I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Well, I'm very glad that it wasn't worse, and I hope her bumps and grazes clear up quickly, and please God let the silver lining be that she will be readier to take sensible precautions - LIKE USING HER WALKER GODDAMIT!!! - in future. Pride combined with dementia is such a nightmare when it comes to falls prevention, I really feel for you.
Five years ago we watched a John Grisham movie with my mom. Three days later she asked if we could watch it. She had forgotten it completely .
That was five years ago, now, JUST NOW in AL she is beginning to admit that she is having problems with her memory. Oooooooooooyyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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So glad I did not jump and buy that oven yesterday. I have been eyeing the kitchen and am starting to think that instead of doing that, and a new cooktop, which I will also soon need, I may just get an actual flat surface really nice range and take out that little section of cabinetry underneath the cooktop...I will lose that space, but then I can turn that former oven space into cabinet space so kind of like lose it there but gain it over here...Also replace those doors with really pretty etched glass from ceiling to floor with lighted background ..All of that I can do on my own and then later I can redo the doors on the cabinets and the door pulls to jazz it up...Also I can put a lot larger range in that space, which means more oven space ...so for now I think I will get a countertop oven and think on this plan...
Susan, good to hear your Mom's kidney function was better than feared, but still praying for her and for you. I'm not much help regarding the financial issues you are concerned about...but I do know how they can drive you up the wall. I have had to go through some of those...and in fact, Mama never put this house in my name even though she would say, we need to do it we need to do it...but then I would start to take her and she would say there was no rush...and I never wanted to push her...and then all this happened. Because I am POA and it is a durable POA, at the suggestion of a friend who had gone through a similar situation, I went to an attorney who specializes in this kind of stuff and he fixed it so that as long as Mama is living this is her house and that ownership automatically reverts to me in a life estate...This is where I ran into a lot of heartache with my aunt who I had loved and adored, becuase the told me he would prefer having someone who knew Mama who would write a simple affidavit that this was what Mama wanted...which she had even stated not two months prior without my even bringing it up..I dreaded doing it but I finally called her ...and she promptly started acting like she was "foggy" on what Mama had said..and finally told me...well, I just really don't want to hurt (brother)...You could not have hurt me more had someone slammed me in the face with a shovel...I have not seen her since that happened. She knows how hurt I am and I am hurt and I don't know that I will get past it any time soon.
I would never keep her from coming here...she knows she can come see Mama any time she wants to...she just chooses not to come. I'm guessing she is ashamed to come and she ought to be.
But the attorney told me that he would still fix it..he had seen this kind of thing all too many times and the way he wrote it up was that she was leaving it to me in accordance with her wishes and in keeping with my good and faithful loving care of her, etc. etc. etc...anyway...he did it well and it is all recorded and such. He told me that while he COULD challenge it..if he did it would be on HIM to prove that the statements in there were not true and he would have to provide confirmation that he had also contributed to her care both personally and financially..and that, I can promise you and anyone else...he CANNOT do...Also it would be on him to be ugly and I doubt very much he would ever want to sully his pristeen reputation ...I don't mean that to sound tacky or ugly..but stuff like this is tacky and ugly and dang it...that's the way it was supposed to be...and the only reason it had not already been done was I didn't have it in me to be a jackass unlike somebody else....
I am a little worried this morning. I have one kitty who just will not stop making his little journey through the neighborhood every day. He just meanders so gently ..he is huge but such a big old gentle boy. He has been neutered and is a total sweet loving boy...but I am always so afraid of his drifting because I have known too many people in my life who just hated the fact that a cat walked across their yard..didn't have to be doing anything, just walking..anyway...he had just gone out for his morning walk and about 20 minutes later I heard gunfire..one shot...close by...I am trying not to panic..please pray for him...I am hoping to see him come rolling in shortly....
I am a bit of a freak when it comes to worry over my babies. I don't want them going anywhere anytime..The others stay right here...I keep a constant count on their noggins. This is one who used to live in the house directly across the street from me and when his owners moved the lady came over and told me she was leaving them behind (3 of them)....they ended up with me...one I found a great home for...a third would never let me catch her, but she was a beautiful solid white fluffy cat and I pray someone took her in..but I know she knew where to get her food because I always saw her in my basement eating...and this one is mine now...how do people just move off and abandon their pets? Oh, and now the folks up the street (where the man used to fire the cannon) they have moved and abandoned THEIR kitty, who now comes here to eat...and of course I'm going to feed him and do whatever he needs to remain healthy...ah well, that's ok...I love em..I just don't understand people being so hateful and uncaring. Thanks for your concern GT...he's baaack! ;)
Country Mouse, yes I was very frustrated, especially since I had completed all my purchases and had to leave them behind (lol) - I know, a minor issue given the circumstances. The most exasperating part was sitting with her for about two hours in the EMS ward at Emergency, asking the same the same questions and yelling the same verbally abusive comments about staff and how long she has to wait, and can I go home now, do you know what time it is, we’ve been in the hospital all day, I’m starving and they don’t feed you in here - what kind of a hospital is this. And she thinks falling is an embarrassment - if she only knew how much embarrassment she was capable of causing me at times (lol). Yes, the irony of it all; a walker would have been far less conspicuous than a fall on an escalator and a 911 call in a store!
Salisbury, yes mom’s pride will definitely be the last to go, not her hearing (lol).
Lucky Lu, yes that accident happened so fast although I had an uncanny feeling all day about escalators, and I was watching her like a hawk when she was going down to the subway platform. I am still in awe that the damage was not worse. My friend is early retirement age and has trouble with falls, and she really banged herself up quite badly. I think it’s because she was going up and not down. She was not far from the bottom but enough to land on the steps; I think if she had hit the concrete floor at the base of the escalator it would have been a totally different story. Or if she had hit her head on those spiked edged moving stairs. If she fell straight down from the top it would have been game over, I’m sure. The fact that staff were able to stop the button so quickly was another factor in our favour. Me, on the other hand, was just stunned from the shock, although I did try to call out stop the escalator. Although I was able to regroup when I got some assistance and saw that mom was relatively okay.
Hope, I also get dizzy on escalators, especially if they are fast moving and descend on a very deep decline. There’s a subway station at which one has to descend quite a ways down to track level and I have to focus my eyes on some stationary object and slowly transition my focal point or I feel as if I am going to fall.
Once again, thank you all for your empathy, support and well wishes.
DONALD, you are fired!
Unless you can promise us all new ovens, cause I need one too.
Y would you take someone on an escalator that has balance issues? I am just fall paranoid because of my mother, if I could I would wrap her in bubble wrap.I don't care how bored,depressed, frustrated she is, I would never take my mother on an escalator.Sorry globe, I know that must have been an awful feeling and your a better man than I for even taking her out like that but be easy on yourself, I don't even go on escalators however I do ride a horse so what do I know.
You know, when I look back and remember how most of my career was a property insurance adjuster...having spent 20 years at least climbing up and down ladders, all over very steep roofs like a mountain goat...remembering how I used to just walk over to the edge of a roof and lean over face forward and put the tape measure onto the roof's edge...The senior adjusters who went with me during training used to say.."Girl it makes me nauseous to see you do that..you need to stop"...and I'd think..bunch of old fogeys...and man now just thinking of it as I sit here on the safety of my sofa...what was I thinking??? I would go right over the edge if i did it now....
When we moved my stuff last year, you know those pull out ramps the rental moving trucks have??? Well, even those made my vertigo crazy...I was so embarrassed but I literally had to creep up and down them...especially down them...I just felt like I was going to pitch over....
We are enjoying a most awesome relaxing day. I am still debating what I want to fix for the game...I found a recipe for a crockpot chicken casserole and then I remembered I can't cook the chicken but I think I am going to go buy one of those rotisserie chickens and use that..I have every thing else I need and that sounds good to me. And I may just go to our stores wing bar and get a bucket of wings...my favorite are the buffalo and terriyaki ones....both sounds good. Mama seems happy and my puppy loves her cheerleader dress...watching our arch nemisis right now and of course pulling for the other team..I can't help it... happy fallish day yall!!
And when we do need to use the elevator, good heavens why are those elevators placed at the back of the store? Some stores I feel like I would need to pack a lunch to get from point A to point B with my parents.
So escalator or no escalator if your parent is prone to falls they will fall.
Hope, glad your kitty came back. I hate that feeling when your beloved pet goes missing. You imagine all sorts of horrible things. My one sister has lost seven cats in the last couple of years. I told her if she loses another one I'm going to report her to the spca.
Timbuktu so you chickened out installing the toilet lift eh? I was looking forward to hearing the dramatic story. :)
Gershun..I know the feeling sadly. After having my babies safe forever...when I first moved home, sadly I lost several of mine very quickly...mostly from coyotes...(which I didn't even know were a problem here until it was too late) now I bring them all in at night..except one who just flat out refuses to come inside..period...he literally climbs the walls, curtains, will start peeing on everything. He has a spot on our high deck which I keep closed off and he seems pretty keen to the ways of the world out there....I wish he'd come in and be happy, but he refuses...except in winter..once it gets cold he comes in and no problems... :) Sorry about your sis's kitties...it is heartbreaking.
I guess my early bouts of losing several of mine made me extremely skittish..also I just don't ever wnat my pets to be an issue with neighbors...(and more importantly I don't trust most people anymore when it comes to pets)....
ugh...I still have nyet to make it out of the house. I'm sitting here dressed and ready to go and have given Mama something to "eat"...but just hate getting out in this heat..but the only other option is pizza and I'm just not feeling that
I KNOW what the effing problem is, it's day 5 and no sign of a BM again, I already started her on laxatives yesterday, I just don't know how much more of this I can take before I blow a fuse... I already yelled at her and told her she is driving me nuts, but she won't remember that for long, which is both a blessing and a curse.
AAARRRRGGGGHHHH