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When I left the NH today I saw two dings on the side of my car, front and back doors. They are on the passenger side so they might have been there for a couple of days but I don't think so.😠
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If this were NCIS, they would first get the NH parking lot surveillance.
Resets every 24 hours.
Someone was having a hard time visiting their loved ones.
Sorry, because you just don't need dings CWillie.

My dH and his carelessness, and his bicycle are doing damage to my car.
It used to be important to me, to keep things clean, nice, undamaged.
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@Becky, well sad to say, but those of us in our 60's aren't the ones needing to be shaken up.... not now... it will be what it is....I too have not saved well enough but I only have a limited amount of time left to pay off debt and to finish paying mortgage. If I can't make that happen before retirement (at this point, it will be 90 before I can check out), then I will sell my home and take the equity and buy something smaller, maybe even in a nice retirement mobile home park where everyone rides around on bicycles, tricycles, with their walkers or canes, or GOLF CARTS !!! Or a tent in the forest :). All I need are some books, food, and water, and I will be all set.
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Oh and regarding taxes.... I just couldn't get the ones for my mom and for myself done yet...so I went on turbo tax and filed an extension for each of us. Will try again next month to get it together.
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Myownlife, Your doing a good job and you have a plan. I worry that there will come a day when the government will be able to do nothing for those who don’t have the means to care for themselves. There are a hundred good reasons for why someone isn’t prepared. But, there are also a hundred situations where someone could have saved, but chose not too.
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Becky, thanks for the stats. Gosh, whatever happened to the days when people use to burn their mortgage notes because the house was finally paid in full?

I know what irks me is my sig other's grown daughter both her and her hubby had to have a new car each every two years, and she couldn't leave the house without her $200 pair of blue jeans. Sig and I just roll our eyes as we climb into our 22 year old Jeeps wearing our $39.95 pair of jeans... [sigh]. I guess someone needs to keep the economy rolling along because he and I aren't doing it :P
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Freqflyer, I don't know why people won't think of the future or why they don't plan. I drive an 11-year old Chev SUV. BI'm good financially now. But only because I've worked multiple jobs for years. Even when I took care of Mom I did medical transcription at home and worked midnight shift at ER as a mental health evaluator. I feel like everyone has to plan. But I guess not every one feels that way.
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Send,
Now I'm concerned
I sent my return to Fresno, but to a different zip code
93888-0002
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Ms Madge that is a Fresno zip code. I believe you got it right.
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1040 goes to the 0002 box. 1040A goes to 0015 box. The IRS is part of the Dept of Treasury, I believe. Doesn't matter if you are sending money.
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Hope anyone getting a refund requests direct deposit
One year, my refund was 'lost' or stolen in the mail - I had to wait a long time for a duplicate check to be sent

Of course, this was back when we received forms in the mail with pre-printed labels with our names and social security numbers on the outside for anyone to see - why has dishonesty become so prevalent ?
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Ms Madge- dishonest people have made things hard on everyone else. Its a shame and sad.
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I am amazed lately when driving to the store how many luxury cars I see out there...sometimes half of the cars. I live in a very normal little city where many homes are not expensive at all, not Beverly Hills!! The other day I drove through the little gas station car wash and behind me there was a newer model Rolls Royce!! What has happened?! When I look at the drivers, many of them are younger people, sometimes with children in the car. If I were in my 20s or 30s with kids I would be thinking of saving for their education and future...NOT my 90K Benz. When I was that age I drove a 10 year old Toyota that got me around just fine so I could save and have no student loans or debt. I think young people want that immediate gratification and believe they will be in debt forever anyhow, so they just grab for the best.Showing off is more important than their kid's education. A car is a liability and loses value but I guess it doesn't matter to them because no one owns anything they drive or live in anymore. I really dislike this trend.
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Cars..... omg.... I traded my Mercury Mountaineer in a few years back for a used Lincoln SUV with low miles.... worst thing I have done! Just past 70K miles, the water pump blew which because of the design (just like the equivalent Ford) the ENGINE had to be replaced.... $7,000!! I still have just over 2 years to pay it off, and then I want to get something, maybe a truck that will last the rest of my life ( I am 63)... that mountaineer was the best vehicle I've ever had, what a mistake.
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My whine- I started exercising and eating better about a month ago now. 6 days a week I work out. Yet, I have gained 10 lbs. Quite discouraging.
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Are you lifting weights smeshque? Cause it could be muscle weight gain. Are your clothes fitting the same or looser cause that could be what it is then. And if it is, that is a good thing. Just keep at it. Throw out the scale and just go by how you feel and how your clothes fit.
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yeah Gershun, I have 3 days of weights, not trying to bulk up just tone up of possible. Feel better, but clothes seem to fit the same. I dunno, I am gonna keep at it, because at least it is a moment for me, and it does improve my mood. So I continue on, we'll see.
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It's 4:10 EST and I have been wide awake since 2:15. I am so tired of this not sleeping routine. Finally got up and came in the kitchen and started baking. I should open a bakery. I have all of my paper grading caught up too. So I guess that is an upside. Even my brother the lifelong night owl is asleep. Not a peep from his side.
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Hubby did not sleep well, this morning is saying his blood pressure is really high. He takes meds for A-fib and BP. When I came into the kitchen early this morning, I see a fast food bag and the empty box of half of a chocolate cake his mother gave him is in the trash. No wonder he didn't sleep well after eating all that. He never learns. I have talked about moderation until I am blue in the face! His mother never learns either. She gives him most of the double chocolate cake to take home and 2 dozen double chocolate donuts. This after the meals she insists on cooking for 10-15 people when there are just 3 of us on Sunday...she loads things down with salt and then expects us to eat this all week, which we don't, but even a little heavily salted stuff is not good. I have gently told her what is not good for him when she seems concerned about his health...but then it starts all over again the next Sunday. My husband has a really tough time saying "no" to his mother with some things. Another fine day in addition to never ending Winter and the mammogram this afternoon. Thanks for letting me get this out...hope everyone's day is better than mine has been going!
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Hope your boobs are not too flat Katie.
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Now THAT was an interesting comment to see at the top of my news feed LOL
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I'll pass.
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My hair is falling out. Kind of abruptly, and lots of it. It could be stress, now for about 2 mos. Not in patches but brushes filled with hair, daily. Sheesh. Maybe I am just shedding, like a dog.

Worried most about the change in my dH.  Maybe he just cannot hear, or think straight.
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Becky- hope you have a better night. At least you got some things done in awake time. We do a lot of baking and sell at Farmers Market, maybe you should look into it.
Katie-Hope your next day is better.
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Sendhelp - that sounds like it could have a specific cause, if it happened abruptly. Happened to me about 10-11 years ago, prompting me to take a ziploc bag full of hair - one day's hair loss (my hair is my everything, lol) - to the doctor and demanded to be tested for polycystic ovarian syndrome. Which it turned out I have, and am still medicated for. It can be caused by hormones, medications, illness, or even vitamin deficiencies. You might want to talk to your doctor about it. (I can attest that taking a baggie full of hair can be a shocking but effective way to make your point.)


Can I get in on the discussion of luxury purchases everyone seems to be making these days?

About 5 years ago, I worked with a girl who was about 20. She and her boyfriend were thinking about getting a place together, but she had this thing in her head that she had to have all new, all nice furniture and housewares first. All I could think was that I spent about $100 on "stuff" when I moved into my first apartment - that bought me a few essential pieces of furniture (dinette set, bed, couch, chair) from a neighbour in the building who was moving across the country. My parents and grandparents donated some old stuff from their basements and attics, and the rest I picked out of dumpsters!  Every paycheque, I put a little bit into paint or fabric to spruce these things up, or set a budget and went thrift-hunting. I didn't start buying "real" furniture and housewares till I had a steady, decent-paying job. (Even then, I kinda still prefer thrift-hunting for furniture and decor stuff.) I see on Facebook that this girl is still living at home, five years later (now with the boyfriend there, too), probably because she doesn't have enough "stuff" to start her life.  (Looks like she managed to blow a wad on a Mustang convertible, though.)

I dunno.....sometimes I feel sorry for young people who can't seem to afford to strike out on their own. But sometimes I think....at least some of them....just want to start with EVERYTHING, and won't leave home until they can!

Or....I might be becoming one of those older people who "doesn't understand" the modern world.

"Get off my lawn, you kids!" *shakes fist*
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Dori; Some kids grow up being drilled that they can't possibly get along without perfection in all areas of their lives.

It's a tie line that binds them inevitably to mommy and daddy, because they can't possibly afford the lifestyle that their parents are giving them right from the start.

Someone I know from work, a clerical worker, just bought her 16 year old son a Mercedes. 

Really?

It has always struck me in my workplace that the folks who earn very little buy lunch out every day.  Those of us who are salaried, generally bring lunch from home.
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My mom was on hormone replacement therapy for years. She started having breast cysts and her doctor took her off the medication. No more breast problems, but her hair started falling out by the brush full. Never did grow back. She finally started using Keranique hair products (expensive women's version of Rogaine). It worked well, but she gave it up several years before she died because it was so time consuming. She was legally blind and she said she  couldn't see her hair anyway.
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I slept from midnight to 3:45. I have two crock pots on to cook. One with chicken and mushrooms. The other with a pork tenderloin in tomatoes, sick of pepperoni, onions, garlic, celery leaves, and Italian spices. PJ can do the meatballs when he gets home. He's taking our housekeeper for her first cataract surgery today.
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I got through the mammogram...not flattened out...heehee, but my anxiety comes from the test results and not so much the test itself. The very first time I had one I got a call from out of the blue that they "see" something. A cyst. This stress went on for years, everytime they "see" something causing me much anxiety, and it was the same old pesky cyst. They made it seem like the end of the World and that it was something different each time..until I would get the results and it is the same cyst. I hate alarmists. Once I went for a pap test and a nurse practitioner did the test for the doctor....I was on the table with feet in up when she started yowling "What is THAT?? What is THAT??" I just about broke into tears not knowing what was there. I had shaved my legs and there was a bit of razor burn...that is what THAT was. I have very sensitive skin. She just about scared me into passing out! You would think a medical professional would know women shave and can get razor burn. I found a new doctor!
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Send, I lost hair at one point when I was under stress with my Mom bedridden in my home 24/7...it grew back. Spring and Fall can also be a time when people lose more hair. How is your diet?
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