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Frequent flyer, I know about the pain involved in driving. I had surgery on my neck back in 2011. They removed 2 vertebrae and fused my neck in two places. I have a titanium plate and screws in there and when I was finally allowed to drive it was very difficult. I couldn't turn my neck so looking both ways meant turning at the waist. I have permanent nerve damage that shoots pain down my arms and holding the wheel, especially for an extended time is very painful. The seatbelt also causes great discomfort sometimes.i want a Jetson's car that flies above the crowd.
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Talking about my grandma and cookies made me go get Oreos and milk. One o'clock in the a.m. And I am eating cookies and milk!
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For those of you complaining of upper respiratory depending on where you are in the U.S. Or Canada, you may be affected by the air quality due to the fires I. The PNW. They say that you can be affected as far away as Florida. If you are on the east, we have Sahara dust in the air now.
I used to hang from trees! Great fun but couldn't do it now! I used to roll down hills. I remember once in PA, there was a beautiful sloped hill just right for rolling. I was madly in love with my ex husband and it seemed like a wonderful young romantic things to do. I was about 24. It was so much fun, but hurt like hell!his name is probably on AM in the no paid status, lol.
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Obviously I have not read through all the posts before Iwrite one... Just read Globe trotters. great minds think alike.
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easy to want to be a woman when you have millions of bucks to get plastic surgery, a new wardrobe, makeup artists and you don't have to have a period or experience the desperation for a baby only to be told you lost two and will not ever have one. He/she may experience menopause though. With all the hormones. But he still has his distinguishing body part so he is a man as far as I am concerned. I really feel bad for the girls. No matter what they say, they were pissed about the separation, I don't think they are happy that they are losing a daddy.
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Well okay........so no one wants to watch I Am Cait.

I get what you all are saying. He is rich and entitled. Believe me the transgender community is letting him know that. Right to his face on this show. Its not just about him dawning high heels and eyeliner. I think he is definitely out of his comfort zone and it shows. But I'll cut him some slack.

Anywho.......I am sick and so I am gonna go to bed. Good Night all you wonderful Care Givers.
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I think they're making such a big deal over Cait. It's not as if he did anything unique to deserve such attention - other than being with the Kardashians. Anyway, I agree with those who said that he didn't deserve the Arthur Ashe Courage Award. This is for those in sports who did something that was 'courageous.' I agree that the award should have gone to someone like the late teenage basketball player Lauren Hill, who achieved her goal of playing college basketball while battling an inoperable brain tumor AND raising money for cancer research. She was doing TWO things despite dying from cancer. What did Jenner do that was courageous like Lauren? My fave niece is so 'fannish' about Jenner. She keeps liking him in FB. Drives me crazy!

I'm curious though. When they charge him for manslaughter in that traffic accident, IF he's found guilty, will they put him in the men's prison? I will feel soooo sorry for him if that happens. I can see him experiencing some very painful physical violations. Unless fame and money wins out, and he gets a cushy prison cell/treatment. Or would he go to the women's prison? Or he might be found innocent of vehicular manslaughter.
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I too think Lauren Hill should have gotten this award for achieving her goal of playing basketball while battling the inoperable brain tumor and raising money for cancer research. That research will touch a whole lot of people in a much more positive way than Cait's self important TV shows and new wardrobe. Cait can do what Cait wants...but I think the award should have gone to Lauren Hill. it just illustrates to me how society has it's head on backwards. What about us forgotten caregivers who have given up our lives to help someone else through theirs? Now that also deserves recognition yet people run from us.
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I quit watching all those reality shows years ago, back when the Kardashians were first making the news I didn't even know who the heck they were talking about. I just feel there's just something distastefully voyeuristic about the whole genre, yeah, just like slowing down to watch that car wreck. To me it normalizes behaving badly, not only that but people gain fame and fortune from it. Is it any wonder that millennials seem to have a poor understanding of ethics?
Sermon over...lol
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Reality TV...yep, have to agree on that one...About the only thing I watch anymore like that are those ridiculous Bachelor and Bachelorette things...and I think I watch them BECAUSE they are so ridiculous...all those nobody's who suddenly see them selves as STARS because they are on those shows. I think there have been maybe two or three couples who actually did marry and are still together, but give me a break, folks who are that physically perfect and can't find someone without going on a TV show to do it...there's obviously something other than looks that is wrong...and watching just for a short time reveals pretty quickly what that is....

I don't judge folks re the trans issues, gay whatever...that is their business but Jenner's case is kind of different and I do think he did not earn the award. Had he not been a celebrity and very wealthy person to being with it never would have happened...

I have, the past three days now, completely turned off all TV and stereo...I am enjoying the sound of the breezes and birds singing, and just "being"..without my head all clouded from all the bad news, drama, fussing and stupidity that seems to permeate the airwaves these days...I did get to enjoy the Donald's news making event of the day for throwing out the reporter who, imo inappropriately began blasting Trump with his question before he had been called on and promptly got shown the door. I have to say I find that refreshing about him...he doesn't back down...sometimes I think we might could use a little more of that these days
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Linda22, I liked when you said " Everready bunny has battery issues" :) I also believe my parents don't realize that I will be 70 on my next birthday, they are probably thinking more of the lines of 37. Even waving my Medicare Card and AARP membership in front of them didn't make any difference.

It is just so hard to say "no" to one's parents, especially since I am an only child who had no children. There are no other relatives that can help me out, my closest cousins several States over are OLDER than me, and are still recovering from helping their own aging parents who have passed on. There is my sig other but he has very little patience and on those days when he does help by driving or picking up their groceries, he will grumble for hours on end.... to a point, where I rather do it myself and have silence !!
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We all know people who have memory issues.... who get distracted... who won't answer the questions we asked even if we repeat the question several times over.... who have lost their filter and will say anything that pops in their head about different demographic groups to the general public.... cannot keep numbers straight.... think they are perfect with zero faults.... who are rude and snippy to anyone who doesn't agree with them, etc.

Ok, are we talking about one's parents or are we talking about one certain Presidential candidate who falls into the categories above? The lost of filter was my first clue, then other signs started to show. It will be interesting to see how all this plays out over the next year.
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Yall know I love our hospice team, but by the time all the folks are done for the day, the entire day feels pretty much shot...that sounds wrong somehow, but why is all of that so draining ...maybe it's just the day to day sameness over and over and over....there used to be an old cartoon about droopy dog who clocked in for work, the hands of the clock flew by, he clocked out and it just went on and on and on...same old same old...I need to go find something different to stimulate my brain I think...something that will break my monotony factor....if only.
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Oh, please! The day to day sameness. I am trying so hard to liven things up! I want to start silver sneakers.

I just visited my mo m and we played cards. all the same questions and confusions over and over and over and over. Geeesus!
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SHERADALE, Hey, I had the exact same neck surgery as you with fusions and titanium plate and 4 screws placed in my neck! Hmm, small world! My neck is pretty good now except for both my hands go numb and ache with the weather changes, but it's my low back and knee's that are bad now, so no more hanging upside down for me!
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Stacey, lol what a thing to have in common.mine was C5-7 and C4-5 is there but herniated. I also have low back issues, arthritis, bone spurs, spinal stenosis and arthritis in my hip that makes me limp on a regular basis. My sciatic also gives me a lot of pain and I have rotator cuff tears and bone spurs, so I am a mess.
As far as same old same old, not so much here. We are preparing for a possible Cat.1 Hurricane. Lalalala!
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My husband wants Mom and I to go to a Motel, but we have been here in Cat two storms without any damage except screens. I said the power would probably go out but we have a generator that will run the whole house except the air conditioning. Mom hates the AC and usually after the storms we have wonderful breezes so I a, not worried. The storm may not even come here. It might not even keep hurricane status.
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Changed my avatar finally! This is me and Mom. Isn't she cute! That was the night we went out for dinner on her 90th! That was an awesome night!
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Jeanette,I dont know why our brothers hurt us SO much and seem to enjoy it.All I/we have done for our Mothers and the abuse continues.Mine are 2 little BOYS that never grew up and are now pushing 60 plus.Ill never understand how they can live with themselves.
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Sharadale, I love your picture...Yall both look great! Your Mom looks so sweet :) so do you .....

I seemed to be operating in fits and starts today...Didn't get much accomplished...other than managing to get my friends birthday card addressed and decorated and I got her second gift in the mail so I got them both wrapped really pretty and got them in their box all ready to mail. I bought me some of those colored marking pencils so I can decorate my cards, boxes and such like I used to because I want to be me again...I guess I could have pushed and gotten them on to the post office, which I should have done, but I just ran out of energy. They are ready to go though so that will be on my to do list first thing tomorrow.after I get Mama and all the critters taken care of....

I could very easily go for a nap right about now....
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Sharadale, That picture looks like it was a wonderful time for your Mom's 90th. Please stay safe and hoping it won't develop into a hurricane....
Same for everyone out West with the fires and air quality...hope it gets better soon.
Frequentflyer, I hope your shoulder gets better soon. I know that puzzled look too when I tell Mom how old I am...they think we are still young and that only they age, I guess....
Hope, I don't remember the cartoon of "Droopy Dog" doing the same things over and over...but I sure do feel that way many days...I wonder how many days have been this way in a row now. I feel like I am in a tape loop if one filmed me each day...over and over...
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Day in Day out,I feel like a cog in a machine,or a hamster in a wheel going round and round and round.It takes everything Ive got in me to keep up with the laundry,dishes,trash,etc.There has never been enough of me and boy!Do the four walls start closing in on you.The worst for me is figuring out dinner everyday for 3 people with diffferent tastes....
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I have been able to be on the site. No more Internet access I have my phone but not the same. I miss communicating with others who know about the day to day struggles. My whine is that my mom's moods have really been more extreme than usual. Not sure what attitude I will walk into.
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Hi Folks,

Another day in Paradise. I am sick so I am hunkering in for the day. For all of you who feel like cogs in a machine just remember you are important cogs or hamsters, whichever you prefer. :)
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Gershun, you are so right! My Mom thanks me every day and now and then says, I don't know what I would do without you. For those of you whose LO can't remember or express this, my mom is talking for them too. Think what would happen if you weren't there doing the day in day out.! I have only been doing this for less than a year, but you guys are heroes to your LOs! You are heroes to me too because you help me keep going!
I know how frustrating it can be though. Especially the cooking and shopping! I hate grocery shopping! It seems like I go every day! I am a really good cook, but my hubby has developed some digestive issues so he doesn't like to eat certain foods any more. Mom is easy. She has always been a good eater, but her teeth are bothering her now so she is having a problem chewing. I have been crockpot info and pasta cooking because it is easier on her teeth. I have found that Pinterest has become my best resource for menu planning as well as decorating and designing Mom's new room.
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lucky, one brother turns 60 in Feb, the other turns 57 this Nov....

Guess they never grew up either. Nice enough for them though, that one isn't far from the other. Hmph.... fine. If I can think it, I can do it on my own.
nuff said.
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lucky, I remember the three meals a day before Mama became bedfast and now will only drink ensure...but now my challenge is to actually cook at all now that I don't have to. I am a good cook, but I feel guilty when I cook something good and Mama is just lying there staring at me...or even when she's sleeping, I still feel guilty..

So now i am notorious for making my meals cereal, or a piece of cheese, or a glass of milk...I try to get some protein source in there, but my heart is not in any of it most of the time and it is really showing in my well being...The bone in my upper left thigh, I can't even remember what it's called, but I can be standing still or walking and sometimes it just gives way...I don't know what is up with that...I almost feels like the bone shifts but surely not or I could not walk on it...kind of more like a pinched muscle or nerve....who knows..I have aches and pains in places now where I never knew I even had places....
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It's hard to believe this is the same person who used to go on daily powerwalks just four years ago and was always active and doing things with friends....I'm not meaning to gripe, but what a shift in priorities...
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Sheradale, I Love the pix of you and your Mom, she's darling, and you are Gorgeous! You both look so Happy too! I totally get all those aches and pains we all seem to have, WTF? I guess we are all realizing that we getting older and have been giving our best years to our LO's, while ignoring our own health and well being. But we all need to make a concerted effort to take care of ourselves or we will wear out and then what will happen to them?
Sheradale, please be careful with the pending storm, I would be cowering in the corner if I were you, I've never experienced a hurricane or anything like that! So scary!
Gershun, sweetie, you take care too, I had Headaches that literally lasted for a year before my 1st cervical spine surgery. I have had 2. Not fun, but the 2nd one was successful thankfully!
And to all of you who are struggling with the monotony of same thing different day, I'm right there with you! Today I reviewed all of my FI's legal ppwk, to confirm that it was all in good order and up to date, which it is, but to hear him repeat himself over and over and over again, I practically wanted to blow my (his, lol) brains out, GAD! It's so exasperating! Well my Charlie-girl finally found her very favorite ball, which may sound silly, but it had been missing for a week, and she was constantly searching and searching, and the next thing I knew, she rounded the corner with it in her little mouth, and once again, all is right in the world! It is a dirty once pink old sock of mine I had rolled up and sewed into a ball, and she lives for it! She will fetch that ball 4 hours a day, if I would throw it that much, but at least she is back to her happy little self, thank God, I couldn't even interest her in another ball, the twin sock ball to the old dirty one she loves so much, so I don't know what will happen if/when it wears out! I know that this is such a stupid thing, but she was sullen and distraught! Poor baby! My happy baby is back now anyways! Alrighty kids, I love you all, so be kind to yourselves, and I'll catch up tomorrow morning!
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Hope,Im sorry youre having hip pain.You probably should see a doctor about it.You might have fybromyalgia...I hope not.I,too feel guilty eating good stuff in front of Mom.My Mother has a hole in her septum and cant taste or smell anything and hasnt been able to for more than a year.Its awful and SO sad.
In the mornings after I get Mother up and changed and get buckets of water and medicate her and change her chair and,and,and,I get SO depressed at the mess it creates every morning and just this ordeal has been going on 3 and a half years straight.Some mornings,I even cry about it,Other days,I get sad or mad.
No matter what,I am Very Lucky to have Mother with me and I am very grateful.Just a half of an inch and Mother would have been dead or paralyzed when she broke her neck 9 years ago in the tip of her skull,C-1.

Thanks to all.
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