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Regarding snoring. Sig-other and I have separate bedrooms and it works out great. I am the one that sounds like a freight train [inherited that from my parents] but he doesn't snore. But he has restless legs, thus will throw a sharp kick every now and then.

We also have TV's in our bedrooms. I can't sleep without one, otherwise I can't shut off my brain. He watches sports, and I like comedy or informative shows such as Engineering Marvels, Inside the Factory, How Is It Made.... those shows I learn something and eventually during the 2nd half of the show, I am sound asleep :)
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FF,

I think there are a lot of couples that need separate bedrooms and bathrooms to live in harmony!
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Cat,

If you find utopia please let us know where it is! 😊

It seems like everywhere has it’s pros and cons.

I wouldn’t mind being a gypsy and living in several places throughout the year. This wouldn’t gel with my husband though.
I would be the explorer. Hubby would be Mr. Chill!
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Cat,

The best place for nice temperatures and a nice breeze is Hawaii. They do have storms at times but not too bad most of the time. Just stay off the big island with the big active volcano. It is expensive to live there though. I tagged along twice when my husband had to go there for work for a week in Honolulu. So we were on Oahu , Waikiki Beach . It was nice but very touristy. We would love to go to Maui one day. .
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Cwillie
The snowbirds have been around most of the year or decided to stay permanently.
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Hm, I don't know why anybody would want to stay in Florida through the summer heat 🥵
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cw,

I went to Florida every summer as a kid. My dad grew up in Florida. I love the beach!
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It's strange when I had my horses, couldn't stand being inside the house. I loved hanging out in the barn with my 'ponies'. After work & on weekends cleaning stalls, sweating and getting filthy. Lol
I've had secondary adrenal insufficiency for 5 years and I'm less tolerant to heat/cold
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NHWM, I love the beach, too! I went to FL once a year every single year of my life. I'm now 64 and still go at least once a year. I attended the U of Miami for 2 years (met my hubs there freshman year, first semester). My grandparents retired to the SE coast from the Bronx back in the 50s and that's who we went to visit. My favorite thing to do is beachcomb for seashells and interesting objects. My guest bathroom is decorated with 5 huge apothecary jars filled with shells and treasures that we've found . Many of the things I found back then are no longer found, which makes me sad, but nothing stays the same forever. I get a lot of joy from having our sons, and now our grandkids, run and swim at this same beach. My eldest goes down every spring to sport fish for sharks (catch and release). This year while he was there a surfer got bit on the foot: 50+ stitches. I love the beach but can do without the sharks.
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cat - I understand. R has horses - they are his friends. I think he talks more to them of serious mattes than he does to me lol

geaton - beach and beachcombing - lovely, sharks and stitches not so much.

2 whines -The forecast says it is hazy today. No it is NOT hazy, it is snowing!!! Great big flakes!!! Enough already. 🌨❄🌨

A supplement arrived from our prime friend and the little plastic seal around the cap was broken. I took the cap off and the seal over the bottle top was broken and discoloured. I sent photos and asked for a replacement from the same company. Not sure that was wise because of what they sent me but I'll try them again - once.

Have a good Sunday, everyone.
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Geaton,

I agree, the shells are beautiful. Yeah, Florida has its share of shark attacks. I love the dolphins.
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Golden, animals are very forgiving and love unconditionally. My avatar picture was my TB mare Laila. Best trail horse I had
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More than a whine, I am really ticked at a real estate broker I spoke with on Friday. I have taken my house off the market for awhile to evaluate the situation. First he stated that the problem with it not selling was the marketing of it, so, the agent I was using. Of course this new agent can sell it if I reduce the price by 50-75K! I could have sold it several times if I was willing to accept a low ball offer!

And to help with that the agent I was using lowered his commission to 1%. This new guy would be at 3%. He was recommended by a friend that has a completely different situation to mine. She had already sold her condo in Arizona and had cash to buy one in the Denver area. They found her a good deal on a condo in Denver, but she had said she did not want to live in Denver.

Those guys are just good salesmen I think. Don't think I will go there, but figure out what to do, otherwise.
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catskie - lovely horse

glad - we really are at their mercy. I tried one real estate agent recommended by 2 people but she didn't suit me at all. I have found three others with very high ratings for sales here. We will see. There is a company which guarantees you a certain price, but you don't get it until they have sold, as I understand it, I may see what they can offer me.
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Well according to my COVID test,, I am no longer a COVID virgin ! How to explain I made it through 3 years of front line ICU care without a cootie and now my allery symptoms test positive! Everyone in my Unit is suffering from sneezes, etc,, allergies are terrible right now. A few rns had COVID.. I never had a fever just allery symptoms. My co worker I carpool with called me yesterday ,, same symptoms but she had a fever too, tested positive. SO I tested,, yep indeed! I had 2 or 3 days of extreme tiredness,, felt back to normal yesterday! But pink lines for me! So my Dr said sounds like I'm doing well, and I am off until the weekend at work. The hospital just says quarentine for 5 days and your good to come back if your symptoms are gone! Mine were gone yesterday and today is day 5.. at least I am off to enjoy this wonderful weather! Helped hubs in the yard today, it is beautiful out!
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So sorry, Pam.

Hope that you feel better soon!
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(((((Pam)))) glad you are getting through it ok.
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Just to update you all, DD is back in NY; glad she is safe. No idea about how her meeting with the "master coder" went. I'm sure someone will tell me at some point.

Thank you again for all of your support.
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That’s terrific, Barb. Happy to hear that she is back home.
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(((((Barb)))) what a big relief. I am sure you will hear about the visit sometime. Happy for you. One step at a time. May the truth be revealed to your dd.
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Great news, Barb!
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Phew!!! I’m glad your DD is safe. Hopefully she’s a little wiser now.
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Barb, that’s such good news!
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Barb, happy news about your daughter. Pam-glad you didn't get too sick. I had a + test 2 years ago, no fever and felt kinda crummy for a few days.
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I understand. I’m 80 and basically the lone caregiver of my 79 year old wife of 60 years. She does not walk or speak. She knows what is going on but gives me a hard time for everything. Today I felt burned out after I gave her breakfast and she refused to let me change her wet diaper. I have been doing this for 2 years.
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Dgjason,

Is it possible to have some help come in so you get some respite ?

So sorry . This has to be very difficult for you .
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DgJason,

Have you contacted Council on Aging in your area?

They will do a needs assessment of her needs. If she qualifies for help, you will receive a set amount of caregiver hours per month.

They will help bathe her, get her dressed, prepare meals and do light housekeeping.

Or better still, look into placing her in a facility. You can visit as her husband and be free from the hands on caregiving.
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Dgjason - you probably are burned out. I would think that 24/7 caregiving at your age would burn anyone out. It burns out many who are much younger than you.

Isn't it time your wife was placed in a facility where others can care for her and you can visit her and become just her husband again?

Medicaid is available for those who don't have the funds for private care. Why not contact your local Agency for Aging and see what resources they can offer you. You need some support.

Stick around here. There are many people with good ideas. Wishing you and your wife all the best.
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OWWWW. My Knees.
Thanks to Golden squats 🙄😂😭
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way - Ouch!!! Gently does it. Rest for a couple of days now and then only do a few and not too far down! You'll get there!
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