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Luckylu, wow, do you mind saying just what happened that your Mom broke her neck I mean, was she in an Auto Accident or did she have a really bad fall? I didn't know she actually broke it! That's just terrible! And Hope, I have Fibromyalgia, and it really sucks! I was dx'd about 10 years ago, and the morning pain is awful, and I have terrible sleep patterns. You are dx'd by having 6+ trigger points of pain, but really they go by your symptoms of pain and other things. I take Gabapentin, in pretty large quantities, and pain meds too, but also for my knee's too. It's definitely different for everyone. I am tired, so I'm checking out tonite, nite nite!
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Lucky, I am so sorry for all you go through but I know when you cry, your tears are more for what your mom endures than what you do. We all do and ain't think part of us feels quilts for wanting them to stay with us.

Stacey, thanks for the compliment.☺️ and please don't worry about me. I have a pretty good God on my side. I trust that he will once again save us from this one. It looks like it has shifted its track a little to the east so we will get wind but very little rain and the wind will only be about 30 a40 mph. We have to keep watching though because it could change tomorrow. Our house is built to pretty high standards and we have made it through worse storms than this one.
I used to be really outdoorsy, tomboy and in shape. I used to ride a bike and walk 4 miles every day. Then I picked up a suitcase that weighed50 lbs 3 times in the same day traveling to Kansas. I knew that day that I was in trouble. I went for two massages, wore therma care wraps all day every day, took 8Advil every day. When I got home, I went to the chiropractor but it didn't get better. It took another 4 months before I found out what was really wrong and now I am overweight and weak, scared to ride a bike, unable to walk a 1/2 mile without pain, and I can't lift a gallon of milk much less weights. Yes, my life is significantly different but I can't blame it on caregiving. Or maybe I can.
My first serious back injury came from teaching kids with significant physical and cognitive impairments. My students were middle and high school students and lifting and positioning them in physical therapy equipment, it did a number on my back.ancient history. !
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Hope, in the world of dementia 4 years ago is a life time ...''My own dear mother used to power walk, heck, she powerwalked me for months after I first arrived.

Lucky, sigh, I wish I had the power to somehow make it better... waking up after a few hours to change/reposition, give a drink.... got it, understand it. Even though mom passed 3 months ago... I still wake up, trying to do the same or else I just lay here listening to see if I can hear her....

Hope, are they femurs? A year before I moved here my son was in an accident in which he broke both femurs, shattered left knee, decapitated left thumb ( leeches are awesome) fractured both forearms.....

Gads! No wonder I left....
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luckylu and womenofGod, I feel what you are going through.

I have to keep reminding myself that God doesn't give us more than we can handle.

Luckylu, tell us about your strategy for handling these meals. I am interested. I learned long ago that I don't have to eat everything I make for my husband (like potatoes).

WomenofGod, have you talked to a doctor about meds? For us, the answer was the right meds. As I have written before, my mom had to go to a Senior Behavioral Clinic to have her meds fine tuned. She is just great now. Not much memory but in a good mood all the time. Happy to see me and to play cards. I'll take it! Big improvement.
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Wow, my Momma was a power walker when I was born and before too. She just walked that way and I remember holding her hand and trying to keep up. I love to walk also. Yesterday I had to go to doctor to review bone density scan. Very small % of thining in top of my hip bones, not enough for meds. Also lower spin had improved and no problem there. I just take Calcium twice a day and D3 1000. The took blood to recheck my level of vitamin D. I will be notified if low. I am very thankful I don't need to take meds for bone problems. So far so good. I have gained 8 pounds from predisone meds. Still hacking cough and congestion is unreal. Sicko! I hate this crap. My husband is still congested also. Poor little Momma is very weak and shaky. Wheezy and sounds horse when she talks. I have never been to tired before in my whole life. I'm taking Mommy to her doctor today @ 2:00pm and then decide if me and hubby need to go back to doctor. My doctor yesterday told me to get more musinex and take it twice a day with lots of water to get rid of this stuff. I had a small fever yesterday for the first time in all of this mess. I don't have a clue what is going on. That was info from bone doctor, so I really need to talk to our Primary care maybe today! I just want to forget about URIs. Eugh! Take care of you and your bones please all of you caregivers. Prayers for all and hugs! Glad Falcon is back and has a home to go too again. Hope you all feel better!
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I love all of you all and pray for you all and continue to be amazed at all I have learned from this site. You all are awesome and I love you all bunches! One day at a time and one thing at a time, we are going to make it!
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College so sorry you still are not feeling well. I agree with you about taking care of your bones. My Mom had severe osteoporosis. Her bones were so fragile. Her brother came for a visit once and hugged her so hard he broke two of her ribs. I think she was only in her sixties at the time. Things just progressed and progressed from there. My doctor told me to try to get most of my calcium from food cause too much in supplements can cause heart problems in women. Apparently according to her 350mg. is the most you should take with a supplement.

One day at a time is true. Thats all any of us can do. Take care of you too College.
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Wow! Two ribs with a hug! That is incredible Gershun! My grandmother had terrible Osteoporosis with the dowager hump and all. My mom said that she was about 5'5" in her younger years but when I knew her she was less than 5 feet.
Mom got in on a special study here in Fl with a renowned doctor on prevention and she had awesome results. She tried to get me in on it, but no such luck. So I do eat good foods with lots of calcium, drink milk at least once a day and take Vitamin D with my evening meal. It is supposed to help with pain as well.
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Stacey, I cannot believe you have Fibro as well! I have been thinking that I may have it too. My sleep patterns suck, my pain is widespread on both sides of my body, I am tender on ALL the trigger points etc. I have tried to get an appointment with the best Rheumatologist in town, but since I am already being treated with Cymbalta and pain mess, I guess he decided not to see me.
Jeanette, my heart goes out to you. It must be very difficult waking up like that only to realize that she is no longer with you. I am so sorry for your pain.
Hey guys we all missed National Dog day! I propose we change our avatars to pics of our puppies if you have one. What do you think?
I have another chapter for the book! What's for dinner? 101 ways to serve ensure!
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Stacey,My Mother broke her neck going to the kitchen to make dinner.She tripped over her 4 prong cane and hit the wall with her head forewards and then backwards in what they called a hangmans break.She has horrible arthritis,so the bones on her break easily.Thats when the nightmare began with a hostpital bed at home and Home Health coming in a few times a week March 24,2006.From there,its just been one thing after another.Now,Mother will not allow a hostpital bed in our home and she stays in her lift chair 24-7.Thanks for asking.Oh,and I love your cats!
Salsbury,All my Mother Will eat is mashed potatoes and gravy,chicken noodle soup,jello,and her 1 Ensure a day,My husband is a very picky eater and its always been hard to pleases him.He hates tomatoes and most vegetables and loves bologna and salami ...Blah!Me?I have a bowl of cream of wheat every single morning and have for many years.I dont eat lunch and we eat a late dinner.Thank you also for caring and asking.
Today,Compassionate Touch is coming to rub Mothers back at 2:00 and the social worker is coming at 3:00.I hope to get a shower in between.
I hope all you other caregivers out there are doing ok.Thanks....
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Sharadale...i posted a pic of my puppy in fb yesterday for NDD. I will see about getting it on here for yall to see.

Another quiet morning. At least Mama smiled and i did my woody woodpecker laugh for her which made her giggle. .i live for those moments. Got to post my presents to my friend. .will enjoy the drive, though short it shall be.
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These are my other two dogs! Two sweet Golden Retrievers. This was the first day they met! My boy Hutch was rescued when he was 6 months old from a divorcing couple who had three dogs. They knew we had a great place and another Golden at the time so they asked us if we wanted Hutch. I said yes immediately, sight unseen and he has been such a joy.
The female Misty, came from a family that was having medical issues and financial hardships and couldn't keep up with the medical needs so they asked if I wanted Misty. I immediately said yes! She was not on any heartworm prevention which is almost a death sentence in Florida. So the day after I got her, I took her to the vet and started her on that and flea prevention. She was missing hair on her back and tail. This could easily be from flea allergy. She is much better now, but within a month we found out she had seizures, so we also got her on phenobarbital. We all love her so much. She has such a sweet gentle way about her. Hutch loved her as soon as they met. He kept kissing her the first day. This picture is the first night we had her. They were sleeping together on my bed and he just kept kissing her. It was so sweet.
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I can't find my phone... tore the house apart looking for it

WHINEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
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This is a pix of my Charlie, she was about 12 weeks old in this pix, but she is a furball now! I had finally got John to agree to a dog, the 1st ever I have had in my adulthood, but he got to name her. I wanted to call her Goldie, or Sunny. But Charlie-girl it was, but that's OK, I'm in love with her, even if she has a boy's name. She is gonna be 2 in October, man does time fly by or what! She still poops on my oriental rug, and I don't think I'll ever break her of it cause she is so Freakin Sneaky, especially middle of the night! Thank goodness they are tiny tootsie roll size! Lol
Sheradale, your Pup's look so sweet and cozy! Golden Retrievers are gorgeous pets, so beautiful and smart! I love all animals, but I appreciate them even more now that I have formed such a huge bond with my own, as I don't think that you can fully understand just how much you can love a pet, until you do! My kid's get perturbed with Charlie sometimes, or jealous really. Once I told my daughter that nothing ever loved me more than Charlie, and she got super pissed off at me thinking that was such a terrible thing to say but it's true! It took a lot of smoothing over to get past that Opps!
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Stacey, Charlie-girl is so very cute, still, because I've seen her other picture. Love those doggys!
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Sharadale, don't be shy, not everybody has a wonderful picture of their 90 year old mother, and both of you looking so happy. That is an example of love, right there! And then too, I really like your sharing pics via changes in your avatar. Run the you and mom picture again so others can view it. Can you believe it will encourage others? Others sharing their changes in pics, thank you too!
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Ok...here's my sweet pup....I had a different pic so you could see her cute little tutu but this site kind of distorted the pic, so I chose a landscape type one which works better...she's an active little thing, but I sure do love her...she's learning to potty too! so exciting!!!

I posted a video today of Danny Trejo, and have recently learned a lot about his background, and in it he is telling about the bad turn he took early on and how he got his life straitened out and has spent the majority of his adult life (46 years) helping kids stay off drugs and/or get off drugs. I admire someone like that.... WELL...one of my jackass FB friends, wanted to get into a sniping match and his main comment was that he didn't understand folks admiring these kind of people but took issue with kids who all get participation trophies....How weird...I don't even know where that came from re the trophies...but since I AM against it as a rule, I guess he meant I was an idiot...I started to ignore it but then I decided to be me and just let him know in a kind way how I felt about the issue...but I think the argument is over because his last comment was "whatever"...what a jerk...I cannot imagine why on earth someone would call someone a loser for using their mistakes to try to help others and keep them from making the same mistakes they did. I can't abide judgmental jackasses....which is what I will be changing my avatar back to after letting my sweet pup strut her stuff for a while...

Got my packages and cards mailed..yay...hopefully they will be there on her birthday, could be a day late but I will call her on her birthday anyway and I know she'll understand if it's a little late...

I hope everyone is havng a good day.....It's awfully pretty down here...Mama seems to be having a pretty good day...so that's always a great day for me.
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I love animals too, all animals, I am kind to the animals my kids always say. When ever our horses were sick they always came right to me, they knew I would get it done and take care of them too. Animals make me so happy. Our Family members all love animals. They are good medicine for us! My Momma got a B 12 shot and we will get one every other week for 3 more weeks. Hoping she will get some strength. She is so weak. I thought I would never figure out a way to get her in the car to go to the Dr. Then out at Drs back in chair, back in the car, and when we got home oh my, it was a scary thing. Bacck to the chair and then back to bed. All for a B 12 shot. They think the Z pack will take care of the URI. I pray she gets stronger. Gershun, Momma has osteo arthritis, scoliosis, and blood pressure issues, dementia from age started and chronic sinus problems. She has never broken anything yet. Her little hands are so thin and boney. So sad. I hate to take her out anymore when she is so weak. She has got to get stronger.
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I meant to say she will get 3 more shots every other week. I am so tired, I get mixed up so easy, ha!
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One at a time and one only every other week for three more times. I am going to go rest, hugs!
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Hope, your little punster is so cute all dressed up, lol!
Jeanette did you say your baby is a pit? They are very big down here in Florida, but it really bothers me when so many people see them as a fast buck. We have so many backyard breeders and then people engage in dog fighting. I hate it! I am a fan of Pit Bulls and Parolees. Have you seen it?
Whenever I lose something I say a prayer, Father God, nothing is lost in your sight, please reveal it to me now" and it works so well that people at the office used to tell me to say "my" prayer. I hope you find your phone.
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Stacey's, your little girl looks so cute. What did she weigh 1/2 lb there? I think animals are most awesome. I have had dogs and cats as an adult. We always had dogs as a child and didn't know what great companions cats could be until a friend moved in with her cat.
College, I used to dream of having horses, but now that I have the land and the time, my body couldn't take it!
Hope that was supposed to say pupster but who knows what this autocorrect will do when you are not looking.
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Oh and now it looks like we will get Erika after all. However, if it is only a Cat 1 if a hurricane at all. We shall see what tomorrow brings. They don't expect landfall until Monday. I just went out and do my shopping but by Sunday, I will need milk again! I hate going to the stores when all the last minute people are there.
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Sharadale yes my Mom also had a dowager hump. I think at her full height she was 5'6" when she was young. She was probably only 5'2" before she died. Tiny.

Sorry folks, I don't have any dogs. Just my two sweetie cats. But I like dogs too.
We had a sweet one when I was growing up. We called him George. I can't remember what kind of dog he was. I was pretty young at the time.

Anyhow, I'm still fighting some kind of flu. It seems to be winning so far. I'm gonna try to K.O. it with lots of rest and fluids. Ta Ta for now.
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I changed my avatar to a picture of my two fat boys. I wish these pictures could be clearer. In this one they are both squeezed into the same catbed. They love each other so much.
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Hope I love Danny Trejo.. for such a scarey looking guy he is an awesome actor and has really turned his life around. What an inspiration for today youth.. if he could do so can they.
As for the dowager hump.. my Godmother was 5 10 and is now under 5 feet. I feel like she is melting! And I am sure my 5 3 will shrink alot..
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Well... whining here again! I put a nifty air freshner in mom's sweet ride, one from Bath and Body works to combat the smoke smell. Lots of my friends use them, and they look and smell nice. Well... it leaked oil into the lovely leather seat on the passenger side, and now it is sticky and has a mark. I felt awful!! She took it pretty well. right now I have a brown paper bag on it with books on it, But I am pretty sure I am going to have to take it somewhere to be fixed.. or the guilt will continue... Then we continued to the Amish market for breakfast, we go about once a month to shop and eat. Worst breakfast ever! They were not up to thier usual standards... Fail number 2. Then to the local orchard.. biggest crowd I have ever seen, on a Thursday? Oh well, back to work tomorrow.. where another co worker has been fired....
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love it Gershun, two fat boys... hehehe
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I am not sure where to post this that many will see... Veronica's husband emailed me yesterday to say the she has been seriously ill.... a burst appendix and sepsis....... she has a long road ahead of her... if you would like to contact her via her husband, PM me and I will give you the information...... please , prayers for this awesome lady.... I love her very much...... many times she has kept me grounded.... just wanted everyone to know.....
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That is extremely sad news ladee. I feel like crying.
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