I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
She feels she is getting worse but I don't know what that means any more
I am a little worried that the move is too much for her but I have tried to keep her away from most of it - we are now to the next stage being the exchange of contracts so hopefully it will all go smoothly. If not I am sure it will be my Mum's death defying wish that it all fails because she dies on me on the day we exchange! I tell you if she doesn't I might!
I am just so glad you are all here. I know I try to make light of things because that is my way but deep inside it hurts like hell and memories of my Dad keep flooding back and making the pain much worse.....sorry for the downer peeps - I will rally I promise
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It could well still be a uti, you don't always get bonkersness with it by any means. Any delightful fragrances attached, if I can put it like that? Get a district nurse to come round and dipstick it, might as well. Alternatively, Tena do a pad test that is a useful triage - it tests for leucocytes and nitrites, and comes with responsible instructions about what to do ref false positives/false negatives. Gives you something to do besides wringing your hands, anyway, if you can't get the nurse to come out today.
Rough times, big hugs to you.
You posted one hour ago. Just hugs, thinking about praying for you,
and I will if that is okay.
You can make Mom comfortable.
Lucky....oh my...bless your heart...yep, I have done that as well and it is almost unbearable...And I say that totally knowing they cannot help it whatsoever...but that does not less the total frustration of being the one to have to handle it all....and no one will ever get it who has not done this......hugs to you...
I am NOT inclined to put my Mama through all those tests...What good will they do..Mama is 91 and is very frail. I remember when my Daddy was in similar situation and at the time, they kind of sold us on the idea he needed them...and Mama consented and the tests themselves caused damage that he never recovered from...so no, I am not doing that to her. I always promised her I would never put her through a bunch of stuff when it was not going to help her and that is one promise I for sure intend on keeping.
Now, I am not leaning towards doing respite...I will talk to her nurse but I don't even want to lose that one week...this semi diagnosis has thrown me, even though I suspected it...the potential reality has jolted me back to where I just want to love on her and do as much as I can to keep her happy and home ...I am also afraid they will give her a bunch of those "comfort care" medications...this place was great the last time..I believe they'd be fine again..I just don't think I can let her go now....she's sleeping so good now..she looks so sweet...I will hunker down and just handle it...
Jude, oh my goodness... this is a rough patch for sure. Seems like they're all trying to go against what you feel is best, this includes your dear mother!! Most def the move is upsetting her. Even though you're doing your best to keep her away from it, I'm sure she still "feels" it. Hang in there hun...there is a light at the end of the tunnel...eventually :)
hope, wow, sorry you didn't get your respite, totally understand though why your going to hunker down with your dear mama. I WOULD call your brother and tell him you'll need him to HELP you out a bit more than he does. Seriously, he really needs to step it up now.
Lucky, you also need to find a way to get some help with your mother. You won't be able to keep this up for much longer. Your mother has had this problem for awhile now and she must be getting dehydrated or losing lots of proteins /vitamins her body needs. Really, please figure something out for both your sakes!!! (((hugs)))
Saw dad this afternoon he was good. Not doing activities again but at least in living room instead of cooped up in room.
Going to take him out tomorrow afternoon to a bar/restaurant somewhere nearby on water so we can sit outside have some adult beverages together.
And I do post these outings on Facebook.
It has long been the practice with new born foals with diarrea to force some of the mare's manure down the foal's throat. I won't go into details but animal care is often not pretty.
Poop pills are coming folks but they will probably have a fancy name and you won't even know what you are getting.
Hope you desperately need that respite but it is your decision. AS you know Mama can go at any time but you have to be fit to finish the race and right now that sounds doubtful with your level of exhaustion. visit every day and take her home early if she declines rapidly. Take care of yourself that is what Mama would want for her beloved Hope
God's will be done.
We went to the movies and enjoyed our matinee. As I was driving away, I mentioned that I had to stop at the pool store to get chlorine and then I would take her home and go back out to do the grocery shopping. She responded with, I can go shopping with you, it will save you a trip home! She got in her little electric cart and did some personal shopping while I ran around doing my stuff, checking on her every now and then. She was having a great time looking at all the new stuff. This was our first outing since May and it lifted our spirits so much!
He has always been a dare devil but I have been trying to get him to relax, but he doesn't understand the concept.
So sorry that you are going through this alone, worrying about Mum.
The emergency room hopefully will explain what is happening.