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Nacy, what wonderful friends you have! I think the whole process of travel has changed so much in the last few years - it’s really scary to go anywhere unless you have a member of the Geek Squad along! My DD is really good at it all but even she has admitted to getting that fluttery feeling in her stomach whenever she has to fly or get an Uber.

I am jealous of your cruise - you’re going to have a blast! And a wedding in Ireland sounds magical! Congratulations mom-of-the-groom! I hope your husband goes; it sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity and sharing it with him would make it extra special.
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You mean a QR code Peasuep? I've run into this too, my store is increasingly posting digital coupons that I can't access, and last year when trying to register for my charity run I was told no problem, just scan this code. Yeah no, my phone does calls and texts and I can navigate very well with downloaded maps, I've got WIFI if I need anything else. That's why I've only been paying $15/month for my phone plan. And yes I still have a land line. Because I like to actually hear what people are saying.
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Yes, cwillie, thank you. I knew that doohickey had a name!
I knew I was in trouble when a few years ago I saw my first QR code displayed on a restaurant table instead of a menu! Rude! It takes so much away from the ‘nice dinner out’ experience for everyone to gather around a table and become hypnotized by screen-glow.
Then again, I grew up in the days when restaurants had ashtrays on the tables.
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my whine moment is that i really don’t like the new lay-out on the forum since yesterday.
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The rain on my porch skeleton is rusting his joint screws. If he keeps waving at passers-by he will freeze with his arm up and won’t fit in his box come November.
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I think I will rewind today and start again. I don't know whether to laugh or cry.

I ordered new cutting boards for the kitchen and IT arrived today. I had to laugh when I saw it. There as only one and I had ordered a set of two - and it was dinky and not the size I ordered - like 6"x10" vs 13" x 10" My current ones are 15.5" x 11" and I have been having trouble finding a set of two the same size that I like. To return it, I have to take it to the nearest store and I suspect they will not refund shipping charges, which were more than half the price - hardly worth it. May as well just have gone there and bought something I liked. Back to square one. I saw stainless steel ones advertised but they must be very hard on your knives. Apparently chefs use rubber ones.

Further correspondence regarding my grocery order total basically said yes your groceries subtotalled $xxx and we charged you $yyy so "What's your problem? Refer back to your original receipt." My problem is not the receipt but that the subtotal they had online was $yyy. When I learned arithmetic the subtotal was the figure arrived at by adding the list. The figure they quoted as a subtotal was not that, it was several $ more. Maybe there are legitimate extra charges for something. I just want to know what they are. That seems reasonable to me.

Then R brought me my coffee and said "Here's a new swimming pool for your mouse" LOL.

Incidentally that mouse has been working fine except I dropped it in the bedroom and the battery cover came off and refuses to be found. Bonus, I got the floors done, R lifted the furniture and all. I borrowed a battery cover from a similar mouse and it is doing fine. Where DO these thing go??? It's got to turn up somewhere sometime.
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Golden, it is very possible to laugh and cry at the same time, thank goodness, since a day like yours certainly requires it!

’Rewind’ - such a good word! But I think it’s obsolete. Does anything rewind anymore? What word do the youngsters use instead? I think my thinking processes are being affected by too much sugar….

Which leads me to my Whine - Reese’s Peanut Butter Skulls. Did you know they can actually call you from another room?
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psue - it's not candy that calls my name b/c I don't keep any in the house except a little for R, that doesn't raise blood sugar, and they are his in my mind and it's too sweet for me anyway. But a good fry can call me from across town! Fortunately most days I am too lazy to follow the call.
You'll have to oil your skeleton ala the tin man in the Wizard of Oz.

Obsolete? What's obsolete? I'm probably obsolete. lol I doubt youngsters use anything like that. No rewinding - just throw it way! Then R will come along and find it, and make something useful out of it, I'm rambling now...

nacy - wow - went through the washer and the dryer and still works That's amazing.
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Nacy Hahahahahah! My mom washed a rat once. Made it all the way through spin cycle and escaped, a little disoriented but squeaky clean!
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psue - there's a story behind that -
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Hi everyone. I just thought I would pop in and wish everyone well. It has been 8 years since I was here. The caregiving for my mom while she was dying bedridden in my home on hospice was hard. I miss her everyday. Today would have been her 102 birthday. I lost my mother-in-law, and sister in law, and a close cousin as well after that.
We retired out of state and am adjusting to that. Caregiving for a loved one is something you never forget no matter the changes in life afterward. I care for my husband now with his heart condition. Sending my love and prayers to all you caregivers out there, Katie22.
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Golden - if there is a story behind the rat we will never know. Mom has no idea how or when it got in the washer, just that when she opened the lid at the end of the cycle, out it came! This was in the SF Bay Area; roof rats were common but washer rats???
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Well, it finally happened today. DH’s last remaining household chore became mine. Trash Day.
This is a true whine; that driveway is steep and that trash can is heavy. And I appreciate him for all the years he has done it so I didn’t have to. But he can’t understand the steps anymore and honestly, he isn’t as strong as I am. : (
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I know of people who wheel their empty can to the curb and then pull a wagon full of trash bags out to fill it there - picture hauling trash cans on long gravel drives in winter.
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I think that’s what I’ll have to do….wheel the bin up empty and haul up the bags. DH may still be able to help for a while if I bag it all up.
During the growing season there will be problems but that should get us through the winter.
Thanks Nacy and cw for scooping me out of my 24 hr. pity puddle!
(24 hrs. max. wallow time is what I allow myself whenever I’m mad or sad. After that it’s ONWARD!)
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Here is my 'Whine Moment'. Why does this group have so many people who will report on a commentator for abuse and cruel language if they disagree with a post or don't express sympathy for the OP putting it up here? Yet fake posts and trolling seems to be fine and the admins and it stays. There's my whine moment.


@Peasup

Is it possible to leave your garbage bin in the spot it gets picked up and use a cart to haul your garbage bags down to it? I've got a long driveway and the garbage can situation gets complicated because we're not allowed to leave the cans visible at the end of the driveway or in the yard.
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Burnt, yes, and thanks. It looks like our posts crossed.

As to your Whine: I wholeheartedly agree.
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Nacy, you have a gift. Actually, I’m sure you have a lot of them but one is that you are a non-reactive, peaceful problem solver. It is lovely to behold.

oh wait….that’s not a whine. Sorry - off subject. : )
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nacy - I can sit and cuddle a white elephant - no problem if others want to ignore it. I consider myself apolitical. I like that T shirt slogan! Hope you've got your TV working. I still haven't got ours set up yet and I don't miss it.

Oh, the garbage can problem. Psue, I am so sorry that's your job now too. I hated doing it at 35 below and other temps. My driveway was sloped down and the can had wheels so I pointed it in the right direction and hung on. Not quite that easy but the wheels helped though the driveway could be slippery. I am so glad to be rid of that chore. I vote for taking the empty can to the curb and filling it. I have done that too.

Whine, if you can call it that, today is that R's physical yesterday clocked his BP and 64 over something that I don't even want to know. The dr was concerned and told him to eat more salt and use the exercycle again. He has avoided salt all his life but he obviously needs it now. I have told him he needs it but...

After the accident this summer his BP dropped even lower. His heart and lungs are fine - everything checks out so it may be something to do with his blood volume/BP regulation. He doesn't get thirsty, so he gets dehydrated but doesn't know it and has to force himself to drink, He can add salt at the table as I cook low salt normally. Also I have some electrolyte powder that he can put in his water bottle which should help.

Despite the low BP he is functioning as normal and after a late night at the dinner theatre, he is off relocating horses again and will be hauling hay today as well. Go figure. It's good for him to be active.
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Golden - is he on any medication or supplement at all that might be lowering his BP? You may remember how multiple people told me my mom was end of life when her BP dipped so low but in reality she was dangerously over medicated, and I'm convinced that contributed to her cognitive decline.
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cw - thanks for that feedback and I am sorry that that happened to your mum. One dr prescribes that and another prescribes that and there is no coordination.

His family doctor has no record of his knee surgery or the opthamologists recommendation after the accident, or of the recommendation for an appointment with a neurologist.

He was put on a low dose of amitriptyline by another doctor for pain and sleep, and conceivably, that could have a effect, though when he mentioned it his dr didn't flag it.

We don't know how long his BP has been so low as it was better when he left hospital, so we will be taking it daily to find out and see if we can relate it to something. It's probably better for him to go off all pills to begin with (he's not a pill taker anyway in general) and then keep a record of his BP and any pills he takes - e.g. cold FX for a cold, tylenol for headaches, amitriptyline and so on and see what happens.

I'm amazed he functions so well with such low BP. But then I had a girlfriend who as not particularly healthy, smoked, took drugs and her normal BP was 90/50. Thinking back, maybe it was the drugs???

He did take a strong herbal "immune booster" the night before as well as the amitriptyline and the dr suggested he throw those away as he got a ferocious headache that night. Personally I am very cautious about herbals . I take supplements but they are mainly things the body makes anyway, that are deficient in CFS/FM.

Anyway it's a concern.
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Golden, that BP must have been a shock! It’s ’normal’ for my DH because of the handful of meds he takes everyday. But in an otherwise healthy man, I can understand your concern.

Nacy, get the t-shirt! That’s hysterical!
Thank you for that very sweet compliment on another thread. I have not replied there because I am embarrassed by compliments😊.

My whine: I’ve got to get myself and my DH through this weekend and three different sets of out-of-town guests. Thank the Lord above no one is staying overnight. I used to be the queen of multitasking and entertaining. I’m mourning the demise of the queen.
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Trying to hire for snow removal for the upcoming winter . We decided to give in and hire . DH has lost more use of his dominant hand this past year (large nerve dying from an accident ) . I cannot handle a large snowblower either . I had an old electric corded one that was pretty good so long as I went out every 4 inches but it broke a couple of years ago , the keyed ignition went up in flames . I ran fast to unplug it , then tipped it on it’s side and put the flames out with snow . Then I bought a rechargeable battery snowblower but it’s not that great unless it’s dry fluffy snow . End up using a shovel more often than not . The driveway is loooooooong .

Most companies only do commercial , shopping centers , other parking lots etc .
I want to know where are the teenagers ?
We used to shovel for money when I was a kid . Never see any walking around the neighborhood with shovels. All their Dad’s are using snowblowers, while they are inside playing video games . When I was a kid on a snow day Mom sent me out to shovel .

I have one potential provider , supposed to be sending me his two different snow removal plans to choose from . 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
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Hi. I just need to vent.
My mother was sent to the hospital by the care home, suspected of having broken feet, from rage kicking. (X-rays were clear) She snapped to attention, flirted and spoke with incredible detail and clarity about herself to the male paramedics and doctor. How her feet hurt from her daily long distance walks. (She has been bedridden for 2+ years.) Rich fabrications about her abilities. She was aggressive with females, including graphic descriptions of how she would murder them. I am horrified but relieved that others are acknowledging what I’ve long known. I asked the hospital for a psych hold but they refused. Give me strength.
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@Anabanana,

💪💪💪💪🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Psue -not su much of a shock as his BP is always low, but a concern that it is that low. We'll figure it out. Hope the weekend goes well. Think it was time for the queen era to end. I understand. I'm not supermom any more but I'm not sure my kids have quite got it yet.

way - prayers for success. In Fort Mc we had a facebook page where you could advertise or ask for odd jobs. Many would shovel. Do you have anything similar? I am so glad to be rid of that responsibility.

ana - ((((((hugs))))) No psych hold??? What does she have to do???? Goodness gracious! It's hard to understand, SMH
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Ahhh, We have a clarification. R's systolic was 94 and his diastolic was 64, He doesn't know the difference. That makes much more sense and explains how he has kept functioning. Tonight it was up to102/71, HR 87 after he had walked several blocks and climbed 5 flights of stairs. Otherwise resting at 95/69, same heart rate, His dad and his bro were/are the same in having low BP I don't think it is a matter for much concern but a good idea to try to get it up a bit so he has more wiggle room in case...I'm relieved.
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Ah. Still low but much better. That’s a relief. And wow, that is one active guy you’ve got there!
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Ana, how are you doing today? I’ve been thinking about you and your mom and I just can’t imagine how you keep sane.
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Thank you Peasuep. I’m frustrated but fine. Note that she is in care (I hit my breaking point about 3 years ago) so I can keep her at arm’s length. Her care staff are exceptional, and I feel terrible for them. The home’s manager and I spoke and will pursue a dosage change or new meds. Or a psych admission. Because she’s 90lb and bed-bound, most people don’t take her threats seriously. I’ll admit I’ve laughed behind her back. It disturbs me that she seems happiest when she’s the centre of attention, even if it’s for doing something absolutely awful. Her dementia brain has told her that she is entitled to do anything, if it gets her what she wants. Zero empathy, zero remorse, zero regret.
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