I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Checking back on WHINE MOMENT soon.
I am so glad to hear your Mom felt like getting out and about and enjoyed herself..I know you enjoyed that too. That's what it's about, enjoying all the moments as they come and just making the most we can out of them, even the ones I think when they could be better...maybe they could always be worse too....It was a good day...
When the bee stings
When I'm feeling sad
I simply remember (to go to)
My favorite things
And then I don't feel so bad.
Final diagnosis - uro sepsis
Tea not coffee when you're that wiped out.
You told her to take the tablets. And did she listen? What can you do, eh...
Wanting to wring that doctor's neck who said to stay home.
We just went through this with the neighbor, it is so hard to make the docs isten!
Well she wouldn't take the tablets and I was determined she would but events overtook us. I wrestled with my conscience over covertly administering them and was glad I waited - the hospital didn't ask they just intravenoused them in!
I have asked for a hoist and a turntable so that I can manage her at home. They are talking like she isn't coming home at the moment but well we have been there before - many many times and I know she will pull through if she is able. They have a little problem today - she is refusing food and drink - doesn't like it won't have it stamps foot up and down or would if she could. First breakfast she knocked over (hmm I know her a little better) second breakfast she knocked over (hmmmm not understanding this yet nurses?) third breakfast went on the floor too - that's when they rang me!
They have her on a drip to rehydrate her and oh yes they have lost her DNR! You have to have it they said its vital you bring it in they said we must see the original they said
They never said then we will lose it for you! grrrrrrrrr
Now she's actually in hospital, they actually *don't* need the DNR because the consultant's team is able to exercise appropriate clinical judgement in partnership with your mother and you. You only really need it when your mother is in the hands of poor old paramedics who don't have any choice in the matter and can't use their initiative. But oh for heaven's sake: has your GP got a record of the original? Might be able to supply a duplicate, maybe. And anyway I really hope this is all academic.
Now then: when are you planning to get some sleep?
Now for my real whine. I KNOW and I really do KNOW that caring 24/7 for mum is a pants idea. I KNOW that. BUT in hospital today well even before actually the issues of infection control personal hygiene and care for the prevention of cross contamination was almost non existent:
paramedic wore gloves and then put her fingers to her mouth - her call if she wants to ingest mums wee and poo but really?
At the hospital 5 second quick rub of hands using sanitising gel - nope won't have any effect - especially as this same nurse didn't wash her hands for at least 8 uses of the gel - it ceases to be effective after 4 uses and bacteria can actually grow on the residue sanitising gel does not work as effectively as washing properly and then if needs are felt using sanitising gel.
Oh lets put our gloves on then open doors - where most bacteria lurk
Lets not change gloves after wiping mums backside before handling curtain trolleys - for heavens sake this is basic stuff
The doctors are no better - the one that came to us poked and pressed without gloves and never washed his hands before going to the next cubicle
And they wonder why MRSA is rife? I don't
Witnessed it all and quite frankly if that is the best they can do then sorry my care is better and I actually DO CARE. The trolleys were too high for me to sit on naturally Mum is 7 inches shorter than me and they couldn't lower the trolley - did they have a step? don't be silly of course not so how in gods name are the nurses supposed to get her on to the bed.
Everything just not geared for the work they have to do so it is not all their fault by any means and as for drunks ...don't get me started - they really should make them pay for their care - that said where would you put a boundary - you're too drunk/ fat/ old/ drugged up/mad/ male/ female/ pregnant with your umpteenth child.
And tell me how do you let a patient who has attempted suicide and been brought in by the paramedics and had his stomach pumped discharge himself against medical advice? Surely he should have been sectioned as a risk to himself?
I give up and I don't imagine for one second it is any better anywhere else in the world.
Did I say anything with regard to infection risks? Well what do you think - gobby here said something to each and every one of them - several times - it's my Mum and I care and I make no apology
Let's all have our tea. Jude may get a week at home alone!
Now I am I desire to say Olé at the end!!!
Report those infection control breaches, citing every single one of them. There'll be a clinical director down on the ward blowing smoke up everyone's wotsits before you can say READ THE F***ING NOTICES, MORON. Your local hospital isn't one of the usual suspects, though, is it?
You are right about alcohol sanitizer not beign the answer to everything - sure, it is great stuff - except does nothing to C. diff. - and soap and water every fourth time of so would be a minimum I think. Not sure what the research actually says though.
I hope this ends better than it started, for you and Mum both!!