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Miz I am so sorry about the death of your Mom I hope you have comfort of how good a daughter you were to her and now she is at peace no pain anymore-I know words can not express of what I feel for you you know how much we all love you and our thoughts and prayers are with you and hope God gives you an extra measure of strength God bless you my friend.
Miz dear, I'm so sorry you lost your mom. GOD give you all the comfort you need for as long as you need.
Linda & Rosella, you two are so very sweet dear hearts.
Bobbie, A fine Captain you are. GOD bless & hope you are better soon.
My Grandfather used to tell a story.....They worked for the railroad & sometimes traveled the trains overnight. One of the work crew used to use the other guys toothbrushes. My Grandfather was in the restroom with him one day, grabbed his own toothbrush & started to use it to scratch as he exclaimed "darned hemmeroids!". The toothbrush thief was never a problem after that day & it only cost my Grandpa one toothbrush.
Gross.....You know my mom went to the hardware store & purchased a new toilet brush for her hair because it has the long handle. Problem is that I found her hair on the REAL toilet brush and the brush laying in the tub when I went to clean up the bath. So I guess I'll buy a toilet brush that doesn't resemble her "hair brush". I also won't be touching her for a while. Pretty grim.
Funny...She and I are "like two cats in a bag" and were snarling at each other the other day in the doctor's office. She was of course complaining how I "like to throw everything away" & "she's sooooo Clean!". I've always thought of myself as a mediocre housekeeper but try to keep her place liveable. The doc looked at me smiling as if to say...your mom is doing her best to insult you but it's coming out as a compliment......I couldn't help but grin a bit.
bobbie , i just looked in a map and im only three hrs away from where miz lives , am thinking about takin a road trip . just need the name of funeral home and am gonna try to suprise her , if u get the chance to talk to her again ask her where is she going to be at . much apprecatie it , thought u would stay on a boat and haul it to key west , ump . the hotel be much nicer so u can have the pool ohh lala . wish i could join you . be wonderful if tenny goes too ! i need to go take a nap , i cant even type right , kept correctin my spelling grrr . goodnite xoxoox
I had to chuckle yesterday.......mil bathroom getting some needed little improvements and I noticed her toothbrush was not in it's holder......all I could think of was eeeewwwww gross....:)
Glad the long suffering is over and her mom is at peace. My thoughts are with Miz and her family. I hope she gets all the support she needs there and has time to heal and acknowledge all her own love and hard work and care for her mom who I am sure knew of it even if/when she "didn't".
Miz - I'm so sorry for your loss. You have been so good to your mom and need to take comfort in all that you did to make her comfortable. I know it 's not easier even when you know it's coming but I'm so glad she didn't have to suffer in the hospital for a long time. We love you and are here for you! xoxoxox
thank you bobbie, didn't see anything last night so was wondering about miz's mom. so sorry to hear she is gone.....she is with Jesus now and no longer suffering.
miz .. so so sorry to hear your mom passed away . oh lord .. plz give us the address of the funeral home plz . im just the next state over , tenn . yes cussin at the cancer , sonfabutch ! hate them ! i too watch my mom die in front of me , watch her pass very slowly , bobbie thank you for letting us know . i am just soo sad and eyes r filled with tears . love you all xoxo
Rip,I understand cussing of the cancer.My mother was a pistol one day and then it started zapping her energy the next. It was fast moving,had her in 6 months.She too,had a fear of losing her mind ,but she didn't.She deteriorated right in front of our eyes,we all were as helpless as could be.I think cancer is of the devil----just like lawyers.Jeff was young and vital and when the cancer moved into his brain -he said it was like the Pink Floyd song,but it did terrible things to his brain,it was a sickening waste to a god aweful disease.
going to be cold cold to be living on a boat starting tonight. I wanted to be out of here by now! I don't feel as sick as I did so hopefully I'm on the mend.
when a new person shows up on the thread they get back what they put out.
Good morning crew it was good to hear from Miz-now each morning after the bank statement and the obits I come here to catch up take care angels Ted how are you and Crowe will have to go to their walls and ask.
Ya'll want to hear something funny;its been 2 or three years since my dad passed and I still don't put my tooth brush in the tooth brush thingy.I hide it,my dad scarred me with the possibilities of where my toothbrush ended up.I know he dropped it in the toliet and fished it out or wiped the dogs butt with it.I started hidding my toothbrush then and now my daughter tells me its time to join my toothbrush with her toothbrush in the tooth brush thingy-ma-gig.I'm frightened of this and am scarred from previous horrifying experiences.Do you think three years is enough time to get over being grossed out over all of the possibilities what might have occurred with my tooth brush? My daughter says I must now build up trust and put my tooth brush back in the thingy-ma-gig.
ugh what happen i thought it was almost 5 am but now ilooked its seven am ! dont tell me it took me two hrs to type . ahh i think i need to go back to bed . xoxo
good morning my fellows . almost 5 am here , got up at 330 am to see hubby get ready for work . done my dishes and made bfast , pa still sleeping and sleeping good ah i leave him alone . wondering about miz and her mom . i know that everytime she sees the bear shes thinking of us . prob hugging it the whole time . :-) i am so glad she has the bear , bet the bear will keep her out of the black hole ! rained here last night . still dark out so i have no idea what the weathers gonnna be today . oh i know it gets to me when someone new gets on right awful bat and barks about the toothbrush . instead of takin the time to read what others has to say , geeze nobody has talked about that almost a year , lol ah give her the old one and buy urself a new one , woooo . blew me away . im just glad dad never used mine . or did he ?? mmm oh crap my mother in law was here over thanksgiving , i wondered if she did touch my toothbrush ? yakyak , now im afraid to use it . think i ll throw it in washer machine before i use it , hell too late ive already used it everynight , , think my face is turning green now . :-o ... you all have a good tuesday . xoxoxo
I just woke up for a minute and decided to check in.
I do not want to change the name of the Grossed Out Thread. This is not a politically correct forum and think of the new friends we have made: Jam, kuli, Ted to name a few who 'got it' and understood that this was a place for them to vent about stuff that most people cannot fathom.
In the pages of this thread are answers and questions that are hard fought and hard won. The best suggestion I would have is for the Thread to be broken up into chapters to make it easier to navigate.
It's actually not longer than War and Peace, (that was way funny, rossella!) just harder to manage because of the format. There is no way to just pop into the middle of it and page around.
The new people can figure it out just like all the people did who are presently here. The name is right because I knew that even though I loved and cared for my mom I was still Grossed Out and I knew that I wasn't alone.
In addition there are entries all the way back to where I started where other people took umbrage at the title and chastised me. Don't really care about folks who are just pissed off and attack me. I defended the title then and again now. There are people out there that will benefit from knowing that there is a forum where they can vent vent about being grossed out. Just because my journey is over doesn't mean that someone else is not beginning theirs. I want to be here to say to them: I get it. it can be very Gross. doesn't mean you love them any less, it can just be Gross. You're safe here. Vent on! and if anyone attacks you I will take them out at the knees.
Dear Rip, I tried to work tonight but I didn't feel like it, so I wake up and fell asleep several times. It's 7.30 now and it is a very rainy day. The dawn breaks around 7 and it's dark by 5 p.m. And the weather is nasty almost every day. The caregivers month has almost finished. We have ruled upon toilet paper and diapers, and I think we are going to rule upon them in December, too. Maybe, even on the drawsheets. I miss my father who died at 70 with a very sharp mind and the last thing he did in his life was my income tax return, and the last (understandable) thing he said to me was to remember to send it to the tax authority. But I will miss my mother too, who is in the condition that you know. I will probably forget these last years and I will remember how she was before. Of course if I could choose for myself, I'd much rather the first option (die 15 and also 20 years before, but with my brain intact). But, it's not for us to choose! So let's hope for the best. And, on this note,,, I had better take care of Brooke and Ridge and all of the Bold and Beautiful crew, who wait anxiously to speak Italian!
Rossella ... do you ever wonder if your cousin has early stages of Alz? You might ask her some time after explaining to her several times again & again. I know I feel that with my family ... I'm sure it's selective amnesia ... but stilll ...
You are awake very early in your morning! Is it dark there most of the day like it is here? The dawn breaks about 8 AM it becomes light out side ... by 4 pm the darkness is creeping in, street lamps turn on & 20 minutes later ... it is night time. Until December 21st & we reverse & will all be happy. Ha ! By February I feel crazy!!! I doubt I'd do well in Alaska where it is dark, dark, DARK all winter. Hope everyone is doing all right after your Thankgiving events.
I know that Miz's situation is hitting home for many of us. This thread is bittersweet since it also reminds us of loved ones we've lost & the trauma as it happened.
I've let more tears loose since Wednesday than I have in years. My mother was brilliant & vibrant until the cancer took her away. No age problems ... just the damned, ugly, nasty, horrible cancer. She always said if she lost her mind to let her go. She never lost her mind ... F8cking cancer!!!!
Thanks y'all for being here ... for everyone! What a magical place we have found ... & the Joe guy who started this Aging Care thing. Thanks ~
With a Captain, not shy about speaking her mind ... we have a reason to smile now & then. Thanks Bobbie! I am still gut laughing!!!
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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Linda & Rosella, you two are so very sweet dear hearts.
Bobbie, A fine Captain you are. GOD bless & hope you are better soon.
My Grandfather used to tell a story.....They worked for the railroad & sometimes traveled the trains overnight. One of the work crew used to use the other guys toothbrushes. My Grandfather was in the restroom with him one day, grabbed his own toothbrush & started to use it to scratch as he exclaimed "darned hemmeroids!". The toothbrush thief was never a problem after that day & it only cost my Grandpa one toothbrush.
Gross.....You know my mom went to the hardware store & purchased a new toilet brush for her hair because it has the long handle. Problem is that I found her hair on the REAL toilet brush and the brush laying in the tub when I went to clean up the bath. So I guess I'll buy a toilet brush that doesn't resemble her "hair brush". I also won't be touching her for a while. Pretty grim.
Funny...She and I are "like two cats in a bag" and were snarling at each other the other day in the doctor's office. She was of course complaining how I "like to throw everything away" & "she's sooooo Clean!". I've always thought of myself as a mediocre housekeeper but try to keep her place liveable. The doc looked at me smiling as if to say...your mom is doing her best to insult you but it's coming out as a compliment......I couldn't help but grin a bit.
GOD bless, comfort & heal all.
SSK
lovbob
am thinking about takin a road trip . just need the name of funeral home and am gonna try to suprise her , if u get the chance to talk to her again ask her where is she going to be at . much apprecatie it ,
thought u would stay on a boat and haul it to key west , ump . the hotel be much nicer so u can have the pool ohh lala . wish i could join you . be wonderful if tenny goes too !
i need to go take a nap , i cant even type right , kept correctin my spelling grrr .
goodnite xoxoox
I'm going to stay at a motel with the cat....
Then on to the Keys, Tenny!
lovbob
She knew it was coming but is devastated.
lovbob
tenn . yes cussin at the cancer , sonfabutch ! hate them ! i too watch my mom die in front of me , watch her pass very slowly ,
bobbie thank you for letting us know . i am just soo sad and eyes r filled with tears . love you all xoxo
Miz's mom has passed away.
lovbob
Hey there linda! musta been dark out!
going to be cold cold to be living on a boat starting tonight. I wanted to be out of here by now!
I don't feel as sick as I did so hopefully I'm on the mend.
when a new person shows up on the thread they get back what they put out.
lovbob
almost 5 am here , got up at 330 am to see hubby get ready for work .
done my dishes and made bfast , pa still sleeping and sleeping good ah i leave him alone .
wondering about miz and her mom . i know that everytime she sees the bear shes thinking of us . prob hugging it the whole time . :-) i am so glad she has the bear , bet the bear will keep her out of the black hole !
rained here last night . still dark out so i have no idea what the weathers gonnna be today .
oh i know it gets to me when someone new gets on right awful bat and barks about the toothbrush . instead of takin the time to read what others has to say , geeze nobody has talked about that almost a year , lol ah give her the old one and buy urself a new one , woooo . blew me away .
im just glad dad never used mine . or did he ?? mmm oh crap my mother in law was here over thanksgiving , i wondered if she did touch my toothbrush ? yakyak , now im afraid to use it . think i ll throw it in washer machine before i use it , hell too late ive already used it everynight , , think my face is turning green now . :-o ...
you all have a good tuesday . xoxoxo
But, let's give the new ones the time to understand how it works...
I just woke up for a minute and decided to check in.
I do not want to change the name of the Grossed Out Thread. This is not a politically correct forum and think of the new friends we have made: Jam, kuli, Ted to name a few who 'got it' and understood that this was a place for them to vent about stuff that most people cannot fathom.
In the pages of this thread are answers and questions that are hard fought and hard won.
The best suggestion I would have is for the Thread to be broken up into chapters to make it easier to navigate.
It's actually not longer than War and Peace, (that was way funny, rossella!) just harder to manage because of the format. There is no way to just pop into the middle of it and page around.
The new people can figure it out just like all the people did who are presently here. The name is right because I knew that even though I loved and cared for my mom I was still Grossed Out and I knew that I wasn't alone.
In addition there are entries all the way back to where I started where other people took umbrage at the title and chastised me. Don't really care about folks who are just pissed off and attack me. I defended the title then and again now. There are people out there that will benefit from knowing that there is a forum where they can vent vent about being grossed out. Just because my journey is over doesn't mean that someone else is not beginning theirs.
I want to be here to say to them: I get it. it can be very Gross. doesn't mean you love them any less, it can just be Gross. You're safe here. Vent on!
and if anyone attacks you I will take them out at the knees.
lovbob
The caregivers month has almost finished. We have ruled upon toilet paper and diapers, and I think we are going to rule upon them in December, too. Maybe, even on the drawsheets.
I miss my father who died at 70 with a very sharp mind and the last thing he did in his life was my income tax return, and the last (understandable) thing he said to me was to remember to send it to the tax authority. But I will miss my mother too, who is in the condition that you know. I will probably forget these last years and I will remember how she was before. Of course if I could choose for myself, I'd much rather the first option (die 15 and also 20 years before, but with my brain intact). But, it's not for us to choose! So let's hope for the best.
And, on this note,,, I had better take care of Brooke and Ridge and all of the Bold and Beautiful crew, who wait anxiously to speak Italian!
Not AWAL, just reading all the posts, laying low & reflecting. Listening to the rain outside & the mantle clock ticking, chiming. Aww...quiet time!
Thinking of all my AC family & praying the best for each of you!
Asking for the Comfort Angels to take care of you tonight!
do you ever wonder if your cousin has early stages of Alz? You might ask her some time after explaining to her several times again & again. I know I feel that with my family ...
I'm sure it's selective amnesia ... but stilll ...
You are awake very early in your morning! Is it dark there most of the day like it is here? The dawn breaks about 8 AM it becomes light out side ... by 4 pm the darkness is creeping in, street lamps turn on & 20 minutes later ... it is night time.
Until December 21st & we reverse & will all be happy.
Ha !
By February I feel crazy!!!
I doubt I'd do well in Alaska where it is dark, dark, DARK all winter.
Hope everyone is doing all right after your Thankgiving events.
I know that Miz's situation is hitting home for many of us. This thread is bittersweet since it also reminds us of loved ones we've lost & the trauma as it happened.
I've let more tears loose since Wednesday than I have in years.
My mother was brilliant & vibrant until the cancer took her away. No age problems ... just the damned, ugly, nasty, horrible cancer.
She always said if she lost her mind to let her go. She never lost her mind ...
F8cking cancer!!!!
Thanks y'all for being here ... for everyone!
What a magical place we have found ...
& the Joe guy who started this Aging Care thing.
Thanks ~
With a Captain, not shy about speaking her mind ... we have a reason to smile now & then.
Thanks Bobbie! I am still gut laughing!!!