My "whine moment today." What's yours?

I apparently hit the snooze button this morning and over slept..which I am going to give myself a pass on..no hospice folks to deal with today...that for me is a vacation...as much as I love them.I have to confess that I also love the days when I wake up knowing I don't have to deal with all that...for a few fleeting moments, life feels somewhat normal. Prayers for my puppy (I call her a puppy but she's a grown pup, just tiny) but she's getting spayed today and I'm always a little nervous until things like that are done...She'll then be fulled vetted and a homedog.... :)

SharynMarie...I have a recurring bout of that myself... :)

I'm having a recurring bout of hating that mooning avatar.

uh oh..sorry JessieBelle.....not meaning to offend anyone.

I guess I was just trying to have a little fun and revisit some of my memories...surely did not mean to offend....just my kooky sense of humor sometimes...

On Sunday,I had just posted to AC when my brother came over.He wanted to show Mother something on my computer and Im no good at saying no,so I let him.Then he said"I shut it all the way down the way I was taught on mine"and I said'Well,open it back up because I never do that"and he tried and tried but just got a black screen with the arrow.I was SO frustrated because the computer was fine until he touched it.I was so upset I cried and cried.(not in front of him)and he just walked out the door and said"see you tomarrow".leaving me with no computer.Yesterday,my husband took it to a computer place and the ticket says"Troubleshoot frozen screen,repair corrupt boot sector on hard drive" whatever that means and it was $15.00.Anyway,its fixed and im back in bussiness.
Im loading up Mom and taking her to the beauty shop at 2:00 which means lifting the wheelchair and oxygen tanks with a real fragile,wobbly Mother by myself.Mother is on 5 liters of oxygen now fulltime.
My husband is in jerkmode and Im tired before noon but Mother is still with me and I am very grateful.More later,Gotta get Mom off the toilet.Thanks...

Lucky...bless your heart..I'm sorry...I can almost sense your feeling of weariness...((((BIG HUGS))) to you....

Re the computer thing...it reminds me one time of when my brother came over..he was running late by at least two hours...as usual...and when he finally got here, I ran my errands and left him here with Mama...He got on my laptop, which I didn't care, but I had forgotten that my FB page was still up, which meant he could get into anything and I do mean anything I had posted..namely my PM's.....oh Lord in Heaven help us...this was back in the day when he and I were really on the outs because it was very hard to deal with his lax attitude and non help and indifference to my at the time immense emotional weariness and pain..

When I got home, I knew he was extremely different...very upset about something...I got on my laptop for some reason and he had GONE ONTO MY PERSONAL FB PAGE AND POSTED A TYRADE about how sorry I felt for myself..no one is doing anything to help me.boo hooo hooo..I'm so pitiful...I'm so wonderful...I am so awesome....and I love hurting other peoples feelings....he posted that almost verbatim....I saw that and I can tell you I was livid...I told his a$$ off (he had been reading one of my personal messages to one of my good friends...one in whom at the time I could really confide..and did) anyway...his stupid tyrade was so idiotic and childish..I told him all he did was make himself look like a fool....he had brought a battery that day to put in my truck..which his 2 sons had torn up and once they tore it up they then gave it back to me...anyway..he told me he would put the battery in but I was going to pay him for it I promptly told him I was NOT paying him one dime and he could take that battery and shove it up his A$$ ...he left the battery and went home........I then unfriended him because I decided he did not need to have access to my page, which I later kind of hated...but I actually wish I was not friends with any of them because it seems like they take anything I say as though it is aimed at them...and I don't even post personal things anymore on there unless it's a pretty picture of Mama or my furkids...or something silly or funny....ah well..

I said all that to say, do you think he saw something you posted and took offense and intentionally messed up your computer? Not meaning to be a stick in the hornets nest, just remembering how my brother did that in a fit of stupidity and rage and wondering...

Globtrotter, I wonder if your Mom's tremors are maybe related to electrolyte imbalance from hot weather and low fluid intake, just a thought.
Sheradale, your new addition sounds lovely, and decorating is fun isn't it? Also the view, beautiful!
Hope, I hope your little pup is doing alright after her surgery, my Charlie-girl breezed right through it and I was so scared at the time, because she was only 3#, at the time. I can't even see a scar on her little belly now.
Luckylu, you are such a caring daughter, that is so much effort, taking your Mom to the beauty parlor. A luxury you probably rarely give to yourself.
Susan, I loved the FB post, and I have saved it myself for later. Very meaningful!

i had to look hard to figure out the agitate. Life is like doing the. Fha Fha...one back then one step forward Ole!!

Oh my kindle ...cha cha lol!!

Hope, your avatar made me chuckle this morning, but I think I liked the jackass better! All these changing avatars give me something to look forward to, Booklvr seems to have a never ending source of good material!
My only whine today is that the days are getting noticeably shorter, urrrgh, winter will be just around the corner :(

hope- your avitar was funny putting a little fun in life takes away seriousness.

That's what my goal was :)

Katie remember those people will never be okay if they lose there job or get divorced or have any difficulty in their lives! They fall Apart!
I had a friend who was married to a successful vet, had twin boy and girl, lived in a beautiful gated community, drove a Volvo status family car, and got to spend every thing she made in her job on designer clothes and leave the. In the closet without ever wearing them. Then disaster struck, she found out he was having ANOTHER affair! Apparently he regularly had affairs with staff. Well this time he picked the wrong woman because she was pretty crazy and attacked my friend and demanded he get a divorce. They did and she went to pieces. We worked together and I had recently gone through one as well. She just could not pull it together. There were many days after work, I would have to go to her house and lay on the bed with her while she just sobbed and sobbed. She was so u sure how she was going to make it. The. She bought a beautiful 3 bedroom, 2 bath home in a gated community cash! I couldn't believe it! She continued with this poor me act while I was trying to rebuild after having to declare bankruptcy because my ex was with his little girlfriend and refused to pay his share of the bills and I made less than her and had a mortgage!
Well then she met another man. A CPA with no kids and life was grand. He could take her on vacations to Ashville and Paris, they married, bought a gorgeous house (cash) and she got a Mercedes and diamonds on every occasions. Then the hammer dropped again. He wasn't cheating. He was sick and his sickness was exacerbated by stress and her lovely twins were teenagers and all the advice she gave me about how to raise my stepson went out the window. Plus they all still had to deal with the crazy girlfriend who was now stepmom. Hubby #2 decided that all the stress in her life was too much for him and he was going down hill fast. For his health's sake he decided to divorce her. Well, she fell apart again. She was like jello that was quickly melting. I had to cover for her when she lived out of a suitcase wearing the same dirty clothes for a week, going to work and the. Sneaking back to her hotel room and just climb under the covers and veg out. She needed me for everything again. She said she didn't know how she would make it without me.
She bought another house cash and got another new car, had her engagement and wedding diamonds made into different jewelry but kept complaining about how she was going to make it! She bought all new furniture for her new house and lost a bunch of weight so she had to go out and buy more designer clothes and then found out that there was no way to get around the prenup! She was so pissed! During the marriage, he took some of the money and invested in a medical stock and the stock keeps going up! As a CPA who works for himself, he has to get his own insurance because they divorced. He has a predicting condition ( Parkinson's) and will one day need daily care. And she is mad that he might have a few million dollars in stock and she can't get any of it
She actually expected me to feel sorry for her!
Well it wasn't long before she met someone else and now needs me no more. I have not heard from her in months because she was busy going on a cruise to Alaska.

Lucky, I am just trying to catch up on the news. When I read that your brother was going to your computer, I envisioned him opening it up with the AC page up and reading some of our post! Can you imagine! I was so horrified!, in just a couple of seconds, I created a disaster I the making!!! Is that what my life is coming too?
I am sorry that you had to go without your computer, but it could have been worse, lol!

Hope, I just read your post about your brother's FB lurking,(that's what the kids call it). I can't believe a grown up. Would read someone else's pm. What an a$$ is right! I'm glad you told him to shove it up his a$$!
Hey if you guys are still on Facebook maybe we can connect to share pictures.

Sharyn, I am a Sharon too, just spelled differently. Your first post had me wondering if there was some new dance I was missing!
You know,, Watch me diaper, watch me wipe wipe!

Shara...OMG...reading about your friend....sounds just like my brothers first wife...one of those entitled B's who, though certainly smart enough on her own...NEVER in her life had to lift her finger to do one thing for herself...bled my brother dry and the whole time was cheating on him with a much older man whom she wanted for his money and now is again living the high life....Because he is much older than she is I have no doubt when he becomes a burden she will put him away and find her someone else..if she hasn't already...she couldn't crank a lawnmower, let alone take one apart, fix it and then put it back together and mow her own lawn..she can't do anything for herself...but has always lived the high life and bragged and bragged and looked down her nose at everyone else...and mind you she didn't have a pot to pee in when she married my brother...but she sure did by the time she divorced him...She actually didn't want to divorce, she wanted him AND the old toot she was cheating on him with but she threatened divorce one too many times and he was ready by then...but it is ridiculous how these folks who "have it all" can't do one stinking thing for themselves once the chips are down.and they ALWAYS come down at some point...but oddly enough they usually are able to find another patsy to sponge off of....unbelievable...

I have seen these types all my life and have just gotten so tired of hearing them whine and boo hoo because God forbid they can only have their hair done twice a month instead of once a year...(maybe) or because they only have two brand new cars instead of three and then think it's funny to laugh at my little truck with the dent in the side....and btw, I drive that little truck not because I have to but because I WANT to because I feel close to my Daddy when I drive it...

People are just so despicable sometimes...so shallow and have no clue what "real" life involves...but at some point they will learn because the rug seems to get pulled out from under them when they least expect it and they don't have a clue how to handle it ...

Oh yes, I'm still on FB...I have pretty much stopped posting personal comments but do post a lot of pics of my furkids and my Mama...also my brother now and then..

I know I say a lot about him...He has had his God awful moments...but I also know those moments were brought on because of the type of women he chose...I guess i try to cut him some slack..but it doesn't keep me from throwing down the gauntlet when it's necessary...just hoping it's not necessary again.. :)

Hope, I left the best part out, lol. She would always tell me how much she loved me and I was her best friend, she loved me with her whole heart, forever and ever no matter what, but now that I am no longer working and can't do her favors or go on cruises with her, she has someone else for that, she doesn't even call to see how I am or how my Mom is. She used to talk about how awful it would be to be old and hooked up to machines. She said if I ever get like that you've got to promise just put a pillow over my face and put me out of my misery. I wonder if I could do it now, lol.
I'm okay. This is not the first time I have been a better friend to someone than they have to me. I am not going to let it change me

Mom and I are sitting in the living room watching Blue Bloods. She is petting my Hutchie and Misty is by my side getting some love. Life is good.

hahahahah......I vote for doing it now Sharadale...hehehehe......

Aren't those the best times Shara....watching something interesting, surrounded by those you love..and who love you....the best times on earth to me.

I know what you mean about the "friends" I have a lot of those kind as well...always there, always calling..as long as I was able to do things and go places...now that it would mean so much to be able to talk to and just catch up with them...all you hear is crickets....One in particular just really confused me because I thought we were really close and it broke my heart the way she just vanished suddenly. I finally even spoke to her ..not in a scolding way, just wanting to be sure I had not done or said something hurtful to her...she got really angry at me because I sent her the money to pay her back for helping me when my cat was at the vet for a sudden emergency and I was in a bad situation at the time...just paying her back what I owed her...she threw a fit. Later on, my laptop had to be turned back in to my former employer after I realized I would not be returning to my job..she told me she had a laptop I could use if I wanted to until I found one I liked better...sounded great at the time...so I told her I would pick it up on the way back from my other house (where I was trying to bring back items from my house)...as promised I called her as I got near her home and she told me she did not have it ready yet and she needed to clear off the hard drive and that she would have to bring it later...which she didn't do...and then chewed me out for not taking her computer...I just gave up.....didn't seem I could do anything right with her anymore...sad...but what else can you do??

Boy...what is it with some people??!! The better they seem to have it the worse they can handle life's problems. Hope, the friend with the laptop sounds squirrely!! Sharadale, sounds like that friend is going round in circles and it has become a pattern that repeats itself. I believe that the more flexible one remains and can do for oneself...the better we will all bounce back from things that happen to us, and we caregivers seem to share a trait of independence and being stronger than a lot of people we know!

Katie and Hope, it seems like some people just thrive on being the center of drama and if no one else starts it, they will, lol. I was hurt really badly as well. And I had really believed her when she said no matter what. We used to talk (when she was married) about getting a condo to use as an escape pad when one of us couldn't stand our husbands for one more minute and needed a place to relax. Can you imagine if I had really done that?!
And I am a great friend Da^^^^it! Ask any of my other friends, lol! I am the one that helps you out of a jam, listens to you cry at 2 a.m., pays for some emergency and never asks for or expects it back.

Yep, I know that feeling...seems like we're only good when we're needed...or somethings in it for them..otherwise.........

Among other choice remarks, Zsa Zsa Gabor said "I never hated a man enough to give him his diamonds back." Speaking as the world's least successful gold-digger ever, I can only admire your friend Shara - long may she get away with it! And long may you have so much patience with her. I think staying friends with people is a mark more of your character than of theirs - and nowhere does it say that you have to like everything about them.

About your mother: I didn't know about the meningioma. Has it been checked out recently?

Sorry, I'm such an idiot - I meant Globetrotter's mother and then got sidetracked. It's very late here, I'll put myself to bed...

Very well said Countrymouse. I've had friends over the years who conducted themselves in a way that I didn't totally agree with. If their behavior didn't affect me one way or the other, then who am I to judge.

On the other hand, if you are always the one giving and never getting back then its time to sever the relationship I think. I've had to break up with friends the same way you break up with a boyfriend.

Its amazing to me how people when you bring up something they are doing that bothers you sometimes really didn't have a clue. Thats why its always good to speak your mind.

Mixed emotions tonight.

Most of you know at least some of the background of my relationship with my estranged 24-yr-old son. He hasn't spoken to me since last November and has cut off all communication with me for reasons too lengthy to discuss here right now. Long and short story, there is drug/alcohol abuse involved on his part and a long history of lying to me about everything, he has a child he refuses to see or pay support for and now has another child on the way.

I found out via FB tonight that they are in the hospital right now, and the baby should arrive tonight. (Neither he nor his girlfriend is not on my friends list - he has blocked me - but she often posts things with a public setting so anyone can see them - including me - so I have been checking her page now and then because I knew the baby was coming soon.) My heart is hurting right now, because I have been present for the birth of every single one of my three grandchildren - but I will not be for this one, because my son is refusing to involve me in his life - all because I insist that he be a responsible adult and take care of his other child instead of just ignoring him like he doesn't exist.

I have a feeling...maybe a hope...that he will show up at my door with the new baby and girlfriend at some point....but an even stronger feeling that he won't. I know him well enough to know that if he can avoid "facing the music" forever, he will. And the longer he stays away, the easier it becomes for him to act like I, his family, and more importantly, his other child, do not exist. I strongly suspect he has created a whole new life for himself - one where the only thing his "new family" knows about us is what he chooses to tell them - and it's all lies. He has been troubled since he was very young, and no amount of therapy, specialists, psychologists, counselors...ever helped. Believe me, I spent countless hours and dollars trying to find out why he is the way he is.

So by this time tomorrow, I should have a new grandson. I hope one day I get to be a part of his life in some meaningful way. Seeing anonymous posts on FB is not exactly meaningful.

Susan I'm so sad for you. With all you are going through with getting your Mom settled into the nursing home and now to learn through FB that you have a new grandchild. That must really sting.

I don't know what you could do to establish a relationship with your son. From the sounds of it he has really dug his heels in and won't budge.

I hope for your sake that he comes around with the baby. Maybe try reaching out one more time. I'm sure he would want his new baby to know his grandmother.

Thanks, Gershun....I would try reaching out but have no way to do it, other than to message his girlfriend. Not knowing what lies he has told her and her family about me and my family makes me reluctant to do that. He has slammed every door in my face for a year now, so I really don't think he will be open to any contact. He obviously doesn't want it.