I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I've figured out the not walking is because her sciatica has returned. She goes so rigid when I try to get her out of bed it's hard to be mindful of her back as I pull her upright. Looking back that was another failure of our doctor at the time, an MRI showed multiple degenerated discs but we didn't do anything about it, I didn't press because I wasn't aware there was anything that COULD be done. I suppose we both figured she wasn't long for this world and our focus at the time was her recurring TIAs. Anyway, I made her walk to the bathroom this morning, use it or lose it as they say.
My whine today is neighbourhood campfires. It's finally nice enough that you can turn off the A/C and open the windows but somebody has left their backyard fire smouldering all night. I like sitting around a fire, but put the bloody thing out when you go to bed!
Also, I find that a little bit of Kefir each day helps with the diarrhea...It is a liquid yogurt drink that comes in various flavors that Mom drinks 2x a day and I buy it in the yogurt aisle of the supermarket. It is a probiotic so helps with the d. and helps to prevent C-diff after a round of antibiotics.
College, The Kefir helps prevent diarrhea but Mom still has 3-4 BMs a day. She is bedridden and uses briefs so it keeps me busy. I don't know why the BMs are fairly continual...nobody can give me an answer to that, but maybe it is a side effect from radiation treatments she received years ago.
Cwillie, your Momma sounds like mind too. She eats crackers and cookis and for 4 days it has been a battle with the Ensure. She takes a few sipes and says says it So she must be getting weak again..
I hate mornings because I hurt myself so much and theres always chore after chore to do just so we can keep functioning.I never dreamed...
I'm trying to catch up, so far it seems to be all about poop, so maybe I won't catch up ;)
It's been a rough week. Started out with what I thought was a stomach virus, then it moved into my chest and turned into a upper respiratory thing... finally was able to get into the dr's on Thursday for meds, now I am FINALLY starting to feel like someone vs the bed slug I've been. I've been working around here non stop since mom passed and it really caught up to me. Time to chill for awhile I suppose...
Susan, that is AWESOME about your son :) Guess time does heal... I don't know who my son is anymore. He left a VM on my cell the other day that ripped my heart to shreds. The words that came out of his mouth, the names he called me... I just don't think I ever want to talk to him again. Ah well, he said he'd rather die or live under a bridge before he asked me for help. Well good, just look at the money I will save. Honestly, he's always be a selfish self entitled person, which I made worse by giving and doing SO MUCH for him, but this new personality that he's taken on since he met that woman, it honestly scares me. He even had the nerve to say some not so nice things about my parent's.
I feel like the past 3 years has made me public enemy #1. Not quite sure what I did to everyone, aside from speak the truth, but yeah, they're all mad at me, not speaking to me and it kind of stings. While laying in bed for days I had the chance to really reflect back on everything that has happened.. can't help but notice a common denominator. My 2 brothers here and my son, have all mentioned (in a not so nice way) that I have it made now. A house that's paid for and a income (a pension and perm alimony) that will allow me not to go back to work if I choose. What they fail to realize is the heartache and hardship all 3 of those things came with. Pension is from my first husband who passed away. Perm Alimony is from my 2nd husband who dived head first into a Mid Life Crisis in which we lost everything and it was a nightmare 4 years until the divorce was final. He's now getting married again for the 3rd time since our divorce... this house, well, it's the hardest gift of all, I buried both parent's and went through hell and back with mom for 3 years. Guess I'm not supposed to have anything. Oh well. Family can just be so cruel...
Jeannette,Glad your back.
I told dad that he cannot blame his disease for the reason he touches his poop. He's NOT that far into his senility. I really really hate poopy mess outside of the pampers and on the bedding and clothes. I told him that since this is Extra Avoidable Mess, I am going to charge him $20.
I am hoping Mom does get some sleep tonite but wondering if yet another UTI is going on, or if she is getting restless for other reasons. I do hope everyone here has a peaceful night tonite!
Hubby and I went. We wanted to take Mom too but knowing the church, we knew it would be too hot and with her CDiff, we didn't want her to accidentally share her bacteria with anyone else. She had a friend that usually visits on Saturday come up to stay for a little while and the. We came home straight from church. It was a little bittersweet because we were invited to the private party, but we couldn't go because I didn't want to leave Mom alone for long. There will be more parties.
Sorry everyone is having such a shitty time.......literally. Someone on here said they were giving their Mom oatmeal. If she is having diarrhea, probably not a good idea. I get the shits when I eat oatmeal.
Sorry Luckylu, CWillie, Susan, Katie etc. that you are having such bad times with your parents. If I left anyone out I'm sorry for that as well. I remember the days with the UTI's with my Mom. Then of course the antibiotics kill all the good bacteria as well so it all generally sucks. My Mom was always having UTI's. It seemed like she would just be getting over one and then another would start.
Welcome back Jeanette! I'm glad you are feeling better. I went for a walk around seawall today with Hubby and am feeling like I'm coming down with something myself. Hopefully not. I never get sick but I always seem to get ill when Fall comes around the corner. Don't worry about your son Jeanette. People always feel entitled to what their family has. I believe in helping family but when they just expect it and are ungrateful then they can just screw off.
Hi Jeanette! Good to "see" you again...I hate you are going through all that but God knows I feel your pain. The sad thing is...until "they" actually have to go through what you have been through, they never will really GET IT...just like my situation..they will never understand because they never have, and never will...do it....what can you do?? hugs to you friendo.
Finally made it to that store in hopes my pretty linens would be there...I should have guessed I waited too long...They were all long gone, the sheets and the quilted comforters as well...my bad...I know better not to get it when I see something I love like that at those kind of stores as they only get one maybe two of a certain item...
Had a pretty good day today..Mama has seem perkier even tonight..so that was nice...My only whine was my little great nephew had his third birthday party today and his Mom did send me an invitation, but I feel certain she knew I probably couldn't attend but wanted to include me...that meant a lot to me. To be honest, I was going to try to find a way to go...but...when I mentioned it to my brother last weekend, he quickly told me...not to worry, we know you won't be there...don't think twice about it...I don't know if he was trying to make me feel better or didn't want me to go...it FELT like the latter...because it hurt..because it felt like he was saying we don't really want you there...I'm going to pretend it was in my head and he didn't mean it that way..but tone can go a long way sometimes...and so much has happened through all this, I can never be sure...on the positive side, when I said I was going to get hi something from us...he did find something when they went shopping and asked me if I wanted hi to get that for me and Mama to give him. I told him that would be great and I would pay him when I saw him next...so at least Mama and I were there in spirit.
I talked to Mama and told her about her and me getting an invitation. I told her we can go if you want to...(I like to include her in all the goings on) and she kind of nodded no..I said, you know, you and I might rather just stay here and play.what do you think? She said "yeah, yay"...so I said ok...that's a done deal then...we'll just stay here and have fun...she seemed fine with that....
Sitting ehre listening to the rain...and heard it is gong to start getting a little cooler next week...thank goodness for that...love you all. hoping tomorrow will be brighter for everyone...
Brother did text this AM to let me know the SIL is sick...has been for about two weeks, and the shots she got first of week didn't do the trick, so he's taking her to the doc in a box . That's fine...and of course, he needs to, just thinking of how all my life I have managed to make it through life without one person taking me to the doctor, the er, wherever...always had to drive myself...always had to take care of myself when I got home..including literally crawling on my hands and knees with a bucket when I would have one of "those" bugs where the very act of standing would make you hurl....(sorry)....
Anyway, just thinking to myself...not necessarily complaining...maybe a little...but it is ironic that she has felt well enough to drive herself back and forth to the lake palace, (right past our turn off of course) take her Mom to get her hair done, go to parties etc....but simply must have someone take them to the doctor....just interesting..that's all......
Nonetheless, at least I know I can put my feet up a bit. Got Mama all bathed and fed and she is happy today...we might get a little thundershower later, which will be great for a nap or reading a book with some coffee...and just doodling around in general. Thought about making a quick run to another one of the stores where you can luck up on great buys...and see what sheets they have in stock...I now have pretty sheets on the brain...so I'm determined to find some nice ones...