I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I just have to change my outlook. I have been feeling pretty down the last few days but I just move forward. I am eating ok and exercising some. I am thinking the changing seasons make me feel like life is passing me by. I got this way at the beginning of Spring and Summer and then I feel better after awhile and hopefully this blue period will pass. It is just hard when there is never anything to look forward to and everything to dread.
That "we" thing almost sounds condescending and I can see how it could make a lot of people mad! Last I knew "you" and "your" we also plural in the English language so if I were a server I would ask "How was your dinner?" to the whole table!
I am off to drink some water....I hope everyone has a peaceful evening and sorry about the long whine....I will get over it. {{Hugs}} to you all!
If all those people are around, how about them taking care of her for a while and giving you some time off? That sounds good.
I was angry and disappointed at first at some of the "friends" I have known for nearly 40 years, but now these people's weakness in this matter has been exposed and I am at the point where I am amused yet sad at the same time about their character .My husband pointed out that these people don't even take good care of themselves let alone another person. I am seeing that when they will have something with their own health they are not going to be capable of doing much for themselves and didn't for their own mothers.One person's sisters had to take over their Mom's care. I am thinking we all know someone like this in our lives, unfortunately.
Luckylu and Timbuktu, I am hoping things get better with your Moms. I know it is rough as is and then these things come up and it is another thing we have to manage. I am wishing for things to get better for you both, and for everyone on here.
Our nurse is coming today to change Mom's urinary catheter. That is not an easy event and I will be glad it is done. Mom is also eating less and now is not drinking as much as she did before and I worry about her getting another UTI if she won't drink enough cranberry juice. The capsules caused bladder spasms last time I gave her one.
I'm sorry your Mom is still having problems and now you may have to deal with a UTI. Apparently that is what Mama's problem was..She is doing so much better and this morning actually had a fun little conversation with me and was smiling and laughing again...I just put my arms under her pillow and her and "squoze" and hugged her and it felt so good. While I was doing that she said "yay" in the sweetest little voice...Moments like that are worth all the rest of it ... :)
Hospice offers 5 days respite...but I think that I am in such a routine that it would be hard to send her to respite and if and by the time I get relaxed again it would be time to return and get the routine going again. I am at the point where I think it would be stressful and more of an ordeal to break routine and I would worry about her in the respite place. I get an hour or so here and there and that is as good as it gets. it seems that others and some people's siblings just can't do what we do. It makes us way stronger than most people I like to think.
Mom's catheter change went well and I am glad that is done.
So as I sit here and type I am seeing why I am probably a pill to deal with when it comes to helping me...but the sad fact is, I have actually asked for help here and there (because I was told ...now if you need me you better call me) so I did...they just failed to tell me the last part...just be sure it is something I want to do, it is not getting in my way of doing fun things, and you will need to praise me until the day you die..... I'd rather just handle it myself...
Long story short, Mom [97] either fell or felt lightheaded and went down. My parents still live in their own home that has stairs. Seemed so odd seeing Mom on the floor, normally it is Dad who is horizontal with the world. 911 and quick hospital stay. Mom is back home like nothing ever happened, she recovered in lightening speed.
Doctor said she needed someone there with her 24 hours as she is now a fall risk. Mom said Dad is there to help her.... hello, Dad is also in his 90's.... so I ordered professional in home care. Oh my gosh, you'd think I had set their house on fire... Mom disliked everyone... Dad liked everyone but Mom rules the roost and is in clear mind to make her own decisions so I had to cancel the contract. I also wanted a whole house cleaning service for Mom but now won't do that, I'll send them to my house instead :)
I will order a medical alert fall thingee for Dad... just hope he doesn't take it apart to see how it works :P He ruined one of Mom's hearing aids doing that recently.
Ain't that the truth, especially the bit about praise me until the day you die. Sometime the price of all that 'free' help is just too much to pay!
FF....what is it about our folks or maybe it's just that generation, that just cannot keep from taking stuff apart to see what makes it work...or finding new and creative ways to use elder help thingees. My Mama would get me for telling this, but I bought her one of those "grabber" things to reach high up things way back before she began having all the other issues...... well, she decided it made a great poop picker upper from her cats litter box....I wasn't here to see when it happened but the snooty SIL came here one day (way back before I moved home) and caught her picking out the poo with the grabber...she almost went into orbit...knowing how horrific I knew SIL thought it was, I got a kick out of it...
Freqflyer, the fall alert button is a good idea...just hope it does not come apart easily!
Stacey I don't blame you for not wanting to clean your FIL's space. You married for in sickness and in health. Your vows didn't include -and your parents gross skin cells and phlegm. I would call a cleaning service. But thats just me.
And--shocker--it was very hard to get rid of when she went into AL. I had to have a note from the doctor and proof that she had one at the AL for them to cancel our plan.
My whine monument today is I ordered an item that unfortunately is defective, packed it up in shipping box took to FedEx who proceeded to charge me additional for more packing material despite me telling them this is how it arrived. Contacted the company and of course they are not reimbursing me. Then went to bookstore but forgot my cash at home and used the credit card and while putting items away in my basement pantry stepped on a sliver of glass that is embedded somewhere in my heel which despite lots of poking around I cannot seem to find.
Sorry twin I couldn't resist.