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Becky

Yay to be going home

hope you gave your visitor a good Viking pinch as she left the room
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Susan, I haven't noticed anyone nasty on the forum, is this popping up in a lot of threads or is it just one or two?
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Cwillie - it's random. Some of the threads have already been sanitized by the admins (offensive posts removed). You'll know it when you see it, trust me.

I do hope it doesn't become a problem - but just fair warning.
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Is this a whine thread or just a general discussion?
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New posters and their whines are always welcome here. This thread has been around a long time and many of those who were here in the beginning have moved on, some like me who showed up a little later are still around but we did most of our serious whining in the past. When you let people see the dirty side of your thoughts and deeds you tend to form a bond, so a lot of the writing on this thread is just friendly chit chat amongst people who have a genuine desire to stay connected to each other.
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IMO, it's whine thread with general information and personal "stuff" thrown in.

A place to make your gripe but also to post news that doesn't fit anywhere else.


I'm sorry your mom won't eat. That's one thing we can't "force" them to do. Very frustrating because they are "sitting in the drivers seat" while "we're steering the car."

P.S.
I'D sure like to eat at your house but I'd probably put on 50 lbs.! It all sounds delicious. What's not to love 'bout southern cookin'?
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NoRecess, I am coming to your house for dinner... oh my gosh, your menu sounds great :)  Ok, gang who wishes to drive?

Sorry your Mom is being fussy about what is served, like you said being like a child. If your Mom is older or she had been going through chemo for her cancer, food doesn't have the same taste as before. So it can become very difficult to find something she would really enjoy. I can see why she drinks V8's, they do have a spicy type taste.
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Nobody mess with THE WHINE THREAD.
Everybody is welcome.
Every question is ok to ask, imo.

SusanA43,  
I will support you and report offensive posts.
Thanks for the heads up.
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Becky- sorry about your unkind visitor, glad you are going home.
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Becky,
Get free of those very rude people, so sorry that happened.
Jealous much?
Some people who knew your husband seem to say things really mean to you.
Maybe your professional outlook will give you understanding and distance, detaching from them.
I hope you just do not take those comments into your heart, not even for a moment!
Not even!
You are a good person that much has happened to recently. Got that?

Glad that you are going ho m e.
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Send, Thanks for the good advice.

I am so happy to be home. PJ’s little girl says she is my nurse. She brought me a juice box and a carrot. What more can I ask for? I had a good nights sleep.
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🥕 + 🥤 = ❤️

😉
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Juice box and carrot with little girl attached? The anti-whine.
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At 4 a.m., I was up with a bladder infection. Dribble, burning, owie that hurts, blood tinge. I am sure.
Self-treated with cranberry tablet, D-Mannose powder in glass of water, and Azo.
Azo Is a urinary tract analgesic, tiny tablets.

Not the least of my problems is, that I still do not have a primary care physician. If I go to urgent care, how will it show an infection in the urine sample if I took A z o ? It dyes the urine bright orange. The pain is anesthetized now.

Just for entertainment purposes, you should know that while driving home from Walgreens, I took two tiny tablets without any water. Well, I tried. Tongue and throat were anesthetized, colored bright orange too, ended up spitting tablet out, almost vomiting, hacking...but still, I did not pull over. I was behaving badly. That is not all......when the clerk could not ring things up properly, I lost it and went to the car.

So, I need to ask.....should I still go to urgent care?
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Please go just to make sure you are ok
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Thanks, Guest, I will go.
I am not ok yet but plan on being ok, like all the very brave caregivers are!

It just amazes me the comedy of errors that surround my everyday life, makes me feel stupid!
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Send, hope you're feeling better soon!

Hope everyone else gets to feeling better too!

I think I got hit by a kidney infection or small kidney stone for a few days this week - lower left back pain, just above the hip, uncomfortable to move around, lots of sleep disruption - finally feeling better after really pushing the water for a few days. Still a few twinges, but not as bad as it was.
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Susan,
Bladder, kidneys.....not something I will mess with. Now, to convince urgent care.
Going this afternoon.
You feel better soon!
We will all feel better,  soon as we take better care of ourselves.

Can dH wait for his long overdue haircut?  Let me check.

I once put off a hysterectomy because I started a new job.  Then, I was moving, and working'
Then my doctor retired.
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Send, I put my hyst. off for 3 years, because then-hubby and I couldn't decide if we wanted more kids (we had 3 already). Doc said I could have 10 more kids if I wanted to, but once I was done, things needed to come out, because the situation wasn't going to resolve itself. So after 3 years of misery, I decided to go ahead and get it done. Complication after complication set in from the surgery and I had to have 2 more after the first surgery - one on an emergency basis when I was sent home without the usual meds they give you after surgery to make things "move" easily....and the incision tore. Not fun. This kidney issue pain was a walk in the park compared to that. Then-husband left for someone else between surgeries 2 & 3 - so I was glad I went ahead and had the hyst. done, or I may have ended up alone with more than 3 kids.
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Here is the proper timeline for a bladder infection:

4 a.m. pain on urination, and symptoms. Drink water.
5 a.m. taking cranberry tablet and D-Mannose powder, drink water.
6 a.m. at pharmacy to buy over-the-counter A z o. for pain. Drink water.
2:00 p.m. Go to urgent care, pea in cup, urinalysis positive, sent out for culture and sensitivity. Antibiotic prescribed, will be changed if necessary after C & S comes back. They will call me.  Drink water.
4:00 p.m. Pick up Rx and take first tablet. Drink water, right there, now, in the store.


Zip, zap, that is how it is done, same day, no waiting three days. Today worked for me, that is not always the case. But as caregivers, we should try to push things along, same day. Imo.
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Susan,
Thanks for sharing that, as I needed to hear it.
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I hope you are feeling better real soon Send!

I've been getting all my checkups done. I had my blood screening done last week. My cholesterol is higher. :( I don't want to take statin drugs so I'll have to give up all my favorite food groups and exercise more, which will be hard in my case cause my energy levels are nil these days. Yesterday I had my annual Mammogram done. Is it just me or do women's breasts get sorer when they are going through menopause? It hurt like hell yesterday. Usually, I'm pretty good with the Mammogram but not yesterday. When you take already sore breasts and stick them in a clamp it doesn't tickle. It must have been Mammogram day yesterday cause it was packed in there. I commented to Hubs on the way home, I wish men had to get their manly parts put in a clamp so they could appreciate the pain.

Send, my life is a comedy of errs too so you are not alone. I remember teaching my niece and nephew how to swallow pills without water. We were coming home from the hospital the night my brother died and I was trying to swallow an Advil. I was explaining to them how you need to get your mouth full of saliva and then use the saliva to swallow the pills. I imagine they must think their Aunty is a little coo coo, coo coo! Ah well....................:P
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Gershun -

I saw a joke once about the man-o-gram - something to do with being sympathetic to their wives and to experience the same thing, go lay on the floor in the garage, naked, and let your wife drive the car back and forth over your exposed man-parts. ;-)
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Send, sorry if I overshared.
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Is there such a thing as oversharing on here Susan? Don't you worry.
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Gershun, a few weeks ago I got a mammogram after not having one for about 3 or 4 years, was just too busy during that time taking care of elderly parents phase.... [sigh].

For some reason this time the mammogram was extremely painful [I am in my early 70's]. When the tech said "hold your breath", I had already stop breathing seconds earlier as soon as the plate came down and the pain was shooting everywhere, so much I was shaking. I have a high pain tolerance, but this was over the top. Oops, I hope no one cancels their test after reading this.

I noticed the mammogram machine was new, and I was thinking why on earth hasn't someone developed another type of test where it would be so much more comfortable. I bet more women would make appointments.

I don't know how my Mom was able to handle it a few years ago. Here she was in her late 90's and still getting yearly mammograms. She insisted. Mom was so frail it took 2 techs to help her. Of course afterwards Mom would be complaining big time, mainly saying "those girls don't know what they are doing", then added "they gave me a 3D test instead of a regular one"..... [rolling eyes].
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:)
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Too much sharing? Over sharing?
Susan, if it helps you, or someone else, how can that be too much?  I was seriously thanking you!
Gershun is right.
But I usually don't tell so much detail. Did you know my urine is bright orange? Lol.

You ladies are a crack-up. Let me get this straight. You suffer the mammogram, so you want your mate to suffer a man-o-gram so they will know what it is like? How am I supposed to get back to sleep when I am laughing? I cannot count the years.

Thanks for your well-wishes everyone!
My hubs haircut looks great!  Once a Marine, always a Marine.
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It was that old "words on a screen" thing that got me - no inflection or tone of voice, so it's hard to tell how something is being said sometimes. Thanks for clarifying. :-)

Look out world, I've been up since 5am, have walked the dog, showered & dressed, am 1/2 way through my 24 oz of water for the morning and have already dumped 4 pans of boiling water on the end of the flower bed that still needs to be cleaned out.

Today's thought that hit me when I woke up: I wanted to lay back down and sleep some more, but I know if I get up before 6am, I have a better, more productive day, even if I haven't had a lot of sleep. The temptation to sleep more was pretty strong, but I was stronger - so that's my new mantra with things I know are not good for me (including certain tempting foods, the temptation to oversleep when I need to be up, the temptation not to walk and exercise) - the temptation to __________ is strong, but I am STRONGER! :-)
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Plus you will sleep the better for it tonight, Susan.

I really, really like that I am stronger idea.

It would certainly be a lot less depressing than constantly hearing "you're hopeless/useless/a fat-headed wombat" from my internal critic all day long. AND it might work a lot better, too.
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