, you are amazing. I'm glad that you have help with the arrangements. It's all about your mom.
I am studying the charts to move the boat on Thursday.
Haul out and then ready for company.
Love you guys. angels all.
lovbob
i too am worried how i would behave when its time for dad to go . i prob be in the same boat u re in now as bobbie was in hers last spring .
i am not looking forward to it . breaks my heart to even think about it and begin prepared for it ,
miz , what a wonderful idea to wait till spring , it be wamer and beautiful out .
so sweet ur bear s name is bobbie , awwww , perfect name , now u ll have to find a caption outfit and dress up him up .:-) he be so cute !
we all have been thinking about you for a long time . we care about you , love you too , youre a good daughter and the lord rewards u for that .
one step at a time , my brother would always tell me that .
keep in touch miz , xoxoox
love,
miz
maybe u need a man asap ! lmao !!!
jam sounds like those meds are not working right for ur mom .
time to ask the dr for something eles , drive u bonker and lots of rum and coke ,
my dad was on namenda . it did help him stop begin so cocky and stress me out , bad thing about it the ins refuse to pay for it , after awhile i took him off of it and he seems to be ok , he doesnt get mean , just acts like baby huey . dad just dont feel good ,
he is on one antidepresion meds , i cant think of the name , dont want to go in my bdrm lookin for the bottle , hubby s in bed , :-)
gosh my spellin is bad ! im so tired and worn out , had togo to the store and get some bfast stuff for dad . came home with chinese for supper , tasted too plaine . wasnt very good , threw it away !
life unexpected is going to be comin on soon , i love that show , hope its not repeat . i need to get the wood stove going , going to get cold in the morning low 23 , burrrr .
xpxp
I was lucky because I got mom on Namenda and it adjusted her attitude immediately. She was being mean, took the pill and came back 20 minutes later as this warm and funny and engaging person.
Jam, I wish that she would be ok to you and not make you nuts. the disease just by itself is enough to make you nuts and her having a crappy attitude just makes it so tough. I am so sorry.
yup. Rum and Cock.
lovbob
give Pa a kiss for me!
I wouldn't have been able to make it without you guys and there you go!
jam i am so happy you and your husband have a united game plan. Nik and I were united with mom too and it really helped.
thinkoftheboat crew.
lovbob
You screw it up and you just have more stuff to clean up!
lock the door and I love Rum and Coke! have one for me!
Jam, nothing is going to make sense coming out of your mil, probably never again. It's the disease and may I ask, is she on any meds? and if you told us before, forgive me for not remembering.
My mom was a terror until we started Namenda.
It's very frightening for them to lose control over everything and they get combative to show you 'they still have it'.
Getting windy here. hope everyone is ok.
lovbob
i was frustated for a long time till i found this and found bobbie , ahh its so great to look fwrd to getting on . :-)
Love Peach
just put ur mom in her room and shut the door and run and hide somewhere ? ur mom sounds like my mother in law and i cant handle her . bless your heart , xoxo