I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Psue - Sometimes life's a b****h and it sounds like that for you. Emergency stents sound scary. Hope your mom recovers quickly, and bro too. I know that's not in the books for dh. I am sorry his first visit did not go well, but doubt that indicates how well he will do when he is settled there. But for you that's too much. Ex wife or whoever can give you a shoulder to cry on - doesn't matter. Lean on who you need to, ((((((Hugs)))).
I am so sorry about your hubby. Hope he gets better as I recall you have cruise planned.
Psue,
I am going to quote Golden, life is a B***h.
Too much for you to take for sure.
Hope Mom and brother will be well.
Hubby will adjust eventually. Takes at least two weeks or so, but I know it is hard on you.
This is not good month or year for most!
Brother will be going home tomorrow with 2 shiny new stents in his arteries. Blood flow has been restored and he’s doing fine. No news yet as to whether there was much heart muscle damage. Time will tell.
DH has been mostly lucid all day although he did ask me how much I was getting paid to put him in AL. Hah; some joke.
Eva, wrong thread but how is your husband today - are they getting his pain under control? I’m sorry this is going to be such a difficult holiday season for you two.
Nacy, I hope your guy is feeling well enough to enjoy Christmas Eve.
Golden, I’m so glad R made it through the awful headaches and I hope you both have a lovely Christmas.
Ali and Llama, sending blessings……
To all the whiners on this thread, I wish you peace and joy this holiday season, and on we all go, until we don’t.
My mom needs support group caring for her elderly mom.
Is there a zoom meeting anyone can recommend?
Thank you
How was your Christmas?
Again, I know nothing about your dynamic, but in our family, it’s strengthened our connection and the siblings have become more connected as well.
Things here are chaotic. There are so many arrangements to be made I’m having a hard time keeping focused. I have to remind myself, daily, not to ‘pre-awfulize’. DD is coming up tomorrow to help me make lists and firm up the time line.
I’m glad to be almost through the holidays even though they were not really difficult. Might be harder to get through the dark days of January but at least I will be able to give DH my full attention now.
nacy - hope your hub is finally getting over covid and you got through all the festivities and had some down time too. It's important to be able to relax. Acceptance from family is important.
The hotel and waterpark were great. It's well run. The boys came to swim many times and had a blast. 🏊♂️ We will go back. No whines today,
I’m rooting for your DH to be successful. The good part (I’ve heard) is that the health benefits begin immediately.
Golden, your holiday sounds like so much fun but I bet you’re exhausted. How old are the nephews?
Psue - these two grandsons are 12 and 8. Lots of energy! R was the one keeping up with them in the pool and the waterslides. Their mom and I just chatted in the hot tub. They came everyday and spent hours in the pool. I popped in and out. It was a success and we'll do it again, The youngest one needs prayer. His teacher is a battle axe and has accused him of cheating which he didn't and more The principal is no help. Poor K now hates school and cries every morning he has to go. He has lost his self confidence and is a very sad and angry child. My heart is breaking for him.
When we got home yesterday, I found two catalpa seedings covered in aphids and one dead. I haven't had aphids since I can remember. I am applying soap spray but they don't look good.
We get there and she’s coughing sick . Nephew talked to staff , who said RSV is going around the board and care home ( of 15 residents ) .
If I knew that , I would not have gone in today ( I have asthma ) . A warning sign on the outer entrance door to the building would have been nice .
Hi , yeah thanks . Hopefully I don’t get sick and bring it home .
MIL is laying real low . DH has called and it’s been superficial quick discussions and she gets off the phone because she doesn’t want to hear that she needs to leave her two story condo that also has sidewalk steps outside to the parking lot where she keeps falling . Right now , I could care less…..for the reason below .
Christmas , well, it’s been a bit crazy here . My DD and her fiancé broke up . Daughter is back home with us for now , we’ve been moving her things back home as well . Good thing we have a big basement . Long story . I sort of saw it coming the last few months , minded my own business and just watched it unfold .
Sorry your Christmas has been so crazy and that you have had all this extra work for your dd. I gather you are not unhappy about the break up. Good for you minding your own business. It's not always easy. Hopefully the new year will be more peaceful.
Golden, that poor, poor child. What an awful situation. That person should not be teaching. Even an 8 year old kid who DID cheat does not deserve to be ruined for it. So wrong.
nacy - glad hubby is doing and looking better, Hope you get some "me time" soon.
way and psue - don't overdo anything. Both of you have a lot on your plate and it's easy to push oneself past a point.
R looks in pain this morning but has gone out to see a friend who is in town for the holidays. I hope he has a relaxing time. I think stress is part of his headaches. The "grandson and water therapy" was really good for him. I'm in the "recover from a holiday" mode.
How awful! I think you are right to peruse Education Act, go to the top. To say that to a child without definitive proof is not right!
Nacy, I hear you, don’t like clingy men. Would drive me crazy.
I need me time.
Husband out of hospital, nothing can be done. Just prescribed morphine for pain. Will sleep for days now as after 9 days in hospital and constant noises did not sleep well.
No plan, one scan of lower back, not even one specialist to see him. Just see family doctor.
A week + of organizing and doctor visits and moving is going to take most of my focus and energy. DD made me spreadsheets yesterday to help keep me on track if you can believe it!
After that the really hard part - walking away and leaving DH that first night (and every night forever after). This once dynamic and independent man has become so dependent on me the last couple years, he doesn’t even know what he can’t do himself anymore. It’s going to be really hard for him to adjust to asking strangers for help. Good grief, I’m crying again - I’m glad he’s taking a nap!
Anyway, thank you all for your support. Know that I am reading your posts and thinking about you all.
Vent away! I don’t sleep well lately so sometimes I read late or early morning.
It is going to be tough. No doubt.
This too shall pass.
Psue - thinking of you and yours and what you are going through these days. Lots of endings that aren't easy to process. I remember how I felt as I packed up mother's stuff for her move from a two bedroom unit to a one room accommodation. I can't imagine how hard it is for you doing that for your beloved husband. I am glad DD is there to help
Eva - I know you are going through lot too with your hub and I imagine the possibility of a move for him is in the air. I don't sleep well either and am up reading in the middle of the night. Thank goodness for computer games and good books. I'm sorry you are not getting more answers from the hospital staff.
Felt like I was coming down with something the past few days - cold, tired, slept a lot in the daytime, little bit of a sore throat, but took my Cold FX and sinus meds and rested and feel much better tonight. Hope i am getting over it, whatever it was.
Reading books till midnight sometimes as well. so great I can get any book on my reader in seconds, although prefer actual book.
I hope you feeling better, I rely on good tea with honey and lemon, Tylanol and propolis when I start feeling sick. Usually it works. I hope you are feeling better. I had cold for a few days as well.
But my husband was out of hospital yesterday and ended up in hospital tonight again. For now he is sleeping. Will talk to doctor tomorrow, but they are going to admit him again!
The clips continue to do well when putting on this open to compression socks.
However, I have found that if I let the heal of the sock go completely to my heal, it goes up too high on my lower legs. Man, they must be short. As it says online, don't fold the top of compression socks down. So, the aid that I have to put each sock on with catches the end of the sock out in front. The heal of the sock ends up under the arch of my foot and the socks is completely on at a safe level below my knee. What do I do with what is out front with the clip on it. After taking the clip off, I then fold that part of the sock back onto the front of my foot but below my toes. It is an open toe sock.
Thanks again for the help. It's just taken some experimenting to get this right. ha, ha, I just caught the error of spelling right as write. Happy New Year!
Yoda, careful with the stockings. If you can get to medical supply store do that as they are great at correct measurements. You are absolutely RIGHT about not folding them down as they act then as a garter, restricting flow, which can cause clotting. Not used properly they are worse than nothing and better just to get those legs elevated above the heart.
Properly fitted anti embolism stockings are recommended especially for long flights . As is proper hydration , not crossing your legs . Pumping your feet while sitting to keep blood flowing too .
I also asked my doc about low dose aspirin daily and have taken that starting a few days before a long flight and continued until I returned home .