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rip, i hate to cook too. I used to make a pretty mean guacamole when I lived in So. Cal. :)

kuli, thanks so much. :)
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I make a mean chocolate martini. Can't really tolerate margaritas anymore. But chocolate martinis.....mmmmmmmm
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Olivia, although I don't know you, please know my thoughts are with you now. I dread the day it comes for my dad as much as I pray for it to come. I hope you can find peace and comfort knowing you gave your mom the one gift none of her other family would. Miz - so glad to hear about your kitty. I hope she's home and running laps around the house soon! As I said before, I have become addicted to this site and so many times it has been my lifeline. The funny thing is, when my dad sees me on my computer, he always thinks I'm buying something. Must think I'm loaded - ha! But thanks to ALL of you and I hope I offer as much to you as you all give to me! As far as bras, whenever I don't wear one, my daughter asks if I really intend to walk around that way. While they aren't bigger than my braless days, they certainly have become floppier. Gravity is not our friend!
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I hate to cook ... but can make a dynamite salsa with good Guacomole! (SP?)
If not ... the is a great restaurant nearby!
Need a cute man bartender ... SIR?
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Miz ... Yours will have the special Crystalized kind of salt around the rim of a special sand carved glass!

I can't wait for Sassy to be home in your arms!
Our pets always seem to return the passion we offer them!
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Fajitas, nachos, taco dip! Party time!
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I love salt.
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Peach Alert!!!

I called her & she says she is OK.
Will be online later
It's great to have friends where ever you are!
WIsh we were all close & could have a creative B*tch Out ... Bras Optional.
I have a Fajita maker waiting for a party ...
Magarita glasses too! With Salt!
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Thanks, everyone. Deef, I will give her a kiss tomorrow when she comes home.

As far as bras go, the bigger they are the more they sag (and mine aren't all that big). I wear push up bras. Hubby says it's false advertising. LOL!!
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p.s. I heartly wish our good siblings a period of poverty, not too long, but quite a hard one, I think it will be a good experience for them, too.
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Sassy Yeahhhhhh!
My cats have rooted for U
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Miz, So glad Sassy is going to be okay. Give her a kiss for all of us!
J, Don't give up on daycare!
Rip, The braless 70's were the best! And I love tie dye too! I don't care if it goes out of style, I still love it!
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Miz is right this is a wonderful place, all irritations aside. With out it. I don't know. Maybe I'd drink...Everyone here understands on a level people who don't do this just can't comprehend...Thank You all for being here for me and everyone.
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Olivia, Take care and do what's needed to get past this sad time. Then get the hell out and start living your life! We're all rooting for you!
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Olivi, I am sorry to hear about your mom. I hope these days will not be too dark and painful I offer my condolences.
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Thank you, J. :) I'm so sorry about your day. This is such a wonderful place to come to isn't it?
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Olivi, I'm so sorry that your mom passed. Please take good care.

love,
miz
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Wow, lots of "youngest" taking care of their parents. Me too. Interesting.
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Oh I am soo glad your kitty will be OK! It has been a crappy day for me and the good news, and my Leek Soup turning out really good and rips email made up for a really crap day!
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I'm not getting notifications!! I just came on here and checked and there are all these posts.

Well, my prayers were answered. Sassy had surgery today and they removed about a foot and a half of yarn from her intestine. She's gonna be okay. :) We will probably bring her home tomorrow. Thanks so much for all your prayers!!

I'll read posts later or tomorrow. I'm pretty tired. I'm soooo relieved!!

love,
miz
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.........................................................................Grandpa got home form Adult Day Health....and fell coming in the door. When he was on the porch, before he fell, he said snottily: "You Satisfied?!"
Great great...going real good. All my fault again.


I can't win.
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YAY Bobbie!!!
The BraLess Wonder ... now that we all share that personal detail about ourselves!
Do you have Black Out Breasts?
Put them away at times?

Sorry ,,, you can tell by my previous posts I am frustrated, exhausted & needing a laugh.
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I hear you, Lady!
My $ resources drained long ago while caring for Dad.
Sacrifced everything! Brother took Dad's savings ...

Sorry i whined earlier .. I get so frustrated being stuck here ... where I am at with Dad ... after trying so hard to be everything for everyone else.
I wouldn't trade it either, despite the traumas.
He doesn't realise he is my life now ...

So you are free with no resources & your sister is going on a cruise. How D@mn sweet of her.

What can we do for you????
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bobbie321
Thank you I may take you up on that offer.
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rip NO I can't afford a curise I have no money. I quit my job 3 or 4 yrs ago to take care of my mom. So I lived on my saving and it is gone and as been gone for awhile now. Where my sibiling kept working and not helping so they never missed a vacation where I have not had one in 5 years. But you know I would not change anything I would do it all over again in a heart beat if I had to. But who knows maybe one day I will beable to take that curise.
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Olivia!

I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I know how hard you worked and how hard it is now. Be gentle with yourself!

The Barbara B is here for you if you choose to cruise...
no blackout dates!

lovbob
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Yes, Olivia ~
Can you afford a cruise? Some kind of vacation to reinvent yourself? There's always Bobbie's Boat in FL for now ...

My family descended on me when Mom passed.
Suddenly I had a house full of brothers, nieces & the ocassional distant realative. Plus the ex & step kids.
Ex drove away to be by himself, deal with his grief alone by the river. They were close. He left his - my step kids here at our house ... with me. They were great kids & also very close to Mom. I was trying to be brave ... they were confused ...
No escape!
I was expected to cook & play hostess ... take all the phone calls ... be the perfect daughter ... all I wanted to do was hide.
Fly away somewhere, into the clouds with my wonderful mother ... who was gone from life.
I couldn't cry ... wasn't acceptable behavior in a family of men.

I guess everyone deals with grief in their own way. I wanted to be alone ... curl up in my bed under the covers.
Everyone expected me to be strong, since Mom & I were so close. Just like her. Pillar of strength.

I had no choice but to accept them all into my home. Cook our (Mom's, now mine) famous clam fetticuine. Prepare the fresh salad & baked sourdough bread.
GAG!!!

I remember my eldest brother, the attorney, dropping a single pastel rose on the coffee table in front of me. Came from a bouquet at Hospice.
He said: "I didn't know you liked roses ..."
Huh? I have 2 nice, well tended rose gardens! It felt like a knife! But I cherished that dried up rose. It was part of Mom;s last breath.

Shi*t ... I wonder if I ever had time to grieve until now?
Or if I will ever allow myself to ...

Thanks for being here everybody! I had it good ... Great parents, for the most part. Still do in most repects since Dad is usually an "easy care" since he no longer drinks.
Just CONSTANT!!! & fading!
No support!

Better now ... must take the bushells of used Kleenex to the trash barrel for tomorrow's 6 AM pick up.

Wishing you ALL Well!!!
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Olivia, we appreciate what you did for your mom even if they did not...we know the trials and tribulations.....after you go through your mourning period you be sure to set yourself up for a cruise too!
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Hi Olivia. I understand the situation of relatives who do not help you when you need it, and reappear when you do not need them anymore. I don't want to see anyone of them when my mother will go away. Nevertheless, if you feel better in their company, swallow your pride! When I lost my father I wanted to be alone, but we are all different.
Miz! Sassy! Please let us know. Sassy is too cute.
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Yeap, that is me tennessee. I hope I made my mom proud I tryed very hard to take care of her.

PirateGal thank-you.

Rip
Thank you I am finding some private time. I don't have to worry about my family visiting they didn't visit when my mom was alive and so far they have not visit since she has passed. They have all gone back to work and my sister is getting ready to go on a cruise.
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