I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Stacy, I was thinking the other day how much I have gotten to where I feel like I know all of you...and wish we actually could meet one day...yall have been there for me a whole lot more than any of my friends and family...
No matter how much others think they understand this stuff, there is just no way. Even if they came and stayed, say, for a week, two weeks, they would still know they get to leave at the end of that time and someone else (US) would be handling again, so there is just no way..so there is no way they can know the hurt, the loneliness, the aggravation and even the fear of losing those we love because they are so accustomed to their lives the way they are, when our loved ones pass, what is going to change in their lives....NOTHING...what will change..AGAIN, in ours?? EVERYTHING...there is no way they can know....
A lady came from Compassinate Touch today to give Mother a leg and backrub.Mother has had a terrible last 2 days and has been in more pain.Nights are the roughest!I am very worried.,and scared.I have been So Lucky to have been blessed with all the extra time with Mother.In 3 days,Mother will have made it on Hospice 3 years which is pretty much unheard of.
The rainy weather were having in missouri is h*ll on the arthritis....
I'm so thankfl too for all this extra time I have been given with Mama. I try to make her laugh and pretty much know what gets her tickled, so try to keep it going..they say laughter is the best medicine...bless her heart...she tries so hard...I just wish I could do more, but I am thankful for every little moment we get.
I just realized I can put a rug back in the bathroom now, because no one will be soaking it with urine 5x a day.
Small celebration going on here.
I know I probably sound like a broken record sometimes on here but my Mom and I had such a bond. It was really something special. We even read each others thoughts some times. When my brother died my Mom used to say "oh I saw this the other day and it just made me miss Larry so much" Before she even told me I knew what it was. That happened all the time. One time she left her sunglasses at my place. I went running out to catch her. She said she suddenly knew she should stop and she turned around. Something told her I was right behind her. We had this connection.
No body understands except you guys. My husband has just given up. He just wants me to be me again. But I just don't have anything to give him right now.
Countrymouse I do talk to my Mom all the time. When I am by myself of course.
You are all so great. I can't say that enough. You've helped me just by reading my posts and giving such great feedback. Plus you understand. (((((hugs)))) to all of you.
One of our cat use to howl upon our return for 48 hours.
Another acting like "you were gone???".
Another one decided that all the dirt in the potted plants belonged on the floor :P
Another one did a great escape out of an upstairs window which was left open a tad too high, torn a hole in the screen, and made it out onto the roof, down to a fence, and onto the ground safely [the cat sitter was frantic when she saw that].
Found my missing Contigo bottle today. It *might* be salvageable if I bleach the heck out of it.....maybe. It was in the van, and to be honest, I don't remember taking it out to the van *at all*. Must be losing my mind.
But when I went to leave he wanted to come and had to do some talking. I said he was spending the night and it was ok and he will have breakfast and I will come tomorrow after I work. Hoping it will be a good night.
Hope the pup sounds cute-I can't dress my cats.
Jeanette -yay on your dog!!
Susan- I hope a better roommate can be found.
57, thank you. My li'l old fella is snoozing away beside me. May have to tempt him was food soon. His scar is 8 inches long and he's missing 4 teeth. LOL. They put them in a baggie for me. Nice.
Susan your Mom will hopefully find a good roommate. I'll be hoping for you.
A curse because he cannot handle the emotional stress. He tells me that he is there for me and I should lean on him, but when I try to let go as he suggests, he wants it to be short and the magic pill. I have tried to tell him that it just opens up flood gates that I may not be able to control. When I can't stop when he gets uncomfortable he gets a little anxious and leaves which really pisses me off!
Men, you can't live with them, you can't live with them! Lol
Have a nice night ladies!
Gershun, thinking of talking to our loved ones. I did it all the time right after Daddy passed, even for a couple of years after and still do but not quite as often. It's ok..sometimes I get little signs sometimes not, but always feel comforted. It is indeed a special bond we have with them.
Gershun, my Mom is my best friend and I have always been her favorite of four kids and I was spoiled. I was spoiled because we hung out together and it is easier to buy stuff for someone is around, lol! When I was a kid, she took me to work with her all the time. She had three boys and as she tells the story, when I was born the doctor said, "You finally got it!" She wanted me more. I moved to Florida over 30 years ago to be with her and am so glad I did. When I suffered my divorce, my stepfather sent us on a 10 day trip to England which I will never forget. I pray everyday that God restores her to health so that we can do stuff together again. That will make me so happy, but I am still blessed to have her here in my home.
Well good night, I am going to go give Mom a kiss and go to bed.
Anyhow good night and love ya to all you gals and guys too.
I don't know what the future holds. For now I have the feeling your mother is in the best place. They are able to help keep the swelling down and handle the problem with incontinence. Perhaps it would be best to let her stabilize in her new home and visit as often as you can. I know you miss her.