I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
When well-meaning sis visited, she explained how toxic the products I was using were, and we reluctantly signed up for "her products". Since then, have found that tea tree oil is ototoxic (ears/damage hearing?). So, researching, making my own decisions, I returned happily to using bleach for that I know it is clean feeling. However, my husband is sent outside to avoid the neurological side effects it causes. I stay inside, cleaning, hoping I will get over breathing it.
We both agree it is better now to use white vinegar 1/2 cup in the dishwasher, because it helps with the hard water.
Bleaching everything else I can get away with!
Saw the neurologist yesterday. told me the gardening i was doing was not exercise and if I wanted to get stronger I had to put more effort into it. Then he showed me some lunges I had to do between two chairs so I could grab if needed. fifteen of those several times a day just using your legs. Well my legs refused and I had to lever on the chair backs which did my shoulder in. He did admit that my MRI of my brain was a little better than normal for my age and I am not likely to get dementia from my neurological problems or need a wheel chair but I might eventually need that because of my scoliosis. So off i was sent with an order for a CT scan because my late onset scoliosis might be due to latent TB and if I wanted I could come back in a year but I must exercise. So I asked him what about my heart with all this heavy exercise as I have leaky valves and the Cardiologist said keep it light like walking. "Well your weakness will never improve if your don't put your back into it" Well I will do the CT scan as the only thing about that that bothers me is the $150 co pay.
We have all gotta stop living out each other's lives! Never knew there were so many that I could identify with here. No longer, do I feel so all alone.
If I was moving to Alaska you would be hearing me whine loud and clear.
I would be upset if it was a blouse !!
We/I still have the old cheap vacumn years later! Not working so well.
Still have the angel-heart husband too. (I had begged him to get the vacumn from next to the trash.) My neighbor got her vacumn back in perfect working order with my parts in it.
The real stress is trying to live life one step ahead of the husband before he
does the next thoughtless thing.
EDIT BUTTON PLEASE!
Or is it rather, that I am naive: If they mess up, (as husbands and teenagers do)
that is the best way to avoid being asked to do the chore?
Lucky Lu keep your chin up. I know how hard it is to watch someone you used to buddy around with deteriorate. I was out yesterday and everywhere I look there is a reminder of places where Mom and I went to Lunch or coffee or just for a walk.
Now the CDiff- Mom had it for months! What happens is that it is likely to spread easily true but how you get it in the first place. If you are on long term antibiotics , especially one she took for pneumonia, it messes with the environment in your gut. There are lots of bacteria in your gut, some good (probiotics) and some not so good like CDiff. The CDiff will not take hold of you if your good bacteria are in there at a healthy level. If the antibiotics kill off the good stuff the CDiff grows and takes over your gut causing vomiting and massive diarrhea which can kill the elderly. And because it is resistant to antibiotics it is hard to kill. To take care of the person you should isolate them while on the correct antibiotics, use a gown and gloves while in their presence, wash hands frequently with soap and hot water, not antibiotic cleaner. All surfaces should be cleaned with bleach and water. Wash all clothing and towels bedclothes in hot water and bleach.
Mom was in the Hospital that had very secure and clean methods. We got to the NH and everyone did something differently. Some wore gloves, some didn't no one wore gowns. She did not get to come home until she got multiple tests that were negative because 20% are false negatives. I had the entire house cleaned from top to bottom because the spores can last 90 days. Hope this helps.
I really wish I had found this forum before I let my dad move in with us. Because if I'd had any inkling of how things would go, I would have refused outright. As it is, we've had 7 months of misery for everybody. I put him on notice that he needs to move out, and found a very nice assisted living in the nearest town that would be ideal for him. He has a new excuse every day for why I should let him stay on here. Have an appointment this week with a gerontologist memory specialist who knows the score and will talk to him about all the reasons AL is better for him than my back bedroom. Hoping that does the trick, if not things are going to get *really* ugly, 'cause I've had more than enough and am past ready to get back to my own life.
Keep us posted on the fight for your freedom.
Could you get your hubby a shopvac "gift" and ask him to apply it to one floor of the house? Or even one room? Just so he contributes a bit?
I never bought another new towel until my husband left me for another woman and my MIL moved out to live with her other kids.
Lawyers are going to be brought in and meanwhile my poor Dad is calling my brother 10x a day, wailing, complaining, and is totally confused.
Good things happen too though: our family is getting closer having to support each other emotionally while we witness the demise of Dad. Decades of grudges, misunderstandings, poor judgements, are giving way to friendships and the discovery of each others strengths.
I had a nice day with my mother today with not one note of negativity from either of us: and I wasn't feeling healthy today either. Kudos to the goodness that can triumph if we get out of the way!
IM A MAN, AND I CAN CHANGE, IF I HAVE TO, I GUESS........
And there's also:
WE MAY NOT BE VERY SMART LADY, BUT WE CAN LIFT HEAVY THINGS