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It is going to be a long night, for us all. I am usually awake at all hours, on and off.
Checking back on WHINE MOMENT soon.
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I'm still up, Jude - anything I can do?
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Hey Jude, hope this works out. Bravo to you gor being duch an excellent daughter.
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Thinking of you and Mom, Jude.
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{{{Jude}}} I am thinking and praying for you and your mum. You are a strong tough person.
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Me too Jude, prayers going up for you and your Momma!
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Jude I pray for all of you every night but I will send extra ones your way tonight.
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q 2 h
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jude, I do believe I am 9 hours from you.... praying honey that all goes well. This still scares the bejesus out of me. (((hugs))) my friend. You've given us so much joy and many smiles.
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Thanks Shar....it is odd how I was really looking forward to that break, but when I heard the results of that test, even though I know it could be from many factors, it just made me suddenly remember things could get worse fast and I want to try to just keep things on an even keel for Mama and keep her happy....It was the hottest day we've had here this summer...and seemingly ever in my opinion, and I wasn't looking forward to transferring her in that heat...once the aid came and got her all cozy and she looked so pretty and content and it just suddenly hit me, I can do this...I will take naps if I need to when she is napping...and I did that today in fact...I will worry less about the house being straightened because it isn't going anywhere, and more about just enjoying our moments together....the results still aren't back from the cdiff but I am thinking probably NOT that anyway now, and as all things seem to be with Mama, everything happens for a reason, so it may just not have been the right time for her to go to respite. I know that God knows everything and so will trust Him and just keep keeping on....We actually had a very good day and I spent a lot of time just sitting beside her watching her sleep...and I was glad to be there...

I am so glad to hear your Mom felt like getting out and about and enjoyed herself..I know you enjoyed that too. That's what it's about, enjoying all the moments as they come and just making the most we can out of them, even the ones I think when they could be better...maybe they could always be worse too....It was a good day...
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Praying for you and your Mom, Jude...
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When the dog bites
When the bee stings
When I'm feeling sad
I simply remember (to go to)
My favorite things
And then I don't feel so bad.
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Hey, Gershen! Thank you for posting on "My favorite things". Good to hear from you!
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Well ladies your prayers have been answered. Finally saw my arse (British for got really cross) and rang 999 (Your 911) This was after mum nearly toppled us b both into the TV, then she used my hair as something to hold on to - ouch. Then she started retching and then she got feverish - OK past my level of care despite the doctor assuring me it wasn't. I couldn't get her to stay in bed and she couldn't stand - deep joy. SO off to hospital at stupid o'clock this morning and even more stupid o'clock before I got home at about 7 am. No sleep of any worth for 48 hours left me overtired so 4 hours later and ping wide awake

Final diagnosis - uro sepsis
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So, Jude, how do you know what we were praying for?
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You left Mum in a hospital?
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Did they keep her in, Jude?

Tea not coffee when you're that wiped out.

You told her to take the tablets. And did she listen? What can you do, eh...
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Urosepsis can get you a nice supervised room in ICU.
Wanting to wring that doctor's neck who said to stay home.
We just went through this with the neighbor, it is so hard to make the docs isten!
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Yes she is in and Send I think I know you all well enough you prayed for her safe keeping in whatever form that may take!. CM I couldn't stand up I was falling asleep leant on her bed rail!

Well she wouldn't take the tablets and I was determined she would but events overtook us. I wrestled with my conscience over covertly administering them and was glad I waited - the hospital didn't ask they just intravenoused them in!

I have asked for a hoist and a turntable so that I can manage her at home. They are talking like she isn't coming home at the moment but well we have been there before - many many times and I know she will pull through if she is able. They have a little problem today - she is refusing food and drink - doesn't like it won't have it stamps foot up and down or would if she could. First breakfast she knocked over (hmm I know her a little better) second breakfast she knocked over (hmmmm not understanding this yet nurses?) third breakfast went on the floor too - that's when they rang me!
They have her on a drip to rehydrate her and oh yes they have lost her DNR! You have to have it they said its vital you bring it in they said we must see the original they said
They never said then we will lose it for you! grrrrrrrrr
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Poor love, she must be feeling like total poo. But there you go - at least this way they can have a proper pop at that infection and knock it on the head. Beats the usual feeble oo try three days of trimethoprim and see what happens (like we don't know - "I'll be back…").

Now she's actually in hospital, they actually *don't* need the DNR because the consultant's team is able to exercise appropriate clinical judgement in partnership with your mother and you. You only really need it when your mother is in the hands of poor old paramedics who don't have any choice in the matter and can't use their initiative. But oh for heaven's sake: has your GP got a record of the original? Might be able to supply a duplicate, maybe. And anyway I really hope this is all academic.

Now then: when are you planning to get some sleep?
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Jude, Prayers to You and your Mom! I had been unable to be on my computer all day as I have so much going on and I am sorry you are going through this. Please try to get some rest here and there while all this is going on though it may be hard to do. Take care of yourself.
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The new latin looks so much like spanish, si?
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I am obviously tired I tried to thank everyone but I think I missed some of you...if I did my apologies - you have all been so kind,

Now for my real whine. I KNOW and I really do KNOW that caring 24/7 for mum is a pants idea. I KNOW that. BUT in hospital today well even before actually the issues of infection control personal hygiene and care for the prevention of cross contamination was almost non existent:

paramedic wore gloves and then put her fingers to her mouth - her call if she wants to ingest mums wee and poo but really?

At the hospital 5 second quick rub of hands using sanitising gel - nope won't have any effect - especially as this same nurse didn't wash her hands for at least 8 uses of the gel - it ceases to be effective after 4 uses and bacteria can actually grow on the residue sanitising gel does not work as effectively as washing properly and then if needs are felt using sanitising gel.
Oh lets put our gloves on then open doors - where most bacteria lurk
Lets not change gloves after wiping mums backside before handling curtain trolleys - for heavens sake this is basic stuff
The doctors are no better - the one that came to us poked and pressed without gloves and never washed his hands before going to the next cubicle
And they wonder why MRSA is rife? I don't

Witnessed it all and quite frankly if that is the best they can do then sorry my care is better and I actually DO CARE. The trolleys were too high for me to sit on naturally Mum is 7 inches shorter than me and they couldn't lower the trolley - did they have a step? don't be silly of course not so how in gods name are the nurses supposed to get her on to the bed.

Everything just not geared for the work they have to do so it is not all their fault by any means and as for drunks ...don't get me started - they really should make them pay for their care - that said where would you put a boundary - you're too drunk/ fat/ old/ drugged up/mad/ male/ female/ pregnant with your umpteenth child.
And tell me how do you let a patient who has attempted suicide and been brought in by the paramedics and had his stomach pumped discharge himself against medical advice? Surely he should have been sectioned as a risk to himself?

I give up and I don't imagine for one second it is any better anywhere else in the world.

Did I say anything with regard to infection risks? Well what do you think - gobby here said something to each and every one of them - several times - it's my Mum and I care and I make no apology
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CM, doesn't Jude have to drink a spot of tea before sleep?
Let's all have our tea. Jude may get a week at home alone!
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Oh yes send now I realise what q2h actually means - I guess I have never even thought about it familiar with pd altem d AF but because mum has never had 2 hourly meds and I am not a nurse I wasn't familiar with q2h quaque seconda hora

Now I am I desire to say Olé at the end!!!
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Maybe a week is enough that when discharged, you will be taking Mum to the new apartment. So glad you were able to come home for your own sake. You will get through this, with sense of humor intact already.
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Jude it was the "p.r." before her hip op that made me glad I wasn't going to be assisting my mother with that particular medication, hem-hem. Ooo!

Report those infection control breaches, citing every single one of them. There'll be a clinical director down on the ward blowing smoke up everyone's wotsits before you can say READ THE F***ING NOTICES, MORON. Your local hospital isn't one of the usual suspects, though, is it?
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Jude, make no apologies for asking carers, with or without medical degrees to wash hands and observe universal precautions. Glad your mom is getting care and meds.
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we installed a door alarm that rings in my apartment nextdoor. UGH! 2am,4am,4:30am - I finally went over to find her packed and dressed. Her reply to that it was night time was that that would be the time to go (to sneak out in the night) 4:30am was even too early for coffee for me- I didnt even want coffee! --- Even I want to "go home" at this point -_-
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Oh Jude, what a mess. Where has the "care" in "health care" gone?? People just doing what they think is their job with blinders on, more focused on following rules and staying out of trouble than on what a patient needs.

You are right about alcohol sanitizer not beign the answer to everything - sure, it is great stuff - except does nothing to C. diff. - and soap and water every fourth time of so would be a minimum I think. Not sure what the research actually says though.

I hope this ends better than it started, for you and Mum both!!
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