I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
kidding Home Depot has shit to help.
BAM BITCH! hehehe.... love you....
Sort of kidding.. or not. It's been very sad difficult day. Spent 8 hours removing both parent's clothes. ( Mom wanted to keep daddys clothes after he passed) with each blouse I folded and put into the box I cried, I could see my sweet mother wearing it. I won't tell you how I cried throughout the entire time...I mean, what am I supposed to do with her trophy of 2nd place for shuffleboard, or her jacket she won that said the same? I kept them.
When daddy passed, mom decided to move into the guest room, She felt it was better for her. I didn't touch that room for 2 years. Just piled mail in there ( I HATE Mail) mom moved to the guest room, if that's what you can call it.
Fast forward... when mom was placed on Hospice I took that bed out. Replaced by the hospital bed.
Long story short......I took mom n dads bedroom furniture (which was my grandmothers) and some teaseled it down the hallway to the room mom was in.
My arms hurts, my legs and my mind.... hugs to ya"all
Jeanette I was thinking about you today when me and hubby were out. We were talking about our road trips along the Oregon coast. I think we stayed close to where you live. Seaside and Lincoln City. We were there during their big kite festival.
Have a good night Jeanette! Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
I myself have to try for that. I am spending too much time sitting here thinking "what the heck has happened here, and how could things have changed to this?"
Jude, I like the idea of not telling that you plan to move. Let her figure it out. I do see what you mean about feeling sorry for her husband.
Is the Oregon coast lovely? That is one of the places I have not explored yet and I hope to see it someday.
The last couple days I have been having trouble focusing on things and can't seem to feel hopeful about much of anything. I am hoping this feeling will pass with the hot weather, though I don't think it is the weather causing it. Just too much happening all at once and I feel I have no control over it. Maybe I am too much of a control freak...I am the one that always has to drive the car. Right now I feel like I am free falling and don't know what is at the bottom...spikes or a nice soft cushion.....
Ramiller, thanks for your review about the Shark vacuum. I will I will order one. The price on-line sounds very reasonable, too.
But it is sooo hard to see her like this, remember all the fun stuff we used to do, knowing it will never be that way again...never.....I miss her so much....it is so odd to miss someone who is still right here, but honestly sometimes that is how it feels.
Friday night, she because pretty bright eyed and I went over and sat down and was talking to her...she was just looking at me with the sweetest little face. I leaned over and hugged her and kissed her on the cheek and she put her hand on my arm, like she was trying to hug me..To say I almost lost it is an understatement. She can barely even lift her hand anymore, but it felt soooooo good, feeling her hand on me again....This morning she has been smiling...so I am hoping for a good day.
Jude....hahahaha...I know it's not funny, but I have had some of those extended length visits from folks I almost can't even bear to think about let alone have to entertain...I had a mental image of you as the visit went alone, can picture the poor hubby having to deal with an inflammatory bossy droll on a regular basis and immediately thought about my brother's ex MIL who used to drive me over the edge until they took away her drivers license and now if they catch her on the road she'll get a ticket or worse...she still drives, but not usually this far south now...thank God....
I don't know why but i can't really take a visit from anyone longer than an hour or so at a time. I wear out fast. I don't understand why folks don't get that...when my cousin asks if she can come to see us, what she means is "can I come by and stay the entire day and let you wait on me and cook for me and I will leave at some point but not until you have lost your mind"......that's why I don't like to see her coming these days...
Heaven forbid you tell someone we'd love to see you, but short visits are best these days....it doesn't work, I've tried it...it has been a lot of what has gotten me termed the "B" word....
I'm sorry you had such a difficult day.. hugs to you...
I saw somewhere on here someone mentioned a Shark..are yall talking about that steam Shark? I have been wanting to get one and now I can't find the post where yall were talking about it.....It looked like just what I need for our hardwood and vinyl flooring....I love cleaning with steam...I love using boiling water on stuff when I clean ....so if you've tried that one...just give me a yay or nay!
One of the things on my to do list for this coming week provided Mama does get to go to respite care is a doctor's appointment for me....I'm also going to see if he'll up the dose on my depression meds again...the current one is not cutting it...
Thank you for commenting that as caregivers, we must be saints.
I know I am. It is just that I don't aways act like one.
Then, not many get my jokes, either.
3 pages of bleach stories LOL had me in stiches already!!
Gershun, my mother's brother lives in Lincoln City, unfortunately he will not be with us much longer. He's the last on my mother's side. My dad's sister is the last on his side.
Yes, the Oregon coastline is spectacular, breathtaking and amazing to just sit and stare out at. Mom, Dad and me would go to Izzy's buffet along the coast and sit on the patio watching the whales while eating a ton, leaving feeling like a whale. Ahhh... happy memories.
When I am done clearing/cleaning and moving all the bedroom furniture to the other room, my plan is... to knock down the wall that separates my room from that room, frame it back in and voila`, I have a much bigger room. I only need to have one guest room, heck, not even that since no one really comes here. I have 4 giant boxes of mine in the attic that I've no clue what's in them it's been so long. I know I have a lot of really nice drapes and nice holders that go with them. Enough to do this house. Hmm, now I'm really wondering what's in them!
Hope, my mother has one of those lovely cedar hope chests that was given to her by grandma when she married dad, I filled it with linens and blankets so it they'll get that lovely cedar smell :) I do hope you get some much needed rest this coming week. Recharging is a MUST for a carer!
Sounds like your mother is having a rough time also. Poor sweetie... I wish I knew the answer to all this but I'm still searching myself, so ((((hugs))) it will get better.
A lot of the rehab facilities have pools now.. .that would really strengthen you up without too much exertion!
Took Mom out for her weekly ride this morning, which made her happy. She still seems to really like her private room, so that's going well.
Susan, I am glad that your Mom is getting used to the private room so she can have access to the window.
Lucky, if the urine is dark it could mean dehydration..I can always tell Mom isn't drinking enough water if it is darker. Try more liquids, preferably water and cranberry juice and see if it gets to looking lighter and more straw colored.
Veronica, the water therapy could be a good idea,maybe check with the doctor to see if that is ok. It does help a lot of patients with all kinds of things going on.
I ran into an old friend while shopping the other day....he was in a wheelchair and had gone through a medical crises that few survive. He is just glad to be alive though they amputated his leg due to complications. This is the second time this past week that I have heard of sad things happening in the lives of someone I know....I think God is telling me to count my blessings and not be depressed...to forge onward and do my best. I keep thinking of the story of lamenting having no shoes until I saw a man with no feet...It is funny that right when I thought I couldn't go on anymore this week, I see someone who has or is going through worse.
I understand how difficult it is going through all the up and down up and down, then down down down then up, then down..anyway, you get the drift...Mama is up a bit today so I am thankful. Brother has come and gone and we had a good visit. Glad he is on board with the respite..even he told me he thought it would do m some good....If Mama can just stay perky then I am actually getting a little giddy about the thought of having just a few days of being able to turn my head off of caregiving for a bit. I know I will go by and peep in on her, but since her aid and her nurse have assured me they will also be watching her then I feel like I can relax a bit. My AC is not cooling like I would think a totally new AC system would in my truck so after I get Mama settled into her new temporary digs...I am going by the place that put it in and ask them to check it out. I know we are having such insanely hot weather right now it is not going to be as cool, but it is not even cool, just blowing warmish air out and that is not ok, considering I just spent $850 on an entire new system...
Too hot to do much else...
But post a photo of a clock which shows 4 a.m. and under the photo say "Mom wants breakfast"..... photo of you scrubbing down the bathroom "cleaning again for the 4th time today"..... photo out in the hallway of a closed door to Mom's bedroom "Mom refuses to come to dinner".... someone take of photo of you napping "finally getting some rest after 24 hours".... pictures of you doing laundry, 8a.m., 11 a.m., 2 p.m., 5 p.m., 8 p.m. and midnight..... selfie of sitting in a doctor's waiting room.... another selfie in another doctor waiting room.
Don't know if that would be a wake up call to the siblings or not.
So your family may not want to say it Hope but admitting you are doing great by your Mom would maybe mean they have to admit to themselves that they are not.
So hold your head up high Hope. Put those shoulders back and be proud of yourself.
I just kinda hang out here once in awhile. See what comes up. Glad we finally finished with bleach discussions...
Lucky, I can't imagine how hard this is for you. All my best to you ......
As far as Mom she is doing great the last few days. She is eating regular food and they found the right antibiotic and we have planned to go to the movies tomorrow afternoon! This brings me joy! My hubby just pisses me off today.
Trigger finger?, really? I thought that was just a saying?
Awesome that mom is doing great! Gives us a chance to ahem, talk about other things ;)
Finished moving the bedroom. Looks lovely. Mom would really love it. Now to figure out what to do with the stuff I moved. So much sh*t... dang, you'd think they were semi hoarders but they weren't. Just your typical garage sellers who gathered more than they disposed of. gads Now I just need to find the strength to donate most of it. Yeesh, it does give one guilt. Sigh. Least today was so much better than yesterday. Thank You for those that felt the pain of removing your parent's life long belongings. It is surreal. It is final. It is sad.
Hey, we can always change our avatar on here to that of the selfie flipping our siblings off? hehe... could be fun ;)