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Glad your kitty is home Hope. When might take a walkabout and do not answer despite searching high and low I would like to know where they go. Sometimes I want night vision googles to find them.
Captain you would have a laugh a the property we bought next door. great 50x32 garage placed on the worst spot on the property. Will get gutters installed then do some grading around the garage to move the water away. Concrete slab by service door may either get jacked or cracked up as it tilts into the garage. Thankfully less snow this year so that should help with water issue when snow melts. I do not know what he was thinking building it in that spot which is the lowest on the property.
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Hope, I'm so glad your kitty came home!

It's Fat Tuesday, which means Packzi day in Michigan. Gloppy, gooey, doughy cakes filled with sugary crap and topped with more sugary crap. Can you tell I don't want any? LOL Mom *had* to have one - just one, she begged - so I trundled out into the cold to get her just one. She's downed it already and (as I knew would happen eating all that crap), she's now asleep. Sugar crash.

Book - allergies here too, but because it's cold out and we can't open the windows to air out the house until Spring comes. I *hate* being closed up in the house. I sneezed earlier and sent the cat leaping 2' straight up into the air. Pretty comical.

Busy day ahead, guess I'd better hit it. Going to get those shelf boards painted and put up today, put up a closet rod over the washer/dryer to hang clothing up and maybe start painting the bathroom - which means washing down the walls to prep them. With any luck, I can get that done today and start painting tomorrow, maybe.
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Giant whine: the district nurse came this morning to check on mother's b.t.m. and its magical disappearing rash (I swear it was there, then when she looked there it was - gone) and "helpfully" popped a clean diaper on her. Two hours later I checked and the diaper was dry but the bed was soaked: district nurse wouldn't have known that mother has very little bottom to speak of and you've got to check the elastic behind or there will be gaps.

If you want a job done properly...
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Saw something kind of ironic on Facebook today. "People aren't ignoring you. They are busy with their own lives. The way to stop feeling ignored is to get busy living yours."

Um....whoever wrote this wasn't a caregiver. Obviously.
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Captain, what you wrote is absolutely spot on what is in my head re aging..and how hilarious and true...we'll all be there soon enough. I saw Chevy the other night too and it took me a while to figure out who he was...hard to believe that could be him....actually could see no resemblance to his former self..then I thought...this is why I don't like to look in the mirror..

Jeanette, once again, you hit it on the head re the brother situation..what used to send me over the edge now I just sit there and think ....meh.....the thing that finally dawns on me...he honestly just never did and never will "get it"....never...so all the raging, fussing, fighting and such is wasted energy on my part..in his world all is a sunny day and he will never understand it because he will never do it...not for anyone..it's not in him and when it's not there.."they" will never understand...and I have been there too so many times where they are going to come but will wait a little later because you tell them it takes a while to get all the bathing, feeding, etc. done...and then they arrive...at 9 or 10AM....and I love it when he says...what have you been doing all morning.......eeeeeeeeiiiiii........... BUT.....when I was moving from my home to this house, I had to make one more run to get some more things I did not want to leave behind and he actually took off work to stay with Mama...I told him, be here as early as you can because the sooner I get there the more I can get and the sooner I will get back....well, THAT morning, I was ready to roll by 6:30.....he came drifting in around 10:30...he had stopped to buy his son a birthday card....too bad he didn't know when his birthday was apparently in advance....he acted like no big deal..so by the time I show him where the lunches and dinners for Mama are it is almost 11:00 and then I get caught in a traffic jam and long story short, instead of getting to my home by 8:30 AM as planned, I get there and it is already 2:30 PM....so again I'm running running running..he starts calling me at 4:00 PM wanting to know if I am on the road yet..???? wth????? so I rented a storage unit, crammed as much as I could in there and finished cramming the car and still had to leave some stuff but finally had to just say a quick goodbye to the life I have known for the past 35 years and hit the road.....then had a flat on the way home....ugh.....

No, they will never get it...
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Susan, love that quote...true...they were never a caregiver....

Country...I've had that happen before...and it was also a nurse...amazing isn't it??

Hey, while I'm thinking ...thank you all for caring about my kitty...that means an awful lot to know you understand how these little furtots bring some comfort and love and security in a world that has and continues to slowly fade.....I slept like a rock last night....or is it a log...a baby???
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Jeanette, I hope your hand heals quickly and you took good care to clean it, etc. Dog bites are nothing to play with. I still have the scar on my leg from when my late Corgi (Tootie) tried to attack the vacuum cleaner and got me instead - sunk her canine tooth right into my calf. Left a pretty good hole in my leg for a while!
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Yay, Hope! Glad your big guy came home! Little stinker probably didn't realize how he worried you...then again, maybe he just was looking for some extra attention. Animals are such characters!
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Thanks again, Captain! I need to redo the sidewalks for sure - they slope towards house and water pools there as well. I'll look into finding someone if I need help this summer. Those waterproofing guys really turned me off from hiring home repair. I can't even tell you some of the sh*t they tried to pull on me. One waterproofing/mason guy wrote me up this big long proposal on an exterior and interior drain tile system, all the bells and whistles. Of course, they all say how all the other companies are cheats, doesn't know their as* from hole in the ground, etc. Anyway, this guy was freaking relentless. He kept calling me, trying to get me to sign, after told him I wasn't going to do anything until I could get a loan to do the work. He even called me at work, threatening me that he was going to call ABC news and was going to follow my house - if I tried to sell it without disclosing the water damage he'd have the district attorney after me for fraud. Wow - what a freaking nutcase! Well, my boss got on the phone and reamed him a new one. I'm telling you, I raised my kids myself and it made me nervous being home alone with them. After all the b.s. from those waterproofing guys, I never did have it done. Then I made the mistake of looking into siding/windows. Oh, geez. One guy showed up at my house, 30 minutes late, in a Lexus and wearing a fancy suit and a Rolex, smelling like a bad cologne factory. I'm outside painting the fence, so of course I'm full of paint. He says "don't get paint on me or I'll have to send you my cleaning bill haha!". Yeah, this was going to go well. So, he starts working up numbers for me, I cannot get the guy to leave the house, keeps asking me where my husband was, so he could talk to him (yeah, as*shole, told you 2-3 times already it's just me). So I told him, look I'm making the decisions here, I'm paying the bills. I'm in sales myself, so I appreciate your need to make one. However, I have to review all estimates before I make ANY decisions. So then the loser has the (you-know-whats) to ask what I would say if he can reduce price to $7,000 (down from the $13,000 he already quoted me). I told him that would make me think he was trying to cheat me to begin with. Finally, finally, finally get him to the door and he turns around and has the audacity to tell me to give him a call if I'd like to "get together" sometime! Had to air the house out after he left. Years later his company called me again and I spoke to the owner and told him what happened - he wasn't surprised. Now, if my brothers can't/won't help with something, I figure it out myself. I don't need the hassle.
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hpe,
i can relate to caregiving relief rolling in at 11 am when they know you wanna leave by 8 . it gives the relief complete control over you and they are usually packing a big smirk to show it . thats kinda what happened between ednas poa and i . i wasnt being relieved , her and her family were going partying instead .
before that it was my sister and niece in moms case .
sometimes you are helpless . your only hope of revenge is living well while they flounder . my cuz , sis and niece are losers . the moment of gloating is about all they have and it was rather fleeting .
im cooking my aunt some apples . i can see when material comforts are long gone and small things are what matters .
my blingin a** telephone tells me that a friend needs some firewood hauled . ditto with that procrastinating idiot upstairs . at 5 degrees outside its gonna cost em a little extra ..
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Captain - that's my new mantra - I do what I want, "because I can".
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Quick Question - I don't seem to be able to receive private messages - does anyone know how to change that setting? I've checked all the account settings and don't see it....
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Susan, dog bites...ow! Was taking my sweet dog to vet one day because he suddenly became paralyzed at the age of 2 from a genetic spinal problem. He was the sweetest little guy in the world. I must have picked him up the wrong way because he bit me on the face. It got infected, I had to go to doctor for antibiotics, and I have a scar to this day.
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Captain that seems to be one thing we as caregivers especially, learn pretty quickly, the little things are what matters most. And now that you are talking about cooking apples again, I am thinking that would be appealing to Mama and me as well. She can't eat them, but I sure can mix em in with her ensure and she can drink them...she will love that...I have some really good "real' honey from a local man and a little shot of that would be good too....I don't know if anything smells as comforting as the scent of apples cooking...yummm...

Unlike the scent of dee's salesman, aka the walking cologne factory...I know it's infuriating but wow, I can relate...some of them are relentless...I kind of felt that way last Friday when my $300 brake job skyrocketed to $1,700....I was in so much shock and knowing I had to have a vehicle that would actually run I think I almost let them do it because I felt cornered with little options...I quickly came to my senses, told them I would call the wrecker and have them pick it up and just bring it back home and when I did that, the wrecker guy told me he would be glad to look at them and give me his opinion..as it turns out, it should cost more like what I originally thought and another man is going to be completing his estimate and told me he should be able to do it all for a fraction of the other estimate...what fraction that is is not known yet, but I am feeling a lot better about him and my hospice provider actually knows this man and his reputation for fair dealings with folks so that makes me feel good too....

I think I should make us all a tshirt that has that on it dee.... "I do what I want because I can".....LOVE it!!!!

Susan, I am not sure....I don't know if I ever did anything to mine, I will go and see how mine is set up....
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I watched the Saturday Night Live Reunion and was also surprised to see Chevy Chase [71] not resembling anything of his former self, not even his voice. Dan Aykroyd [62] looked good and his voice was the same.

Yet there was Martin Short [64] who hadn't aged much at all, who still had his great comic timing when he was on stage with a SNL cast member pretending to be Beyoncé.... it was so funny when he was trying to stand still but couldn't because of the hair blowing fan that was on Beyoncé :) And Steve Martin [69] also hadn't aged that much and was ever so much entertaining.

I was very disappointed with the Reunion show... gosh, Miley Cyrus got more air time then Eddie Murphy.... always laughed at Murphy's "Mr. Robinson" character. I was hoping the show would have shown more of the older clips of the cast that gave the show the start.
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Ouch Jeanette and dee...I have not yet been bitten by a dog, but have had my share of bites from squirrels, chipmunks, cats and lizards....a bird can put a pretty good mark on you too..lol....the worse one I ever had was one of my rescue kitty's who had five little kittens...I had her since she birthed them and when they were about two weeks old, was loving on them to socialize the little stinkers...one of them jumped out of my hand and landed in the water dish and the water splashed on the sleeping mama and she went from sleeping like a teddy bear to pouncing on me like a ninja...I had put my hands over my face just in time so she just got my arms and she shredded those like I had put them in a paper shredder...She bit me five times, deep bites but unbelievably it did not get infected...and I did not go to the ER because I knew if I did they would come and get her and put her down..and it wasn't her fault...anyway...I found the Mama a home on a farm where she could do her thing and the kittens I ended up raising and had them all for a very long time...
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Hope - bitten by wild animals? Yikes!
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lol...yep...I have rescued a lot of wild animals in addition to the dogs and cats...the first time a squirrel bit me I thought the "r" word...the squirrel was already seriously injured and passed quickly unfortunately, but I called the wildlife center and they told me that squirrels rarely carried rabies, while raccoons were a frequent carrier..even so, I can't not help them if they need help...maybe I'm immune to everything because I've been bitten so much...just not immune to pop in visitors..lol

Freq...that was my criticism with the reunion show..the older clips are the ones I love...some of the new folks are funny but nowhere near as funny as the original cast..I don't think anyone will ever come close to them...and didn't care for the Chris Farley attempts at all...no one can emulate him..I loved him..he was not an original cast member but one of the funnier of the later year ones...but the reunion show was a lot of hype and not near as funny as I had hoped...so much so that I ended up turning and watching that ridiculous Bachelor and deciding I would catch the rest of the SNL on demand some day when I get bored...
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Dee, What is it with window salesmen!!? I was at an aquaintance's home years ago when a salesman showed up to give her an estimate...he kept asking for her husband! He was a lot younger than she was and I couldn't believe he kept asking where the husband was! She had to loudly tell him several times that SHE was the homeowner there....I couldn't believe this guy...like women are not allowed to own a home on their own!!?? What part of the World are we in?? Needless to say she had another company replace the windows after that backwards encounter! Come to think of it I had a garage door repairman come to the first home we bought once and as I was showing him what was up with the door in the garage he started yelling at me asking where the home owner was....Like women are not allowed to own property!!
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Susan, go into "edit account".

Where you edit your profile, if you scroll down it has little boxes where you can check so you can receive messages and such.

Busy morning....
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Hey Jeanette or someone....see if you can send me a private message? Thanks.
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It looks like it sent?
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Got it, thanks!
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We didn’t have hardly any snow up until a few weeks ago. Now we’ve got about 18” just sitting there, all frozen and stubborn. Wish it would cooperate and melt.
Had to take my Ma to the doc yesterday morning for her knee injections – going down the ramp (backwards, so she doesn’t fall out of the chair) struggling between the snow-burdened bushes and the ramp railing, then over half-as*ed shoveled snow, and on into the street where at least there was a dry spot to load her into the van – poor Ma bouncing all over the place – me praying she wouldn’t fly out of the wheelchair. I asked her if she enjoyed the 2-wheeling. Not so much. She was pretty happy to get back home.
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Can I just whine that I hate shower days? Especially when she resists it for 3-4 days and that means I get to clean a very, very nasty backside. (At least she lets me do that now, under the guise of washing her back - and then I just have her stand and I get the "undercarriage", as we call it.) She won't let me help her wipe in the bathroom, so that's still a no-go zone, but when she showers, I jump in and do a major cleanup.

Scrubbed her feet with a back brush while she was in there, so she got a pretty good all-over cleaning this time. Now I get to trim her toenails (gag) and then slather her feet with lotion or coconut oil and put socks on to try and soften the endless scaly dry skin on her feet. Yay.
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Hope glad to hear the prodigal son returned.
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Oh geez, Susan! Quite a picture! Haha! I use a salt or sugar scrub on my mom once a week - it helps with the dry skin. Best one I've found is H20+ Spa Sea Salt Skin Smoother. It's not cheap, but works super well and leaves some oil on to moisture and smells fantastic! I use it, too! Work all day in the garden, gets the ground-in dirt off. You'd think salt would be a no-no for dry skin but it has almond oil in it and it makes the skin so soft and smooth. Seriously love this stuff! Plus, they have body butter, lotion, shower gel and hand lotion in the same scent. Awesome stuff!
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Katie, I'm telling you...I am so leery of home improvement salespeople. Now I google it and try to fix it myself. The windows are going to be a challenge, but if I can get my brother to show me how to do it...haha! Yeah.

Hope, where do I get my "I do what I want because I can" t-shirt? Great idea. Heehee!
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My brother repo'ed his rototiller since he was mad at me.... its so gorgeous here I just want to be outside all day and really wish I had it!! Hmm, I think I shall look for a place that rents them. He can piss off if he thinks I will ask to use it.

I LOVE sea salt body scrubs... ohhh yeah and a glass of wine
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I don't know how much it would be to rent a tiller, but I bought a new one on Amazon for around $100 a couple years ago. I first tried buying a gas model at local hardware, then eventually settled on electric model and happy I went that route. Neighbors and family love this tiller and borrow it. It's lightweight, easy to handle, but gets the job done nicely. I think it's 14" width, 9" depth... for such an inexpensive version, it does exactly what I need it to do.
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