I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
found an article on the national foundation of swallowing disorders from 2015 on how to thicken liquids
author's preference is for clear thickeners as others (starch) tend to over thicken and become globs then stick in throat and cause choking
Anywho, those darn cellphones. Both girls AND their Mom are glued to the phones. At least when we were sight seeing, the phones when into their Mom's purse after a lot of whining. In fact, one historic home the Guide asked for no 21st century items to be on.
As soon as the tour was over and we were outside, they all had to quickly check their cellphones. Even the ride home, sig other and I tried to make conversation but no one would answer.
And the girls were so tired. Say what?? When I was their age I use to walk for miles without even a whimper. Even my parents use to walk 2 miles a day then they were in their 80's and early 90's.
I’ve lost track of how many of my friends’ tween-to-early-20s kids (or grandkids) have never operated a washer/dryer or lawnmower and don’t know how to write a check.
Don’t hold your breath waiting for one of these delicate geniuses to look you in the eye and hold up their end of the conversation, either.
"Don’t hold your breath waiting for one of these delicate geniuses to look you in the eye and hold up their end of the conversation, either." Lol.
Even though I had the pleasure recently to meet two college age persons in a conversation, and they were shy but very polite, the cell phones did come out.
We took pictures, (me with my jitterbug-they with I-phones); their parents joining in a separate I-phone conversation; they did look me in the eye. Overall, it was an amazing experience. This was an exception of what has become common. They did not ignore us or have their heads in their phones all thru dinner.
That said, your comment is so very funny, so very true, that I am writing it down!
I might be laughing all day. I will be sharing it with my hubs, and a very distressed grandma, as we were just crying over the grands behaviors only yesterday.
The general consensus seems go be: These hurt grandmothers do not want to ever see these grandchildren again....it is so painful. And we all have tried so hard!
(and no, it's not organic)
I, on the other hand, only drag it around with me everywhere, and answer it every time it beeps....LOL
Just saying.......
Sorry you had to spend so much time with John, Lu. :)
it was hot this afternoon so I made three glasses of cold brew iced tea- not refills in the same glass but three separate glasses then proceeded to have three pieces of See's summer berries - thought it important to try more than one flavor
I don't know why I continuously sabotage myself this way. I've been working out faithfully for the last three weeks but I know all my efforts are for nought if I keep having these junk food binges.
Also, I can't believe how cold and unfriendly people are at the workout room. You'd think they were getting penalized for smiling or even just nodding in someone's direction. Is it me? Am I too sensitive? Or is working out such serious business that a smile might throw you off your goals? I'm not a real workout horse. Never have been. Maybe I've been missing something all these years. Nice people don't work out? Is that it?
Smesque, I know what you mean about growing and preserving your own. It is more expensive and time consuming than buying commercially grown. But, I think much better nutritionally. I find with my own green beans and other veggies I don’t need to use as much salt or seasonings. With home or wild grown fruits and berries I don’t use as much sugar or flavorings. Of course, one cannot grow their own M&M’s.
I’ve read the negative comments about young people. I don’t find these comments. to be true in my life. I’m sorry others do. My husband and I have 24 grandchildren over 13, plus 5 adult children and I have my two cousins who are starting graduate school in Sept living with us. We all have IPhones, IPads, IPods, etc. plus some of the younger teens have Game Boys and DS. We have a basket and assortments of chargers on a small table in the foyer. Everyone knows that’s where the electronics go. Our son who is a doctor is excempt if he is on call. I cook and we eat our evening meal together. It is a rare meal that we don’t have a few grandchildren or one of our adult children and their families having dinner with us. There are occasional exceptions, but not many. We have a couple of grandchildren who are on the quieter side, but all are fairly conversational. My husband and I both work or have worked with college aged students. I find them considerate and willing to engage not only with their peers, but also with the community at large. I don’t think our family is much different than other large families in our area. I think most of our friends have similar situations.
I need to shower and get to hoca in 30 minutes- I'm covering breakfast and lunch with mom - the past two weeks she's been so soundly asleep during breakfast that I can't wake her even with an ice cube on her face
From a book, a long time ago: "Diets Don't Work"
The concept was do not eat the thing you think is healthy to justify the treat that you really want and will eat anyway. Skip the quinoa, go straight to the ju ju bees.
Another diet: Eat Less, Move More.
Hey Gershun....do these exercising people have ear buds in their ears? It is them, not you! Maybe it is more like elevator protocol: Enter, turn to the front, do not speak. Exercise protocol: Do not look like you are having fun, if there is no pain, there is no gain.
Earbuds protocol: If you do not want to talk to anyone, wear earbuds.
Do you even need a diet?
Especially when trying to meet up with dH. He does not answer, does not text back, and if I miss his call, he won't even answer when I am right here calling back. When he calls for a ride, he will not ask for a ride, or even mention it. He says: "How ya doin?" If I don't offer a ride, next he says: "I clocked out".
The other choice is to wait in the parking lot, and he doesn't come out, doesn't call.
Hours can pass by.
It is him, not me. Just to shorten the conversation if he does answer, I find myself begging: "Where can I pick you up?, " "I am coming now", I have to make sure the call is disconnected before expressing my ongoing frustrations.
Sendhelp...I understand your frustration. My honey refuses to text anyone...period. And does not answer his cell. He seems to only respond to the home phone...ugh. It makes it rough if I am out and about running errands and need to check on him. Since he has not charged his cell in a month I am about ready to have it turned off but sure as I do he will need or want to use it.
Sorry I am rambling today. Hope y'all are having a great weekend.
no weight loss but she’s got plenty of weight on her
tried for an hour to wake her - can’t stand seeing her with head bent down in her wheelchair
then she woke a bit and I managed to get some food in her but then couldn’t find the nurse for morning meds
first time I heard her say today that she wants to die
maybe it’s time to reduce the risperdal
You’re a good daughter MS Madge. I hope somebody takes that good of care of me when I need the care.
Back to the thickened or pureed foods.
The Speech therapist assesses the patient's swallowing abilities. A full test is done under X ray fluoroscopic guidance administered by an interventional radiologist (MD)
The patient is first given a drink of liquid barium flavored to choice and it is tracked on the X-ray. next a soup like drink is given again of flavored barium. Lastly a cookie laced with barium is given.
Once the results of this test are known the speech therapist recommends the type of diet needed.
The Dr then writes an order for the diet which food service can not deviate from.
The dietician only becomes involved if the patient has special need each as diabetes or heart problems.
Now I am not known for following any of those rules and have my visitors bring in a little of what I fancy. I don't take enough by mouth for forbidden foods such as sugar and whole milk to impact my health plus I have tube feeding.
Getting out of bed and dressed and going to the dining room for meals is a good idea plus other activities.
I see the reasoning of moving the patients out of bed to help prevent pressure sores but the seats of wheel chairs are very uncomfortable and the arms have no padding. Plus and this is a big one in my book is spending long hours with the knees bent which only encourages edema and poor blood flow.
I have no problem with a patient being in a comfortable recliner in a dayroom where their legs can be up and they can dose.
Just one of my pet peeves!
We went to 10 am services at our church and were supposed to go back home to hang out. Well, in church, hubby suddenly realizes that he had "promised" his brother to bring flowers to his niche on Sunday (he died last week). OK...... but then he mentioned picking up MIL. OK.....We drive half way across town to get her, then to a florist, then to the church where his niche is located. We wind up staying for mass at that church even though we just got out of our church's services 1 hour before.
After that hubs insisted we stop at a juice place even though MIL kept saying she just wanted a bottle of water. She did not enjoy the drink and I just wanted to go home. Then another great idea on his part, let's stop and get tamales and eat them at her house. After driving her back home, we had to visit with her sister who lives behind her, eat our tamales, then hang out on the porch to see who else would stop by. We got home at 5 pm and I was not a happy camper.
Grrrr.....so much for a "day off".
Canadian seafood prices are higher coming into Maine, along with ice cream and candy prices🙁I guess maple syrup will be next.
mom's overnight caregiver cancelled a bit ago, which isn't too much of a worry as I'm cutting back anyway, but hoca's phones are down and I can't get through
it was a long day at work and I'm in my nightie but I guess I'll have to get dressed and drive there to tell them