I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Daffodils hmm did crazy SIL send her a bunch or something? She will probably love them when you take her out for a nice walk in her W/C with the dog. Just make sure the local farmer is not coming down your lane with his shitzenflinger. Do you have a narrow lane or is that my SIL? No I think you met a herd of cows one day or was it sheep. poor Mum just as well i am not taking care of her. I would probably make a harness for the dog and send them out for a drive while I took a nap.
as a guy whos ( warily ) being introduced to agriculture as a side - gig -- that is freakin gold and sums up my opinion of every aspect of farming . i tell em " just keep those filthy cows away from my pretty stonework and we'll get along just fine " .
seed drill , cultipacker , broadcast seeder , round baler , etc . all shitzenflingers to me .
indiana ended up with oregons winter mess . its raining ice balls right now . slickernschitzen .
Jeanette, I totally understand your not wanting to do the respite thing..but thinking you NEED to do the respite thing....
I know, I know....I should be grateful she's still here. I will regret it when she's gone. There will come a day when I will have to beg her to eat. I know, trust me.
I guess it's just one of those days. It'll get better. Just tired of life in general and the incessant demands of someone who could still be doing things for herself - but won't - right now. She's past the point of being able to do a lot for herself now, because she's let herself go to the point where she can barely walk through the house without getting winded or having to sit down. Standing to do dishes, walking around in the yard, or anything like that is completely beyond her now. I REFUSE to let myself get like that because of my own actions - or inaction, as the case may be. My mother is only 74 years old - an age when most people are still fairly vital and able to do for themselves. But for the past 15 years, she has let herself slide downhill through her refusal to do things to keep active and in relatively good shape. Her own mistreatment of her well-being is going to be her death. Some days it just feels like there's no point continuing with all the work of trying to get her to eat better, move more, etc.
Gah, I'm so frustrated. Sorry for the vent.
I don't think she knows what she wants or likes anymore! Ahhh, Mom.....
I think if I sit here and shake my head any harder, it will fall right off my shoulders...
I can't help shake the feeling of never ending guilt for being so tired of all the changing and cleaning and repetitve living even thought I KNOW she cannot do one thing for herself now...I KNOW that...KNOW IT...so what on earth is wrong with ME...that I can't handle it better...I feel so ashamed when I get that way...most of the time I'm ok..more than OK even...but I I am so ashamed during those moments or even days when I just seem to not be able to deal with it..
I understand Susan...hope your day gets better..
Could you name any other job which is for the large part boring, repetitive, physically tiring and often faintly repulsive which you would also feel duty-bound to ***enjoy***? I think you've done your bit if you roll your sleeves up and get it done. Expecting yourself not to get pretty cheesed off with it all, every so often, is too much.
My big issue right now is not being able to get out or do much other than get groceries. Being stuck in the house day after day after day....ugh. She doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything anymore, even though she's capable of it. If I insist on it, I can *maybe* get her out for a ride every month or so....
I agree - my siblings wouldn't know what to think if they had to confine themselves to the house pretty much 24/7 all week to keep an eye on Mom (and to work, since I work from home), spend about 3/4 of their income on things that aren't for their own benefit (bills, extra food, clothing, incontinence pads, more laundry supplies than normal to keep up with her laundry...not to mention her prescription co-pays, which she can no longer afford).....
crap. she's up *again*. (sigh) Another round of me just trying to keep my mouth shut, because if I laugh at something on the TV, sigh too loudly, or say anything at all, it's "WHAT? What's going on?" (Because she was sleeping in her chair and only the sound I made woke her....)
I was just thinking about the grocery store being the big outing for me.....maybe I can check out the one in the next town that just opened as my spring break vacation.....
It wasn't much. A $4.91 bunch of crab legs - you can just about figure how much that was. But it was enough for me. 3 little legs and 1 larger one with a small claw on it. But ohh.....it was NICE.
I've always been easy to please. It's nice to see I can still make myself happy with something so small from time to time. ;-)
Well, yesterday after hearing the same very old complaint I tried a different approach. I told Dad that *dial-up* now is in the same category as the old wall mounted *crank telephones* from the 1940's.... you will not get the same service today on the crank telephone as you would on today's telephones, and there's probably no one who can repair it. Time to move on, Dad, to cable or satellite dish.
I am keeping my fingers crossed that will make him understand as Dad's not good with change, as he kept saying 5 years ago he was able to get Internet using dial-up..... [sigh]... oh well, new technology has gotten away from me, too.
Time for a visit to the Dr or failing that get some OTC acid reducers like Pepcid.
That reduces the acid in your stomach and stops acid flowing back into your oesophagus. try and sleep slightly proped up, avoid acid foods like tomatoes and citrus, spicy food like curries and stick to bland meals like chicken with mashed potatoes and a veg. Stress makes stomach issues much worse but for now there is no way out of that. Eat small meals and snacks frequently through the day rather than one big dinner at night and limit alchol.