I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Gershun yeah, it does sting for sure, but it's not like I haven't heard it all my life. I have always known there is just a special bond between Mamas and sons...as there is Daddy's and daughters...and yet I know Mama loves me, but I don't think she would ever say those kinds of things had she not had the mental thing going on...but still....as we know..words hurt....to me much more than a slap to the face most times...
Lucky, again, my heart just aches for you and I agree with Stacey earlier and Jeanette and others who feel you and your Mom deserve more help and respect than you're getting from this doozie....
In my case anger is not something I deal with well. I usually internalize it and make myself sick. I'm going to have to learn how to pitch a fit. :)
In my case I get so angry, I cry. It is very frustrating because I can be so angry but I come across as some little baby. That just makes me madder. My hubby thinks I do it to manipulate him because he can't deal with my tears, so with him I have learned how to get mad so that he will listen and take me seriously. Usually I end up. Eying anyway because I hate fighting with him. Funny thing is whenever I get really mad, I clean like a whirling dervish.
It sounds like fun but for you it is probably worrisome I'm sure. Did the nurse tell you how long before the patch medication wears off completely?
Hope you and your Ma can get some z's tonight.
I just posted a question on aging care about weird things going on with electronics in my home. I've heard thats how loved ones who have died can communicate with you. I've always been skeptical about these things but I have had a lot of this happening lately.
Its probably just a coincidence but ........anyway.
Luckylu, My first reaction to your hospice nurse was I would like to give her a punch in the nose and a good talking to! Right now there are alot of people that I have dealt with over the last 14 months that deserve a good uppercut! I was surprised at the help and compassion of our hospice team after all the dealings with hospitals and 2 bogus nursing homes and the losers that work there for rehab until we finally found a good NH that led us to hospice. . By all means you can talk to someone or change nurses or service if you are not happy. They are supposed to help you, not cause further bad feelings.
Workhorse, welcome, and post all you need! I do a lot of work myself around here as hubby works hard at his job, but wonder if he would help when he retires or takes an easier pre-retirement job...He seems to not understand what needs done around here! It seems easier if I just tackle the work myself if I can.
Gershun, that is interesting about the electronics. People carry a certain amount of electricity in them and energy etc...and I have often wondered where that energy goes when they pass on.
I don't wonder what is going to happen to me when I get older...I KNOW.....I will get by as best as I can and probably be found "gone" after a couple of months of not posting on FB...I say that somewhat in jest and yet it is too possible to be kidding.
My olderst nephew and his girlfriend are now in Chicago....I wonder how it must be to live a life of not giving a sh$t about anyone else besides yourself. You know, on the one hand I'm happy he is getting to be happy and live his dream...but how the heck did that happen? Never had to be responsible for himself his entire life...sure as heck didn't worry about checking on his grandmother when she became so ill...even though he comes within two blocks of here when he visits his dad...(my brother) the other one is making something of himself and I understand him not coming to see us...he comes when he can..but it is amazing to me....and don't even get me going on the girlfriend...spends her entire life going to school...doing crafts...trying to break into showbusiness....while living on the coattails of my nephew......every time I get out in the yard working and sweating and getting eaten alive by insects, scarred for life from at home lawn equipment accidents. etc...not one single female friend or relative I know of has EVER worked the way I do...they all got to spend their lives being pampered princesses...how does that work. I grew up being taught to have something you had to work for it. I have spent my entire life working for it and THEY are the ones who benefitted from it...sorry for the pity party....just needing to emote...
But you know...it would all be ok...if ANY of it was appreciated in the tiniest little way...but it isn't...I am the 'b" brother is God's gift to humanity and then the inevitable comment...."Why do you act the way you do? " seriously??? SERIOUSLY?????? SMH
Like you, I have a next door neighbor who is a brawny, healthy man, owns his own concrete and landscaping business and when I had three large oak trees cut he went riding by in his truck and literally stopped and gave me the thumbs up as he watched me hauling LARGE cuts of logs to the curb for pick up...there are men who wouldn't pick up logs that size...apparently he was one of them...but he gave me that thumbs up and hollered carry on....and went rolling on by....I gave him a "gesture" as well......
Funny as busy as I am and hard as I work. I swear if I sit down for over ten minutes...it takes me a bit when I stand up to get my muscles to want to work again...I feel like I walk bent over..my back is gone...I know what you mean....I shake my head at my own self these days....
Guess we could be Dumb and Dumber...... I am probably a lot older than you so I get to use Dumber, I have had more practice at being stupid......
Laughed at the fact you had a 'gesture' for the neighbor.... my neighbor did come help when I called him..... he is 16, takes care of his grandfather and fixes me breakfast on Sunday morning..... sorry ya'll, I'm keeping him for myself.... I am usually not selfish, but this young man is MINE....very rare young man, and I am blessed to have him so close.... my own kids wouldn't come if I called.... see, God provides.... sometimes we just have to look for it... so see ya later Dumb..... cant wait to see the new avitar....tho I love the one you have now....
I had 1 good friend for 25 years but even she wont come and she doesnt "get"my situation.We have workmen coming to fix the dishwasher atlast today.Better get back to my chores.Take care all.
Hope and ladee, you are cracking me UP!!!! dumb n dumber...ROFLMAO! You know, I would say you needed to add me as the 3rd one "dumbest", but after doing for everyone and everything all my life, at the young age of 51, I realize now how wrong it was to keep giving my all and getting nothing in return. So then, who wants to claim "dumbest"? ha ha... silly girls!
CG3, you just go ahead and have that pity party for a little while. Personally, I believe they are good for you. Just don't stay there too long.
Hang in their girl!