My "whine moment today." What's yours?

I tend to agree with willows, sadly..I think we already have the knowledge to knock out all of our horrid diseases...cancer, alzheimers, all of them.but there are too many people making too much money...just like the issue with illegal drugs...too many sitting in the white house who make a lot of money on the side off that industry....cynical...what me??? naaaaaaa

I don't guess I worry too much about later on...I've already decided I'm going to place my babies with good loving homes...if any are still here when that time rolls around..and again..I'm going up into the woods and expire...quietly ...surrounded by nature...as our first inhabitants of this great country did...when their folks aged, and they couldn't keep up..many of the tribes just left them...right there....sad..and yet...maybe not...for me it shall be the way to go..

You know Stacey, I'd thought about that too. I really don't want to go to hell either, so I gave my son permission to accidently slip something into my applesauce... then I thought shoot, then he'll go to h*ll. So I gave him the choice, go to hell or change my poopy depends. He's stocking up on fire extinguishers ...

The last 3 - 6 months of mom's life were almost unbearable to witness/endure. Scares the beejeepers out of me... so I'm not really sure what would be worse?

Willows, science is ever expanding it's knowledge and I pray they unlock this mystery as well. Those big pharms are chomping at the bits to make it happen!!

My sister works with medical researchers and said a lot of money pouring into Alz research. She had another term something to the effect current drugs not specifically Alz ones are being looked at to see if they could be used.
Dad for instance had one major and one minor concussion 40 years ago so this is possibly the source of his Alz as he is the only one in his family to exhibit symptoms.

So, the brother in Alaska, whom never LIFTED a single finger towards his mother for the past 3 years and suddenly requested a copy of the parent's will.

I see a conspiracy going on here.

The missing gun boxes - Ken saying if I tear a wall down in this house it will lose value.

Oh yeah.

Why can't they just leave me the H*LL alone like they've did for the past 3 years?

I want to reply to that email but it will be an angry one.

Oh, and he said to hold onto mom's urn... he may come visit his family again, one day. LOL, if he's talking about the 2 oldest brothers well, they've did nothing but trash talk him since I've been here.

Ugh, Jeanette - like you really need that right now.

Hi all! First of all Hope,I didn't take offense to the mess comment. I'm a big nut job a lot of the time and ya know what, thats what gets me through life. If I didn't have my sense of humor I would of probably offed myself long ago. Ya know not to give anyone ideas but I don't think people who are so desperately unhappy that they kill them selves go to h*ll anyway. I believe in a loving and forgiving God.

I've heard of these new Alzheimer's drugs they are researching and apparently they say soon there will be a blood test that will show if you have the gene. But apparently you have to start taking this drug long before you would start having symptoms. That probably excludes us. Hate to be a buzz kill.

Lucky I am so sad for you. You hang in there girl!

By the way what time is this debate on? I'm here in Canada so the results don't matter to me but I'd love to watch it just for the circus aspect of it.

No Susan, this is not what I need.

Whatever, they can see it all they want... just WHY can't they be actual loving brothers? You'd think out of 3 of em, I'd of hit a winner right?

Jeannette, I think it's worth checking into a legal clinic. Does the will share out estate? If so and you think they are sniffing around then get a bill prepared for the estate for caregiving especially as Medicaid would have taken the house in recovery. I am so sorry you are worrying about this. Also change the locks. Make sure house gets titled in your name asap. The lawyer can advise best way to proceed. Free consults in lots of places. My sister took estate to probate just to keep my brother from trying to suck out anything he could. He was much less full of antics in front of judge;)

I'm actually quite livid about it and it ruined my entire productivity for the day!

Mom and I went down and titled this house into my name 2 plus years ago. Before the clerk there would do it, or notarize it, she thoroughly questioned mom (without me present) making sure she was doing this of her own free will. Mom even went so far as to have an attorney draw up an affidavit stating this is what she wanted. This also done without me present in the room. I realize it's not an actual will but hell, there is nothing left BUT this house and daddy's jeep.

I've already told the greedy brother I could bill the estate for back wages.

Let em sniff. I did nothing wrong. No I didn't keep excellent receipts but the checks n debit card records is enough for me. What I did do was give up my life and gave OUR mother 3 great remaining years of her life. Asshats man...just asshats!

I am so glad my Mother really didn't have any assets of any kind that people would be scrambling for. I was surprised by how little my family helped when my Mom was alive. Thank Goodness I don't have to see how they might be if there were property or expensive anything involved.

Jeanette don't let your brothers spoil your mood. Just get your popcorn out and have a good laugh tonight at D T and company.

Gershun, I'm still going to be ready for the debate!! I mean, am I the only one that thinks D T is just ridiculous? Apparently because he's leading the race so far... wow...really?

It is ONE brother that is stirring things up. He's the miserly greedy one. Then there's one that is very well off and the other could care less about anything except hunting, fishing, tracking and all that stuff entails. They ALL know dad moved from their house of 30 plus years to this house in this small town so I could take care of my mother and at least be close to my brothers. Where they lived before was an 8 hour drive and much smaller town. THEY know the house is mine. They know it's been in my name for over 2 years. I pay the taxes on this place out of my OWN money. I paid ALL my personal bills with my own money. It's just shameful how they are.... least I'm ashamed of them.

Has anyone received strange e-mails from strangers on facebook, because I received 5 today. I am not on fb! I moved them to spam. Should I report it to AC ADMIN?
Whining about technology, safety, privacy issues.

Gersh, Fox News @ 6:00 p.m. I did see where they're having some sort of Canadian Debate tonight as well. Already forgot what channel though!!

Jeanette...i know that is infuriating but i think you should be fine. .doesn't make it any less frustrating. I had a life estate handled through an attorney because i do not want to deal with this or anything else like that after the fact. I know my brother could try to contest it but that will mean he will have to prove his stake and he won't try that because then people would see what I've always known. It's insane that we have to deal with that kind of stuff after everything else we go through. ...

shipjean,
I'm so glad your husband is doing better on the new meds. You have your hands full with your father's difficulties and I hope things flow much better for you now. No doubt you deserve a break.

Jeanette thx for confirming time for me. I'm actually more interested in the American debate. No offense to anything Canadian cause I am a proud one but I just want to see who old D T offends tonight.

Today started out good. The workmen came to work on the addition (Mom's suite) and I was excited but Mom slept through all the noise. When she finally got up to use the bathroom at 11:30, I asked how her night was and she said fine until early this morning when she had diarrhea. she said she took some Imodium and was hoping that would stop it. About an hour later she was complaining about feeling nauseous and the diarrhea had come back. She was also complaining about feeling really tired.
I told her we were not waiting, we were going to the doctor as a walkin. I called and found out that they were closed until 2. My husband came home to help me get her in the car because I was concerned about her weakness.
After seeing the doctor, she had a fever and slightly dehydrated, got a Rx for Vancomycin and a RX for home health aide to do a stool sample tomorrow. She also is making an appointment with gastroenterologist to see if she has CDiff again and something called Mega Colon! Yikes
It is so sad because she is so tired and I know she is depressed because we just started getting out. I told her at least we didn't end up in the ER today.

This is why I don't like the term "being able to stay in ur own home". That home can be sold and the proceeds put towards a AL/NH facility. Why do we feel we have to physically take care of our parents. Most of us are retirement age, some with their own health problems. We r giving up what we have left of our lives. No, I don't want to live my life in a NH, who does. But my girls have/will be working until retirement. I want them to enjoy what they have left.

What is with the threat of the ASSHATS visiting all of a sudden? Lol. Love that one JeanetteB! And why the hell does He care if you lose Any Value in Your Home? Its your Home! Signed sealed and delivered, from the sounds of it! Perhaps those gun boxes are hidden in the wall, in a secret hatch that you don't know about, lol!
SUSAN, Honey, I'm so sorry you are struggling right now, it sounds like you really need some good sleep and some gourmet meals,to boost you up, and quick! Life is just not fair sometimes, but you are being really strong for your Mom, and you are doing a Brilliant job! I just wish it wasn't at the expense of your health! If I had to take care of my Mom, who passed 11 years ago next month, in this body I have now, I don't think that I could have done it alone, that is for sure. My Rheumatologist appt yesterday was less than encouraging, as he reviewed the x-rays I ha done at my last appt. which shows basically bone on bone now, both knee's, so he tells me it's up to me when to go to his recommended Ortho guy, for replacement (s). But im scared sh*tless of the post op pain and of blood clots. I have some 1st hand experiences with those, no not me, but my Mom, PAIN, And the blood clots, well I had a patient die basically in my arms from a post op foot surgery from a Pulmonary Embolism. It was terrifying. But I will eventually do them, when I can no longer walk, lol, and wrap my head around it. He also found a 1inch lond bone spur growing out of my R knee that could be intensify some of my pain, gee fun!
Oh and ALZHEIMER'S, my paternal Grandmother came to live with us from Wales, when I was 12. She libed to be 93, but the last 8 or 9 years , she was a Complete Blank Tape. Hoe friggin scary is that! It was found out in her early mental decline however, that she had a latent case of Syphilis, the dirty little cow, well that must have been marching around in her body for near on 70 or so year's! Which we all know can lead to brain disease and insanity. I remember when she had that last episode that broke the camels (my poor old Mom's) back, where she had a really bad argument with my Mom, she was quite unhappy, so she went and got in her bed, fully clothed, and layed there, never getting up for 3 straight days. She peed herself and everything. Just sick. Mant times the folks tried to coax her out, and to ger her to eat and drink, but No she wouldn't even move or speak. My parents finally called 911, and when they evaluated her she was rigid, just completely clenched, alive, but clenched! Hands arms, jaw,so they transported her to hospital, gave her an immediately gave her a big dose of injectable Vallium, (I was about 17 when this happened) did tests, and up came the Syphilis result! She got a big ole injection of Penicillin for that too and it was later very suspicious in her "brain Deterioration" as they called it before ALZHEIMER'S was a widely used
diagnosis.She had been showing signs for years and she then was transferred to a Nursing Home, as my Mom could not handle her any longer. She was a mean old Queen! When we were packing up her belongings to send to the NH, we found all these little bits and trinkets, pop tops, gumball toys, silly things all wrapped up in tissue and rubber bands, jewelry, and the worst, is that she tore into bits, old family photographs, that could never be replaced. She had one of those flip top waste paper baskets, that she had been peeing in, it was terrible. My Mom was happy to see the back of her, she was exhausted from raising 6 kids. 4 weddings planned for my older sibs, it was really hard on her. But my Dad told my Nana before she came to live with us. My Wife will always come 1st, my Children 2nd, and you 3rd. Well she had a good run til that last part, and in those days they didn't know, what they know now, so I hope I don't get it, I'm hoping it was the Syphilis! I've never had that! Yea!

Luckylu, it is the early evening here. I too feel worse in the mornings, and more able to cope. Your situation is so difficult, do you feel better yet? Have you been able to shower yet today? Your mom is Living still, you say you get one more day with her. It is the one day, one hour, a few minutes that you will cherish in this most difficult journey. If I could help you, I would. Can you get any actual hugs within your house? You need hugs. So sorry that you too are in pain, as well as your Mom nearing the end of her journey. Keep trying between deep breaths, ting breaks, and be assured so many are here for you, thinking good thoughts and prayers for you. You are a dear heart.

Stacey, get the surgery from someone you can trust, be sure to replace yourself with help at home. Do this now while you 1) are still relatively young and you 2) have insurance, AND 3) the doctor will do it. These three good things can disappear by the time you are just a few years older. Anything you can do now is much less scary than say, after 60. It will be a gift to your family, the less disabled you are the longer the better. Consider your future, it is time.

There is absolutely no illness in existence that can be treated or cured by fear.

Sendhelp, thank you for that, I'm 55 now, on SS Disability and have decent secondary insurance, so I'm alright there, my third concern, is that they only last so long, and I'll likely need a 2nd replacement down the line too, so you are of course right, it's just me being a fraidy cat!I'll have plenty of help, as I've nursed my 3 older sister's thru multiple surgeries, and it will be pay back time! I'm not really being snotty, but we are always there for each other, always! And my hubby is a pretty good nurse too! Hey, regarding those FB, Twitter, pinteriest and LinkedIn prompts/icons, on the L side of our screens, I don't believe that they could link to our personal accounts, but I don't like them, they do get in the way, and I have reported them with my concerns to AC, I don't know how they might respond to me, as im sure they must get some sort of kickback for the Advertising space. You mentioned getting emails with FBook info on them, that is peculiar and coincidental too, isn't it! Hmmm! We will see eventually won't we. Thanks again dear! I do like to think that our posts are very confidential, for sure

Luckylu, Love, it just sucks to be caregiving in such pain, I would teleport myself to you, to hang out and help you if I could, and between us we would probably equal almost 3/4ths of a fit and healthy girl! But that would be better than what we've got! No, I'd even come just to get to know you more and to have fun with you, just because I like and admire you So Much! I too am crumbling in this long term cargivers role, and mine could go on for a long while yet, years even! You know, that right after my FIL moved in 11 years ago, he was diagnosed with stage 4 Mantel Cell Lymphoma, and went thru, 11 months of Chemotherapy, and he has been in the wait and watch status ever since? Except for long standing Anemia. Which goes along with the Cancer, and mild to moderate low back and hip pain, which every 85 yr old has, the Cancer has stayed, just under the lab level/threshold of the next Chemo treatment recommendation, isn't that odd, he's a tough old 'Bird', get it BIRD, I just had to say that, haha. and hopefully made you laugh! You have a restful night Sweetie! We've only got tomorrow, and these are the days of our lives! Wahoo!

Joanne29, So true! I don't nessasarily want to end up in a nursing home either, but I won't be a burden to my kid's either! No way, the cost of living is even higher for their generation, andyes, I have my home paid for as a small insurance policy for our old age care! It should get us a couple of years each, I'm hoping! I actually had a conversation yesterday with two of my sisters, saying, I will likely end up in a Medicaid bed, but I will be so kind and cheerful and sweet to my aides and Nurses, that I'm sure I'll be the one getting the best of care! You get more bee's with honey, right? I've lived a comfortable, privileged life, full of love, I'm a happy person by nature, and I hope that my outook on life never changes when I am in that phases of my life, so that's my plan, be kind and, supportive, and understanding of how difficult that job really is and hope to be treated well because of it. What else can we do except take the little GREEN PILL? Well maybe they will have them by then, and they will OFF all of us quickly in the night.

Nite All, I'm typed out! Where the heck is THE FALCON Today? Probably very busy, or I hope, asleep by now!

Flew away?
Glad is gone too.

Sendme... Glad doesn't post on this particular thread that often. Too bad since she's such a wise woman.

I honestly hope JUDE is getting the final touches of their move done so when mum comes home she may have 48 seconds to relax.

Stace, I was glued to the debates... Americans MUST educate before they vote. Sadly, this debate is completely different than most I've watched. Social Media plays a huge roll. Sigh.

Chalking August 6th off as total bullsh*t.