I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
A set number of hours for the type of work you are doing as a caregiver. A limit as to how much weight you can lift.... a break for 10 minutes every hour or two.... temperature inside set at 75 or less.
That we are allowed unlimited number of laying our ears back when something isn't going right.... we can get free helmets.... and clean blankets for our forts [those who have been on this forum for some time will understand those requests].
Now, let's vote for our union steward.
Hearing all your stories about E R visits brings back bad memories, I tell ya.
The last visit I made to the E R with Mom turned out to be her last unfortunately.She never made it out of the hospital. But I digress......I remember when the nursing home phoned me to tell me they were rushing her there. The first doctor I spoke to said I think your Mom is passing. Fast forward a couple hours later after my siblings all rushed there thinking this is it. I asked the doctor in question "Do you still say she is going to pass" He says" Who knows, hell I could pass tonight, nobody knows" Oh how sensitive and compassionate of you I was tempted to say.
I'm sorry for you Susan, Shilo, and Hope. Please don't let doctors and the like undermine you. You are all going above and beyond.
He had a stretchy bandage on his arm- a skin tear from a table.
But then the nurse talked to me.
Dad who is very quiet and mellow got real aggressive this afternoon.
Yelling and waving his arms he wanted everyone out of "this prison". On and on , couldn't distract. The activity director took him outside to try to calm him down and the nurse said they were afraid he wouldn't come back in but he did.
Gave him a lorazepam and he took a nap was was ok. But in his arm waving he smacked the nurse under her chin by accident.
I'm of course horrified this. Months ago when he first moved in he said he was in prison. Maybe because the doors are secured with a keypad.
Not sure if this is a new development or a one time event.
Susan, I hope your Mom can get some medication to help her breathe better and keep her oxygen levels steady. A catheter makes things easier for me with Mom and she hasn't had an infection since I have been giving her cranberry juice 3x a day.
Gershun, if a doctor said this to me under the same circumstances I might be tempted to tell him that I wish he would pass in the night too so that I could get my Mom a better doctor!!! Grrr...some of these doctors think they are God. Usually their bad Karma comes back to them someday somehow... As for the mammograms...I am always irrationally worried that while stuck in the smashing machine that the fire alarm will go off and the tech will run out and leave me there.
Jeanette, could your leg cramping be caused by dehydration? I was getting this and upped my water intake and started taking one potassium pill a day when I don't eat bananas.
I hope for everyone on here that tomorrow is a better day. I am sad today as my best friend's Mom died...I have known them for 45 years and they live in another state. I planted some flowers in my garden today for everyone that has lost a parent this past year and for all of you on here as well.
The company Hylands also makes a supplement for restless legs but we never tried it so I can not say anything about that product.
Better. ..i am going to try to get a good night's sleep and hopefully get beyond this meh feeling .
"all she's doing is sitting there on lasix, she can do that at home!" What a complete a**hole that guy is. He is the one that wanted to pump mom full of lasix and just send her home for me to deal with. Nice. I'm not a doctor, I don't have a catheter at home, and I'm not superwoman - I can't stay up and awake 24/7 to make sure she doesn't fall during the myriad trips she'll have to make to the bathroom since you put her on a huge dose of lasix. His response? Get her a bedside commode. That hardly solves the problem.
New doc listened to my concerns about Mom being at home on a large dose of lasix and called her regular doc, who advised admitting her at least overnight so they could get that fluid off her chest and monitor her while they were doing it. FINALLY. Someone who listens! I was SO irritated at the other doc. I'm going to get the name of that doc and file a complaint with the hospital - his treatment of patients is bordering on dangerous.
Got mom to her hospital room and settled in there, answered the nurse's questions and came home - more than 6 hours after we got to the hospital. Sooo tired.
Im not as brave in person Veronica hun although I would have made a great shop steward I can fight everyone else's battles
JessieBelle I dont care if I get shot as long as they make sure its a full on job ....kill me or let me say my piece!!!! I've never ever felt life was that important it's quality of life that's important FOR ME (note people ONLY FOR ME not TO ME before you all start shouting)
Pam I have to have two mammograms every time I go cos me breast wont fit on the darn plates in a one - what's that about one asks
As for my whine moment - yesterday I attended the third of my training- now there bits that were interesting like 13% of fires come from washing machines and 12% from refrigerators and how smoking related fires were on the decline except with drug users and drunks (I guess I wasn't supposed to snigger to myself on that one) and to keep a mobile phone by your bed because it's the only one that will work if there's a fire.
Now to the rest
Well the social worker drivelled on about how wonderful they were - I wasn't allowed to challenge
She drivelled on about how elderly people often want to stay in a care home after being in respite for 2 weeks - Bollo^&*
How they valued carers - double Bollo^&*
How they were trained to conduct capacity assessments (so why do we effing pay doctors and consultants then and why wouldn't your decision be valid in court - they didnt allow her to answer that question either)
How they have a quick response (why then do I need to book an OT visit 3 months in advance of needing it - not allowed to answer that one either)
Definition of abuse - incorrect - not allowed to challenge - persisted on this one - not allowed to challenge.....Then dear sweet man next to me said....if we can't ask the person who is supposed to know questions what is the bloody point of us being here.....he then turned to me and said what do YOU think abuse is? Well says me now royally angry they haven't included cultural and religious abuse in there and these are really important. Giving someone who is Jewish pork for example or non kosher food, or not getting a minister (of whatever religion or by whatever title they use) to see my relative would be awful for my mum she would be really distressed by it.
Well yes pipes up the social workers bodyguard - that's obvious - oh really then why is it a constant source of irritation for many people who have relatives in care homes.
I HATE SOCIAL WORKERS TELLING ME WHAT I ALREADY KNOW
Jude... el stupido? LOLOLOL I love your sense of humor! As far as the commode thing goes, well... err, as soon as I pick up dog poo in the yard guess who trots right out and poo's? No, not me ;) quite the phenomenon.
I used to take quinine for my RLS. Worked wonders too. Tried drinking tonic water but it's soooo bitter I kept adding more Vodka to it, gotta love the strawberry/lemonade flavor ;) I will look for some of the Hyland's stuff today because there is not many things higher on my list of annoyance than the feeling of restless legs. Yeegads ... makes me shudder just thinking about it.
Anybody catch Obama and the heckler? he can be quite funny at times.