I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
So sorry to hear of the loss of your companion 🐶
Hope you're not too jarred from the tumble - do you have shoes to pop on when up or are you just in the hospital socks?
CM, I am so very sorry.
Paying my cell bill is the one thing I do paperless
I dial #PMT and an auto system lets me choose the date money is deducted from my checking account
when you call the customer service folks on Monday tell them simply that they reverse the fee or you are changing carriers and ask if they can hear you now ?
Like after having a baby the depression of hospitalization throws you a curve ball. Ask the Dr for a little short term help. Not enough sleep 4 hourly rounding and the blood suckers coming at 4 am.
Lying in bed too long does get the aches and pains going too. After two days last time I could hardly walk. You have to keep moving. if PT isn't comming often enough have your private duty nurses walk you several times a day.
TV is worthless and the computer gets old
You are not going to go back to work anytime soon so talk to the Drs about continueing your pain med and see how long things will remain in your system. I doubt it is 6 -12 weeks and that will cheer you up a lot
Be prepared for rehab to be just as bad if not worse. Will you get a nice single room again and the private nurses? That will help a lot because you can get proper baths and hair washes not just have a packet of warm wipes thrown at you in passing. " Call if you need help" Of course you need help. " I just had my chest cut open and you did not give me a towel" "Oh you don't need a towel the skin just dries" "Well mine isn't and I am freezing get me a warm blanket"
If you have real complaints not just the ones everyone has ask to speak with RN in charge or the case manager. They can be very helpful. After all the hospitals presentation should not be bad otherwise their rating will drop. You may get a survey to fill in after you leave so be sure to fill that in.
I even ran my one major complaint right up the flag pole and even got a phone call from the medical director who was very open about being receptive about the things that had happened and those I observed and what I thought could be improved.
I even went as far as to suggest nurses and staff should wear different colored scrubs so they were easily identified. I, who had been trained in smartly turned out uniform was very tired of seeing nurses in sloppy looking attire with their grade not identified. Well low and behold on my next admission 2 yrs latter everyone down to the cleaners were dressed in different colored matching scrubs. Their natalking with. Other people who normally wore white coats like Drs and PT had their rank embroidered on their jackets.
My new local hospital has their staff very nicely uniformed too and every shift change the two nurses and aides do their report right at the bedside so you can correct any misinformation. This is more the way things were done in the olden days. I know I am old fashioned but seeing people professionally attired in my opinion does make them seem more professional. Now if they could just insist that the flowing maines of hair were properly tamed. This is where the black girls have the edge. I am absolutely fasininated with their braiding. i'd rather see that anyway than badly died purple hair.
keep your chin up Becky you are doing good
When dad was in the ER for a visit before he passed, HUbs took mom and I in late at night to be with him. My daughters BF works in the ER. So we did get some special care,, but poor hubs started out thinking " this ER security gig could be ok", and by the end of our visit he was freaking out! BF called her hubs ( a cop) to take poor hubs out for a coffee and otherwise he sat in the nurses station with the ladies..( No hippa violations I swear..) LOL Luckily her hubs was coming off shift.. after a few hours of seeing puking, kids running amuck,you know the drill.. He decided staying home with my folks was a cake walk!
I am *FINALLY* able to rid myself of a "problem child" client that I've held onto for a few years, only because I needed the money. Fired her once and she came back begging me to work with her again a few months later, after she worked with someone else, promising things would be better. (Riiiight.)
I have a client that is taking me on for a larger number of hours per week - and paying a flat weekly rate with more increases on that rate to come as we refine her biz systems. She's excited to have me on board for more hours, and I'm excited to be able to cut loose the clients I'd rather not have to deal with. Win-Win.
Plus, this client is SUPER energetic and a positive influence on everyone she encounters - she fires them up, gets them energized about what they're doing and points them in the right direction to move their businesses forward. Win-win-win! I needed someone like this to work with, instead of someone who mis-communicates (or doesn't communicate at all), argues with me over trivial points and flip-flops between micro-managing everything and giving no direction at all.
:-)
I'm helping the outgoing client find a new person to help her out, but honestly, I kind of feel guilty about giving that kind of client to anyone else. Kind of like giving someone a tasty-looking sandwich with a lump of limberger cheese in the middle.
I have several long nights ahead of me as I finish up work for the outgoing clients plus get the larger hours of work done for the better client, but I've got coffee. :-)
I'm not going to name names here, but those who have been here long enough will know who it is and understand the problem. Please step up for your fellow forum members when this person goes on the attack. Report posts that contain threats and bait statements intended to draw members into a fight.
Everyone has a right to be here, and no one has any right to tell someone they can't comment on a thread or that they can't be on the same thread they are. That's just ridiculous.
Remember to not overdo. This is the time to be waited on! 👑
Yea Becky!! Know you will be so glad to get home. (smile) So happy for you.
Susan..that would be so difficult. Caregiving is hard enough but with a difficult client that would be next to impossible to handle. I saw your post about a former forum member. I have not been a member long enough to know who it is but will keep my eye out and will definitely stand up for our fellow forum members should I notice the trend going in that direction. Hopefully it will not happen again.
To everyone....hang in there and y'all have a great day!
When my mother is asleep, I feel sad that she's passing. When she's awake, I feel like pulling my hair out. Some days she won't eat anything. Other days she wants a "meal", whatever that is. I've served salads, soups, fried chicken, creamed corn, cornbread, homemade rolls, peach cobbler, Lima beans (she's lived in the south all her life), strawberry milkshake, meatloaf, barbecue, cole slaw, potato salad, sweet tea, grapes, fruit salad, jello, cookies, candy, home made pound cake, roast beef, gravy, potatoes, burgers, onion rings, , ...the list goes on and on. I've tried small portions, plates with everything separated, allowing plenty of time to eat, on and on. Every day I try. She asks for V8 (and drinks them all day), and today she's STARVING, she says, wants a MEAL, but complains about the food in front of her. Just like a child.