I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I am breathing and I say “in with the peach foam..out with the green slime”. Everything will be ok. I’m feeling a bit my relaxed now that I’ve spilled my stuff to total strangers.
Why does your disabled husband get to call the shots?
In your shoes, I'd arrange the move. Start packing.
Don't give him a choice in the matter. You know better.
If he doesn't want to come alone, he stays where he is.
As to the Lord not giving someone more than they can take, I wouldn't murmur that one around a person losing a 5 year old to a brain tumor. We take things because there is no way round them but to jump off a bridge. We take things because there is no way around them; we must pass through them. I am not a believer, but if there's a god out there passing out Job's woes to people, he wouldn't be the guy (or gal) for me. And if you are a believer you might choose that adage about the Lord helping those who help themselves. I AM glad that your faith brings you comfort.
Take care of yourself. Find time away from this guy at the very least.
the very thoughts I’ve been beating myself up over. I’m not helping my health and I’m certainly not helping him. The time is now to make the move with or without him. If legal separation is to be done so be it. I will not continue to be a cry baby but never do what’s necessary.
And yes we will be fine
I really needed this.
It can't last forever.
((((Hugs))))
It’s football season in the US… if you have armchair quarterbacks and post-game analysts second-guessing your actions as a caregiver, if they haven’t ever suited up and been tackled, please change the channel.
Do not give them space in your already crowded life.
Do anything with more value, like watch Sharknado or clean the toilet.
Self? Are you listening to this excellent advice? Cuz football isn’t our jam anyway, and those 🤬 people have taken too much time and energy out of what we get on earth. I love you, NOW PAY ATTENTION.
Please for once, let justice win.
I met a lady at a walking club. She decided to befriend me as I looked new (I was on holiday). She had moved to this lovely seaside town 10 yrs back. Her Husband & her had always planned to do the sea-change at retirement.. but the years ticked on, he sat in his chair, too comfortable to move.
She warned she'd go.
She left for a holiday.
She took the time to think.
She walked into a real estate office & rented a small house.
She returned to the city.
Told him her new address, packed & left.
6 months later he arrived, suitcase in hand, pale, lonely & wondering if this tanned, fit looking beautiful lady would let him stay?
A happy ending. 😊
(She told me it would have been a happy ending for her either way, whether he came or not, she was living her dream 😂).
I mentally took note & thanked her. I said it was a real pleasure, not often had, to meet a guardian angel who had just handed me my future life!
"What we want is on the other side of fear". Can't remember who said that, but I like it.
I’m not there yet . But have heard the whole process setting up SS and Medicare can be a pain .
Cross fingers it gets straightened out soon. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
Whatever it is , I hope it gets better soon ! (((Hugs)))