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Pamela! it is great to see from you and I understand about your mom. Congrats on the graduation.
Well, to all you braless and boulder holders and dancers and revelers: Finally got the right cat. Probably just going to call her KC for Kitty Cat. She's a rescue kitty that I picked up yesterday at the Pet Supermarket where they were having an adopt day. So far so good. She hasn't tried to kill me like the other one and she got right out of her carrier and took about an hour to look the place over and dig in her sandbox and then she had dinner and an after dinner little bowl of milk and then we watched some Deadliest Catch.
I went below to go to sleep and she came along and slept in the bed until early this morning when she heard a dolphin breathe right outside the porthole. The seagulls squawking she could care less about, but a dolphin taking a breath must be a new one.
She took off and when I got up she was sitting on the helm next to the compass. Best view in the house.
hope everybody has a good Sunday and now it's time for some joe.
Deefer, thanks. I won't take any drugs without medical control (and I couldn't anyway because for drugs of this kind you have to pass through 2 doctors at least). I shall see what happens and won't take risks. Linda, you danced? But, in the house? I hoped you had gone to a dancing hall!!!!
i wish it would rain here ! its so dry out here , everything that was green is now dead . havent mowed no grass for few months now , my husband misses mowing , guess when all the leaves falls he will just have to mow that , oh pumpkin pie , now im hungry ! was at fb playing games , now am going to bed , need ck on pa one more time , goodnight xoxo oh miz must be out on her annivesray ! havent seen her yet , mmm hope they have a good ole time . ...
oh, those damn dishes that pile up in the sink! My neighbor gave us a Pumpkin Pie so Sir gets dessert! More dishes to wash. He is worth it. What a spoiled guy!
Hope everyone is having a fine Saturday night! It's pouring rain here ... must be Seattle?
pamela ! good to hear from u ! glad to hear you guys are doing ok , oh humming birds ! they have left here already , havent seen them all week . guess they ve flew south . less robins too , notice s birds are less and more blue jay and cardnial , theyre pesters . eats up the cat food as soon as u put em out . thats ok they can eat em if they like em , somebody said ladies are out dancin , well somebodys right ! hubby and i was dancing slow dance out by the bonfire and had music going , aww it was nice . didnt last long , he s conked out , he woke up at 2 am to go to work today , poor guy he just kept a agoing , all my kids came and went , pleasure to see em all . i wanted to take a picture but didnt feel like wlakin all the way up here to get the camera , shame on me ! pa is good , he s in bed , he thinks everytime he wakes up its bfast time , poor guy , i tol dhim nana its 10 pm , im going to bed real soon , i changed him uh he s not even wet , now hubby s sleeping in his chair . i think im headin for bed soon , got supper dishes all piled up , i ll do them in the morning , unless merry wanna come over and do em for me , lol oh i wish !! good night you all , bobbie , u doing ok ? am wondering about you .... xoxoxo
oh my friends ... I wish I could share the wild critters who hang out here! Everytime I grab the camera Sir needs something ... You know the feeling ...
This afternoon was warm. Sir was sitting in his chair with a cat on lap. The windows were open... no screens Get this ... I walked into the living room & found a Stellar Jay & 2 Grey Squirrells sitting on the inside window sill looking for Dad's peanut stash! OK, one squirrell was on the table beside the window, but still! My Dad must be some kind of animal whisperer. If they aren't perched outside his window, they're coming inside!
It's fun. He was the little kid in the 1920's who had a pocket Chipmunk & a talking crow who followed him everywhere. I'm happy the animals still love us.
Pamela, Good to hear from you! My Mom is also getting worse. Not much we can do, but keep them comfortable. I'd be lost without Merry's help. She is very good to Mom. Congratulations to your son! Rosella, I'm with you! No patience left and Mom would rather be with Merry. We just have to do the best we can. Be careful with Prozac! Merry's daughter was taking it last year and had a bad reaction to it. Also my nephew was on it for a year and suffered worse with it than without. Some people can't tolerate it at all. Miz, Hope you and hubby had a great date night! How's Sassy? Linda, So glad Pa is alright! Taking him to the ER was the right thing to do. Castoff, Those days at the park sound so nice and peaceful. Rip, Get lots of pictures of those hummers! Got all my plants covered. Expecting a freeze tonight! First one this fall. Hope you all have a peaceful and restful day tomorrow!
Castoff ... Quick note to her & "Hello" to everyone.
There is a flock of huge Hummingbirds invading my yard! They are larger than Sparrows! Everywhere in the Butterfly bushes, Cannas & at the feeders. Must be visiting ... migrating south from Canada. I've not seen Hummers so large! & aggressive! I'd better fill the feeders quick ~
New batteries for the camera. Hope I can snap a few but they are so Fast!
What a nice post, Castoff! Good stories! From cats to boobs, it was interesting to read! When you say that we still have to "go out & play" I could not agree more. I need my life to become lighter, lighter, lighter... (as opposed to "heavy") Pamela, I understand you. I prefer to have 2 nice and good tempered girls as caregivers, (even if they clean the house very little and it is a constant mess) rather than the contrary. After a few bad experiences, I am very glad of the ones I have now and the fact that my mother is so well with both of them confirms that they are the right ones... You have to look for and look for and look for, until you find the good ones Austin hi! I see we are very few, tonight. Guess the other ladies are out to dance!!!! Have a nice sunday
Welcome back Pam can you believe this thread is still going along-and we are still mostly friends a little bumps in the road now and then but we worked them out it is a lovely fall day here in New York State we finally got rain but will get frost soon so brought the plants in today.
Hello all, been away a long time. Just thought I'd stop by and say hello to everyone.
Mom has advanced Alz. now and there is not much new to report. We are still taking care of her in her home. Got a few problems with the main caretaker, the fat one that's been there about 9 months. She's being mean and mom is sending out msgs that she doesn't want her there anymore so we've found another someone who we will wean in and wean "fat and nasty" out.
I'm getting ready for my youngest Marine Corp Graduation October 29th, and the family day on the 28th so I'm planning a nice little vacation to San Diego for that week. I am soroud of him.
A lot to read but I know all the old faithfuls will know who I am.
Higs and kisses to all of you and God Bless you all.
ohh castoff , its a pleasure hearing from you , sounds like everyody s doing good , guess the full moon hasnt been around , ump . you all have a great day , im digging up elephant ear bulb to bring em inside for the winter , whooo . love ya all xoxoox
Hi Kids, Just touching base here. 4 days of catch-up took a while.
GP, Glad you're doing better. Visitors can help around the homestead if they want to see you. I'm not "Suzie Homemaker" and don't have company often because of it. Hub says our house is just "lived in". No major dust bunnies but plenty of clutter....backpacks on the diningroom table from hikes in the park, etc.. My brother gave me 2 hrs notice before arriving for 3 day visit in Aug. "Thanks for giving me enough time to clean the bathroom!!!!" I personally think we miss out on much life if we are immaculate housekeepers. Our cat "Shutup" does most of the dusting with his 15" tail. LOL Rosella, I think I know why your mom likes Daniela so much. Sounds like they are on the same page (mindset/loss). She can probably "pull a fast one" on her. Bobbie, Ha, I have to wear a bra in public but don't at home. 44B is hard to find/fit. From a family of giants sort of. We used to joke about mom wearing her breasts as an accessory....high, low, over her shoulder..now thats not so funny but I am glad I'm smaller cup wise. They get in the way plenty already. Straps are never long enough for me either. The manufacturers figure all women are under 5'9" for some reason. Annoying but not a tragedy. Rip, How goes it girl??? Shutup was at the window here in the 2nd floor hallway earlier when a sparrow landed on the sill. Sounded like WWIII & thought he was going to break out the screen. Silly boy!!! Hurt myself gardening at the park again yesterday. Our little day vacations each week have saved our sanity this year. It's all about balance and perspective I suppose. We still have to "go out & play". Miz, Hope you & hub enjoyed your date. Glad your mom is eating again. Hope Sassy is all better soon. Linda, Glad your pa is OK & sunshine pee in the future. Good that your sis is there with you.
My mom is still doing well & behaving herself. I am sooooo blessed lately. Her skin grafts are healing nicely & I hope the diabetis ulcers on her feet dissapear forever. It's been six years that we've been attending to them & it's time for them to go!!! Kathy, Diane, Kuli, Austin & all...nice to hear of you & hope all are blessed.
Austin, do not worry. I get crazy because Daniela, one of my mother's helpers, who is 28 years old, she is exactly the same. "I watched a good movie on TV yesterday night. Can you unload it, so I can keep it? And I. "What's the name of the movie?" "I don't remember". "Who were the actors?" "I don't remember". "How am I supposed to unload the movie?" "It talks about two sisters who quarrel because they are in love with the same man. Look for it on Google". She thinks Google is a miracle! Thanks for the suggestions about Xanax-prozac. I shall ask my doctor to prescribe me a visit to go to the psychologist and so on.
Bobbie you have a great memory can you share some. I do not feel so bad after what I heard yesterday at the senior center three friends went to see a new movie and one could not remember 2 weeks later what it was about so she finally called one friend and asked her what it was about she said I can't remember but----- will remember so she called her and she said I also can not remember-I asked if it was good she pretty good.
Hey I would wear a bra if i had something to keep it from snapping up and smacking me in the chin. The straps aren't long enough for me to pop my roll into it. that's why the shirts with 2 pockets.
Rossella! working so hard. thinkoftheboat!! Nobody ever gets it and when they actually see it, it takes them days to process it. I did the Prozac and Xanax and it really works and I did not get sleepy. Old School antidepressant and anxiety med that doesn't have some of the issues that the newer stuff has.
Linda! glad Pa's back home safe. ER always exhausting. Hope you can kick it a little today.
Deef! Flex! I'll be coming before you know it. Next year.
GP! love you girl. Don't do all of that cleaning on your own. Daughter's coming.
Jen, hope you're doing exactly what you want when you have the moments.
Pirate! SS! Kuli and Jojo and Olivia! Maxine and Miz!!
Daughter111 welcome to the Grossed Out Thread! Amazing group of caregivers and survivors! As for me? Metamucil = Cleveland Steamer
Who did I miss? you know I missed some. I'm only relying on my memory, har har. crew call!
Rosella antidepressants do not make you sleepy I take one that also helps with arthrities pain Bra.s are acceptable GP miralax is good also eat oatmeal and then there is prune juice but just a little to start with Ihard glad you let us know how things are going. it is a nice sunny fall day here.
Bobbies Boulder-Holder Buddies..... That's nice. We are going to be a sub-group of the crew. Linda I am so glad! All is well which ends well. But you were right to worry; it is better to act immediately, before things get worse. And it was not very painful and disturbing for your father, either. Georgia, I would not take drugs. Bran works so well... if you take it constantly. And it is natural. I do not know the concoction that Jen proposed, but it must be good. I would choose a solution of that kind. About your daughter, if you say that you have not seen her for 2 years, maybe she does not fully understand your situation. When she will see it, I am sure she will help you a lot. One thing is what she imagines, (being afar), one thing is what she sees. My brother, who comes every month, and I write him often to explain how the situation is worsening, does not understand anyway because he stays only for a few hours and he sees my mother in a context which is not normal - (he takes her to the Mass, or he takes her to have lunch in a resto). That is not my mother, that is only her social side. Your daughter is going to stay 24/7 so she will understand. I have slept tonight. Collapsed on the keyboard. Guess it is midnight for most of you, now. Criminal Minds is waiting. I am so sorry JJ left. She was nice. Jen, have you read "Tailchaser's song"? It is the most beautiful book about cats I ever read. A book of 20 years ago. Nre fa'o! (It means: Good dance of the heart)
hey im back . wow what a day , spent about almost 7 hrs in there . ran urine test and blood work , shows everything is all FINE . so made an appt for weds appt with urinoligy . dr said i saw blood in his urine and was shock it came back fine , said maybe he has bladder infection ? ah hell they know nothing ... know i ll take him weds and then set up an appt to do the test , come back again next week , blah blah . bunch hassel . i ask if they can just have that dr come and look at him now ? oh no im sorry , u ll have to come back weds . so all dad got was blood test and piss test and a supper tray , veg soup with alotta juice in it and wheres the beef ?
took him to mcdonald and got him a fish sandwich , got me one too , anyway dad has been whiney in the past hr , findlay i told him im going to bed , but i wanted to let you all know , pa s ok hes home in his bed . thanks for your prayers you all ! its amazing that his test showes he s FINE . wooohoo ... prayers do work ... :-) xoxoxo goodnight , im tired zzz
For constipation try equal parts cooked apple, prunes and bran you sort of stew it to mushy. It is called Power Pudding..You take a tablespoon before bed time. It is pretty well known in Cancer circles for patients getting constipating meds.
Cascara Sagrada is an herb that helps with constipation. All health food store staffers know about how it works. But the very best thing are proteolytic enzymes. They help you digest your food so you are *always* regular. You'll love them. You need to take three or so b4 each meal. They help in a ton of other ways as well. Check out iherb.com and look in the coments for Vitalzym or some of the less expensive brands. Good luck with that!
Rip, how are you?? Where are you?? I'm having a problem seeing who's online on FB...any suggestions of how to fix it?
miz, glad that Sassy's doing better. Give her some catnip...kitty cocaine works wonders! : ) Loved the me ow, too!
Rossella, bra or not, you're one of us! I'm concerned about you not getting enough rest, though!
Thanks, everybody, for your insight & suggestions about my daughter coming. I emailed her to give her some options that would work better for me & am waiting for her reply. A little scared at her agenda & motives since I haven't seen her in so long, that now all of a sudden she wants to come & spend 5 nights with us. Hum...We'll see!
Does anybody have a good remedy for constipation?? The new med that the Uriologist put me on for overactive bladder is not being kind to my system! I'm miserable...again...seems it's always something!
Sh******t I had written a long message, and going back to read one of your messages, I lost it all! I shall be quicker this time. Any news about Linda? My mother had a similar thing last year, she was operated and as you know she is better than me, now. Maxine you are so sweet. Jen how are things doing, I mean what do you do when your grandpa is away for a few hours? Do you dance, drink, listen to the music you like??? Enjoy, sister, enjoy! Freedom is too precious. Deef, my mother is always the same; she does not want to live with me, wants to go back to Daniela's house every night. I am working so hard and sleeping so little that my patience is zero, so I snap all the time. I am glad that after 10 minutes she forgets all the terrible things I tell her, for example that she has to stay with me because nobody else wants us. I am ashamed of myself. I am really tired. Please do not tell me I have to rest and take care of myself. I can't. I need an anti-depressant hoping that it does not make me feel asleep. What else? Linda give us news. A big kiss on Sassy's nose. I wear bras. Can I continue to stay in this group? Will you kick me out?
Maxine, So nice you were able to get away. Maine! Nice place to be! Miz, Happy to hear that Sassy is feeling better! Good thing they have 9 lives!! Hope your mom is eating better with a little help. Linda, been thinking about you and Dad. Hope everything is alright! Bobbie, Still outfitting that boat? Hope you get up Boston way someday! Rossella, Hope you are catching up on your work! How is Mom? My Mom had a few confusing days this week, and ended up with poop soup today, so maybe she had a stomach bug working on her. Seemed better this afternoon. Hard to tell, when lights on but no one is home most of the time! Hope you all have a nice evening!
Hi guys Maxine here Gp let them come you tell them you are not Martha Stewart with a staff of 100 they are comming to see you not count dust balls Rosella cats are smart I told my cat one position he got is was not nice so now h puts a paw doen to cover his parts he was bad while I was away crying all the time now I am home he is busy doing his thing he is a husband GP how are you honey I went crazy without a computer for a week and putting up with Mom -but my sister did talk about our childhood I had thought she had it good-she is 7 years younger but she and I are great Mothers now my brothers got her parenting methods Miz what is Sassy's med -better than xanax? Kuli your daughter ill still be close no matter what you are a great Mom Linda hope your Pa is ok you are such a great person and I know he knows that and hope he is well soon. I am so glad to be home again and with all you guys but Maine was fantasic and the trees were so pretty and Mom did not get to me I did not cry once -just ignored her digs I feel sorry for her and for me what she put me through all the years I was growing up-my kids got the benefit of a caring mother and are great adults and my son has risen above how my husband treated us all-my daughter decided not to have children but has a great husband-I am at loose ends now and so want a nice man in my life. Hopeyou all have a good quiet peaceful rest tonight-back to work on my items for our craft fair at our senior center to get money for supplies for those who can not afford to pay for supplies for classes,
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Pamela! it is great to see from you and I understand about your mom. Congrats on the graduation.
Well, to all you braless and boulder holders and dancers and revelers:
Finally got the right cat.
Probably just going to call her KC for Kitty Cat. She's a rescue kitty that I picked up yesterday at the Pet Supermarket where they were having an adopt day.
So far so good. She hasn't tried to kill me like the other one and she got right out of her carrier and took about an hour to look the place over and dig in her sandbox and then she had dinner and an after dinner little bowl of milk and then we watched some Deadliest Catch.
I went below to go to sleep and she came along and slept in the bed until early this morning when she heard a dolphin breathe right outside the porthole. The seagulls squawking she could care less about, but a dolphin taking a breath must be a new one.
She took off and when I got up she was sitting on the helm next to the compass. Best view in the house.
hope everybody has a good Sunday and now it's time for some joe.
lovbob
Linda, you danced? But, in the house? I hoped you had gone to a dancing hall!!!!
oh pumpkin pie , now im hungry !
was at fb playing games , now am going to bed , need ck on pa one more time ,
goodnight xoxo
oh miz must be out on her annivesray ! havent seen her yet , mmm hope they have a good ole time . ...
My neighbor gave us a Pumpkin Pie so Sir gets dessert! More dishes to wash.
He is worth it.
What a spoiled guy!
Hope everyone is having a fine Saturday night! It's pouring rain here ... must be Seattle?
oh humming birds ! they have left here already , havent seen them all week . guess they ve flew south . less robins too , notice s birds are less and more blue jay and cardnial , theyre pesters . eats up the cat food as soon as u put em out . thats ok they can eat em if they like em ,
somebody said ladies are out dancin , well somebodys right ! hubby and i was dancing slow dance out by the bonfire and had music going , aww it was nice . didnt last long , he s conked out , he woke up at 2 am to go to work today , poor guy he just kept a agoing , all my kids came and went , pleasure to see em all . i wanted to take a picture but didnt feel like wlakin all the way up here to get the camera , shame on me !
pa is good , he s in bed , he thinks everytime he wakes up its bfast time , poor guy , i tol dhim nana its 10 pm , im going to bed real soon , i changed him uh he s not even wet ,
now hubby s sleeping in his chair . i think im headin for bed soon ,
got supper dishes all piled up , i ll do them in the morning , unless merry wanna come over and do em for me , lol oh i wish !!
good night you all ,
bobbie , u doing ok ? am wondering about you .... xoxoxo
I wish I could share the wild critters who hang out here!
Everytime I grab the camera Sir needs something ... You know the feeling ...
This afternoon was warm. Sir was sitting in his chair with a cat on lap.
The windows were open... no screens
Get this ...
I walked into the living room & found a Stellar Jay & 2 Grey Squirrells sitting on the inside window sill looking for Dad's peanut stash!
OK, one squirrell was on the table beside the window, but still!
My Dad must be some kind of animal whisperer.
If they aren't perched outside his window, they're coming inside!
It's fun. He was the little kid in the 1920's who had a pocket Chipmunk & a talking crow who followed him everywhere.
I'm happy the animals still love us.
Sir needs his dinner now - sans wildlife.
Rosella, I'm with you! No patience left and Mom would rather be with Merry. We just have to do the best we can. Be careful with Prozac! Merry's daughter was taking it last year and had a bad reaction to it. Also my nephew was on it for a year and suffered worse with it than without. Some people can't tolerate it at all.
Miz, Hope you and hubby had a great date night! How's Sassy?
Linda, So glad Pa is alright! Taking him to the ER was the right thing to do.
Castoff, Those days at the park sound so nice and peaceful.
Rip, Get lots of pictures of those hummers!
Got all my plants covered. Expecting a freeze tonight! First one this fall.
Hope you all have a peaceful and restful day tomorrow!
Quick note to her & "Hello" to everyone.
There is a flock of huge Hummingbirds invading my yard! They are larger than Sparrows! Everywhere in the Butterfly bushes, Cannas & at the feeders.
Must be visiting ... migrating south from Canada. I've not seen Hummers so large!
& aggressive!
I'd better fill the feeders quick ~
New batteries for the camera. Hope I can snap a few but they are so Fast!
When you say that we still have to "go out & play" I could not agree more. I need my life to become lighter, lighter, lighter... (as opposed to "heavy")
Pamela, I understand you. I prefer to have 2 nice and good tempered girls as caregivers, (even if they clean the house very little and it is a constant mess) rather than the contrary. After a few bad experiences, I am very glad of the ones I have now and the fact that my mother is so well with both of them confirms that they are the right ones... You have to look for and look for and look for, until you find the good ones
Austin hi! I see we are very few, tonight. Guess the other ladies are out to dance!!!! Have a nice sunday
Mom has advanced Alz. now and there is not much new to report. We are still taking care of her in her home. Got a few problems with the main caretaker, the fat one that's been there about 9 months. She's being mean and mom is sending out msgs that she doesn't want her there anymore so we've found another someone who we will wean in and wean "fat and nasty" out.
I'm getting ready for my youngest Marine Corp Graduation October 29th, and the family day on the 28th so I'm planning a nice little vacation to San Diego for that week. I am soroud of him.
A lot to read but I know all the old faithfuls will know who I am.
Higs and kisses to all of you and God Bless you all.
Pamela
sounds like everyody s doing good , guess the full moon hasnt been around , ump .
you all have a great day , im digging up elephant ear bulb to bring em inside for the winter , whooo .
love ya all xoxoox
Just touching base here. 4 days of catch-up took a while.
GP, Glad you're doing better. Visitors can help around the homestead if they want to see you. I'm not "Suzie Homemaker" and don't have company often because of it. Hub says our house is just "lived in". No major dust bunnies but plenty of clutter....backpacks on the diningroom table from hikes in the park, etc.. My brother gave me 2 hrs notice before arriving for 3 day visit in Aug. "Thanks for giving me enough time to clean the bathroom!!!!" I personally think we miss out on much life if we are immaculate housekeepers. Our cat "Shutup" does most of the dusting with his 15" tail. LOL
Rosella, I think I know why your mom likes Daniela so much. Sounds like they are on the same page (mindset/loss). She can probably "pull a fast one" on her.
Bobbie, Ha, I have to wear a bra in public but don't at home. 44B is hard to find/fit. From a family of giants sort of. We used to joke about mom wearing her breasts as an accessory....high, low, over her shoulder..now thats not so funny but I am glad I'm smaller cup wise. They get in the way plenty already. Straps are never long enough for me either. The manufacturers figure all women are under 5'9" for some reason. Annoying but not a tragedy.
Rip, How goes it girl??? Shutup was at the window here in the 2nd floor hallway earlier when a sparrow landed on the sill. Sounded like WWIII & thought he was going to break out the screen. Silly boy!!! Hurt myself gardening at the park again yesterday. Our little day vacations each week have saved our sanity this year. It's all about balance and perspective I suppose. We still have to "go out & play".
Miz, Hope you & hub enjoyed your date. Glad your mom is eating again. Hope Sassy is all better soon.
Linda, Glad your pa is OK & sunshine pee in the future. Good that your sis is there with you.
My mom is still doing well & behaving herself. I am sooooo blessed lately. Her skin grafts are healing nicely & I hope the diabetis ulcers on her feet dissapear forever. It's been six years that we've been attending to them & it's time for them to go!!!
Kathy, Diane, Kuli, Austin & all...nice to hear of you & hope all are blessed.
Thanks for the suggestions about Xanax-prozac. I shall ask my doctor to prescribe me a visit to go to the psychologist and so on.
Hey I would wear a bra if i had something to keep it from snapping up and smacking me in the chin.
The straps aren't long enough for me to pop my roll into it.
that's why the shirts with 2 pockets.
Rossella! working so hard. thinkoftheboat!!
Nobody ever gets it and when they actually see it, it takes them days to process it. I did the Prozac and Xanax and it really works and I did not get sleepy. Old School antidepressant and anxiety med that doesn't have some of the issues that the newer stuff has.
Linda! glad Pa's back home safe. ER always exhausting. Hope you can kick it a little today.
Deef! Flex! I'll be coming before you know it. Next year.
GP! love you girl. Don't do all of that cleaning on your own. Daughter's coming.
Jen, hope you're doing exactly what you want when you have the moments.
Pirate! SS! Kuli and Jojo and Olivia!
Maxine and Miz!!
Daughter111 welcome to the Grossed Out Thread! Amazing group of caregivers and survivors!
As for me? Metamucil = Cleveland Steamer
Who did I miss? you know I missed some. I'm only relying on my memory, har har.
crew call!
Hey Daughter, do you like boats?
Love you guys a lot!
lovbob
Linda I am so glad! All is well which ends well. But you were right to worry; it is better to act immediately, before things get worse. And it was not very painful and disturbing for your father, either.
Georgia, I would not take drugs. Bran works so well... if you take it constantly. And it is natural. I do not know the concoction that Jen proposed, but it must be good. I would choose a solution of that kind. About your daughter, if you say that you have not seen her for 2 years, maybe she does not fully understand your situation. When she will see it, I am sure she will help you a lot. One thing is what she imagines, (being afar), one thing is what she sees. My brother, who comes every month, and I write him often to explain how the situation is worsening, does not understand anyway because he stays only for a few hours and he sees my mother in a context which is not normal - (he takes her to the Mass, or he takes her to have lunch in a resto). That is not my mother, that is only her social side.
Your daughter is going to stay 24/7 so she will understand.
I have slept tonight. Collapsed on the keyboard. Guess it is midnight for most of you, now.
Criminal Minds is waiting. I am so sorry JJ left. She was nice.
Jen, have you read "Tailchaser's song"? It is the most beautiful book about cats I ever read. A book of 20 years ago.
Nre fa'o! (It means: Good dance of the heart)
wow what a day , spent about almost 7 hrs in there . ran urine test and blood work , shows everything is all FINE . so made an appt for weds appt with urinoligy .
dr said i saw blood in his urine and was shock it came back fine , said maybe he has bladder infection ? ah hell they know nothing ...
know i ll take him weds and then set up an appt to do the test , come back again next week , blah blah . bunch hassel . i ask if they can just have that dr come and look at him now ? oh no im sorry , u ll have to come back weds . so all dad got was blood test and piss test and a supper tray , veg soup with alotta juice in it and wheres the beef ?
took him to mcdonald and got him a fish sandwich , got me one too , anyway dad has been whiney in the past hr , findlay i told him im going to bed , but i wanted to let you all know , pa s ok hes home in his bed .
thanks for your prayers you all ! its amazing that his test showes he s FINE . wooohoo ... prayers do work ... :-)
xoxoxo goodnight , im tired zzz
Doing OK, moving onto ramp estimates....
Rip, how are you?? Where are you?? I'm having a problem seeing who's online on FB...any suggestions of how to fix it?
miz, glad that Sassy's doing better. Give her some catnip...kitty cocaine works wonders! : ) Loved the me ow, too!
Rossella, bra or not, you're one of us! I'm concerned about you not getting enough rest, though!
Thanks, everybody, for your insight & suggestions about my daughter coming. I emailed her to give her some options that would work better for me & am waiting for her reply. A little scared at her agenda & motives since I haven't seen her in so long, that now all of a sudden she wants to come & spend 5 nights with us. Hum...We'll see!
Does anybody have a good remedy for constipation?? The new med that the Uriologist put me on for overactive bladder is not being kind to my system! I'm miserable...again...seems it's always something!
Love you guys!
How is your pa? I'm anxious to hear what the doctor said.
Miz, glad to know poor Sassy is feeling better.
I shall be quicker this time.
Any news about Linda? My mother had a similar thing last year, she was operated and as you know she is better than me, now.
Maxine you are so sweet.
Jen how are things doing, I mean what do you do when your grandpa is away for a few hours? Do you dance, drink, listen to the music you like??? Enjoy, sister, enjoy! Freedom is too precious.
Deef, my mother is always the same; she does not want to live with me, wants to go back to Daniela's house every night. I am working so hard and sleeping so little that my patience is zero, so I snap all the time. I am glad that after 10 minutes she forgets all the terrible things I tell her, for example that she has to stay with me because nobody else wants us. I am ashamed of myself. I am really tired. Please do not tell me I have to rest and take care of myself. I can't. I need an anti-depressant hoping that it does not make me feel asleep.
What else? Linda give us news.
A big kiss on Sassy's nose.
I wear bras. Can I continue to stay in this group? Will you kick me out?
Miz, Happy to hear that Sassy is feeling better! Good thing they have 9 lives!! Hope your mom is eating better with a little help.
Linda, been thinking about you and Dad. Hope everything is alright!
Bobbie, Still outfitting that boat? Hope you get up Boston way someday!
Rossella, Hope you are catching up on your work! How is Mom?
My Mom had a few confusing days this week, and ended up with poop soup today, so maybe she had a stomach bug working on her. Seemed better this afternoon. Hard to tell, when lights on but no one is home most of the time!
Hope you all have a nice evening!
God bless you. You're help for your mom will in the long run be a greater blessing than some of the stuff she pulls.
Keep up the good work.