I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
There are so many uses of coconut oil. It's great to cook with too because it can stand high heat without becoming rancid and causing cancerous substances.
Jeanette: sorry about your CG. Hope she heals well and fast.
I wonder if anyone else feels like bolting from their home after their parent were to pass on after being tethered to home, or if this is just a temporary feeling?
Today's reminder to myself: WAIT before speaking and/or blowing up at someone. It always pays to do so. I had a client being a little snotty with me today - he was having a bad day, apparently, and made some snide comments that I *really* took the wrong way at first. Waited an hour or so before responding to him, and I was able to do so with graciousness and not bite his head off (and quite possibly losing him as a client in the process), like I wanted to at first.
then my other friend betsy emailed me cause her toilet is plugged up . 1 - 1/2 yrs ago i pulled that toilet , took it out in the yard and removed a deodorant container from it . i told her to lose the plastic shelves full of junk above the toilet and she refused to do so . i decided right then id never touch the toilet again .
yea im a control freak but im simply not going to help people who wont follow sound advice . betsy says her kid plugged up the toilet with dog crap and paper towels . you know i dont have a dog , im not going to be a slave to hers .
in trying to be a nicer person im keeping in my mind the fact that nice people get screwed over if they dont take an occasional stand ..
i aint fixin the crapper and im approaching 30 feet in the air on scaffold with my helper -- i will not stand for for any preoccupation or distraction by her phone gaming / networking childishness ..
I agree with CM, even though it's been a few short days, I feel safer at home. I'm so used to being here or rushing to get back here, so for right now, here is where I am for the time being.
Jessie, I have an idea for you ;) have everything totally prepared for the time your mom falls asleep on the couch. Bolt into her room, whisk everything quickly into a container, stash it and go about your business like nothing happened. Feign innocence for as long as possible!! LOL Swear those "Gremlins" came into her room while you were in the bathroom. See? Problem solved. hehehe....
Dee, wow, sorry about your CG ! It's lovely when you find a great one that you both like. I depended on mine a lot and even now, she's still helping me. I think I could honestly say she is my best friend.
Susan, wish I could help you out with the skin thing... I'm thinking it's going to be one of those things that will need constant battling. sigh. How is your mom adjusting to being home again? I hope you've got a good supply of "helmets"... challenging times are ahead!
Wow! I don't think anyone would or could ever imagine Texas being under water like it is!?!? aye yi yi... is there no safe place to live anymore?
I feel like I am in the Twilight Zone.
FF I have been wondering how you are doing.. now I know!
On top of all my current issues, we are prepareing for an overseas trip that Mom and Aunt wanted to do.. 7 of us. And Mom is soo wobbly.. I am terrified that she will end up in the hospital in Ireland.. and what a mess that will be!
I spoke to him yesterday and he never said a thing.
i wonder how youd feel staying at a friends house for a few nights . everything in your home is keeping you emotionally destabilized ( imo ) . years of caregiving reminders are hitting your senses with every blink of your eyes . i stayed at my moms empty house for one night and it was sad and creepy . my son snapped me out of it . he said " theyre hooking up your internet , power and water at your house today , you dont have to stay here " . " lets blow " . blow we did ..
our will permitted me to live in moms house till i died . i didnt want to live there , wanted to go home ..
gonna pickle some end of garden in hot / sweet jalapeno brine . sweet / banana peppers , cauliflour, onion , maybe baby cukes .
Despite the equipment tizzy, I know I am going to be very glad for hospice. They work so quickly and efficiently...if everyone worked so well the World would be a better place!
I'm taking a day away tomorrow to visit my grandkids. Sis is coming to stay with Mom. So today is a flurry of activity to clean house and get things ready. Going to *try* to slip away for a couple of hours tonight to get groceries - may have to call in a neighbor or something to sit with mom so I can do that.
FF I don't think canning is a lost art in out part of the world by the way people fight over a case of mason jars at a rummage sale. I pass on those because I can't carry a case but find odd ones in the thrift store for 25 cents.
I did buy one of those automatic jam makers and love that. This may not be approved practice but I do reuse ordinary jars and find as long as I fill the jars when everything is hot they will seal themselves as they cool. everything has kept fine so will continue.
I was in tears saying to him that I feel like I am failing so many people because of falling down and getting hurt. My boss is grumbling, my sig other is grumbling, and my Dad is grumbling [Mom seems to understand more]. The cats were scared of the sling at first but now accept it as an accessory fashion item.
I haven't seen my parents since May 3rd so maybe I need to make an appearance... the sling is quite impressive... maybe I will add a cane for a better visual affect and throw on some bandages on my other arm and hand to goose up the injury :P
Ha, Susan, yeah at least he still talks to me... I'd rather he didn't since he's become a uncaring unfeeling selfish self entitled brat. If he would talk to me as an adult without the hatred in his voice and tell me his plans I would be fine with it... somehow this person has set it in his head that I wanted to "Keep him under my thumb". Yup, he said that. Now Josh would NEVER use those kind of words. Probably cuz he knows that's the farthest from the truth. Heck, I've been trying to get him off my coat tails and out of my house for 10 years. Finally I had to move across the Untied States for that to happen. OH, now don't y'all think if I wanted him under my thumb I'd of let both their dumbasses move here? Shoot, I'm so happy I don't have to take care of him anymore.... no more money, no more fixing his work van. WHEW!
I was listening to a voice message this morning from a dear long friend of my parent's from back in the day when they snowbirded in Arizona... this woman's voice was trembling with sadness, which sent me straight to sobbing again as I envisioned mom bouncing around the park with her sparkly sun visor on playing shuffleboard, Pokino, Hearts, heck, she did it all and was the belle of the park there...I have to keep that thought of her vs how she looked the past few months. My poor baby girl, why couldn't she have been one of those sweet old ladies who lived to the spry old age of 90+ she never drank or smoked. She could power walk faster and farther than I could....oh God, now I've worked myself into a bawling mess again. :( I hate that disease.... I need to start thinking about my son again and change my emotions, I'd rather be mad/annoyed that sick with heartbreak.