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Know about that hole, I am not in it today but i see it from here, it is always there, OK to go in an sit for a while but remember where the exit is, no one want's to live there permanantly.
That is crappoola about what the son did , Do these people have no shame?...I feel bad to borrow four dollars for a lotto ticket I pay back a week later, I can not imagine the level of "Entitlement Disorder one must have to bilk $100 Grand out of an old man with no intents to pay it back....Pathological self involvement.
It seems to be the same casual disregard for others that Family Reunion setting...It is all about awareness. Even when we didn't have a Wheel chair bound set of relatives, I knew to say are there hills here or grass slopes with unforeseeable pits waiting to twist an ankle, not everyone is a spry 25 year old!
Most people just see the world from their own perspective and abilities. They will be the ones that complain the most when they someday need assistance themselves and note the lack of "respect" and concern of others for their needs...
Just waiting for dr call here to get what may be bad good news...
WHERES MIZ AND BOBBIE ? hope theyre ok . love you all ! had to turn on the furnace this morning , i saw my breath outside ! burrr , came back inside after smokin and coughin and coffee got cold , cked to see what the temp is ohh its 70 , dad s crying im cold im cold , he s wet so i crank that furnace up and ahh we both are warm now . dad said well i think its time i go back to fla ! its cold up here now . i said oh u wanna go back to nursing home ? i said its cold in nursing home cuz they re all time running the air condition , too cold for me . he sat there and thought about what i said . i tol dhim im staying home where i can keep warm with that good ole woodstove ! . he liked that idea , lol
i forgot to take pa s samples , shit damn it ! guess i ll do that tmr am , my sister will be here tmr so i can leave him here with her while i zoom to the lab
you guys stay away from that black hole ! wheres that beach at ? oh bobbies boat !! keep on dreaming and one day it will come true woooohoo . fall in the black hole , theres no beach in there or barbara b ! love ya xoxo
miz, sweetie, how are you today? deef, you too? rip? Gosh, I wish I could do something to help!
linda, I'm so sorry that the family reunion was a bust...darn family! How can people be so continually self-absorbed??? Not just yours, but all of ours! I hate when other people don't think about what others are having to go through...even planning to have the reunion where it was physically difficult to roll the wheelchair...bumpy concrete & rough grass! Did anybody even offer to help you push the wheelchair? People just don't think! I've gotten to where I'm VERY vocal in getting people's attention to get them to wake up & get out of the way when hubby is trying to get through a group just standing around picking their noses! EXCUSE ME...CAN WE PLEASE GET THROUGH?!?! They finally wake up & let us through! Even that gets tiring!
I kinda understand what you're saying about your elder asking for their spouse. Kinda. My Mother is 85 next Saturday & inevitably our daily conversations turn to my Dad, her husband of 60 years. He passed 5 years ago. She's still very lucid...still lives alone & still drives, but obsessed with missing him. I'm having a very difficult time with it. I still haven't really grieved for him...haven't had the time or energy with taking care of my husband & caring for my aunt who had cancer & lived with us until her death. I don't go to the cemetary...haven't been, but once since we buried him. Still haven't seen his tomstone & can't handle talking about him...just still too painful, but I get a daily dose of it. I let her talk, but it's very difficult!!! Sometimes it's overwhelming & I just have to try to change the subject...I was a Daddy's girl...I miss him too, just can't talk about him constantly...Will there EVER be any happiness again?? And now having to deal with hubby being sick...Just how big is that dark hole???
I saw a sign Saturday that said HANG TOUGH...better than Hang In There! Either one is still difficult!
J, I hadn't thought of a UTI being contributed to the full moon, but makes sense! It's definately back in full force. I just got off the phone with the nice lady at the hospital who did check the culture & said that there is something growing & she's checking with the doc now to see what I need to do. Waiting for her call. GOTTA do something! This is miserable!!!
Thanks for letting me vent!
Cyber Sis', hope you will all have an easy day...thinkoftheboat...Thanks Bobbie for bringing us all together!!!
Hey Rip, hear ya on every point... specially the raging thing. Diane, careful with that lifting, I broke my back in 92 and am extra careful, when your back gets you down, you are down - flat - no movin - intense pain... Be careful! Try some light yoga.
Next week is going to be a huge improvement on this last one, as Piccard used to say... "make it so" Grin
I hear you, Diane, That dark hole seems nearby. So tired of Dad's simple needs. I never know if he is serous or not. Tonight when he was deciding if he might go to bed or not ... I blew. After 13+ years of taking care of his sorry ass, I deicided I needed some time alone. He can phone me if he REALLY needs me tonight. None of his pansy ass sh*t.
Also told him how chicken sh*t he been is for not standing up to his son who borrowed $100K & refuses to pay him back. The son ( My attorney brother) takes lavish sporting vacations - world wide - buying the latest high end gear for his latest wife & when available, his darling daughter & her latest husband. Across the country. Vacation house, all the latest sports cars. Image, of course.
He will Never pay Dad back the money loaned. He overwhelmed Dad, who believed in him. HA! I would have warned him ... but it was a super secret loan. Of course his image needed protection. Of course he'd pay Dad back ... HA!!!
Meanwhile, my every minute revolves around Dad & his needs. Yes, he is a good guy, but knows how to play a lady. I am tired of his helpless act ... now days I can't tell if it's real or not. But when he starts raging at me ... he will hear it back. I'm tired of sucking up the whole family crap. I hope he won't stroke out again, but the last year he has decided to eliminate the world, except me.' ' Yeowww! That dark hole place! Am I there yet?
Sorry I haven't been online. I've been busy cleaning house and taking care of mom. Mom has been having lots of hallucinations today and is getting very angry again because I don't see them. Tonight she was obsessed with what she claims were two disfigured babies sitting in a stroller on the porch. I felt like I needed the Xanax to deal with her today.
Rip, the only reason I am still working right now is because of health insurance. If I could figure out a way to work part-time and get health benefits I would do it in a heart beat. I feel overwhelmed trying to work 40 hours a week and care for mom and a home. Mom is calling me more and more at night. I don't get to sleep well and I am in constant pain with my back. I am basically lifting mom a couple times a day.
Miz, I may just be joining you in that dark hole right now. Sorry I am bummed out again this weekend. I hope we will all find some renewed energy and motivation.
Take care of yourselves my sisters in caregiving. Big hugs to you all.
Hey J ... I am never sure if it's another stroke or panic from having his body age. ... failing him. He is brighter than most at 91 ... yet never ending needing me.
His confusion may be due to his UTI antibiotic. I don't know ... don't know anything any more I am exhausted trying to figure him out. I can simply care for him.
He is polite & nice to me .. feels bad about his condition ... yet I am always here without a break.
He just devoured a plate of eggs & hash browns. YAY!
Linda .. like you needed to be the focus of attention at a reunion! Don't they realilse you have it hard enough? Of course not .. I have a family who doesnt understand ... at least a plate of food mellowed him.
But they could have helped you so much! ACK! Family!!
I am looking forward to the new epsisodes of DH & Brothers & Sisters too, I think they killed off Rob Lowe in the last episode. He will be missed.
It's 5 PM here & Dad is pacing, not feeling well. Doesn't want to eat ...or maybe ,,, had a Xanax so maybe he will relax. Just phoned me .. is sitting back in his chair. The drug may have soothed him? His anxiety ... Hope so ... I'll offer him dinner ...
I often wonder what it would be like to have someone take care of me ... Impossible dream? Like most of us, I don't have health insurance so I don't dare get sick. Yet I fawn over my Dad, whom I love' Despite .... Family sh*t
How can we find health insurance for us Stuck Home Caregivers?
Lord know, Dad might drive me mad!!! He sure loves his cell phone Instant communication with me!
Waiting for grpas test results this week, at least he isn't still crabbin at the tv, that gets old fast. just tired here. Waiting for what ever is next..
Linda, Same thing happened to me at Mom's birthday this summer. The party was at my sister's, a half hour away. I thought I could get my 6 sibs to watch her, but didn't happen. My older sister was here for 3 weeks to help out, and her and I got stuck watching Mom. We did jump in the pool for a half hour, so someone had to watch her. But after that, they were all to busy hiding and catching up with each other. Didn't even bother with Mom. Don't you just love it! It's like they are all brain dead!!!LOL I think they are!!! Mom asks for Dad all the time too. He's been dead for 30 years, so I do like you, change the subject, give her ice cream, or anything else that takes her mind off of Dad. Hope your dad doesn't have another UTI. But if he does, at least that can be fixed. Enjoy your sit outside. I'll be watching "bothers and sisters" too!
i think that fullmoon has something to do with uti ? i believe dad has got his back again , am going to take his samples to the lab tmr and find out . went to reunion yesterday , my moms side family , dad sat there and whine wanna see momma , everybody looked at me , i didnt know whatto say so i said umm wanna see momma s sisters ? nooo he said , finaly i told him mom is in heaven , he yelled noooo she is not !! i got up and moved his wheelchair around and fixed him a plate of food and everythings ok , whew ! all my aunt s and uncles said it takes a very speical person to do this , i said yes thats because dad is very speical to me . i felt trapped cuz i couldnt go walking around to yard sales and walk to town to see all the fleamarkets stuff . everybody left me ! they did ask me if i was going i told them no i have to sit with dad , they said oh ok and left me ! waaaa . i ask dad if he wants a ride up t o town , he said oh no no no . fine ! i wont go next year . i ll stay home ! it was hell getting in him the wheelchair and try push the damn thing on grass and bumpy sidewalk grrr . hope u all had a good weekend . miz , plz stay away from that black hole , u;ll fall in and its hard to climb out of it , keep ur head above and keep on smiling . they say that smiling all the time does effect something in ur brain , brain says to be happy cuz lips are smiling ! wooohoo . im happy but sat sucks and i kept on fakin smiling and i guess i was indeed happy when i was on my way home . lol gp if u see me online on fb , hollar ok ! i did enjoyed talkin to u , gonna fix me coffee and then go sit outside and smoke away . gonna watch desperate housewife and brothers n sisters , love those shows . also i love meduim too rip .
bobbie hope ure warm , its nippy here , burrrrr . xoxo
PC ...? I know! Thats how my business came to be. I can't help it ... started the signs with a brush & Exacto knife. Have Many scars to prove it. Then came computers ... I had to adappt.
I love seeing a big truck running down the road with my designs on the door! My clients would park a huge, multi thousand (Million?) dollar truck in from of my shop ... Say "Go at it, Mary!" I did the exterior decor, yet learned to understand things like chassies & hydraulic equipment. What brakes were cool ..or passe. The cabs of some of those on road trucks are unbelievable!
You are in Ohio now? Do you have time to work? What medium? I'm almost ashamed that computers took away my creativity ... I need to remember ... the computer is merely a tool.
Hey RIP, I am a graphic designer too! My biz is really struggling along out here in Ohio. Mostly they don't want to pay for what they perceive they can do themselves... "I just got a new computer and I am going to learn how to do it myself, bye bye" Harump! Hah!
Yeah, I keep thinking I am going to do a business plan, but then I get some (business that is) and it goes back in the drawer. That red cat society is really a good idea. You NEED to do it - grin - thats my version of support!
Are you a mac girl or pc?
Thank god for left overs! Tonight I am serving up yesterday with alitlle splash of green bean. Be well all, later 'Ralli (spiralli)
I have a spray bottle of Vinegar near my gates for when the aggressive neighboor dogs (Shar Peis) used to bang their heads into the cahin link. Over & over! They were manic! They moved east ... hope they aren't your new neighbors!
I've used vinegar on my concrete driveway cracks which lately grow Lamb's Ears ... but wait, you dang Morning Glories! Rip has a new solution for you!! Thanks!
Sunday afternoon ~ Where is everyone??? Safe I hope.
Yeah, Miz ... my Grammy had ducks to eat the slugs. Duck eggs are great for baking! She proved it with her cakes. She was also the one who could shoot a skunk off the fence at 80 yards. She loved those ducks. The skunks tried to eat them. Didn't dine there often after a few rounds from the 22. & they DO poop! Lots!
Spiralli ... You've been around quite a while! Oatmeal is supposed to be good for the complexion ... uh ... not that way 2 of them? Fighting? How do you do it??? Sounds like a War Zone. What is your business?
Someday I'll pull it together & asemble a "business plan" for the Red Cat Society & K9 Express. I've had my sign business for 24 years, but it has always revolved around caring for family or step kids. Lost my business sense long ago. Tended to adopt my clients ... Hard to buill friends.
Plus, (back to businees plans for RCS & K9E) like the Whoo Haa "Mission Statements" that every company must have now.
Crap, I find plans are designed to be broken. Anyone can collect a bunch of adjectives & compile a Mission Statement.
Mine would be something like: "Yes, Im a decent designer & can produce a good, quality sign using the best fonts available. If you want to go technical I'll send you the info on all my products & why I use them. If you want to dicker? Here's the number of my local competitor."
Hi everyone Maxine here Rip use full strength vinager in a spray bottle when those pesty morning glories rear their ulgy heads it works well on the weeds that grow up in the cracks in the driveway-kills them right away and will not hurt pets I do not use any chemicals except for slugs because the groundmoles make subways in my lawn to get to the slugs but that did not even work this year. Tell your neighbor go prune her own bushes if it is not done right -how far to prune or the right time of year it will kill them -a friend of mine -her husband prune her butterfly bush to low and killed and they are expensive here. I have trouble growing sunflowers here unless I grow them in pots and transplant when there are a few inches high while visiting a friend upstate saw a sunflower farm and it was awsome.
Ewww Rip. I hate slugs. I've been to the southern part of Alaska and there are slugs galore. People had ducks to eat the slugs but then they dealt with the duck poop. Have you ever heard of that?
Spiralli, no need to apologize. What you are going through would drive a saint crazy. I'm wondering if the doc could give her something to calm her down. It would help you and your sanity and would probably make her less angry which can't be fun. Keep venting on here. Hugs to you!!
hey Rip/Mary, Red Cat Society! I am with you there! Our Meme, or Mrs. Magnificence or She-who-becomes-Small, is the angel of our family - probably the reason Frick and Frack (mom and dad) have not actually killed each other with dirty looks (or worse). at least 30% of the questions I am called on to answer in a given hour are related to her whereabouts... When you are looking for the cat, you can not be getting into other trouble.
I am so jealous of you that have wonderful relationships with your mothers... Part of the reason I agreed to this posting with my sister, was that I never understood my mom, thought I could really bond with her, help her, "grok" her. Not so. I remain my Daddys Girl/Woman. Mother is simply... mean and self centered, and there are times I can look past that and see the great teacher, goat hearder, artist and designer, but today is not one of them.
I am so tired of this constant whinning, insulting and poor-me-ing, this constant judgment, and anger. I am sorry guys, I just want to put her in a home... NOW! I cant answer the same question one more time! This morning I made oatmeal 3 times because first she threw the bowl at me (full) saying it was not the right color. It may not have been, but it was definately hot! Then the second bowl went upside down on the table - on purpose - because she wanted to "cool it down" and finally I put it on a salad plate and about 1/2 of it got eaten. I know she is sick and I know it wont get better - this is the hard part.
I am very close to job hunting in France! Forget family loyalty - I cant even stand to hear her cough, her fake come-and-wait-on-me cough, Gloom, Dispar, and agony on me, deep dark depression excessive misery... what was the name of that song? I should get it and play it every time she rings the bell!
Ok, sorry guys, I just had a moment, it will pass... On to better things, like... cleaning up the kitchen and washing the oatmeal out of my clothes and hair....
This cool sumer has born many hybrid Slugs! Egads ,,, they are creepy creatures! Snails without shells ...that devour my garden.
aHa -- The veggies & tomatoes are now growing in pots on the upper deck! You slimers can't climb that far ... I hope. Escargot? I wish.. we'd all be wealthy! Slugs are pretty icky, no matter how you disguise them.
Feeling alone tonight. Dad just crawled into his bed. Content. The neighbors are having another party! Lots of laughter! Sounds like they're having fun! I'm ready to see what the DVR recorded for this season's new programs.
Any hints?
I liked the episode of Medium. They keep coming up with new twists for the characters. Nice watching the kids grow up.
Sometimes I think screwing with nature works out great.
Just think: If we could cross a turkey with a spider we would have 8 drumsticks!
GP and Miz! love you ladies and so does everyone else on the thread. If love and words could sooth your pain we would all be ok. Man it hurts, it's unfair, it sux and we all know it.
Tomorrow would have been my mom's 90th birthday. I had a great time throwing parties for her and I miss her. I'm still planning on finding a lagoon as blue as her eyes.
The natural world is something else..People fiddles with apples for colour and now some have no taste, they want the perfect rose but those often have no scent...I think you get the beauty of the smell and the thorns...period.
Miz ... Rip AKA Mary is here with you ... we all are
How do we keep you from that Black Hole? Feet first? I wish we all lived nearby. Could physically visit & be there ... especially those Dark Days, which are so frequent.
I'm having a wild Saturday night at home. Thankfully I enjoy my hoouse, Sir & animals. Especially my family online. You all!
Dad is dining on Shrimp Scampi with wild rice. Love the Costco frozen stuff.
Mom used to cook everything from scratch. Dad was spoiled big time. Those were the days ... Everything fresh from her garden! It was a way of life for generations of the family ... now a new fad. She'd spend hours of supreme cooking! She was a master with everthing she did -
I suspect she would love what we can pop in the microwave now. Dad ate anything with appreciation. Still does ...
His words: "Some people live to Eat ... others Eat to Live". We are the latter.
Mom had amazing talents outside the kitchen. My skills don't involve cooking ... it leads to cleaning up the kitchen. Yuck ~
I am really missing my Mom. We were such good friends.
I'm glad she's not around to watch the decline of her husband, She was always the healthy, very Vibrant one. Independent & clever. Always a new idea! Damn stupid cancer ...
Miz ... Maybe we should all get together & work on the Red Cat Society? Matching seniors with homeless cats?
Even Pirate could back it! I hear you about cats,... but they can fill a huge void for many people. Especially seniors who love a furry, loving lap cat. Honest ... there are some great cats out there! Not all scratch the furniture or piss around ...
My last 24 hours have really sucked. Really struggling to stay out of the black hole. My best friend tells me to always go in feet first so you can climb your way out...
castoff, It's not a good idea to clean your ears with Q-tips. It pushes the wax in towards the ear drum. It's best to use one of those bulb things with half room temperature peroxide and half hot water. Oil in the ear at night will soften the wax. If a person showers it's good to let the water run in then out of the ear canal. K...I'll get off my soap box now. :)
I gave Miralax to Mom once and she got the wicked diarrheas. It may have just been a coincidence. I don't know. I give her stool softeners and that doesn't work too well but she's so sensitive to laxatives.
Af riend "pruned" my Brandy Tree Rose to the ground last year. She has taken a rose pruning class, I told her to have at it!
Now, rather than large fragrant blooms ... I have clusters of little pink roses with zero scent growing from the stump. Roses are mysterious!
I have one red Rose that came with the house. Lives by the chimney. Must be 30 years old ... the scent is awesome! One bloom emcompasses the whole room with fragrance! Plant looks awful! Woody, scrappy & thorny ...yet the aroma of a single bud...
I doubt my tomatoes will ripen outdoors this year. Lousy summer. Does anyone know about growing tomatoes indoors? I've seen the expensive kits, but not willing to spend $100+ for a little grow light. This summer I planted my veggies & tomatoes in pots on the upper deck. No munching, creepy crawlers can reach them there.
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That is crappoola about what the son did , Do these people have no shame?...I feel bad to borrow four dollars for a lotto ticket I pay back a week later, I can not imagine the level of "Entitlement Disorder one must have to bilk $100 Grand out of an old man with no intents to pay it back....Pathological self involvement.
It seems to be the same casual disregard for others that Family Reunion setting...It is all about awareness. Even when we didn't have a Wheel chair bound set of relatives, I knew to say are there hills here or grass slopes with unforeseeable pits waiting to twist an ankle, not everyone is a spry 25 year old!
Most people just see the world from their own perspective and abilities. They will be the ones that complain the most when they someday need assistance themselves and note the lack of "respect" and concern of others for their needs...
Just waiting for dr call here to get what may be bad good news...
hope theyre ok .
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had to turn on the furnace this morning , i saw my breath outside ! burrr , came back inside after smokin and coughin and coffee got cold , cked to see what the temp is ohh its 70 , dad s crying im cold im cold , he s wet so i crank that furnace up and ahh we both are warm now .
dad said well i think its time i go back to fla ! its cold up here now . i said oh u wanna go back to nursing home ? i said its cold in nursing home cuz they re all time running the air condition , too cold for me . he sat there and thought about what i said . i tol dhim im staying home where i can keep warm with that good ole woodstove ! . he liked that idea , lol
i forgot to take pa s samples , shit damn it ! guess i ll do that tmr am , my sister will be here tmr so i can leave him here with her while i zoom to the lab
you guys stay away from that black hole ! wheres that beach at ? oh bobbies boat !! keep on dreaming and one day it will come true woooohoo . fall in the black hole , theres no beach in there or barbara b !
love ya xoxo
linda, I'm so sorry that the family reunion was a bust...darn family! How can people be so continually self-absorbed??? Not just yours, but all of ours! I hate when other people don't think about what others are having to go through...even planning to have the reunion where it was physically difficult to roll the wheelchair...bumpy concrete & rough grass! Did anybody even offer to help you push the wheelchair? People just don't think! I've gotten to where I'm VERY vocal in getting people's attention to get them to wake up & get out of the way when hubby is trying to get through a group just standing around picking their noses! EXCUSE ME...CAN WE PLEASE GET THROUGH?!?! They finally wake up & let us through! Even that gets tiring!
I kinda understand what you're saying about your elder asking for their spouse. Kinda. My Mother is 85 next Saturday & inevitably our daily conversations turn to my Dad, her husband of 60 years. He passed 5 years ago. She's still very lucid...still lives alone & still drives, but obsessed with missing him. I'm having a very difficult time with it. I still haven't really grieved for him...haven't had the time or energy with taking care of my husband & caring for my aunt who had cancer & lived with us until her death. I don't go to the cemetary...haven't been, but once since we buried him. Still haven't seen his tomstone & can't handle talking about him...just still too painful, but I get a daily dose of it. I let her talk, but it's very difficult!!! Sometimes it's overwhelming & I just have to try to change the subject...I was a Daddy's girl...I miss him too, just can't talk about him constantly...Will there EVER be any happiness again?? And now having to deal with hubby being sick...Just how big is that dark hole???
I saw a sign Saturday that said HANG TOUGH...better than Hang In There! Either one is still difficult!
J, I hadn't thought of a UTI being contributed to the full moon, but makes sense! It's definately back in full force. I just got off the phone with the nice lady at the hospital who did check the culture & said that there is something growing & she's checking with the doc now to see what I need to do. Waiting for her call. GOTTA do something! This is miserable!!!
Thanks for letting me vent!
Cyber Sis', hope you will all have an easy day...thinkoftheboat...Thanks Bobbie for bringing us all together!!!
Diane, careful with that lifting, I broke my back in 92 and am extra careful, when your back gets you down, you are down - flat - no movin - intense pain... Be careful! Try some light yoga.
Next week is going to be a huge improvement on this last one, as Piccard used to say... "make it so" Grin
Tonight when he was deciding if he might go to bed or not ... I blew.
After 13+ years of taking care of his sorry ass, I deicided I needed some time alone. He can phone me if he REALLY needs me tonight. None of his pansy ass sh*t.
Also told him how chicken sh*t he been is for not standing up to his son who borrowed $100K & refuses to pay him back. The son ( My attorney brother) takes lavish sporting vacations - world wide - buying the latest high end gear for his latest wife & when available, his darling daughter & her latest husband. Across the country. Vacation house, all the latest sports cars.
Image, of course.
He will Never pay Dad back the money loaned. He overwhelmed Dad, who believed in him. HA!
I would have warned him ... but it was a super secret loan. Of course his image needed protection.
Of course he'd pay Dad back ... HA!!!
Meanwhile, my every minute revolves around Dad & his needs. Yes, he is a good guy, but knows how to play a lady. I am tired of his helpless act ... now days I can't tell if it's real or not.
But when he starts raging at me ... he will hear it back. I'm tired of sucking up the whole family crap. I hope he won't stroke out again, but the last year he has decided to eliminate the world, except me.'
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Yeowww!
That dark hole place! Am I there yet?
Sorry I haven't been online. I've been busy cleaning house and taking care of mom. Mom has been having lots of hallucinations today and is getting very angry again because I don't see them. Tonight she was obsessed with what she claims were two disfigured babies sitting in a stroller on the porch. I felt like I needed the Xanax to deal with her today.
Rip, the only reason I am still working right now is because of health insurance. If I could figure out a way to work part-time and get health benefits I would do it in a heart beat. I feel overwhelmed trying to work 40 hours a week and care for mom and a home. Mom is calling me more and more at night. I don't get to sleep well and I am in constant pain with my back. I am basically lifting mom a couple times a day.
Miz, I may just be joining you in that dark hole right now. Sorry I am bummed out again this weekend. I hope we will all find some renewed energy and motivation.
Take care of yourselves my sisters in caregiving. Big hugs to you all.
Diane
I am never sure if it's another stroke or panic from having his body age. ... failing him. He is brighter than most at 91 ... yet never ending needing me.
His confusion may be due to his UTI antibiotic. I don't know ... don't know anything any more
I am exhausted trying to figure him out. I can simply care for him.
He is polite & nice to me .. feels bad about his condition ...
yet I am always here without a break.
He just devoured a plate of eggs & hash browns. YAY!
I am so tired ...
Don't they realilse you have it hard enough?
Of course not .. I have a family who doesnt understand ...
at least a plate of food mellowed him.
But they could have helped you so much!
ACK! Family!!
I am looking forward to the new epsisodes of DH & Brothers & Sisters too, I think they killed off Rob Lowe in the last episode.
He will be missed.
It's 5 PM here & Dad is pacing, not feeling well. Doesn't want to eat ...or maybe ,,, had a Xanax so maybe he will relax.
Just phoned me .. is sitting back in his chair. The drug may have soothed him? His anxiety ... Hope so ...
I'll offer him dinner ...
I often wonder what it would be like to have someone take care of me ...
Impossible dream?
Like most of us, I don't have health insurance so I don't dare get sick.
Yet I fawn over my Dad, whom I love' Despite ....
Family sh*t
How can we find health insurance for us Stuck Home Caregivers?
Lord know, Dad might drive me mad!!!
He sure loves his cell phone Instant communication with me!
Waiting for grpas test results this week, at least he isn't still crabbin at the tv, that gets old fast. just tired here. Waiting for what ever is next..
Hope things are going better for everyone.
Hope your dad doesn't have another UTI. But if he does, at least that can be fixed. Enjoy your sit outside. I'll be watching "bothers and sisters" too!
went to reunion yesterday , my moms side family , dad sat there and whine wanna see momma , everybody looked at me , i didnt know whatto say so i said umm wanna see momma s sisters ? nooo he said , finaly i told him mom is in heaven , he yelled noooo she is not !! i got up and moved his wheelchair around and fixed him a plate of food and everythings ok , whew !
all my aunt s and uncles said it takes a very speical person to do this , i said yes thats because dad is very speical to me .
i felt trapped cuz i couldnt go walking around to yard sales and walk to town to see all the fleamarkets stuff .
everybody left me ! they did ask me if i was going i told them no i have to sit with dad , they said oh ok and left me ! waaaa .
i ask dad if he wants a ride up t o town , he said oh no no no .
fine ! i wont go next year . i ll stay home ! it was hell getting in him the wheelchair and try push the damn thing on grass and bumpy sidewalk grrr .
hope u all had a good weekend .
miz , plz stay away from that black hole , u;ll fall in and its hard to climb out of it , keep ur head above and keep on smiling .
they say that smiling all the time does effect something in ur brain , brain says to be happy cuz lips are smiling ! wooohoo . im happy but sat sucks and i kept on fakin smiling and i guess i was indeed happy when i was on my way home . lol
gp if u see me online on fb , hollar ok ! i did enjoyed talkin to u ,
gonna fix me coffee and then go sit outside and smoke away .
gonna watch desperate housewife and brothers n sisters , love those shows . also i love meduim too rip .
bobbie hope ure warm , its nippy here , burrrrr . xoxo
miz, how's the dark hole? Things will get better! They gotta! We're here for you!
i don't wan to say here we go again, but I think the UTI is rearing it's ugly head again...
later...rip on fb...yeah!!! some one to talk with!!! you're such a good friend!!!
Then came computers ... I had to adappt.
I love seeing a big truck running down the road with my designs on the door!
My clients would park a huge, multi thousand (Million?) dollar truck in from of my shop ... Say "Go at it, Mary!"
I did the exterior decor, yet learned to understand things like chassies & hydraulic equipment. What brakes were cool ..or passe. The cabs of some of those on road trucks are unbelievable!
You are in Ohio now? Do you have time to work? What medium? I'm almost ashamed that computers took away my creativity ... I need to remember ... the computer is merely a tool.
Yeah, I keep thinking I am going to do a business plan, but then I get some (business that is) and it goes back in the drawer. That red cat society is really a good idea. You NEED to do it - grin - thats my version of support!
Are you a mac girl or pc?
Thank god for left overs! Tonight I am serving up yesterday with alitlle splash of green bean. Be well all, later 'Ralli (spiralli)
I have a spray bottle of Vinegar near my gates for when the aggressive neighboor dogs (Shar Peis) used to bang their heads into the cahin link. Over & over! They were manic!
They moved east ... hope they aren't your new neighbors!
I've used vinegar on my concrete driveway cracks which lately grow Lamb's Ears ... but wait, you dang Morning Glories! Rip has a new solution for you!!
Thanks!
Safe I hope.
Yeah, Miz ... my Grammy had ducks to eat the slugs. Duck eggs are great for baking! She proved it with her cakes.
She was also the one who could shoot a skunk off the fence at 80 yards. She loved those ducks. The skunks tried to eat them. Didn't dine there often after a few rounds from the 22.
& they DO poop! Lots!
Spiralli ... You've been around quite a while! Oatmeal is supposed to be good for the complexion ... uh ... not that way
2 of them? Fighting? How do you do it???
Sounds like a War Zone.
What is your business?
Someday I'll pull it together & asemble a "business plan" for the Red Cat Society & K9 Express.
I've had my sign business for 24 years, but it has always revolved around caring for family or step kids. Lost my business sense long ago. Tended to adopt my clients ... Hard to buill friends.
Plus, (back to businees plans for RCS & K9E) like the Whoo Haa "Mission Statements" that every company must have now.
Crap, I find plans are designed to be broken. Anyone can collect a bunch of adjectives & compile a Mission Statement.
Mine would be something like:
"Yes, Im a decent designer & can produce a good, quality sign using the best fonts available. If you want to go technical I'll send you the info on all my products & why I use them.
If you want to dicker? Here's the number of my local competitor."
Spiralli, no need to apologize. What you are going through would drive a saint crazy. I'm wondering if the doc could give her something to calm her down. It would help you and your sanity and would probably make her less angry which can't be fun. Keep venting on here. Hugs to you!!
love,
miz
I am so jealous of you that have wonderful relationships with your mothers... Part of the reason I agreed to this posting with my sister, was that I never understood my mom, thought I could really bond with her, help her, "grok" her. Not so. I remain my Daddys Girl/Woman. Mother is simply... mean and self centered, and there are times I can look past that and see the great teacher, goat hearder, artist and designer, but today is not one of them.
I am so tired of this constant whinning, insulting and poor-me-ing, this constant judgment, and anger. I am sorry guys, I just want to put her in a home... NOW! I cant answer the same question one more time! This morning I made oatmeal 3 times because first she threw the bowl at me (full) saying it was not the right color. It may not have been, but it was definately hot! Then the second bowl went upside down on the table - on purpose - because she wanted to "cool it down" and finally I put it on a salad plate and about 1/2 of it got eaten. I know she is sick and I know it wont get better - this is the hard part.
I am very close to job hunting in France! Forget family loyalty - I cant even stand to hear her cough, her fake come-and-wait-on-me cough, Gloom, Dispar, and agony on me, deep dark depression excessive misery... what was the name of that song? I should get it and play it every time she rings the bell!
Ok, sorry guys, I just had a moment, it will pass... On to better things, like... cleaning up the kitchen and washing the oatmeal out of my clothes and hair....
Thanks for listening, Spiralli
Egads ,,, they are creepy creatures! Snails without shells ...that devour my garden.
aHa -- The veggies & tomatoes are now growing in pots on the upper deck! You slimers can't climb that far ... I hope.
Escargot? I wish.. we'd all be wealthy!
Slugs are pretty icky, no matter how you disguise them.
Feeling alone tonight. Dad just crawled into his bed.
Content.
The neighbors are having another party! Lots of laughter! Sounds like they're having fun!
I'm ready to see what the DVR recorded for this season's new programs.
Any hints?
I liked the episode of Medium. They keep coming up with new twists for the characters. Nice watching the kids grow up.
Just think: If we could cross a turkey with a spider we would have 8 drumsticks!
GP and Miz! love you ladies and so does everyone else on the thread. If love and words could sooth your pain we would all be ok. Man it hurts, it's unfair, it sux and we all know it.
Tomorrow would have been my mom's 90th birthday. I had a great time throwing parties for her and I miss her. I'm still planning on finding a lagoon as blue as her eyes.
sleepy and turning in,
lovbob
Rip AKA Mary is here with you ... we all are
How do we keep you from that Black Hole?
Feet first?
I wish we all lived nearby. Could physically visit & be there ...
especially those Dark Days, which are so frequent.
I'm having a wild Saturday night at home. Thankfully I enjoy my hoouse, Sir & animals.
Especially my family online. You all!
Dad is dining on Shrimp Scampi with wild rice.
Love the Costco frozen stuff.
Mom used to cook everything from scratch. Dad was spoiled big time.
Those were the days ...
Everything fresh from her garden! It was a way of life for generations of the family ... now a new fad.
She'd spend hours of supreme cooking! She was a master with everthing she did -
I suspect she would love what we can pop in the microwave now.
Dad ate anything with appreciation. Still does ...
His words:
"Some people live to Eat ... others Eat to Live".
We are the latter.
Mom had amazing talents outside the kitchen. My skills don't involve cooking ... it leads to cleaning up the kitchen.
Yuck ~
I am really missing my Mom. We were such good friends.
I'm glad she's not around to watch the decline of her husband, She was always the healthy, very Vibrant one. Independent & clever. Always a new idea!
Damn stupid cancer ...
Miz ... Maybe we should all get together & work on the Red Cat Society? Matching seniors with homeless cats?
Even Pirate could back it!
I hear you about cats,... but they can fill a huge void for many people. Especially seniors who love a furry, loving lap cat.
Honest ... there are some great cats out there! Not all scratch the furniture or piss around ...
She has taken a rose pruning class, I told her to have at it!
Now, rather than large fragrant blooms ... I have clusters of little pink roses with zero scent growing from the stump.
Roses are mysterious!
I have one red Rose that came with the house. Lives by the chimney. Must be 30 years old ... the scent is awesome! One bloom emcompasses the whole room with fragrance!
Plant looks awful! Woody, scrappy & thorny ...yet the aroma of a single bud...
I doubt my tomatoes will ripen outdoors this year. Lousy summer.
Does anyone know about growing tomatoes indoors? I've seen the expensive kits, but not willing to spend $100+ for a little grow light.
This summer I planted my veggies & tomatoes in pots on the upper deck. No munching, creepy crawlers can reach them there.
Worked great!