I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I AM BOUT READY TO RIP IT OUT, STOMP ON IT, STOMP AGAIN AND AGAIN UNTIL I FALL EXHAUSTED INTO THE NOW MUDDY GRASS!!!!!
I had previously posted that my own Mom had written down her memoirs about her life as a teen, working, meeting my Dad and then having to leave him when her family immigrated to the US, then him following of course! It was those memories that she was passing on to her Grandchildren to see what true love was really all about in her eyes. My niece put it all together and we all have a copy. I like to read it once and awhile, and I can hear her voice in the writing, it is my most prized possession. I sure miss her! It's been 11 years now, and boy does the time fly by.
JeanetteB, I can just see you jumping on the pump in frustration, but don't do it! Lol, they are probably pretty expensive! Don't you ever leave me gil! We are pretty close to one another, nd I know our lives will cross one of these days! I do hope so!
I found some great things when going through my Mom's things. She had an autograph book from when she went to high school. This would of been in the 1930's. Every page had a cute little saying or poem from her classmates. They were all so innocent and sweet.
Hope I understand wanting to be a homebody. But my hubby gets cabin fever so its not fair to him. Sometimes its so easy to just want to isolate from people but I have to try for him.
Told her his doc is booked up all month so Will try calling as they usually have some same day appt. the only appt they had was the morning my sis is leaving so bad timing.
She wants dad to be on daily dose of alazopram instead of as needed as lately in the evening he goes from door to door trying to get out. Sometimes they can calm him down by having him sit in his Lazyboy and have him look out window but not always.
Also total assist for showers and the non shower days to help with washing up and teeth brushing. Once he tried to rub toothpaste on his face. :( also I think in the past 2 weeks he has taken his electric razor completely apart so they will put it away after he uses it.
Sometimes tries to dress in clothes from his dirty clothes hamper.
Toileting thankfully still good though sometimes he goes in other peoples room to pee.
So definitely on a decline since May. She concurs he is in stage 6.
Tomorrow having him at home for lunch simple- corn on the cob, will warm up come beans and have grilled bratwurst and cherry pie for dessert. My sis will pick him up and take back. Hoping this goes well.
Something has to go well.
Stacey, I wish I had a clue as why all the sudden The Old Man has suddenly stopped a very long habit(s). The brain is something to behold in many ways, hopefully the doc will give you some insight on it tomorrow?? I spose though if it's a welcomed change, don't FIX IT! LOL
57twin, if we were to go by those stages, then from your description of dad, I'd say he has really entered stage 6 now. For me (and mom) this seemed to be the longest most difficult stage. Not necessarily the most heartbreaking but definitely the most challenging. Everything remotely poisonous or dangerous needs to be removed from sight, better yet, from reach cuz they will snoop for days!! Perhaps it is best to set a daily dose, preferably evening with the alprazolam. For his safety as well as the other roomies? Enjoy your lunch tomorrow, cherish those moments...
Yes Gersh, I did indeed give away a pint of blood today. Even withheld a potty just in casies they wanted some of that as well Heck, now that I think of it, I still have "the hat" and several specimen containers ;) It's nowhere near my wish to have any sort of illness. The way I look at it now, this is just another step in birthing this baby called "new life". Thank you cmagnum for that. It all takes time and proper check-up to have the new life. I get cabin fever too!! Lately though I tend to rush things and end up making rash decisions on things to do. It's been a challenge for me to sit still and just heal. We both have time and I agree with you, not fair on hubs, so go ahead and get out there sweetie.
OH SH*T. I kept hearing this sound of water running (I'm outside on my laptop) and I went over to the pool..... I FORGOT to shut the hose off. OMG! It was overflowing.... holy moly, 10,000 gallons of water would wipe us out!!! D*mn stupid pump!! Lemme go empty 1000 or so out.... man :/
Hubby and I are making tentative plans for a road trip, either late August, early September. I just hate leaving the furkids somewhere though. They are so attached to us. I feel like its like punishment for them. But their vet do board as well and its a cats only office so at least I know they would be in good hands.
I'm feeling kind of blue today. I don't know why. Do you ever just feel ultra sensitive for no reason? Like if someone looked sideways at you you'd start to cry. Thats how I'm feeling. Ah well, this too shall pass.
I sent another e-mail to my sis. This time I came right out and said how come you never answer my e-mails. She e-mailed back this time and said her computer was down. I'd believe that. Except she has used that excuse a few times now. Don't believe her. Anyway.............
Of course you are feeling sensitive, your sister has not treated you well.
Gersh, big hugs. We've spoke about grief and the process. It's okay to cry at the drop of a silent pin, or if the wind blows a certain way. You loved your dear mother. I still avoid the deli section in Safeway. Mom loved her sweet n sour chicken. Near the end I started pureeing it for her...anything to get food in her.
Road trip? Really? Hmmm, either you dive further into Canada or... USA PNW bound baby!
Sorry but I don't think I would believe her either. Me, myself and I, have used that excuse before. Don't count the sis's out just yet... we all grieve different, right???
Oh, hey..... let's just add pool pump repair person to my ever growing resume' ... yes, by accident I over filled the pool, BUT by sheer detective work I found the problem. The clear plastic rollers from the vacuum...well, 2 fell off, lodging themselves places ...least I got my swim in, ha ha.....brrrrr
We can't burn anywhere here.... fire hazard is just too high. It's BANNED!!
When I write a longish winded post I have gotten to where I copy it before I try to send because way too often it just gets lost and then I never can remember what I wrote...
H*ll, me and hubby were parking underground at the Mall and I got sad cause I remember when my Mom still drove we used to always park there and window shop in the mall. The Food Fair. Can't go there anymore. Geeezzzzz!!!
I can just picture you Jeanette crying over the sweet n sour.......:(
Hubby and I might be heading out your way Jeanette. I love the Oregon coast.
We still haven't decided yet.
Anyway Jeanette add pool pump repair woman to your resume.
Up in the far northwestern U.P. of Michigan - literally where the land ends at the tip of the Keewenaw Peninsula, lies the community of Copper Harbor. There are hundreds of little cabins along the lakeshore, most with saunas (it's a Finn thing) and all with a beautiful view of the lake and private lakeshore access to Lake Superior - the Mother of all lakes. Many of them are for sale - often, there are 10-12 properties in a row, side by side, for sale. I have long said that if I ever won the lottery, I would purchase several cabins in a row and use them as a family compound, where everyone in the family could have their own cabin. I suggest we do the same for our "care compound". Hey, if we win the lottery and buy those cabins, we should have enough money to hire out the snow removal in the wintertime, caregivers of our own choosing, security to keep pesky money-hungry family members away, and lifeguards to keep us safe when we dip our toes in the big lake. Oh, and a private chef for everyone.
Of course, if we didn't want private cabins, we could just buy one of the huge mansions up there and all live together....personally, I'd love to have just a little cabin, though.
Message from my cousin tentatively planning the cookout for dad in a couple weeks! Hopefully that will come together.
Gershun, Jeanette, it does get easier with time, I assure you! We did so many fun trips and we'll everything with my Mom and Dad, that visiting those places at first was a little painful, but as time goes on, they will eventually become happy memories, I promise! I've been a bit meh myself these past couple of days, not sure why, maybe just thinking about the Old Man just getting well, Older, weaker, and him changing before my eyes. It's all so uncertain. Gershun, I live in the beautiful PNW too! Hint hint!
Hope, that was funny, you reading your own post! I love the rock idea, do you have room for a big truck to drive into your back yard, with a big crane to move it? They would have to lift one up and over my house as the properties and fences are too close together. Sendhelp. Sounds like you are one who likes to cook? I used to before my FIL moved in, but he is so picky, and a very plain, no spices, no savory or casserole kind of guy, that I quit cooking very often, he prefers my hubby's bland menu, so hey, OK! I don't miss it. But only now make desserts and party and holiday foods, especially Christmas time.
Love to you all!